Over it and On with it with Christine Hassler

Most of you can relate to feeling a bit nervous or awkward at times. Maybe it's around someone you are crushing on, when you have to speak in front of your boss or even when you are attempting to be cool with your teenage kids. Feeling self-conscious is the worst. And not just because of the knots in your stomach, the sweating, the saying of the things we judge as totally lame right after they come out of our mouth. What is worse is that we are not showing up as fully ourselves. Whenever we are openly attached to hoping someone else likes us or accepts us, we often do the exact opposite of what we need to do in that moment. We judge ourselves rather than accept ourselves. Then we show up in ways that are not authentic to who we are and that is awkward and uncomfortable. Attachment is thinking we need to be a certain way to get what we want from another person. We put on masks, we judge ourselves and we edit everything that comes out of our mouth. The higher the emotional stakes are the more suppressed we can become. In today's coaching session with Kristen, we explore why she is not fully herself in romantic relationships. Self-consciousness is not just painful to feel, it also doesn't bring us the connections we long for. First, it's all about what you are telling yourself inside your head. Second, you start future tripping which detaches you from your intuition. Finally, being attached to the outcome, you are trying to adapt to who you think you need to be rather than just being you. The cure for self-consciousness is radical self-acceptance. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali, which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and uplevel their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? What situations do you feel self-conscious in? ? What do you really want when interacting with others? Validation, to be liked? ? Is there a parent or someone else you may be expecting to get nachos from when they are really a Chinese restaurant? ? Are you truly showing up in a way for others that you expect others to show up for you? Kristen's Question: Kristen would like to know why she finds it hard to be herself around a guy she is attracted to. Kristen's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She is still angry over her father's aloofness ? A father is the first male relationship a girl has ? She may be looking for acceptance and validation when dating ? Anger and judgment do not help any situation ? She should establish intimacy and trust with her dad How to get over it and on with it: ? She's free to be whomever she wants to be ? She should share her needs with her father ? She needs to accept people as they are if she wants to be accepted for who she is ? She is responsible for her own needs right now Tools and Takeaways: ? Look at where your self-consciousness comes from and practice being in the present moment. ? Unresolved issues with parents can be better understood in episode #16, Why Our Parents Trigger Us So Much. ? Practice being your most authentic, quirky, nerdy self! Whoever you are, let people see you! And, see yourself through the eyes of love. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind

Listen up as Charlie teaches us the importance of PLAY and connection. Charlie is the author of Play It Away: A Workaholic's Cure for Anxiety, which was called 'The cure to your stress!' by Tony Robbins. Charlie has advised leaders on the topic of mental wellness at the Pentagon, U.S. Military, and Tesla. His blog is the #1 Google result for the search "cure anxiety." He has helped dozens of authors promote their books -- including Tim Ferriss, Ramit Sethi, and Tucker Max. http://charliehoehn.com/

There are endless distractions in our lives. Just one glimpse of Facebook or Snapchat and the next thing you know it's an hour later and you've gone down a rabbit hole. Practicing self-care is not as enticing as our phone, the TV or a glass of wine but the payoff is far, far greater. But why is self-care so hard sometimes? How come we know we "should" do things like mediation, journaling, exercise, etc but we don't actually do them (or stick to doing them)? Because self-care can feel like punishment if we don't have enough fun and play in our lives. Self-care activities are all solo activities, so instead of us feeling replenished after we do these self-supporting things we may feel isolated. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and as humans, we need 3 types of connections. The first connection humans need is to our higher power (insert your terminology here). The second is to ourselves and the third is to others. If you are not connecting, playing and doing the things that feed your soul then you are going to want to rebel in some way. If we don't get play in a healthy way then we indulge and procrastinate, all the things which move us away from our self-care practices. If you know what to do in terms of self-care but you are just not doing it, then you will relate to today's caller Helen. Helen is wondering why she's not doing the things that are good for her. She goes through spurts but then she gets busy and goes back to old coping mechanisms. We are able to change our state at any time but it takes focus, some intention and a willingness to get into a different mindset and heart set. When we start making decisions with our intuition and not with our head, we can consider our options and then "feel" into them to help decide which is the most fun! If it has been a while since you've played and you feel a refresher course is needed listen to this week's Coaches Corner as I speak to my friend Charlie. Charlie specializes in teaching us how to love and how to play. Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up level their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you feeling stuck or blocked with regards to your self-care? Do you know you "should" but don't seem to do it? ? Do you have a community of like-minded people you are connected to? Are you getting your soul fed? ? Do you make decisions with your head or your heart? ? Do you know how to play in a way which takes your mind off of everything else? When was the last time you actually played? Helen's Question: Helen wants to know why she can't seem to do the things she knows are good for her. Helen's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She doesn't feed her soul enough ? She is experiencing an Expectation Hangover about her new endeavors ? She needs some connection and play How to get over it and on with it: ? She should make decisions with her intuition and not her head ? She should then follow through with the decision her heart makes ? She needs to feed her soul and add more play in her life Tools and Takeaways: ? Listen to the How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself podcast again. ? Be diligent about connecting with your spiritual, like-minded tribe. And, remember to drop your guard so that you can be truly seen. ? When it comes to decision making, go with what FEELS like it will provide you the most soul food. Make a decision with your heart and then go with it. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase...

