Smalley Marriage Radio

The wrong fuel in Venice!  In today’s show I will....go in depth on the otter / beaver combination marriage or relationship. What are the strengths, key conflict areas, and most important things to focus on to make sure your relationship is the best possible. SPECIAL OFFER The new comedy album! The Comedy of Us...$5 download And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too).  FEATURED RESOURCE ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes TRANSCRIPT Announcer: Coming to you from the heart of Texas where he met his one and only true love. Proving that this guy really does know how to love well because there's no way he won her over with his looks. Therefore, he must be the relationship genius of our generation. Get ready for the best advice you will ever hear on how to keep your relationships thriving. Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Smalley Podcast with your host Michael Smalley. Recorded Voice: So honey, what are you going to rant about today? Can we get a little preview? Michael Smalley: Oh, I’ll give you a preview. This is your host Michael Smalley. And have you ever done something that you didn’t realize obviously at the time how incredibly stupid you are but then quickly, quickly after doing it, it becomes grossly obvious what a knucklehead you’ve become? That’d be that line. I get that a lot. It’s kind of depressing. In this past summer, my wife Amy and I took the couple’s trip of a lifetime with two of our closest friends, Hank and Kirsten and you got to make sure you pronounce Kirsten, Kirsten. Don’t do Kersten. It’s Kirsten from Staten Island joined us on a trip of a lifetime to Ireland which is where I’ve always wanted to go since the third grade when I spent an entire year trying to convince people I was Irish. And I could do the accent but I’m not in the mood right now. And then we went to Italy which Hank is Italian, born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, total Italian. Kirsten is Irish, Irish-German. We want to go there. And so we went to Ireland and Italy and just had the time our life and I drove because I’ve driven internationally lots. You know, I’ve been traveling overseas for a long time so it doesn’t really stress me out and it’s kind of nice to have the independence to be able to, you know, poke around and do whatever you want on your own schedule. And so we’re in Italy having -- just having a blast. We’ve landed in Rome, rented the car. Stayed, did the Rome thing and then drove North and it was such a gorgeous drive and we end up in Florence and we go through the wine, you know, area. It’s just amazing. And then we head to Venice and I had no idea how wonderful Venice was going to be. Probably – I mean I haven’t been to every place in Italy but I would say that Venice was my favorite. I love Venice but Venice didn’t start of very well. No, [Laughter] no, it didn’t because Venice is where we were going to turn in the car because it was going to be such a long drive. It was actually cheaper just to turn the car in early and fly back to Rome. And so we are literally – just think I have driven through Ireland in the narrow roads where you almost get killed by the oncoming tours buses or the guys on bicycles on the roads that aren’t even wide enough for one car. I survived all of that. I have survived all the speed and the craziness of the Italian drivers. And then I am 1.2 kilometers away from being done driving. I mean it’s over. I have arrived. I am 1.2 kilometers away from the Avis Rent-A-Car return center in Venice, right outside of Venice actually, not on the island of Venice. 1.2 and I looked at it and I go, “Hey, we probably should  had top off the fuel before we turn it in.” Now, in Ireland the car I had had these stickers everywhere in yellow going “Warning, warning, warning. This car only uses diesel. Warning, warning,

