Summary: Discover what you can do to make a major, positive, impact on your relationship. It all starts with you... And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (as a thank you, after your review is submitted, I'll send you a special free gift). FEATURED RESOURCE The Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage Corey Allan: [Music] So Mike and Teresa, I don't know if you guys have put them on the same round and round dialogs that go on in your home but in my household, it's been one about TV quite a bit throughout the course of marriage. So, I don't know. Am I uncommon from you guys? Michael Smalley: I mean I hope -- I hope we don't have to talk about television because the next thing I know from everything I've ever read from you, you're going to start demanding I take that sting that they have in my bedroom and -- Teresa Thomas: [Laughter] Corey Allan: [Laughter] Michael Smalley: I mean I like sex, I do but I like TV too. Teresa Thomas: Me, too. Corey Allan: Okay, well -- Teresa Thomas: I like -- Corey Allan: I understand where you're coming from but the thing that comes to my mind is, you know, we've always have this idea about -- for whatever reason Pam does that not like TV and I mean -- Michael Smalley: She doesn't like sex or TV? Corey Allan: TV then -- Michael Smalley: Oh, okay -- Teresa Thomas: [Laughter] Michael Smalley: ... just want to clarify. Teresa Thomas: There's a hesitation there. [Laughter] Corey Allan: And so as -- as we've gone on and on through our marriage, one of the things that come out is, man, we're watching too much TV, you know. And now, it's dramatically lower and really, the only time it's on when there's sports on. So, right now, it's clearly off time and -- Michael Smalley: It's on -- Teresa Thomas: Sure. Corey Allan: And so it's on and I would always have this idea, you know, for years and years I just knew I could ride the storm [Laughter] whenever she would get in her mood of it's time to get -- it's time to get rid of the TV. Michael Smalley: Her anti-TV tantrum -- Corey Allan: Right and I knew I could just, okay, it's just -- it's just a phase. It'll be a couple of weeks long, maybe at the most and then I can ride that wave and it will be back to normal and then it'll come up again in a month or two and then I'll ride that wave and I was just kind of got in to this little pattern. And then I realized, it changed one day when she changed the rules. And she came to me one day and she just said, "Hey, you know what? I'm tired of how much the TV is on. So, I'm going to go start doing things on the weekends and you're welcome to come with me but I'm leaving. I'm going to do things with friends and just get out and go do some things. I'll take the kids with me some, I won't take them some other times and they're going to be your responsibility. So, see you,” and -- Teresa Thomas: Good luck with that, yeah. [Laughter] Corey Allan: Yeah, then she walked off and I was just like, "Oh, no." You know, because I knew right then -- Michael Smalley: She pulled the classic -- Teresa Thomas: All been – [Crosstalk] Corey Allan: She changed the whole dynamic of how things were going because she stepped up and took responsibility for what she has control of. Teresa Thomas: Exactly -- Michael Smalley: Which is clearly not you and your TV watching problem. Teresa Thomas: [Laughter] Corey Allan: [Laughter] Clearly, clearly not me. So it's like, oh man, now I have to start looking at things all over again and that -- what do I really want to do about this. Michael Smalley: Which is not fun. Corey Allan: No -- well, it's one of those times that it's not fun. It could be very -- very beneficial but it also is one that, ah, there's just some discomfort involved in that process.
