Over it and On with it with Christine Hassler

Ariel gives all kinds of feng shui tips to create more prosperity, romance, inspiration, creativity and SPACE in your life. We have a fun and insightful conversation about how to make your living space a living vision board for your life. A little more about Ariel . . . Ariel Joseph Towne, Joe, has spent the last fifteen years as a life coach and feng shui consultant. In 2013, Joe launched a book called Serene Makeover: Inner Edition, which led to him being a guest on The Dr. Oz Show. Joe is currently a teacher and coach at Warner Loughlin studios in Hollywood where he also co-created the Audition Technique program. Joe is passionate about the intersection of Art, Mindfulness and the High Performance Mindset. Get his free feng shui map and lots of other goodies here: http://www.thefengshuiguy.com/ Find out about his audition coaching here: http://www.joetowne.com/

Today's caller, Linsey, is concerned her boyfriend may have an addiction to alcohol. She loves him and believes that if he can change they may be able to take their relationship to the next level. She thinks her problem is in her relationship but as our coaching session shows, it has very little to do with her partner and more to do with something deep within herself. You cannot change other people. Your desire to change and heal yourself should not be attached to changing someone else. Focus only on yourself. It is important to make healthy changes, even if it feels really scary. Unhealthy lifestyles feel familiar and safe because we have been in them for so long. It is crucial to find professional support and to be held accountable when we start making changes. It is difficult for us to do this on our own. Our ego doesn't like it when we change because it craves certainty. And, as we start to grow in consciousness, the ego starts to hold on a little tighter. If listening to this call was uncomfortable for you or if it brought up some awareness around your own addictions, consider what you may be using to avoid feeling and dealing. This is why I am creating an Over It and On With It course to give you tools and resources to feel, deal and heal. Coaches — I could have coached Linsey to get out of her relationship. Personally, I hope she does distance herself from it to focus on her own healing. But, if I coached her in that direction she may have shut down. She said she loves him even though she knows he's an addict. She feels safe being a co-dependent in the relationship due to her relationship with her mother. I didn't want her ego to take over and for her to get defensive. It may not have been possible for her to get to the deeper awareness she reached during the call. It's important to give someone the dignity of their process, instead of encouraging them to make a move they may not be ready to make. Would you like to connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce? There is a free video training series on my site to help you build your business or obtain your desires from the inside out. Your Secret Sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions, which can help you to feel a sense of belonging and confidence. Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss to get the free videos. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you in a relationship with someone and hope they will change? ? Are you in a relationship with an addict? Are you using an external coping strategy to distract yourself from dealing with something you don't want to face? ? Do you acknowledge that you may have tendencies towards co-dependency? ? Is your ego feeling dark, and would you like to feel more connected to your soul? Linsey's Question: Linsey is concerned her current relationship may be following the same path as her past relationships, and she is unsure about the future. Linsey's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She realizes she has co-dependency issues ? She wants her partner to change ? She knows she has walked on eggshells around her mother ? She uses food and television as numbing agents ? She became super-independent because she doesn't believe she can count on anyone else ? She knows she should disconnect from her relationship but doesn't want to ? She can heal this issue How to get over it and on with it: ? She should be honest about who her partner really is ? She needs to deal with the hurt inside herself ? She needs professional help by way of a 12-step program or a therapist ? She should make a 1-year commitment to not take actions that can't be done ? She should incorporate a spiritual practice into her life Assignments and Takeaways: ? Take a serious look at your coping devices. Are they addictions or in the danger zone of becoming addictions? ? Take an honest...