If you've ever felt stuck, or that you keep arguing about the same things over and over again...then you need to discover why this happens and what you can do about it on this show!  Listen above or read the transcript below, either way, you'll find out about your buttons and what you need to do to stop the dance. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (as a thank you, after your review is submitted, I'll send you a special free gift). FEATURED RESOURCE TRANSCRIPT [0:00:00] Corey Allan: [Music] Do you guys have times when you get a chance to go and spend the time with extended family? You know, we're just coming off for four days with family and it was the death in the family. So, there are all kinds of family there and when were driving home, it's a tremendous time to process how crazy family is and how, you know, annoying sometimes family is or just the way we live life and be -- Michael Smalley: I know a lot about that. Corey Allan: [Laughter] And the way we choose to do things like the way we parent or the way we communicate in marriage or the way we just live our life, I find myself really fighting the urge to be judgmental and condemning [Laughter] a lot of things when I realize that's not my place to do that, that's family. I should love them. [Laughter] Michael Smalley: We have to love them? Teresa Thomas: Unconditionally, yes. Corey Allan: I don't know if we have to love them and -- but -- but it seems like there should be some, you know, semblance of love when we get together [Laughter] as a family and it's not just at feeling real McCoy [0:01:17] [Phonetic]. Michael Smalley: Well, I think it actually begs the thought because when you say, "Well, I guess we have to love them," that's sort of what love is, isn't it? Corey Allan: [Laughter] It -- Michael Smalley: It's family and choosing -- choosing not to kill them. Corey Allan: Yeah and -- Michael Smalley: That could be one definition of love -- Corey Allan:  Yeah and -- Michael Smalley: ... because I'm making a choice not to kill you. Corey Allan: Well, the reason I don't choose to kill family members is because I think other family members are high up on the suspect list right off the bat. So [Laughter] -- Teresa Thomas: That's right. [Laughter] Corey Allan: ... I'm not getting away with it. Michael Smalley: It's not going to happen. Teresa Thomas: That's right. Corey Allan: No, I don't think so. It's just -- Michael Smalley: We're nowhere near smart enough or sophisticated -- Corey Allan: No, no. Michael Smalley: ... enough to get away from that. Corey Allan: Just -- and just so everybody, our listeners, that maybe joining this conversation know. This is Simple Marriage Radio, the simple solution -- Michael Smalley: We help people learn how to get along. Corey Allan: Well, hopefully, but it's also the simple solution that helping make -- making married life great. I'm Corey and Michael and Teresa are on the mic as well. And we're going to continue to roll right along and see what unfolds. [Laughter] Michael Smalley: We'll see just how more dysfunctional we can get. Corey Allan: Absolutely. Michael Smalley: Wow, the -- you know, last show we talked about personal responsibility and sort of one of the quickest ways, honestly, to turn around any relationship is by looking in the mirror, right? Corey Allan: Yes. Michael Smalley: Or you just -- the more that you take ownership of your own junk and realize that, "Man, I get enough of my own my stuff that I have to take care of and resolve and get over and get huff, you’re about to really worry or point the finger at your junk, you know, things tend to start getting better. The better I love someone, the more I set them up to love me well back. Teresa Thomas: Correct.

Discover what you can do to make a major, positive, impact on your relationship.  It all starts with you... And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (as a thank you, after your review is submitted, I'll send you a special free gift). FEATURED RESOURCE The Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage Corey Allan: [Music] So Mike and Teresa, I don't know if you guys have put them on the same round and round dialogs that go on in your home but in my household, it's been one about TV quite a bit throughout the course of marriage. So, I don't know. Am I uncommon from you guys? Michael Smalley: I mean I hope -- I hope we don't have to talk about television because the next thing I know from everything I've ever read from you, you're going to start demanding I take that sting that they have in my bedroom and -- Teresa Thomas: [Laughter] Corey Allan: [Laughter] Michael Smalley: I mean I like sex, I do but I like TV too. Teresa Thomas: Me, too. Corey Allan: Okay, well -- Teresa Thomas: I like -- Corey Allan: I understand where you're coming from but the thing that comes to my mind is, you know, we've always have this idea about -- for whatever reason Pam does that not like TV and I mean -- Michael Smalley: She doesn't like sex or TV? Corey Allan: TV then -- Michael Smalley: Oh, okay -- Teresa Thomas: [Laughter] Michael Smalley: ... just want to clarify. Teresa Thomas: There's a hesitation there.  [Laughter] Corey Allan: And so as -- as we've gone on and on through our marriage, one of the things that come out is, man, we're watching too much TV, you know. And now, it's dramatically lower and really, the only time it's on when there's sports on. So, right now, it's clearly off time and -- Michael Smalley: It's on -- Teresa Thomas: Sure. Corey Allan: And so it's on and I would always have this idea, you know, for years and years I just knew I could ride the storm [Laughter] whenever she would get in her mood of it's time to get -- it's time to get rid of the TV. Michael Smalley: Her anti-TV tantrum -- Corey Allan: Right and I knew I could just, okay, it's just -- it's just a phase. It'll be a couple of weeks long, maybe at the most and then I can ride that wave and it will be back to normal and then it'll come up again in a month or two and then I'll ride that wave and I was just kind of got in to this little pattern. And then I realized, it changed one day when she changed the rules. And she came to me one day and she just said, "Hey, you know what? I'm tired of how much the TV is on. So, I'm going to go start doing things on the weekends and you're welcome to come with me but I'm leaving. I'm going to do things with friends and just get out and go do some things. I'll take the kids with me some, I won't take them some other times and they're going to be your responsibility. So, see you,” and -- Teresa Thomas: Good luck with that, yeah. [Laughter] Corey Allan: Yeah, then she walked off and I was just like, "Oh, no." You know, because I knew right then -- Michael Smalley: She pulled the classic -- Teresa Thomas: All been – [Crosstalk] Corey Allan: She changed the whole dynamic of how things were going because she stepped up and took responsibility for what she has control of. Teresa Thomas: Exactly -- Michael Smalley: Which is clearly not you and your TV watching problem. Teresa Thomas: [Laughter] Corey Allan: [Laughter] Clearly, clearly not me. So it's like, oh man, now I have to start looking at things all over again and that -- what do I really want to do about this. Michael Smalley: Which is not fun. Corey Allan: No -- well, it's one of those times that it's not fun. It could be very -- very beneficial but it also is one that, ah, there's just some discomfort involved in that process.

