The Confidence Podcast

  Podcast #458 Better Sleep, More Confidence     A better rested you is a better you. We all love sleep, but what if sleep is hard for you, or life circumstances are keeping you up at night, tossing and turning with anxiety and overthinking?  Your relationship with your thoughts at night is within your control, and this is good news for anyone who wants more hours or more restful sleep. A well slept you is more emotionally and mentally sharp, and will show up in your life with more confidence and courage.   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:   The relationship between sleep and confidence, and how to scale up both in your lifeWhy putting pressure on yourself to sleep better doesn't workHow to stop tossing and turning at night - 5 practical habits everyone should be doingWhat to say to yourself at night when you can't sleep and you're stressed about it   REMINDERS:   Ever just wish you could buy me a cup of coffee? Well, you can! That's what my Patreon page is for. You can support my free podcast work and help me cover the production costs of the show by being a $5/month Patreon. Just go to www.patreon.com/trishblackwell and I'll feel the love! Ever wish you could access all 458 episodes of the show, but can only see the most recent 300 in your podcast app? Good news for you! You can listen to the ALL on my website. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/podcasts   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   Such a game changer in my life! PowerBar08 I've been listening to this podcast for a few months now and it's made such an impact on my thought life and the way that I approach each day! I'm really working on my confidence and Trish is such a gifted communicator and incorporates God and her faith so well in each episode! I'm a young 22  year old and I’m growing so much by listening to your podcast every morning! Thank you for all you do!   THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SLEEP AND CONFIDENCE   A well rested you is a fully alive you. Starting the day on empty gives you a mental handicap. The better you feel, the more courageous you will be. Sleep helps us recover from mental and physical exertion. Sleep helps our emotional load stay at more even keel. Fatigue exaggerates emotional load.   WHY PUTTING PRESSURE ON YOURSELF TO SLEEP BETTER DOESN'T WORK   There are three things that can happen at night. SleepRestRestlessness Ideally, we would all want to always choose "sleep," but realistically, you sometimes can only choose your back up option. You get to pick two, and by picking two, you're eliminating one. You get more of what you focus on. If you are tossing and turning, and afraid of not getting a good nights sleep, you're focused on restlessness, and therefore you create a night of restlessness as a result.   5 HABITS TO PREVENT TOSSING & TURNING   Optimize your sleep hygiene (WLWB list for night?)Have a simple and specific nighttime routineTrigger your nighttime routine to startMake your bedroom inviting and screen freeEmpty your mind (journaling, prayer) My WLWB for nighttime rest: Small and extremely moderate alcohol intake, stop social media scrolling at 9PM, ice cold water before bed, kitchen clean, drinks ready for next day, schedule reviewed for next day, nighttime skin care routine,

  Podcast #457 How to Give Yourself Approval and Believe You're Good Enough Not feeling good "enough" and always needing the affirmation, approval or acceptance of others can severely limit your ability to tap into your fullest potential and greatest amount of joy in life. This coaching explores how to give yourself approval, believe you're enough and trust your own decisions, even if you've struggled in the past with being a people-pleaser or with thriving on words of affirmation or on someone else telling you what to do. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about: How to break over-attachment to other people's affirmations, approvals and opinions, even if you're a words-of-affirmation-love-language-personLearning how to give yourself approval, trust yourself and be your own voice of encouragement … how to know you're on the right path when the path isn't visible or laid out by someone elseA list of affirmations you can use to speak life into yourself - the ones that will help you believe you are good enough and that will help you trust your own voice, intuition and innate, God-given potential   REVIEW OF THE WEEK Awesome podcast - 5 stars Trish's calming voice, relatable storytelling and spot-on advice has been SO helpful for me. I just started a new job within my company and the confidence and stop caring what people think specific episodes have been really beneficial to me. I love that she has so many episodes that I can glance through and take what I need for the day. -SageSC   LET'S COACH! The path is unknown. Even if you think it's obvious for others, it never really is. The acceptance of the unknown is an acceptance of our humanity. It invites us into a life of faith, and confidence. It challenges us to think with belief and active mental management. We grow up in a very directional, progression-based environment. You complete first grade, you move to second grade. You advance your skill set in a sport, and you progress to the next level of mastery, training or competition. You graduate high school, and you move onto college. And in many ways, this structure is excellence. But in some ways, it handicaps our confidence in our own choices. You have a path unique to you. You get to learn how to trust the direction you choose to go. Whichever direction I take, it will be awesome.   OVER-ATTACHMENT TO PEOPLE'S AFFIRMATION I needed applause, affirmation - but this belief limited my full growth, my access to impenetrable peace and real freedom. It's okay to be a words-of-affirmation person, and feel loved by compliments and affirmation; we all need that to some extent … but, we also have power when we learn how to give it to ourselves. If you wait for others, then you'll get stuck in the performance/pressure cycle…or people-pleasing, and you'll get the affirmation you crave, but perhaps not for an area of life you want or care about. Overly relying on other people's validation or direction removes you from your own natural ability to trust your own judgment.   GIVING YOURSELF APPROVAL Yep, good job, me. Yes, that's a good decision. Yes, I've got this. Sure,

