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Is there such a thing as an "Elite Black Man?" If so, what are the qualities of such a man and what are the standards that this mysterious "elite" man meets that other men do not? If you do not believe there is such an animal, why would Black men claim that they are "Elite"... what would the goal be to proclaim one's self to be "elite" to women, to other men, and to the world? Please join me tonight to discuss the mindset of Black men that believe themselves to be "elite" and what that attitude means to the remaining Black men and Black women as well here in the U.S. Share your thoughts by calling 347-327-9215 or logging onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

Tonight we will take a look at the issues of weight and how it affects women of color. From their perceived sexual attractiveness and healthiness, to social and employment opportunities - being overweight or obese affects every part of a woman's life as well as how they view themselves. If a woman should lose weight, what if anything changes about her self-perception? Do men see her as just a skinny fat girl? Please join the discussion by calling 347-327-9215 or logging onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat

All over the internet, men rant and rave about the rejection they get from women both on and offline. Women are called names on both online and on the street, stalked, beaten and killed when they "have the nerve" to reject a man's romantic advances. Why is it that men think they have the right to get a woman's attention, body and love if they want it - no matter what SHE wants? Let's talk about it! Call 347-327-9215 or log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat

On tonight's show we'll be discussing the emotional side of men with Steven James Dixon, the author of "Men Don't Heal, We HO... a Book About the Emotional Instability of Men." Steven James Dixon is a husband, relationship expert and columnist on Essence.Com ("The Relationship Report"). Steven's book challenges men to heal from broken relationships and take responsibility. He says "I have developed a principle that will save all marriages. That principle is that the success or failure of all marriages is based solely upon the leadership of men."Call 347-327-9215 to participate via telephone, or log on to chat.

The singles world is full of loser men and women. Some of them are masked and appear to be normal, sane, educated and professional people! But once you get involved with them on an intimate level, the fool comes bursting forth. Abusive, vindictive, mama's boys, petty, spoiled, lazy, blood sucking, game-playing, lying, no good users... yuck! Whether you are 16 or 96, I'm sure you have at least one story to share of a date or relationship with one of these types. Tonight we'll discuss the questions you can ask and share tips on what to look for to let you know that the person you are dealing with is a stone cold LOSER. Join the discussion by calling 347-327-9215.

Tonight we offer a 1-2 punch on the impact religion and churches have on African Americans which keep the women single and men out of church. Together for the first time, two of the most outspoken critics of the Black church. Author Jeremiah Camara (author of "The New Doubting Thomas: The Bible, Black Folks and Blind Belief"), and columnist Deborrah Cooper (author of the controversial piece sweeping the Internet: "The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely") join forces to examine the changes Black Americans need to make to break free of the limitations placed on their minds, achievements and relationships imposed by Christianity. Log on to chat or call 347-327-9215 to participate in the sure to be heated discussion.

Discussion of the phrases that are used by and against women who are made to feel bad about being single and without a man in their life. Is it necessary for a woman to be validated by her association with a male in a relationship? Women are likely to hear "you don't know how to keep a man!" or "now that you got him, you better know how to keep him!" What messages do men get to keep a woman? Then we will talk about the recent Sex in America survey where men thought they were hitting it at 85% but women said umm, no, you really ain't! Why the differences in opinion? Let's discuss it.

Human trafficking for sexual exploitation or forced labor is the second largest criminal industry in the world. Approximately 27 million people worldwide are enslaved, most of them women and girls. Youths, especially runaways, are most often the victims. Are your children at risk? Join me and my two special guests Nancy Todd (a former victims of trafficking in her teens after running away from home), and Jeanine Swatton an advocate to stop sex-trafficking and cyberbullying prevention expert. Jeanine works with survivors of sex-trafficking and will share with you the signs and dangers as well as protecting your children from becoming victims. Hear their stories and learn how you can detect signs that your child may be in danger. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion on one of the world's fastest growing industries - human trafficking.

We continue our discussion of select and non-select men, those "nice" guys that women ignore and pass over for dating, relationships and marriage. We covered a list of 15 important traits women look for men to have and be which make them "select." This week we'll delve into how a man's funky attitudes about women, power and control in relationships, as well as his method of communication with females can work in his favor or against him. Call 347-327-9215 to share your story or participate in the on-air discussion of how :non-select" men can grow and change to have more success with females!

Women complain that there are no decent men to date, but what they really mean is that there is a shortage of "select" men - men with education, class, style, hot bodies, wit, money and sex appeal. There are a lot of "nice guys" that don't have the attributes women love, but they can learn how to improve their attractiveness to women and move from non-select to the group of select guys women adore. Join me tonight to discuss the traits women are looking for and how the "non-select" men can acquire them and have more success with females! Call in to 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

The United States has become the world leader in incarceration. Much has been written on the men who make up the majority of the 2 million inmates, but what about the women they leave behind? Tonight we'll be joined by Megan Comfort a sociologist at the Center for AIDS Prevention Studies at the University of California, San Francisco. Her book "Doing Time Together" details the ways that prisons shape and infiltrate the lives of women with husbands, fiancés, and boyfriends on the inside. She spent several years getting to know women visiting inmates at San Quentin. This broadcast promises to be an enlightening analysis of women caught in the shadow of America’s massive prison system as we investigate the long-term consequences on Black men, women and children of our punitive culture.

Why is it that African Americans, especially those shrouded in religious doctrine, are so against feminism? Is the sexism associated with religion so prevalent, so pervasive, that both Black men and women are afraid of women gaining freedom of choice and the right to do things the way they want to instead of the way MEN WANT THEM TO??? Feminism is a word uttered with the utmost disdain by Black men, and being called a feminist is almost equivalent to the "B" word. Why is it that Black Americans are so dead set against feminism? Call 347-327-9215 and let's talk about it.

Black women have been bombarded with images which depict Black females as aggressive, masculine, disease ridden, angry and unmarriageable. This problem is compounded by Black men that apparently prefer to date and marry women of other races, holding them up as superior to the Black women they have abandoned. Black women read articles and blog posts, buy newspapers and magazines, and tune into television broadcasts which portray these negative images - over and over again. Why are Black women so quick to buy into negative stereotypes about themselves? And what is the real agenda behind White media's constant barrage of negative propaganda as it concerns the Black woman? Please join me and my special guests Kaptan Solo and Divine Brown (conscious v-loggers from Generation-X.Net) for a highly controversial discussion on race, relationships and gender.

The alarming number of young children abused, injured and even murdered by their mother's boyfriends or new husbands is frightening. Why are women so quick to bring men they barely know themselves around their babies? Even more of a question is why so many women leave their children unsupervised in the care of these relative strangers! Does love make women blind to danger, or are they knowingly sacrificing their children's safety in exchange for a man? The call-in number is 347-327-9215. Please join us along with our special guest psychotherapist to discuss the dangers a naive single mother may unknowingly face when dating in a world full of pedophiles.

Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places? Wasting time with people with whom there is no easy togetherness? Do you find yourself in "relationships" that are more exciting to imagine than they are to really be in? After spending time with your partner do you frequently end up feeling angry or frustrated? There are basic needs and personality traits that we all have which must be in sync with our partners. We'll discuss love, romance and romantic compatibility between couples on tonight's show. Call in to share your experience with dating relationships gone wrong at 347-327-9215!