I've been working with two amazing friends on a new show, Simple Marriage Radio! Dr. Corey Allan (founder of the #1 marriage blog on the internet) and Teresa Thomas (one of our incredible Smalley Intensive leaders) and I are getting together weekly to ...

Learn who the Beaver is and how you can achieve balance as a Beaver and how to relate with one as well. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). Relational strengths: Accurate and precise Quality control Discerning Analytical Strengths out of balance: Too critical or too strict Too controlling Too negative of new opportunities Lose overview Communication style: Factual Two-way Great listener (tasks) Weakness in communicating: Desire for detail and precision can frustrate others Relational needs: Quality Exact expectations Relational balance: Total support is not always possible Thorough explanation isn't everything IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS HELP PLEASE CALL US AT 800-975-8748 TO HEAR HOW THE SMALLEY INTENSIVE PROGRAM CAN HELP YOU TODAY! FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW TRANSCRIPT [0:00:00] Announcer: Coming to you from the heart of Texas where he met his one and only true love. Proving that this guy really does know how to love well because there's no way he won her over with his looks. Therefore, he must be the relationship genius of our generation. Get ready for the best advice you will ever hear on how to keep your relationships thriving. Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Smalley Podcast with your host Michael Smalley. Voice Prompt: So honey, what are you going to rant about today? Can we get a little preview? Michael Smalley: Oh, you can get a little preview because today’s show I'm a little bit nervous about, I'm not going to lie and the reason I am nervous about it is it's not just because it's the fourth and the final installment but at least the fourth episode of the widely popular Personality Series but I'm most nervous because this particular personality style is the exact opposite of who I am. And many times because of who I am as a high off the chart Otter, this personality can at least it can feel like it. It can sometimes look at me like I'm the anti-Christ himself because we are talking today about the Beaver. That's right, the Beaver. And I know if I get things wrong, all the little Beavers out there in the world are going to know because they care about accuracy and high off the chart Otters don't tend to be very accurate. And if you're listening to the show maybe perhaps for the first time and you're going, "What on earth is this man talking about?" Beavers, Otters, or we can add Lions and Golden Retrievers too because by far the most popular area at SmalleyCenter.com is the Personality Inventory Test where we use the ever popular never changing personality system of the animals. So, my dad, Dr. Gary Smalley and his partner in crime years ago, Dr. John Trent wrote a book called The Two Sides of Love and it -- in there it described these four personality types where it kind of takes the old classic disc, DISC test or the old things where they used to call phlegmatic or melancholy, all these crazy names and they geniusly renamed all the different personality, the four -- the four main personality types. They geniusly renamed them to represent animals that sort of made sense to that personality type. So we've already gone over the Lion which is a super strong, king of the jungle, leader, in-charge person. The Otter which is the hyper fun, excited, always busy goofing off has a hard taking life seriously. The Golden Retriever which is the quintessential, sweet, nice, kind, great listening person. And now we've finally arrived to the Beaver and the Beaver is that organized person, the people that love accuracy, the precise people. The quality control...ugh, they love things done well and they take their time to make sure that it is done right. Beavers tend to be discerning, analytical so they can take information from multiple sources and pull it together and make sense of it. These are the designers, the builders, the mathematicians, the CPA's.