Age is a mindset so this is a great listen for any age! Lindsey and I talk the transition from student to professional, communication tips for getting hired, transitioning from working for someone else to working for yourself, what the #1 fear of Millennials who are stepping into management positions is, authenticity, work life balance and much more. This is a jam-packed, juicy episode! A little more about Lindsey Pollak: She is widely recognized as the leading voice on millennials in the workplace. Often called a "translator," Lindsey advises both young professionals looking to succeed in today's work environment and the organizations that want to recruit, retain and market to them. She is the New York Times bestselling author of Becoming the Boss: New Rules for the Next Generation of Leaders and Getting from College to Career: Your Essential Guide to Succeeding in the Real World. Her consulting clients and keynote speaking audiences have included over 200 corporations, conferences and universities, including Citi, Estee Lauder, GE, PwC, Ralph Lauren, Yale, Harvard, Wharton and MIT. Lindsey also works with select brands as their go-to in-house expert and public spokesperson for all things millennial, including strategic planning, media campaigns and social outreach. As a LinkedIn Ambassador for six years, she created and delivered webinars that trained over 100,000 people to advance their careers using the platform. Currently, Lindsey serves as The Hartford's Millennial Workplace Expert and chair of Cosmopolitan magazine's Millennial Advisory Board. Her advice and opinions have appeared in such media outlets as The TODAY Show, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNN and NPR. She appears on several lists of Best People to Follow on Twitter, including Mashable's list of top non-fiction authors. Forbes named her blog one of the Top 100 Websites for Your Career. Lindsey's passion for mentoring young people goes back to her student days as a dorm RA at Yale University. She is now based in New York City. https://www.lindseypollak.com/

This episode is for anyone who feels like they are missing out, they are being left behind, they are not enough or they do not belong. Today's caller, Emma, is feeling left out and resentment towards friends who are continuing their relationships with her ex after their breakup. Her frustrations are bringing up old issues she has been carrying around for a long time. We uncover the constant moving she went through as a child is still a core issue for her. It's important to remember not to minimize things from your past. As a human, there are things you have gone through that are challenging. Things that happen can create certain belief systems and misunderstandings that perpetuate patterns, behaviors and reactions you don't like. Resentment and anger protect us from our deeper feelings. It's easier to feel mad about something than it is to feel the hurt of being left out. We all want to feel connected and that we belong. Feeling separate in any way is painful and it reinforces the core misunderstanding we are separate from God, separate from the universe or separate from each other. Healing that wound allows us to feel we are not separate and to feel we are connected. If you have standards or conditions about what it takes for you to be good enough, know that you are good enough just the way you are. Connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce with the 4-video training series I put on my site for you. Your secret sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions that can help you feel a sense of belonging and confidence. Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: How often do you experience FOMO (fear of missing out)? Have you just gone through a breakup and are having a hard time with all the transitions and all the loss? Are you having challenges with sharing friends after a breakup? Do you want your friends to pick sides? Do you feel the pressure to pick sides if you ARE the friend of a couple who recently broke up? Emma's Question: Emma is having difficulty releasing her emotions, which are triggered by her jealousy and frustration over shared friendships after her breakup. Emma's Key Insights and Aha's: She's got a bad case of FOMO She has always been hypersensitive about being left out She has always felt like she needed to catch up She feels frustration, anger and resentment She feels relief being able to tie this experience back to core issues How to get over it and on with it: She can just be herself and be enough through self-acceptance Let her younger self know there is nothing she needs to do to fit in She should find a spiritual practice and talk to God and the Universe She should free herself up emotionally so new soul friends can come into her life Assignments and Takeaways: Look for ways you are trying to fit in or pretend to be someone you are not, and think of how you can show up as fully yourself. Work with your limiting beliefs about being left out. Go back and talk to your younger self and make sure that part of you knows that you do belong. Consider how your spiritual practice is not just about how you connect to a higher power inside you. It's about connection and love to the oneness we all are. Practice the horseback rider technique from Expectation Hangover when you experience your limiting beliefs. Re-direct your thoughts to "I belong". If you are going through a breakup, don't make your friends pick sides. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through...

As an Author, Speaker, Trainer, and Executive Coach Steve Sisgold has spent the past 25 years studying and teaching the relationship between beliefs held in the body and success, how the body "billboard" sends micro messages that affect authentic communication and how self-awareness lowers stress and boosts peak performance. He has amazing books, Whole Body Intelligence and What's Your Body Telling You? and is a breakthrough coach to many best-selling self help authors, Grammy and Oscar winners, CEO's, a Major League baseball President, as well as Wellness and Business leaders. Prior to what he is doing now Steve Sisgold applied the principles he teaches, in the business world. He owned and directed a successful Advertising and PR firm, and was #1 of 500 sales people and a national sales trainer with a Fortune 100 company. Learn more about Steve here: http://wholebodyintelligence.com/