  Podcast #456 What to Do When There's No End in Sight Overwhelm, whether it's in your personal life or your professional life, can derail your confidence, drown you in self-doubt and leave you feeling flailing for hope and purpose. In this coaching, you'll learn what to do when there's no end in sight. You'll learn how to stay filled with faith, how to have peace in your confidence, and how to think the right thoughts that will fill you with power and perseverance. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about: Overwhelm, and what to do when you feel burdened by it.How to have hope when there feels like there's no end in sight.The belief thoughts and self-talk that will help you neutralize overwhelm   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Diving ProvidenceOnetwobree Inspired scripture tells us clearly that the one true God has predetermined every moment of suffering and joy we will ever have, but it's always incredible when you can step back and say "Ohhhh, I see why you did that there." It's funny to me how fast I found Trish once I took a tiny step towards growth. God really odes open the door when you knock. Trish tackles the real things that go through our heads in such an authentic way, but then she brings it back to Christ. It's rare and refreshing to find a coaching podcast that is more than what it seems. I'm so grateful for you, Trish! Can't wait to read your new book! -Quick announcement, opening up my waiting list, so if the Fall is the time of the year you are looking for change, go to www.trishblackwell.com/coaching   OVERWHELM & WHAT TO DO WHEN BURDENED BY IT Overwhelm is a feeling.It is a feeling we choose.It is brought on about our thoughts. I used to think "I'm overwhelmed, I just can't help it." Or, "I can't see an end in sight." But another point of consideration is: do you really need to see an end in sight to know that there's an end? Yes, I like knowing there's an end, but when my mind plays this game and needs proof, it's an invitation to expand my faith and my ability to callous and numb my mind to bounce back from the future moment and to stay in the present moment. Being overwhelmed feels like being flooded - it's an overload on the nervous system and brain by looking at things with a limited and small perspective, or from a place of exhaustion and hopelessness. Notice >>> It happens because we keep going without listening to ourselves (we aren't friends to ourselves … either not slowing down, not asking for help, or not creating better habits or boundaries) … and so we miss the signals that our body or our schedule has had enough. Types of 'no end in sight feelings' >>> financial seasons of struggle, sickness and never-ending bad news, weight loss or goals that take a long time, feeling stuck or in a dead end place in your life, anxiety and depression, email inbox or work projects, your parents expectations - or the expectations of the world for you to keep achieving… What you think on will multiple.Dwell on the bad news, and you'll feel the weight of it even more.Dwell on the hope within the bad, and you'll see pockets of peace and strength. A few mental techniques that might help: The Trampoline MethodBrain DumpToxic Thought ReframeSelf-Affirming Coaching Phrases (we'll get to those shortly)Being in a community for support (like the COC)   HOW TO HAVE HOPE WHEN THERE'S NO END IN SIGHT Everything does end.We know this.We can't see everything.Keep perspective.Fight for hope.When everything is going wrong, find adventure in looking for what is going right.Get curious about how and where overwhelm shows up in your life.I've been working on reframing overwhelm for the past 5 years in my own thoughts,