This is a special edition of coaches corner where I feature JILL who you've heard me mention a lot on the show. Jill has worked with me for six years and is someone who has so much MOJO. Learn how she keeps her optimistic attitude, upgraded people pleasing tendencies, and keeps moving forward even when she gets "no's." I'm so happy to share her with you - listen in for lots of inspiration!!

We live in a world which is far too dependent on external stimuli. We want something outside of us to come along and make us feel a certain way or to create certain results in our lives. We celebrate outcome far more than process. And, while external results are great, the key is to increase our joy and our passion is through the process. Stop waiting for something to happen to start living your heartfelt desires. No one else is going to come along and grant all your wishes. If you are a musician, sing or play your instrument every day. If you are an artist, draw or paint every day. If you are a writer, write every day. If you are a coach, find someone to connect with and serve every day. Whatever that thing is you want to be, do it now. It doesn't matter if the form isn't exactly as big or in the exact package that you want, you can express the joy every day or at least every week. The same goes for waiting for someone else. You cannot wait for a person to come along to make you feel a certain way. If you are single and are longing for a romantic partner to feel love and connection, you need to generate those feelings inside yourself. Have an open and full heart instead of being down in the dumps and thinking something is missing. Remember that we are the source of everything in our life. We do not have 100% control over external events but we do have a choice over how we want to feel. You are the source. In today's call with Melissa, we dive into how she can get her mojo back and how she can get and stay motivated by doing or creating something every day to help her connect with the joy of the process. Thank you all so much for listening to this podcast and as my way of saying thank you, I'm gifting you my eBook titled 32 Days to Uplevel Your Mind and Uplift Your Heart. Click on the link to download it for free. Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up level their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you struggling with your mojo or having a hard time getting motivated? ? Are you waiting for some external thing or person to grant your wishes or make you feel a certain way? ? Are you more attached to results and not enjoying the process of your life? ? Is there someone you feel obligated to please by having amazing answers to their questions about your dreams, career or love life? Melissa's Question: Melissa wants to get her mojo and confidence back regarding her acting career. Melissa's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She may be experiencing adultolescence ? She's looking for something external to re-ignite her mojo ? She can make her vision clearer ? She teaches people how to treat her by her responses to their questions ? Honoring herself will help get her mojo back How to get over it and on with it: ? She can direct her life more instead of waiting for things to happen to her ? She needs to generate inspiration from inside herself ? She can try to create opportunities to connect with other people ? She can start creating her own content and do it every day ? She should honor her choices and stand by them Tools and Takeaways: ? Write down or act out the times in your life when you had mojo and use it as a reference point to connect back to the feeling. ? Act the part and create the feelings you want to feel every day. ? Practice responding in a different way to those people who make you feel pressure. Be congruent in your own self-acceptance. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this...

Our guest coach is Kute Blackson who talks about how we find our ultimate soulmate and the true purpose of relationship. Kute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people "get" what they want, Kute's life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. At 8 years old, Kute began speaking in front of thousands of people at his father's churches. At 14 years of age, he was ordained as a minister, given the mandate to take over a spiritual organization spanning 300 churches. At age 18, through a series of spiritual awakenings, he left everything behind. His entire life has been dedicated to understanding who we are, what we're here for, what makes us truly happy and how we can achieve our highest potential. World renowned for creating revolutionary results and a world-shift in consciousness, Kute is widely known as a transformational facilitator, speaker, and leader. Today, the venue for his message may be one-on-one, a vast stadium setting, experiential seminars, and transformational travel intensives all of over the world. And his uniquely inspiring cutting edge videos have reached millions of people worldwide. Kute works with clients from all walks of life, ranging from billionaires, celebrities, entrepreneurs, circus performers, politicians, mothers and children in over 20 countries, and for the past 14 years has been a trusted advisor and coach to CEO's and world leaders. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute's debut book, "You.Are.The.One." will be released through Simon and Schuster in June 2016. Colored with experiences from his own incredible journey, "You.Are.The.One." will show readers how to unlock their true potential and live a life they love, through love. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation.