Learn about the most precious, kind, and best listening animal in the personality kingdom, The Golden Retriever. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). Relational strengths: Warm & Relational Loyal Enjoys Routine Peace-Maker Sensitive Feelings Strengths out of balance: Attract the hurting Missed opportunities Stays in a rut Sacrifice own feelings for harmony Easily hurt or holds a grudge Communication style: Indirect Two-way Great listener Weakness in communicating: Uses too many words or provides too many details Relational needs: Emotional security Agreeable Environment Relational balance: Learn to say "NO" … establish emotional boundaries Learn to confront when own feelings are hurt IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS HELP PLEASE CALL US AT 800-975-8748 TO HEAR HOW THE SMALLEY INTENSIVE PROGRAM CAN HELP YOU TODAY! FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW Transcript: [0:00:00] Announcer: Coming to you from the heart of Texas where he met his one and only true love. Proving that this guy really does know how to love well because there’s no way he won her over with his looks. Therefore, he must be the relationship genius of our generation. Get ready for the best advice you will ever hear on how to keep your relationship thriving. Welcome to the Smalley podcast with your host Michael Smalley. Michael: Have you ever made a mistake and you just really messed up and you feel bad? Well you really didn’t feel bad. You feel stupid. It’s one of those kind of mistakes where you just feel stupid. I do that a lot. Because of my most recent mistake especially for this show, I kinda gotten nostalgic a little bit because you sort of started doing life and you start growing up and you think you’ve overcome stuff and then you do something stupid and you realize I haven't gotten quite as far as I needed to. Maybe I’m not as smart or more mature as maybe I thought I’d gotten now that I’m really in my 40’s. Well it just made me sad this last mistake and honestly I got a little nostalgic and that got me digging around the old soundboard where I found a bunch of 80’s television show jingles and I got this one. Tell me this doesn’t bring back good memories. Here it comes. I love this show. Curly blonde hair, Connie Sellecca, the greatest American hero. I needed a pick me up I’m not gonna lie. I definitely needed a pick me up because I was embarrassed because my very last personality episode… It is so funny when you’re an ADHD guy like me, it is so funny how you mess stuff up quickly and you don’t even realize it until comments started pouring in from the website. People were very nice, very kind. They didn’t necessarily hurt my feelings but it did embarrass me because as you know if you’ve been listening to the show, on episode 52 of the second show in the personality series, I titled it the social director and I went off on social director which of course was not the right name to go with. Because on the first show of the personality series, I was sticking with the old lion, otter, golden retriever and beaver of the animal kingdom and it was supposed to be the animal kingdom for the entire series but no. I blew it. I’m not afraid to admit mistakes. If you’ve listened to this show, it’s all about being authentic and genuine and honest and not worried about being perfect and the good news is I really don’t ever have to worry about not being perfect coz I’m so imperfect. Before I get into the third show on this personality series, maybe I was doing that unconsciously for all of you the listeners. That’s the direction I wanna take this one in because honestly the fact that I messed up the title of the otter and changed it to the social director… I don’t have to get into the long story. It’s the exact same test, exact same personality styles. This is the four. We have it in the animal kingdom like my dad and John Trent did.