Today's caller, Mia, is dealing with sexual harassment from her boss at a newly acquired job and she is scared to stand up for herself. This situation is in no way Mia's fault. While listening, I want you to take note of your reaction to what Mia shares. Does it make you angry? Does it trigger anything in your past? If you react to anything she shares, reach out for help and support. Reaching out for help is the only way to get out of a toxic situation. If you are in a situation in which you feel you are being abused or harassed in some way, please do not keep it a secret. It's important not to allow judgment to blind us from seeing the learning in a situation. Sexual harassment is one of those things that can trigger a lot of judgment. From a spiritual perspective, there is no good, bad, right or wrong. Being disrespected is not something to accept in the name of love or spirituality. However, going into blame mode doesn't solve anything either. Our relationship with ourselves, from our self-talk to self-perception to our daily habits, directly impacts the people we attract and how people in our lives treat us. If we want to change the way people treat us, we need to change ourselves first. Coach's Tip - The reason I didn't start off with taking legal action is because it would have been judgmental and highly reactionary. I needed to do some detective work first, to see if this situation was bringing up unresolved issues that were coming up to heal, which is what was happening in Mia's case. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there or has there been someone you felt disrespected or harassed by? ? Do you hold back from standing up for yourself, because you don't want to make waves? ? Are you in an unhealthy situation, but staying in it for money or job security? ? Are there unresolved issues from your past that are haunting your present? Mia's Question: Mia is uncomfortable in her new job because her boss is sexually harassing her. She would like to know why she may be attracting men who are disrespectful to her throughout her life. Mia's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her father didn't show emotions towards her ? She is the first woman from her family to work for a corporation ? She may believe that as a woman, she has to behave differently than a man ? She doesn't trust men and doesn't feel safe with them ? Her self-esteem took a hit after her last relationship How to get over it and on with it: ? She needs to update what she believes about men ? She should stand up for herself if she feels disrespected in anyway ? She needs to be in an environment where she is encouraged and supported Assignments and Takeaways: ? If you feel you are in a situation in which you are being harassed in any way, do not be silent. Seek out some kind of professional support and document what is happening. ? If feeling disrespected is a theme in your life, take a look at your relationship with yourself. How can you shift how you treat yourself, so that consequently other people start treating you differently? ? Do you need to set boundaries with some people in your life, so you feel more respected? Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Secret Sauce Training Series Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com...

I am so honored to have my mom as our guest this week on coaches corner. She is a licensed professional counselor, hypnotherapist, wife, mother and grandmother. We talk candidly about how she impacted my life, the challenges she had as my mom and what has kept her 42 year old marriage to my dad together. She also shares her professional advice for how to heal issues from childhood and have successful relationships as an adult. Enjoy getting to know my mom! Here is info to connect with her and get her books and audio downloads: For individual, couples or family therapy in the Dallas or Austin area: jodihassler@gmail.com Access her hypnotherapy CDs: Hypnosis to Motivate You to Exercise and Eat Well - EP All Is Well - Hypnosis for Insomnia Book: Chip the Puppy with Two Homes https://www.amazon.com/Chip-Puppy-Homes-Jodi-Hassler/dp/1439222894