  Podcast #455 Still Caring Too Much, Even Though You "Know Better?''   You "know better" to care so much what other people think about you, but you're still feeling stuck in the people-pleasing, perfectionistic, desire-to-be-liked thought loop? This podcast episode is for you! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/455   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:   Exactly how to get out of the thought loop that is keeping you stuck7 critical things to remember to help you break this sloppy thought patternHow to find the place of mental power where "you can help it"   SPECIAL INVITE   Join us for the How to Stop Buffering WorkshopThursday, August 12Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/buffering   ANNOUNCEMENT   I'll keep the story short.I wanted to be a cool mom, so I hopped on my 4-year-old son's skateboard.Insert cartoon image of someone flailing while slipping on a banana peel.And voila.I have a broken foot.For someone who loves to run, and runs between 35-55 miles per week, not being able to walk without pain, let alone run, is an adjustment.But a good one.I love the challenge of it.I love that God is inviting me into rest.I love that it's going to be a mental challenge, and I'm not going to back down from it.Remember, it's the challenges in our lives that make us into the people we become.That setback?If you look at it the right way, it's a beautiful thing.It's just the right thing that you've need to give you growth in an area you wouldn't have gotten otherwise.And so, this month, I rest.Which is a-okay with me, because behind the scenes here, I'm having an amazing month, with my foot elevated on my desk as I work.My newest book, Straighten Your Crown releases soon.Have you pre-ordered your copy yet?Don't forget that, when you do, you'll get a free audiobook copy.And, if you preorder 3+ copies, it gets even better.Anyone who preorders 3+ copies will get an invite to my upcoming live VIP Workshop on WORTHINESS .You're not going to want to miss this.Just click here to preorder. >>> www.trishblackwell.com/preorder   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   NEVER disappointed on a Tuesday!!!-Ashmccoy1234 I have been listening to Trish for a few months now.  This time last year I was in a completely different head space. Trying to "get my life together" so my weeks were scattered with good habits and good intentioned but swamped with bad and destructive choices/habits. I was so in my head - I could not get out of my negative thoughts and feelings for the life of me. Trish has taught me it's not about the actions that go into "getting my life together" but the thought work behind the actions. One of my favorite lines taken from the show: "Your mind is your most valuable real estate and you decide what you build on it."  I didn't realize I actually had control of what comes in and what goes out until I started listening to Trish. When I actually started training my brain I realized she was right: it is ALL in your head, and thank God for that because I have the power! I am not a victim! God has without a doubt used her in the process of my mental healing (Also we are enneagram wing sisters, I'm a 4w4 and she's a 3w4 so that's cool). Thank you so much, Trish!   HOW TO GET OUT OF THE "CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK" THOUGHT LOOP   Techniques:Specify the exact thought loop and the exit ramp.Give people permission to think differently than you do.Assume the best.You can pick any thought, take power back.Go for a net positive result, instead of net negative.Since we don't know what people are thinking,

  Podcast #454 The Courage to Believe in Possibility Believing that change is possible in your life, or that you can actually create a life that you love takes emotional and mental courage. Too often we short sell ourselves, our potential and our impact in this world because we aren't daring to think big enough. This podcast episode will help you understand the deeper reasons why you are holding yourself back, and, more importantly, how to start thinking differently. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about: How to know what's possible for youHow to believe in what's actually possible and available to youHow to start seeing what you thought was impossible become possible If you truly believed you could have something in your life, you would go after it.   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: You are amazing Trish, thank you!!!Sophia71411 Your podcast has given me so much hope and guidance. The cards I was dealt as a child were rough, this caused me to go into a survival mode during the years that were supposed to form me into the person I am. With that being said now I am 22 and with the guidance of God and my loved ones I have reached so many goals. But when I look in the mirror I have no idea who I am, I've never asked myself what I want or who I truly am. You are forcing me to become real and raw with myself. I am so happy I have you to help guide me in this journey of finding myself, I look forward to listening to you every day and you are truly sunshine. Thank you x 1 million!!! ((( Wiggle hugs )))   HOW TO KNOW WHAT'S ACTUALLY POSSIBLE FOR YOU:   Anything is possible.The results in your life are a reflection of the thoughts in your brain.You can achieve anything that matters enough to you.Giving yourself permission to want something takes courage.One of the hardest  questions to answer is this:What is it that you really want?You know deep down, but telling others, or admitting that you really, really want it, takes courage.Courage takes guts.It's showing up and not knowing how the outcome will be, but being willing to show up anyways.We all have it within us, but it's your choice to light up the fire within. And when you do, life unleashes.Question to think about:What have you decided isn't possible that you really want?Is it actually impossible? Why or why not?   HOW TO BELIEVE THAT POSSIBILITY IS AVAILABLE TO YOU: Let's talk about the courage to believe in possibility.Why don't we do it? Fear of disappointmentUnwillingness to be embarrassedSelf-consciousness and fixed thinkingWe think it's supposed to be easySometimes we stop ourselves because we don't yet know our future selvesWe fear it might be too much to handle What is possible when we open up to have the courage to believe in possibility?Spend time curating and befriending your future self.-I'm conversational with my 20-minute future self-I'm respectful of and excited for my 20-year future selfEnvision, describe, aspire, and try on the role so that the future version of you is more than a fantasy and is someone you can trust.  You are trustworthy of the success ahead of you, even if you don't feel capable of handling it right now.   SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP Is there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling, but not know where to look or start?  BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. You get to connect in a safe and private online env...