Do you ever wonder what's wrong with your spouse? You may be married to a Social Director! So listen up =] because I'm a very high Social Director and I promise to help you better understand them, relate to them, and love them well. Relational Strengths: Optimistic Energetic Motivators Future oriented Strengths out of balance: Unrealistic or day-dreamer Impatient or over bearing Manipulator or pushy Avoids details or lacks follow-through Communication: Can inspire others Optimistic or enthusiastic One-way Weakness in communicating: High energy can manipulate others Relational needs: Approval Opportunity to verbalize Visibility Social recognition Relational balance: Be attentive to mate's needs There is such a thing as too much optimism And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). AUDIO TRANSCRIPT Announcer: Coming to you from the heart of Texas where he met his one and only true love. Proving that this guy really does know how to love well because there’s no way he won her over with his looks. Therefore, he must be the relationship genius of our generation. Get ready for the best advice you will ever hear on how to keep your relationship thriving. Welcome to the Smalley podcast with your host Michael Smalley. Michael: Have you ever wondered if you’re married to the personality style I’m gonna talk about today? So this might be your spouse or maybe even your child. Have you ever wondered what’s wrong with them? Coz I get that. This is me. I’m off the charts. I mean off the chart on this personality style. I not only hit all the highest scores you can possibly choose for each characteristic. I actually try to input higher numbers because that’s who I am. I am the social director and you are listening to the second installment on the personality series of our personality test. And this is online. Its free – at least the one that you can download and print is free. Very soon we’re gonna have this available online to take online. And I am almost done writing up the relationship dynamic assessments which basically means that you can take it as a husband or wife or even as a boyfriend, girlfriend or fiancé. You might be engaged. You can take our test, not only find out who you are, strengths, out of balance, communication, weakness, relational needs, but you can also enter in and tell us what personality style your mate is in terms of the highest that they score on or your girlfriend boyfriend. And then I’m writing up custom reports for every basic combination that you can have in a couple to explain exactly how your specific dynamic is. Pretty pumped about this. It’s coming out really good so far. Its gonna be available at the simplemarriage.com and that’s where it’ll be available first and then at some point down the road here, we’ll also launch it just as its own thing. So that’s where you can find that. But this is the second week of the personality series and I am on the social director. If you don’t remember, if you haven't listened to the first one, we’re basically going off the four main types of personality styles that have been around since 400. The Greeks even talked about these thousands of years ago. And there's kinda four general descriptors. The DISC is a very popular task but I don’t ever understand those other names; melancholy, phlegmatic. So what we’ve done is rename the personality styles to different roles that would make a cruise ship, a cruising experience successful. Because you need these four types of people on every cruise ship working the cruise so you can have a successful time, a well rounded time. So the first week, we talked about the captain. It’s the first episode in the series and now we’re talking about the social director. Next will come the steward and then lastly the navigator.