It really is so important to give ourselves permission to go after what we want to do. For example, I recently gave myself permission to go on a trip to Colombia with the caveat that I would work while I was there. When I ran into wifi issues and couldn't communicate with my team I had a bit of an Expectation Hangover. So, I decided that instead of being frustrated about it, I would move into acceptance and give myself permission to take some time off. When I fight for my will over thy will I almost always end up getting frustrated. Emily is normally a driven and passionate person. However, she called in because she is feeling a bit lackluster lately. She's done a lot of personal development work, but can't seem to find her mojo to implement the new things she would like in her life. She's been waiting for something to give her permission to act. It's important for her to start coming up with all the reasons why she can do something, instead of making up excuses about why she can't. Everything begins with just one step. In my book, Expectation Hangover, I call this Proactive Surrender. It's about taking one step with intention and involvement and then allowing for feedback. To co-create is about being in flow with the universe and letting go of attachments of control and planning. Be open to how and where the universe wants to lead you. Also, there are a lot of people who get stuck in the personal awareness trap. People who read a lot of books, listen to podcasts, and become very aware but things don't ever seem to shift for them. If you find yourself in the awareness trap you must start taking action. Coach's Tip - When working with your clients be mindful of having them speak in "I" language rather than in the second person because when we speak in the second person we disassociate and we don't own what we are saying. It's important to bring clients back to using "I" language without making them feel wrong. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you feeling a bit lackluster? Would you like to feel more driven or inspired? ? Do you need to give yourself permission to do something or are you waiting for a permission slip? ? Have you made your human desires bad? Are you trying to get rid of your ego? ? Do you have a heartfelt desire but can't seem to take the first step? Emily's Question: Emily who is normally driven and passionate finds herself feeling a bit lackluster and lost. She is feeling symptoms of the Imposter syndrome and may be in a personal awareness trap. She would like to know how to get inspired. Emily's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her ego isn't all bad ? She needs to listen to her voice of inspiration ? She doesn't need to be an expert to get started ? She has an ability to build rapport with people How to get over it and on with it: ? She should take the first step and listen to her seed of inspiration ? Realize there is no point to anything ? She needs to step into her gifts and take action ? She needs to own her feelings and use "I" language ? Find her internal qualities that mirror traits she admires in other people Assignments and Takeaways: ? Take action and allow opportunities to integrate into all of your self-health programs. ? Give yourself a permission slip to go after what you want. Remember, it begins with by taking one step. ? Don't wait for opportunities to come to you. Reach out to the people you want to connect with. ? If you relate to the "Imposter Syndrome" write out all the amazing things about you and your gifts...

Julie began her adult-travels through Earth School as an actress in NYC, obsessing over yoga, astrology, meditation, and Louise Hay on the side. She had a thing for commercials, and was blessed with many, hawking everything from Diet Coke, to Volkswagen. She worked her way through the NY theater scene and was gifted the amazing opportunity to originate roles for both Christopher Durang and Neil Simon (on Broadway!). Then one day, while deep in a dark night of the soul, her guides told her to leave acting. Trusting the inner call, she promptly dialed up her agents... and the path was chosen. What followed next was a journey of intense human learnings, blissful soul-discoveries, and every emotion in between. Shamanic travels, yogic trainings, New Thought teachings... the journey was filled with wisdom, and what she learned through it all was that the human-ness is holy, and this life is too precious for words. She finds that laughter is the greatest medicine, and love is the greatest healer. Whichever path you choose to get there, those two seem to remain infinitely true. Licensed as a Spiritual Practitioner through the Agape International Spiritual Center in 2010, Julie has a knack for helping others to access high truth, connect to their team in the unseen, download pristine guidance from Higher Self, and have fun doing it. In other words... unpack the BS, and embrace an authentic life of joyful expression and contribution. She does this through individual sessions, classes, workshops, and writings. Her unique blueprint to joy involves dogs, nature, laughing wayyyy too loud, and dancing wildly. Find her at: www.practicalmystics.com and julieelizabethday.com

I talk a lot on this show about Expectation Hangovers - how they are the disappointments and curve balls that teach us and grow us. But, it's also important to acknowledge the unexpected surprises that delight us and support us in magical ways. That's why it is important not to plan every little thing, to make space for the unexpected, and to leave more time for soul food. In order to be in this place of space and possibility, we have to come into right relationship with uncertainty. What is a right relationship? Realize that we never have total control and that nothing is ever 100% certain. During times of transition, we should honor that we are in a season of change in our lives. We should not source our sense of feeling safe with being certain of everything. Know that we are always being supported and being guided by the universe even when we feel most lost. Today's caller is Elle, who called me to discuss her upcoming life transition and the fear she has about it. We hear in this call yet another example of how there is almost always a deeper issue underneath our questions. As I began to shine a light on the dark places Elle had inside, she began to connect the dots and came to some of her own conclusions. Often, people stay stuck on their current problems or questions rather than asking the deeper questions. We can not arrive at clarity until we clear the deeper, underlying issues. We can not move into our full potential if we are playing it safe all the time. Change does not happen in our comfort zone. Bust through your limiting belief that no one will be there for you if you take a leap of faith or make a change. There are so many new guides, angels and soul friends who show up for us at exactly the time we need them to. Changing your vibrations also changes your consciousness. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a transition time or feeling uncertain about things? Are you grasping for control, safety and security? Are you projecting your security on to another person, job or something else outside of you? Do you ever feel alone? Would you like to feel more connected to or supported by the universe? Elle 's Question: Elle wants to know how to transition into her new life after years of military service and as a newly single person. Elle 's Key Insights and Aha's: She is creating her own fear. She has always wanted to be an entrepreneur. She craves security because she missed out on a developmental phase of her childhood. She dates emotionally unavailable men because that is how her father was. How to get over it and on with it: She can heal her lifetime longing for a father. Take this opportunity to delve into the divine masculine and the divine feminine powers. She needs to let go of belief systems that tell her security comes from outside of herself. Assignments and Takeaways: Get into a right relationship with your uncertainty. Follow those 'what if' statements with something good. Make future tripping a desirable destination. Find a lightworker to work with. Have one person to shine a light on your dark places. Forgive your parents. Remember that life is full of magical uncertainties and the divine will always have your back. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com...