  Podcast #453 Why You're Not Doing What You Want to Do Not doing what you say you want to do is one of the most frustrating patterns that is easy to fall into and will perpetuate low self-esteem and stagnancy. Be kind to yourself though! This isn't an issue of lacking discipline, laziness or not caring - it's a belief issue, and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast you'll learn exactly what you can do to break the cycle. It's time to be a person of absolute self-integrity who always keeps their promises to themselves. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: The 3 main reasons keeping you stuck and holding you back and resulting in your feeling like you're a person who doesn't do what you want to toHow to really decide and commit to doing what you say you want to do5 things you can do right now to start being someone who does what they say they're going to do   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Pixelover4487 Hiii - 5 stars I'm loving this podcast and I'm a guy. I struggle with anxiety and no confidence and I can't stop listening. Thank youuuuuuu.    WHY NOT DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IS TOXIC It breaks your integrity with yourself.It creates an atmosphere of self-doubt and hesitation.It imposes self-limitations that actually don't exist.It convinces you that things are harder to achieve than they actually are.It sabotages your confidence and courage.It discourages you and disappoints your self-concept.It invites you to play small and justifies a "I can't help it" victim mentality    JOIN OUR BOOK SQUAD  Want to help others feel worthy and loved? Ready to Help Awaken Self-Worth in Others?  Let's do this together. I need your help to awaken our sisters in this world to their self-worth, their purpose and the truth about just how much God loves them. STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN is a book that breathes confidence, worth and power into the heart of the reader, helping them rediscover their identity as a daughter of God. It is a book that has the power to change your life and your relationship with the God who delights in you. As part of the Book Squad you'll receive exclusive emails and promotional resources, and access to pre-released content. You'll also get tagged when we post a shareable quote or inspiration from the book, and we invite you to support and share the ones that inspire you.   Hit the link in my bio to join the squad or go to www.trishblackwell.com/booksquad YOU HAVEN'T REALLY DECIDED TO DO IT   Sure, you think you have.But deciding to do something means that you're committed completely - anticipating the challenges, the resistance, the times when you aren't going to feel like it.You haven't created a plan for the days when it sucks. You can commit to self-doubt, or you can commit to your goal – you can’t do both.The emotion of confusion is keeping you in doubt.    YOU DON'T REALLY BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT You're burdened and bogged down by the evidence of the past and you're misinterpreting it. Instead of seeing it as an example of how not to do it, or a way you have grown and learned doesn't work, you see it as a limitation and prediction of what is possible in the future. “It’s never worked out before” is the one thought that keeps us from our potential. It drags our past into our present unnecessarilyEverything in the future should be something you’ve never done in the pastIt's time to create and foster new belief.Belief creation comes from intentional thought creation.I have a course on this in the College of Confidence, but for now, here's what you need to know:

  Podcast #452 Confidence For Physical Intimacy   You're not alone in feeling insecure about how you engage and interact with others physically. But there's no reason to stay stuck in this avoidance of or minimization of physical intimacy. No matter your background with others or with yourself, you can learn how to safely and comfortably connect with yourself and others with confidence in a physical way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/452 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: ·       Physical intimacy blocks and how your lack of confidence might be hindering your overall confidence and connection with others ·       How to have more body confidence and self-intimacy so that your physical intimacy with others - both platonically and romantically improves ·       5 techniques to proactively improve your confidence in physical intimacy in your romantic relationship   REVIEW OF THE WEEK   Holly Sexton 5-Stars, Not only and… This is the podcast for you if you need help in ANYTHING! Not only is it faith-based, and for entrepreneurs, and for moms, and for anyone dealing with diet issues, Trish hits all topics! When I don't even think I need to listen to that episode, I still get something from it!    WHAT'S BLOCKING YOUR INTIMACY?.   Past sexual trauma or abuse Distrust of others Body dysmorphia  Identity misalignment  Preferences (lots of physical touch or not)  Blocked intimacy means that you might… Avoid dating because you don't want to have to be physical Sabotage relationships to hide yourself Body shame yourself and heighten your self-critical voice to create physical change Overdrink or use substances to help you not overthink Minimize social situations where hugs or interaction make you uncomfortable Stand with guarded and closed off body language  Hinder the openness and deep intimacy of allowing yourself to be known by your spouse Undereating or protocol to allow yourself to be worthy of receiving touch Never get self-care like massages or pedicures   PHYSICAL INTIMACY WITH YOURSELF   Stretching Hugging Touching Massaging Allowing yourself to have self-care Lotion Skin care routine Intimate understanding of food that feels good on the inside Intimate conversations with yourself Challenge:  Write your future self a love note at night for the next day.  Learn to be friends with yourself means learning to come from a place of love.  Love is the most powerful emotion we can be in; it opens up our creativity, our confidence and our connection. What you feel yourself with you have to continue using - fuel with love not self-criticism. Criticism and pressure is heavy and forced, love is light, airy, easy and exciting   PLATONIC AND FAMILIAL INTIMACY   Hugs, touch.