A new series on personality styles, and in this episode learn about The Lion and what it takes if you are one, married to one, or have one as a kid. If you need to take the personality test to find out who you really are, click here. Relational Strengths: Takes charge. 
Problem solver.
 Competitive. 
Enjoys change.
 Confrontational. Strengths Out of Balance: Too direct or impatient.
 Too busy. 
Cold blooded.
 Impulsive or takes big risks. 
Insensitive to others. Communication Style: Direct or blunt. 
One-way. 
Weakness: Not as good a listener. Relational Needs: Personal attention & recognition for what they do.
 Areas where he or she can be in charge.
 Opportunity to solve problems.
 Freedom to change. 
Challenging activities. Relational Balance: Add softness.
 Become a great listener. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes (transcript of the show) Announcer: Coming to you from the heart of Texas where he met his one and only true love. Proving that this guy really does know how to love well because there’s no way he won her over with his looks. Therefore, he must be the relationship genius of our generation. Get ready for the best advice you will ever hear on how to keep your relationship thriving. Welcome to the Smalley podcast with your host Michael Smalley. Michael: Do you have any idea what the most popular page is on smalleycenter.com? Do you have any idea at all? You probably shouldn’t because if you did have some kind of idea, that might mean you have hacked into my back end system and you are stealing things from me and shame on you for doing it. But for those of you listening who are not corrupt evil hackers, the most by far – we’re talking the most popular page on my site, is the page that has the personality inventory or test that you can download and take by far. Everybody wants to come to our website in order to better understand themselves, better understand their spouse or their children and so they go to the personality page. They download the PDF and they take the test. So I think it is high time that I give you a series of shows focusing just on your personality style. Now, if you haven't been to the site, just go to smalleycenter.com. Go. You’ll see it right on the homepage. There’s a direct link to the personality test. You can download the thing for free and then you can just fill it out. It’s very easy. It takes maybe 5 or 10 minutes to take. But what I wanna do is I wanna focus on some of the key ingredients to personality styles, how you interact with each other, what that means, why you even wanna know what personality style your spouse has. I wanna do all of this in a series of shows just on personality styles and how they affect your marriage, dating, parenting and you can even take our personality test, the world famous lion, otter, golden retriever and beaver. You can take that for free and be able to follow along as I unpack each of the major characteristic traits like the lion, the otter, the golden retriever or the beaver. I’m gonna dedicate this show to each one of those but then I’m also gonna give some follow up stuff on marriage and even on parenting. That is what’s coming on. So again, go to smalleycenter.com. If you have not taken the personality test it’s based off a disc. The DISC test. We just give it a better more creative twist in terms of the different descriptors or the words we use. So we obviously went with animals. My father, Dr. Gary Smalley and his old longtime partner John Trent wrote the book Two Sides of Love and that’s where these animal names came from. I’m telling you it’s as fun. It makes it easier to understand coz who in the world knows what phlegmatic is or melancholy.

Learn once and for all whether parenting makes you miserable or happy! New studies are popping up from researchers trying to find an answer. If you have kids, you probably already know the answer...but I am going to talk about it anyways! And it’s our 50th show! Who knew! And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). This article is from GOOD Lifestyle (http://www.good.is/index.php?url=post/parenting-makes-you-happy-if-you-re-a-dad/): One study of 909 working moms in Texas found that day-to-day, they "enjoy parenting less than watching TV, shopping, or preparing food." Other studies have "linked parenthood to lower marital satisfaction on average" and a "higher prevalence of depression." Studies have shown that parents register "decreases in life satisfaction in the months after childbirth." In 2009, the Journal of Happiness Studies published a paper announcing that the effect of children on life satisfaction is actually "positive, large and increasing in the number of children"—before retracting the results due to a coding error. In fact, the research showed, the effect of parenting on satisfaction "is small, often negative, and never statistically significant.” Parental happiness researcher Nattavudh Powdthavee says he launched his own study of the matter "to explore why, in spite of the research, he does want to be a parent." (His research found no happiness benefit for having kids). And further on down the article: Really, the researchers found that "parenthood was associated with greater satisfaction and happiness only among fathers"—mothers aren't happier than childless women. Happiness isn't everything. The researchers did find one consistent psychological benefit for parents across age, gender, and marital status—all parents reported "a stronger sense of meaning in life" than did people without kids. If you really want to be happy, with or without children: Keep your eyes upward Check your expectations Understand the true benefit of trials Surrender BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - 96% OF OUR FORMER COUPLES WOULD RECOMMEND OUR PROGRAM TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDED HELP! CALL US AT 800-975-8748. My dad's best parenting series! It's a classic and still right on in raising healthy, loving kids CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE This is Amy and me giving 5 keys to better kids! CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes

All the major researchers agree, get out and have fun together! But how? You are going to like this interview with Jay and Laura Laffoon, and it's not just because of their last name (Michael's name has gotten a lot of grief over the years as well too).  Learn how to keep date nights secret, and what Jay and Laura are doing with the Ultimate Date Night evenings around the world! And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes

Improve your sex life with advice from Dr. Corey Allan who founded simplemarriage.net, the #1 marriage blog on the web! Spice it up by being emotionally safe. Be willing to grow in your life, you will grow sexually. If you don’t get what you want, don’t react immaturely, be responsible and respond with integrity. The biggest turn-ons, integrity, wisdom, character Marriage is the best way to grow, period And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - 96% OF OUR FORMER COUPLES WOULD RECOMMEND OUR PROGRAM TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDED HELP! SMALLEYCENTER.COM OR CALL US AT 800-975-8748. FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes

Learn 4 simple, but powerful ways to keep healthy today, only on the Smalley Marriage Podcast. Loving God and receiving love from God Loving others and receiving love from others Eating well Mild exercise BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - 96% OF OUR FORMER COUPLES WOULD RECOMMEND OUR PROGRAM TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDED HELP! SMALLEYCENTER.COM OR CALL US AT 800-975-8748. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). The Alameda Study - correlation between lifestyle and health - relationships and health - those with the closest social ties lived the longest! If we have love, we are less likely to have disease, illness, depression...simply put, everything works better when we love better. The key is to work out your relationship and love well instead of self-soothing through eating. Better choices equal better life. FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes

If your relationships are noting going well, you will turn to something, and sadly, many of us turn to food. But if we turn to food to fill that whole in our heart...it ain’t our hearts that are going to get filled, it’s our thighs, our stomachs, and our hips! But no more, my friends, no more. Today you are going to learn how love can actually stop you from unhealthy eating habits, how do I know this? Well, I’m not talking at you today, I’m talking to myself, and it’s not just me either, I’ve got my dad with me today, and he’s written the book on the matter, and filmed the DVD, and we are giving stuff away that can really change you, it really can! BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - 96% OF OUR FORMER COUPLES WOULD RECOMMEND OUR PROGRAM TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDED HELP! CALL US AT 800-975-8748 THAT’S 800-975-8748. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets us know you’re listening (and other’s too). The Alameda Study - correlation between lifestyle and health - relationships and health - those with the closest social ties lived the longest! 4 Simple verses: Matthew 5:3, Mark 12:29,30, Mark 11:20, Matthew 5:10,11 You are probably not married to pure evil, are you? Listen and find out. Honor your mate, seek forgiveness, and place high value on each other. If we have love, we are less likely to have disease, illness, depression...simply put, everything works better when we love better. The key is to work out your relationship and love well instead of self-soothing through eating. Better choices equal better life. What's on tap for the next show...part 2 is on Dean Ornish’s 4 things he says are the key to health. FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes

If you've ever struggled getting your teenager excited about Jesus, then you need to meet Mario D'Ortenzio.  He's the founder of Death2LifeRevolution.com, an innovative ministry reaching young people the church typically ignores. Find out on this episode: Why he started the ministry How this can impact your own family through discipleship (making it easier for you) What parents typically do to really mess up helping their kids get excited about Jesus BROUGHT TO YOU BY THE SMALLEY CENTER - 8 OUT OF 10 COUPLES ARE STILL TOGETHER AND HAPPILY MARRIED...EVEN WHEN THEY THOUGHT THERE WASN’T A CHANCE FOR THEIR MARRIAGE! FIND OUT HOW AT HERE OR CALL US AT 800.975.8748. If you like the show, please feel free to LEAVE A REVIEW ON ITUNES - (IT HELPS PEOPLE FIND US) FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes

Maybe your relationship is miserable because you’ve been using your own plans, and it’s about high time you tried someone else’s plan...and a big guess on who’s plan might be better than your’s! BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - 96% OF OUR FORMER COUPLES WOULD RECOMMEND OUR PROGRAM TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDED HELP! CALL US AT 800-975-8748. And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). My story of falling in love with Amy, her falling and being in love with another guy, them getting engaged, me being miserable for 2-years, God bringing us together through His plan, and how I was simple enough to follow Him and ignore mine! BROUGHT TO YOU BY THE SMALLEY CENTER - 8 OUT OF 10 COUPLES ARE STILL TOGETHER AND HAPPILY MARRIED...EVEN WHEN THEY THOUGHT THERE WASN’T A CHANCE FOR THEIR MARRIAGE! FEATURED RESOURCE BUY NOW ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 – Lucky Number 13 – Click here to view on iTunes