Arriane Alexander is The Rock Your Life Coach with a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology. She helps female entrepreneurs and businesswomen step into new possibilities so they can create a life and career they've always dreamed of. She spent over 12 years as a high level executive in the fashion business and walked away from that successful career to follow a heartfelt dream of succeeding in the entertainment industry and as a transformational Life Coach. Today, she works consistently as an Actor on TV shows like Justified, Grey's Anatomy and The People vs O.J. Simpson. On top of that, she is the Host of two TV shows, and booked numerous commercials. In other words, she's created the life of her dreams, and as a Rock Your Life coach for over a decade, she helps women do the same in a fun, inspired, and transformative way. She works with women all over the world -Entrepreneurs, Health and Fitness Experts, and Executive Business Women to help them overcome their fears, self-doubt and any other obstacles blocking their path, to create the foundation for their new life, and a journey to take them there. Is it risky? Of course it is. Without risk, there's no life, no excitement, and no happiness. There's no fun, either. But once a woman starts taking risks, once she start taking bold actions, she will discover that what she thought of as impossible is suddenly within your reach. She will do things she's never done before, and wonder, "Who is this confident, radiant, and fabulous person?" It's her. It's been her all along, and Arriane is with her every step of the way to Rock Her Life. www.arrianefreebie.com For Your FREE Video Series on How To Bust Through Limiting Beliefs www.arrianealexander.com` Facebook.com/arrianealexander IG: @arrianealexander Twitter: @arriane1000 Snapchat: @arrianealex Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIIx-kpVFElpPdXCipUtMWg

At my signature retreat, many of the women who attended seemed to have amazing connections and gone through physical transformations - in just three short days. It made me think of questions I get a lot, which are "How do I get to a state of joy and deep connection, and stay there?" and "How do I get rid of hurt feelings from the past, which are impacting my ability to be happy in the present?" When the retreat started, we didn't have the intention to be "happy" or better. We started the retreat with acceptance and love for exactly where we were. Acceptance is the first law of the spirit. This is where the healing and the transformation always begin. We, humans, learn through contrast. Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt. Suppression, repression and pretending you are fine are not bringing love to your dark places. The journey is worth it, because on the other side of the dark is joy. True elation comes from being liberated from the judgments and limiting beliefs that unresolved issues and suppressed emotions perpetuate. Today's caller, Jennifer, wants to know how to be happier. The definition of happy is a state of elation or excitement. As human beings who learn or grow through contrast, being in a single state all the time should never be the goal. However, being in the state of awareness, acceptance and in the vibration of love is really what we are here to learn how to do consistently. Love doesn't mean being happy all the time. Love is unconditional, it accepts all and it greets whatever emotion or issue we are facing with compassion. Apathy and indifference are the opposites of love. The more we accept the dark and bring love into the places inside that hurt, the less we feel the darker emotions, and the more we experience the state of happiness and heart-opening gratitude and compassion. *Coaches: Please don't be attached to pleasing your client by working to get them what they want right away. Ask clients to define things before projecting your definitions on them. As coaches, we are not just listening to words. We are listening to the client's tone of voice, inflection; and we really need to use all of our senses to listen to all of the different ways clients are communicating with us. When the client has an 'aha', encourage them to talk it through. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have the expectation that you should feel happy all the time? Do you sometimes pretend you are happy, when really you're not? Are you waiting for something outside of you to make you happy or make you feel settled? Are you struggling with not feeling happy at all or being depressed? Maybe, you feel that nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either. Jennifer 's Question: Jennifer wants to know how to truly feel happy in her life. Jennifer 's Key Insights and Aha's: She has an unrealistic view of happiness She's trying to source happiness from the outside She pretends to be better than she is She suppresses her emotions How to get over it and on with it: Allow herself to feel the tears and emotions when they come She should start by accepting and celebrating who she is She should replace 'fine' with honest answers of how she is doing She should commit to doing a 40-day meditation practice Assignments and Takeaways: Take off your mask and let yourself be seen. Don't pretend to be happy all the time. If you need to talk, ask someone to listen. Use the emotional section of Expectation Hangover to help you get to your dark places...