  Podcast #451 Black and White Thinking is Hurting Your Confidence   Black and white thinking, or all or nothing thinking, is a thought strategy often used by highly driven people that actually stunts progress, deteriorates happiness and limits potential. If you have ever described yourself as an "all or nothing" person or as a "black and white" thinker, this podcast coaching is for you. It will help you with the steps to take on how to get out of the black and white thinking loop and how to have more mental flexibility and self-kindness in the process. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/451 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: ·       How black/white and all-or-nothing thinking shows up in driven people and why we cling to it like a security blanket when it's really suffocating us ·       The process to disassociate this type of thinking from your identity ·       How to become a flexible, happy thinker   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   Confidence and Wisdom - 5 Stars I am forever thankful for Trish's passion, for helping me help myself by understanding that loving myself means taking care of the thoughts I create and pay attention to on a daily basis.  Trish, I love that you see emotional self-care and self-reflection as a daily practice, much like brushing our teeth. Part of my work is with inpatient Psychiatric patients dealing with sever depression, and oftentimes I hear myself quoting your "brushing teeth" analogy to help them understand that taking care of our mental health is something that should be practiced every day, like brushing teeth. Trish, thank you for helping me find the confidence I have been searching for year, I cannot wait for what the future holds. Sincerely, Cinthya Mena, PA-C (CinthyaMena)    BLACK & WHITE THINKING / ALL-OR-NOTHING IS FOR THE BIRDS   Chances are, if you're driven, you've tapped into extreme thinking. As a result, you get results in some ways, and then get addicted to the method that you thought got you the results. But, you got the results from clean thinking - not the flawed thinking of black and white.  I held onto black and white thinking for way too long because I misidentified where my results came from, and I didn't trust myself or my natural drive. Your thoughts are what create your results in life --- not your extreme control or categorization of things. Just because you have a natural inclination or preference to think this way doesn't mean that it's hard-wired into you. :)  My black and white thinking  -kept me stuck in my eating disorder longer  -slowed my business growth with narrow focus on the "how" of the right way versus the wrong way -put me into a place of judgment of others instead of love and grace -created an internal state of self-criticism and unrealistic, non-human expectations -drove me to a place of trying to prove myself and absolute exhaustion.    How is it hurting your confidence? -Keeping you limited in a one-dimensional type of thinking? -Making you obsess about doing things a certain way? -Having unreasonable standards for others? -Driving you to extremes; pendulum of intensity vs. passivity -Convincing you to not even start? -Addicting you to external affirmation / being the best? -Plunging you into scarcity thinking and comparison? -Creating a mental atmosphere of hyper-criticism and extremism    SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP

Bonus Podcast  How to Create Real Change In Your Life The second half of 2021 can be better than your first half. This podcast episode will help guarantee that you actually believe in yourself and achieve whatever you dare to dream is possible for yourself in the next 6 months. Join us July 12-16th, 2021 for CREATE CHANGE WEEK. Space is limited; this is the week that turn the rest of your year around completely. Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/createchange Today, we’re going to project how we want to feel, and move into our goals from a place of love and confidence, not pressure and drive. Whatever fuel you use is the fuel you’ll have to continue to use.  That might be why you ran out of gas halfway through the year. It’s hard to keep being so driven, so focused; it feels heavy, and important, and exhausting. What if it could be easier? Think for a minute about the wildest thing you can imagine achieving in the second half of the year. And now write it out and say “I’m doing __________________ with ease and excitement. You won’t run out of love to fuel your progress if you approach your goal with the confidence strategy I’ll be teaching July 12-July 16 in Create Change Week.  What is a Confidence Strategy? It’s a strategy of faith. Victory always comes from faith, from the belief and certainty (or confidence) in that which you cannot see.  For every child of God defeats this evil world and we achieve this victory through our faith. -1 John 5:4 Victory in all things comes from faith.    So, suspend all doubt with me for a minute. ·       What do you really want? ·       Why do you want it? ·       What has prevented you from reaching it? ·       What are you willing to do differently? When I am discouraged, and stuck in inflexible thinking, I have to force myself to remember that “nothing has gone wrong here.” The opposite is true, actually. Everything is going according to plan and I am gaining the information of what strategies aren’t effective so that I can find the ones that are. Most people don’t reach their goals because they don’t believe they can, and since they don’t believe they can, they give up too early.    It’s time to believe you can. It’s not just work that will take you where you want to go. It’s work PLUS belief. Without belief, hard work is just hard work. Sure, you’ll get some results, but not big ones. Big results come from big belief, paired with consistent, smart work. The Confidence Strategy I will be teaching July 12-July 16th will help.    Now, let’s play a game. It’s December 31, 2021. You’ve blown your own mind and achieved that thing. It’s amazing. You feel amazing. What exactly are you feeling? More importantly than that, what is the thought that you think when you find out you did it? -You checked your bank account, and you’ve doubled your income -You verified the total amount of debt paid off,

