Date Smarter, Not Harder!

Insecurity and self-doubt are always symptoms of deeper issues, most involving low self esteem and feelings of abandonment. Having abandonment issues can affect your ability to have a happy and healthy relationship with an individual that is emotionally, physically and sexually available to you. Guest expert Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball will discuss how abandonment issues may control your reactions, behaviors and ultimately lead you to make disappointing romantic choices. 

Sha' Givens, author of SEX and the SINGLE CHURCH SISTER sits in with us to night as we explore the real life challenges confronting single, contemporary women in the new millennium. This faith-based relationship and wellness guide offers insight on key issues few dare to speak candidly about. A desire for intimacy, loneliness and overcoming emotional hurdles while in pursuit of Mr. Right remain at the forefront of the struggle for single church women. Sha' will provide practical tips on how to avoid sexual pit-falls, common mistakes women make while choosing a mate, understanding God's plan for sex and lots more. What happens after the church lights go out? We'll talk about it! Call into 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

It doesn't matter if she wore makeup. Or if she hung out with older boys at the playground, or if she dressed older than she was. Nor does it matter that she bragged about sex on her Facebook page. All that matters is that she was just 11 years old. Which means she could not have consented to anything, not even if she wanted to. So why are dozens of Black men and women coming to the defense of the 18 Cleveland, Texas rapists arrested recently for assaulting an 11 year old child? Why are so many Black men and women blaming the victim instead of the perpetrators for this heinous crime? Let's talk about the mentality at work. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion, or log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

We've all heard stories of women that decided motherhood and marriage in the traditional self-sacrificial sense was not for them. These women left their children and husbands behind, and went on to pursue their dreams. Why are mothers villified if they decide that motherhood is not for them? Why is a woman expected to sacrifice her time, energy, body, dreams and sometimes her sanity for the sake of her man and children? Join us to discuss this unspoken social expectation of women and how it affects relationships. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

The authors of "Romantic Deception - The Six Lies Men Tell!" Dr. Sally Caldwell and Darlene E. Adams join host Deborrah Cooper to discuss deception in intimate relationships and the deceptive behaviors men display towards single women, and how a woman might recognize (early!) the signs that her new partner is not being honest. Call in to 347-327-9215 to ask questions or participate in the discussion by phone.

Millions of women are frustrated by the men they love and his lack of romantic gestures. Since romance for women means their man does something for her that is an end in itself and not designed to address basic living necessities or any other end. Women complain that virtually every gesture the male makes is ultimately for the purpose of getting his payoff which is for a women to take her clothes off; he never gives to her just for the pleasure of bringing her joy. We'll discuss the concept of romance and why its dead in modern relationships. The call in number is 347-327-9215. Log onto Surviving Dating: Making Smarter Choices in Your Search for Love for more great information about dating and relationships by advice columnist Deborrah Cooper.

Modern men raised by hard working, no nonsense single mothers often appreciate the go getter Mom that raised them to understand that gender roles don't really work anymore. However there is another group of modern men that may also be raised by single Moms (or at least their Mom had most of the child rearing responsibilities) that resent the power their mother had over them. Looking at the Black community as it stands right now and the cultural and economic environment in which we live, which type of woman do you believe is a smarter choice for a wife? Your thoughts are welcome at 347-327-9215! Log onto Surviving Dating: Making Smarter Choices in Your Search for Love for more great information about dating and relationships by advice columnist Deborrah Cooper.

Join host Deborrah Cooper, and special guest relationship expert Ryeal Simms as they discuss the statements and belief system of thousands of single men when it comes to giving of themselves on Valentine's Day. Why are so many single men against showing women how much they care on this one day earmarked for lovers? Read Deborrah's article Valentine's Day and Selfish Men for more information.

Join us for an eye opening discussion on the hidden life of the down low man - the fella you love, that claims to love you, that you have a long-term relationship with and even children... but who has secret love affairs with other men. This is an important issue in modern dating, as more and more women are contracting HIV from men that enjoy having other men as lovers. Marie, co-author of the shocking book "The Straight Up Truth About The Down-Low" joins us for this captivatingly disturbing discussion. Marie says "ladies, you better wake up! These men are everywhere." Call 347-327-9215 to ask questions or share your own experience with dating men on the down low.

Having a problem with your relationship and need some advice? Ms. HeartBeat is available live to respond to your questions on love, dating, sex, family and romantic relationships on scheduled Friday nights.

Explanation of a "male identified" female and how she contributes to the promotion of patriarchial attitudes in both men and women. This episode provides a complete explanation of patriarchy and how it is used in religion, the legal system, society at large, and in our family structure to control females. Learn how male-identified women encourage female submission and codependency. Heated discussion of how female indoctrination into the patriarchial mindset makes women believe that being single is akin to going to the gas chamber! How patriarchial attitudes are harming females around the globe and why women must denounce every aspect of their socialization which accepts male dominance and superiority.

Having a problem with your relationship and need some advice? Ms. HeartBeat is available live to respond to your questions on love, dating, sex, family and romantic relationships every Friday night January 21 through February 25th, 2011. Forget wasting your time with that corny redneck Dr. Laura! Call in to 347-327-9215 and get some of the realist, most down to earth, most street smart advice on dating and relationships available with Ms. HeartBeat.

Emotional abuse is undoubtedly the most common and least recognized type of abuse. No one really talks about it because it isn't a crime and leaves no visible bruises. Not only that, most women don't recognize the attitudes, behaviors and language that wound them deeply and constitute emotional abuse. Sadly, many many Black men speak to Black women in ways that are designed to break their spirits and crush their sense of autonomy and power. Why? To gain the upper hand and control. Join us for this very important discussion and learn to recognize emotional abuse in your personal, familial and professional relationships.

What are the standards which make a man "cheap?" If a guy is overly frugal, is that a turnoff for women? How much money should a man realistically expect to spend on a first date? Second date? Third date? If he wants to prove that he can be a provider and should be considered a viable contender for your husband and the father to your future children? These and more questions will be addressed as we discuss dating a cheap man. We'll get started at 5:30 pm (Pacific)/ 8:30 pm (Eastern).

What is self esteem, and how are low and high self esteem demonstrated in life and love? How is it that some people have very high self esteem and others have little to none? How can self esteem be developed or increased? And how does having healthy self esteem guides us to make better choices in dating, love, relationships and life in general? We have two great guests for you tonight! Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a nationally known psychotherapist, author, tv and radio commentator. Rapini is also an intimacy and sex counselor, and a certified anger management therapist in Houston. Janine J. Sherman, RN MSN WHNP-BC, is a Women's Health Nurse Practitioner who specializes in the care of adolescent patients. She is a former faculty member at the School of Nursing at the University of Texas Health Science Center in Houston. They are the authors of Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever http://www.starttalkingbook.com)