Christine shares about what she calls "expiration dates" in life and gives you guidance on when it's time to acknowledge that a relationship or situation in your life may be complete. She also clarifies the difference between avoiding facing a challenge and truly knowing something is over.

Today's caller, Corinna, is deciding whether or not to stay in her marriage. Many of us often struggle with whether to stay or go in a relationship. Sometimes the answer is clear, but often it is not. First, there is the love and the history of a relationship including shared assets, children and pets. Second, there is the uncertainty that goes along with making the decision. Ending any type of relationship is not easy and making the choice to do it is hard. We often look for reasons to blame the other person. We collect evidence against them so our decision to leave is easier. We want to be happy and we think leaving the relationship is the answer. But, just leaving on the energy of blame and rebellion is not enough and does not give the opportunity to learn the lessons the relationship is there to teach us. If we end something out of fear annoyance or blame, we will have to learn the same lesson over again, with someone else. I've heard people use the advice that the best way to get over someone is to get over someone else. That's terrible advice. You only end up using the person you are getting over and once all the hormones wear off, you will be left with the same unresolved stuff you didn't deal with in the previous relationship. You may then think you keep picking the wrong person, but in reality, the common denominator in the relationship is you. Don't do a reactionary breakup. Don't leave because you refuse to take an honest look at your side of the street. Stop resisting the learning and stop blaming the other person. When we feel blocked about making a choice, it's often because we are not ready to make it. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you currently in a relationship and questioning whether to stay or go? Is there a big decision you are struggling with that you want clarity on? Are there similar patterns that come up in all of your relationships? Have you done self-work that makes you an incredible partner to yourself and consequently to another? Is there something in your life you are missing or not feeling and you are blaming your partner for it? Corinna's Question: Corinna is having issues in her marriage. She feels she is isolating herself and is uncertain about her decision to stay married. Corinna's Key Insights and Aha's: She already knows what her decision is She limits herself but blames her husband She's gotten lost in her roles of wife and mother She is scared but relieved to start knowing herself There's a lot she hasn't been facing How to get over it and on with it: She should read the book Codependent No More Find a counselor or coach to look at how she can show up differently Give herself permission to not make the decision right now Invest time and energy into her own discovery Turn down the volume of the opinions of others Look at her husband through eyes of observation instead of judgment Assignments and Takeaways: If you are struggling with a decision, put it on hold. Make the choice not to choose. Stop talking about your struggles with other people. Focus on listening to your own inner knowing. If you are in a relationship, look at your partner through eyes of observation instead of judgement. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Lisa Cypers Kamen, M.A. is an applied positive psychology coach, author, documentary filmmaker and radio show host specializing in sustainable wellbeing and lifestyle management. Lisa's global consulting practice focuses on mission-driven addiction and trauma recovery programming to help clients balance their minds, bodies and emotions resulting in greater overall wellbeing and the transformation of Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) into Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG). She is a frequent radio and television guest expert as well as contributor to the Huffington Post, Positively Positive and Inspire Me Today. As the founder of Harvesting Happiness for Heroes, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation, Lisa spearheads stigma-free trauma recovery and post-deployment reintegration services for military personnel and their loved one's challenged by the invisible wounds of war. www.hh4heroes.org Lisa is also the creator and host of Harvesting Happiness Talk Radio www.harvestinghappinesstalkradio.com When not helping others thrive, she can be found hiking, meditating, indoor cycling, doing yoga, reading, cooking, traveling and spinning tunes on Joy Riding the Coast, her world music radio show on KBUU 97.5 fm-www.radiomalibu.net and occasionally staring out to sea with a huge smile on her face. Lisa resides in southern California with her family surrounded by lots of love and sunshine.