  Podcast #450 How to Stop Feeling Awful About Yourself Beating yourself up, or indulging in the emotion of feeling awful about yourself, when you're not where you want to be isn't effective. It's not a helpful thought pattern, and yet, we find ourselves in places of despair. Despair drives us to desperation, depression and disillusionment. It morphs our ability to see where we are, how well we are actually doing, and intimidates us on how far we have to yet go. This podcast episode covers how to break the cycle of self-criticism so that you can start feeling encouraged, hopeful and like you like who you are again. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/450 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: ·       Indulgent emotions, and how to know when you need to really take control of them (and how to do just that) ·       A 3-step, simple process to help you stop feeling awful about yourself, whatever the situation is ·       How to stop believing that you're stuck or will always feel this way … and some specific thought substitution examples for you to try on in your own brain   REVIEW OF THE WEEK Awesomeness - 5 stars Hooked oof of the first episode I heard on self-criticism! Felt like she knew me personally … and she's faith based!!!  (brenelso)    INDULGENT EMOTIONS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM Indulgent emotions are emotions that keep you stagnating in a place of self-pity and powerlessness.  For me, these emotions were  -self-hated -disappointment (most notably in myself) -disgust (most notably about my body) -hopelessness (most notably about my progress) -confusion Recognize that you are in power. You are choosing to indulge your toddler, dramatic brain. The more you indulge it, the more convincing, and a monster it becomes.  Put the toddler in the corner. Remember that you have a bigger perspective than the thought. Decide to not give into the dramatization or catastrophizing … and that all of the narratives you have created about what other people are thinking about you are just not happening.    HOW TO REALLY NOT BELIEVE YOU'RE STUCK I've been in places of awfulness. 1.     Body dysmorphia, insecurity and eating disorder. 2.     Financial rock bottom and hopelessness / powerlessness  3.     Hustle mindset and entrepreneurial comparison. Most importantly: stand firm against the pitiful thought … "I'm stuck".  How to Not Believe You're Stuck? Believe in the compound effect. Take your thought management seriously. Credit yourself for the new tools you have. Acknowledge your dissatisfaction with stagnancy. Remember you can create anything. Success leaves clues - keep yourself inspired.  Take your commitments and plans with yourself seriously - be of integrity.    SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP Is there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling,