How are you at making a choice? Do you suffer from analysis by paralysis? Often, we are so obsessed with making the wrong choice we find ourselves paralyzed in the limbo of indecision, which can be hell. Even those big leaps of faith decisions which include a high degree of uncertainty need resolution. You cannot choose wrong, so I encourage you to JUST choose. The only way we get support from the universe is if we take a step and make a decision. You must be 100% all in to get its support. Today's caller Cecilia wants permission to make a decision. She has allowed logistics to block any action she is considering and she is overwhelmed with the "how's" and hasn't fully examined the "what if's". Remember, it's never too late to go for your dreams. My Why Going for Your Dreams Matters Most...No Matter What podcast addresses how to move past fear and doubt to hear your inner voice. Coaches take note - I wanted to get Cecilia out of her head and more into her feelings. I knew talking through her issue wasn't going to get her anywhere. So, I set up 2 situations, I painted a picture and laid out what the outcomes would be if she chose option A, and I did the same for option B. Then I allowed her intuition to choose the outcome. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up-level their business, start a new business or make a career transition. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a decision you are having a hard time making? Are you living in limbo land as you analyze the decision you have to make? Are you waiting for permission to do something you know in your heart you want to do? Do you collect evidence that supports your dreams or supports your fears? Cecilia's Question: Cecilia would like to know if her longing to be somewhere else, is the universe calling her to go there or if she has glamorized a moment in time. Cecilia's Key Insights and Aha's: She feels relieved when someone gives her permission She knows she runs away from things She's living in limbo land She's not resisting the push towards making a clear choice She doesn't have a lot to lose How to get over it and on with it: She should answer her what if's She should get aligned and behind one decision She should project 20 years in the future to see if she regrets her inaction Understand the universe will support her and the decision she makes Tools and Takeaways: Get 2 sheets of paper and write one choice on one of the sheets and one choice on the other sheet. Then step forward using your intuition onto both sheets of paper at different times to see how your body reacts. This provides incredible feedback. Give yourself permission to choose and permission to take a leap. Listen to my Coaches Corner on How to Get Over Feeling Lonely. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind

In this episode Christine explains why people pleasing is unhealthy and waste of your precious time and energy. Learn how to stop the selfish, yes selfish!, pattern of people pleasing and be self honoring instead!!

People pleasing will not get you the kind of love you long for. Why? Well, when you are putting other people's needs before your own, you are not being honest. You are not showing up authentically. People pleasing can range in severity from caring about what people think to being a doormat. In my view, no degree of people pleasing is a good thing and being a complete doormat is dangerous. Think of a doormat after being used over and over. This is what happens to your spirit and your spark if you allow people to walk all over you. Your light starts to dim. You start to fade and you start to wear down. The Importance of Connection When Going Through a Loss We are not meant to grieve alone. One of the most healthy aspects of grieving is having support. You may find it hard to ask for help but you are giving another person a gift when you are vulnerable with them. Do not suffer in silence and solitude. The things that help the most are often the hardest to do. During difficult times, we need to do the hard things to get to the healing place we long for. Today's caller Shaun called in for some guidance while going through his divorce. He may be putting himself last and has a habit of people pleasing which is making his divorce harder. Don't lose sight of yourself during a loss. I encourage you to be honest with yourself about your people pleasing patterns. Coaches take note - I try to stay as clear and neutral as I possibly can, but during some calls, like this one, I slip from empathy to sympathy. I found myself being protective of Shaun and judgmental of the situation. I then moved back to neutrality which allowed me to guide Shaun appropriately. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you going through a loss right now and feel disconnected? ? Do you relate to being a people pleaser or a doormat? ? Are you concerned about what people think of you and often put others' needs and opinions in front of your own? ? Is there someone in your life you need to draw some boundaries with? ? Do you have a solid support system of people or just one person you can turn to who will listen when you are going through something challenging? Shaun's Question: Shaun would like to know how to get un-stuck after being blindsided by a breakup from a 15-year marriage. He wants advice on how to move past the situation. Shaun's Key Insights and Aha's: ? He has a pattern of taking care of others at his own expense. ? He may be losing his identity. ? He doesn't have a social circle for support. ? He should reach out to new people and ask for help. How to get over it and on with it: ? He should step into his power and his strength and put himself first. ? He should meet new people and join new groups. ? He has the opportunity to gain healthy friendships. Tools and Takeaways: ? Be honest and look at the ways your people pleasing could be depleting you, blocking intimacy and potentially building resentment. ? Listen to this week's Coaches Corner for additional tips. ? Reach out to people, ask for support or just ask them to listen. ? Write down one thing which will help you the most but may be hard for you to do. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler...