  Podcast #448 Tips for Social Awkwardness to Help You Be Yourself   Everyone experiences social awkwardness; it's what you do when you're experiencing it that determines whether or not it will mess with your confidence and with how you come off to others. This podcast episode will coach you to a place of confidence for the next time you find yourself in a socially awkward situation, wishing that you could stick your foot in your mouth, or just generally wishing you were cooler when in social situations. You are not alone, and these tips and this confidence coaching will help. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/448   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about    . Social awkwardness, and how it manifests in your life·       10 instant ways to be less awkward·       How to be yourself when you're feeling the pressure of social overthinking  You don't need to beat yourself up about being socially awkward or keep wondering how to be less awkward, here are 10 instant ways that will help you feel more confident and cool in social settings. Social awkwardness is something everyone feels, whether you feel social insecurity, you find yourself overthinking conversations, you feel like you don't have any friends, you feel like you don't fit in, you think that no one really likes you, or you find yourself putting your foot in your mouth and saying the wrong thing all the time, these confidence tips will help you chill out and feel more okay. In this episode you'll learn how to create you own social confidence and you'll get coached on how to be patient learning how to create the social life you want.    THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:    "Confidence Boost and a God send," by laurabj1 I have been listening to your podcast for seven months now. I found you on Keep the Faith website. I saw your Detox Fear program. That helped me a lot and then I saw your podcast. Your podcast helped me with my confidence and is still helping me. It also helped me with my self esteem. I like that it's faith based too. I know God better in the last seven months, I know He is helping me still. Thanks for everything you do.    SOCIAL AWKWARDNESS: HOW IT MANIFEST IN YOUR LIFE   Simple social situations:Avoidance of themDisrupted social potentialNegative self-talk and insecurity (lack of belonging)Disengagement from confident body languageComes off as disinterested in others or RBFIntense feelings of anxiety of fear in social situationsIntimidation and fear of speaking to another personRambling conversations - unable to stop talkingOverdrinking or overeating or over-scrolling Obsessing over every word that comes out of your mouth Relationships and FriendshipsAvoidance of conflictLack of depthPerpetuation of people pleasingSocial overthinkingPeer pressure Obsessing over every conversation you haveFeeling like you are being judged during conversationsNot pursuing expressing yourself or your interestsLack of meaningful conversations with others   10 INSTANT WAYS TO BE LESS AWKWARD   1.     Stand with confidence.2.     Walk with confidence.3.     Make eye contact.4.     Own your space.5.     Say hello.6.     Start conversations and be interested in people.7.

  Podcast #447 Career Confidence: How to Have More of It, No Matter What Type of Work You Do   How you think about your work directly impacts the confidence with which you show up for it. The more career confidence you have, the more opportunities you will create. The reality is that most of us feel stuck, dissatisfied or overwhelmed with work and end up not showing up as our best selves. Your work takes of 1/3 of your life, the level of confidence you have in it has a profound effect on the confidence you carry into other areas of your life. This episode will boost your career confidence, whatever type of career you have. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/447   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:    ·       The reasons we struggle with confidence in the workplace ·       The key to career confidence, whether you work a 9-5, own a company, are a stay-at-home mom, or have your own online brand ·       10 ways you can appear to be the most confident people in your field   REVIEW OF THE WEEK   Djosephine - 5stars Trish speaks to my soul! In every podcast, she says something that resonates with me that I have to pause the show and reflect. I always walk away from her podcasts filled with positivity and encouragement. I highly recommend her podcast.     REASONS WE STRUGGLE WITH CONFIDENCE IN THE WORKPLACE   Traditional Careers: We wait to be discovered. We label environments "toxic" too quickly and don't manage our minds. We settle for less than what we want. We get pulled into complaint culture. We buy into the separation of departments and forget the value we bring. We don't commit to being the best employee in the building. We forget to ask for what we want. We play smaller than we need to. We care too much what people think. We second-guess our career choice and live in the past. We fantasize about other workplaces and companies. We don't ask for new opportunity or increased pay.  We think we can't be ourselves. We want the group to like us and we get distracted by things that don't matter.  We lose sight of the value of the work we do, even if in thankless or unnoticed tasks.  We allow self-pity to keep our attitudes from being excellent.  Entrepreneur Careers: We try to copy what everyone else is doing. We put too much attention in social media instead of email nurturing. We obsess over the product instead of mastering the offer. We personalize rejection and want success to be easy. We compare our step 10 with someone else's step 100. We measure our worth by our income and get too in the weeds of the numbers. We don't set our beliefs with focused intention. We aren't hyper-focused on creating change for our customers - it becomes too much about us. We get distracted by new courses, strategies and learning. We see the green grass of other methods and forget to water our own.