In this episode of Coaches Corner, psychotherapist and transformation coach Terri Cole teaches us: why suppressing emotions is bad for us, what "transference" is, and how to express our true emotions (even anger) to people in our personal and professional lives. Check out Terri's original podcast, Hello Freedom here: https://terricole.com/podcast/ And take her LOVE survey here: Http://bit.ly/1YiQHHH

Do you exhibit a type of behavior or personality trait you don't necessarily love about yourself? It could be moodiness or it could be being extremely judgemental or it could be an emotional state you have a tendency to default to like sadness, worry, anger or fear. Women often have a difficult time dealing with anger because we have not been encouraged to express it. We may default to sadness which limits us from reaching our passion and our fire. We suppress our emotions and any big emotion we suppress will eventually leak. Anger becomes irritability, sadness becomes depression and shame comes out as insecurity. Suppressed emotions can also lead to physical ailments. It is not healthy to suppress our emotions. Today's caller Monica acknowledges her own moodiness and is wondering if it is something she can change or if it's a fixed personality trait. She suppresses her anger and doesn't speak her truth. If there is something about you that does not feel good to you, like moodiness, you can change it. You just need to uncover why it's there in the first place. Moodiness can be a messenger that you may be suppressing pent up anger and frustration. It is liberating to express your anger and be free of the moodiness. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there something about you that you would like to change? Is it an inherent part of your personality or do you believe you can change it? Are you willing to do the work to change it? ? Do you experience times when you are irritable or snap at someone? How do you express your anger? ? Do you feel self-expressed? Do you fully feel your feelings? Monica's Question: Monica recognizes she is a moody person and would like to know if she is able to shift out of it or if it is part of her personality. Monica's Key Insights and Aha's: ? Her moodiness stems from suppressing her anger ? When she speaks her truth she feels shut down ? She has trouble expressing herself ? She doesn't like conflict ? She becomes the victim, as a coping strategy How to get over it and on with it: ? Realize her irritability and bluntness are actually inner anger leaking out ? She should do the Temper Tantrum technique and 32 days of the Release Writing technique, which are in her copy of Expectation Hangover ? She should step away from the conversation and get her anger out, on her own Tools and Takeaways: ? Identify the ways you may be leaking. Know where you are suppressing and how you may be expressing it in other ways. ? If you sense you may have anger you have yet to acknowledge, start Release Writing. ? Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover, in particular, the Adult Temper Tantrum and Release Writing techniques. ? Speak your truth and process your raw feelings to eliminate suppression. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

Dream University's CEO, Marcia Wieder is a long established thought leader on visionary thinking and as Founder of The Meaning Institute, she teaches people to create and live fulfilling lives. Listen in as she coaches you through the "CBA's" of going after your dreams and making them happen!

We all, especially women, have struggled with body image, at least one time in our lives. The media and society at large do not make having a healthy body image easy. I want to highlight the fact that if we took all the mental energy people spend on thinking about, obsessing over and criticizing their bodies, and shifted it into thinking about how we could serve the world, change the world and solve big problems, imagine how different the world would be. If you are expending a lot of your own mental energy focusing on how you look rather than on how you feel and what you want to contribute, consider re-directing it. In my 20's I was never diagnosed with anorexia or bulimia but I definitely would say I had body image issues. I possibly had body dysmorphia, which is when your obsession with how you look and what you eat gets in the way of your happiness and your ability to connect. I don't think I saw myself accurately. I was working as a personal trainer and nutritionist, so I was super obsessed about what I ate and I possibly had exercise bulimia too. If I ate "bad", I would be driven to tears with guilt. This went on for a few years until some major things shifted. It finally subsided when I committed to the type of personal and spiritual growth work I teach on this show. I focused more on working out and body image than I did on really diving in and doing the work. I also dealt with feeling out of control in my life. I had left my job and I didn't know what I wanted to do in my life. I had a huge expectation hangover in terms of where I thought I "should be". I had so much uncertainty. That is when I started a meditation practice and that really helps me to feel more settled and more present. The out of control feeling comes from when our mind is just going and going and we are future tripping all the time. That led me to create a much stronger spiritual practice and relationship with God. I was so self-obsessed I felt very, very separate. I didn't have a strong spiritual connection to begin with but the more I leaned into it, the more I talked to God and read spiritual books, the more the connection deepened. I got a purpose which was bigger than me. I got clear on what I was truly hungry for. I was hungry to serve. I was hungry to learn. I was hungry for spiritual connection. When I started to feed myself with what I was truly hungry for, the obsession with food, diet, exercise and body began to melt away. Any disorder, addiction or illness is there to get our attention. It is an indicator that there are unresolved issues we are working hard to suppress. It's a red flag that we are craving something and we are trying to feed ourselves through whatever the addiction and disorders are. These disorders reinforce the pain of separation. When we do things that are dangerous, even hurtful to our well-being, it's a cry out for God, for remembrance, for the awareness that we are so loved, whole and complete exactly as we are. Today's caller, Anne, has been in and out of therapy for her eating disorder so I took a different approach with her. We worked on healing her bulimia with love. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. I E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you so obsessed with your body that it affects your emotional stability, everyday decisions or relationships? ? Have you gone through treatment for a disorder but just can't seem to be free of it? ? Are you aware of what you need to do to heal but cannot seem to integrate it? Anne's Question: Anne has been struggling with bulimia for over 12 years. She has informed herself...

Sometimes the experience of loneliness can feel so painful that connection seems almost impossible. If that feels true for you, here is a four-step process you can use to support yourself in relieving feeling lonely.

There is a difference between being alone and feeling the pain of loneliness. We do not have to suffer from the pain of loneliness if we are enjoying a connected relationship with our self and a higher power. We are never really alone, and the illusion of the separation of God, higher power source or universe, is one of the core misunderstandings we are all here to overcome. If we tell ourselves things like "I'm alone, I hate being by myself, something must be wrong with me, I really need to be with other people", then, of course we feel the pain of loneliness. It's very human to want to be connected and to make sure we are getting our soul food by spending time with people we love. Feeling isolated or disconnected is incredibly hard. But sometimes it is the pain of loneliness that inspires us to do the work to nurture a better relationship with our self, or to create or deepen a spiritual connection. This is exactly what is on the soul agenda for today's caller, Christina. Her question initially is about the assumptions she's making that are sabotaging her relationship, but her core issue is fear of being alone. She has a track record of being in toxic relationships or relationships she truly doesn't want to be in just because it was better than being on her own. Remember you are never truly alone. You are always connected to infinite and unconditional love from God. I invite all of you to join me September 16-22 for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is your fear of being alone so considerable that you jump from relationship to relationship? ? Do you hesitate to do things alone? ? Are you terrified you will end up old and alone? ? Do you only feel safe when you are with another person? ? Are you longing for a deeper connection to yourself and a higher power so you do not have to experience the pain of loneliness or separation? Christina's Question: Christina feels she is sabotaging her relationship by assuming this partner will do the same things as her previous partner. Christina's Key Insights and Aha's: ? She panics when she thinks of being alone ? She is trying to learn how to be in a relationship with herself ? She grew up with a fear of losing the people she loved ? She settles in relationships to keep herself from being alone How to get over it and on with it: ? Redefine what being alone is ? Create a feeling of safety without having someone else there ? Have honest communication with her partner about taking a break ? Bring a spiritual practice into her life ? Apply her own calming tactics into her own life Tools and Takeaways: ? Understand your default pattern when you feel lonely. What can you tell yourself instead of going into your default pattern? ? Think of someone you speak highly of and then talk about yourself the same way. You deserve to be the recipient of loving, self-talk. ? Cultivate a spiritual practice. ? Make connections with soul friends and your soul family. Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com