Podcast #446 How To Find Yourself and Your Confidence The need to find yourself, to figure yourself out, to learn to love yourself and how to figure out who you are is part of the journey of being a human committed to self-improvement and positive personal development. This video will teach you how to find yourself again when you feel lost, how to find yourself and redefine yourself after a relationship and how to become the person you want to be in the process. You'll learn 3 simple ways to rediscover who you are, how to know who you are, how to like yourself and how losing yourself will actually help you really find yourself.   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:  ·       How to rediscover who you are if you feel lost, uncertain or rock bottom ·       10 reflective questions to help you figure out who you really are ·       How to get an aerial view and understanding of where you are and where you want to go ·       3 strategies on how to start the process of finding yourself again   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Hi Ms. Blackwell - I connected to you on Instagram because I regularly listen to The Confidence Podcast on Google for post of the last year. I know you say at the beginning of each episode that it's made to help women, but your messages have been helping me immensely in my goal of being confident in myself and I thank you for being part of the journey.  A thousand thank you's for helping to create the roadmap in my journey to define the person that I want to become.  Michael   ASK CHALLENGE - 30 DAYS OF ASKING   The Art of Asking.  Buckle up for a month of coaching that will scale your confidence for sure! June is "Ask Month." Yep, together, we are going to master the art of asking. Because, remember, you don't get in life what you hope for, or even what you deserve, you get what you are confident enough to ask for.  This applies even in your own self-asking and self-reflection. How you ask yourself what you want from life will determine how you design your life and ultimately live it out. Asking is a powerful thing, but too many of us tip-toe around it. And we end up missing out on what is actually available to us. I'll be doing some spot coaching throughout the month on the "art of asking," and will be doing it in multiple contexts - relationships, financial, career, sales, and more. Get excited because the more you practice asking, the better you will be at it. Together, we're practicing 30-Days of Asking with our 30-Day Ask Challenge. Get involved at www.collegeofconfidence.com First: know this: you are not stuck where you are standing.  WHERE ARE YOU, HOW DID YOU GET HERE, WHERE DO YOU WANT TO GO?   I.         When did you lose yourself?  II.         Who's voice got you lost?  III.         What narrative have you used to keep yourself there?   10 Questions to Help You Figure Out Who You Are 1.     What do people often tell me about me? 2.     What things do I enjoy doing? 3.     What interests capture my curiosity?  4.     Who am I not? 5.     Who do I want to be? 6.

Podcast #445 Talking Back to Your "What If's" If you have ever worried about backsliding in life, things not working out or that the good things in your life are too good to be true, this podcast episode is for you. In it you'll learn the how to talk back to your "what if's" and how to stay positive about being able to design your life, trust God's goodness and look at life as an adventure to be explored.   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:   ·       What your "what if's" are really saying about your thoughts ·       How to reframe your negative and fearful "what if's" into positive and powerful ones ·       Intentional thought creation and belief curation and affirmation ·       How to trust what you've learned and how you have grown ·       Believing in the decisions you make and have made   ANNOUNCEMENT   The Art of Asking.  Buckle up for a month of coaching that will scale your confidence for sure! June is "Ask Month." Yep, together, we are going to master the art of asking. Because, remember, you don't get in life what you hope for, or even what you deserve, you get what you are confident enough to ask for.  This applies even in your own self-asking and self-reflection. How you ask yourself what you want from life will determine how you design your life and ultimately live it out. Asking is a powerful thing, but too many of us tip-toe around it. And we end up missing out on what is actually available to us. I'll be doing some spot coaching throughout the month on the "art of asking," and will be doing it in multiple contexts - relationships, financial, career, sales, and more. Get excited because the more you practice asking, the better you will be at it. Together, we're practicing 30-Days of Asking with our 30-Day Ask Challenge. Get involved at www.collegeofconfidence.com   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   Absolutely Love It - 5 Stars, by lizardexum Trish's podcast is the best addition to my day. I found myself falling in love with her podcasts after the first 5 minutes with her inviting attitude and love for Jesus. Since then I have binge listened to so many of her episodes. They bring me so much joy and have helped in my own struggles with confidence. I recommend this podcast to anyone looing for a dose of confidence or just something to brighten their day.    STEP ONE: Reframe the "what if" into what it really is > a direct, fearful thought.   1.     Turn the what if into a thought. 2.     Ask yourself if that thought serves you. 3.     Pick a new thought that you want to make serve you instead.  Let's play a game of "positive what if's." How does it work, you ask? For every negative "what if" is holding you back, I want you to pause, and write down the ultimate positive example of what COULD happen. I'm talking, best-case-scenario, most optimistic, intentional thought belief you can think. Most of the time our negative "what ifs" are costing us more than we possibly realize. It's time to break the pattern.  So tell me, how are you going to turn a negative "what if" into a positive one today?   Samples:  

  Podcast #444 Healing Your Confidence After Abuse or Trauma Healing your confidence after abuse or trauma is something not often talked about, but widely needed. If you have experienced abuse or trauma, and your confidence can be rebuilt. Reestablishing a new self-concept, healthy boundaries and new thoughts about yourself and about those you can or cannot trust in your life will take time, but will change your life for the better. This episode shares some effective tools that will help you in the process. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/444   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about: ·       How to reestablish confidence in yourself when you feel like a shell of a person·       What tools helped me find myself again and trust after abuse and trauma·       The key to creating joy and trust in your future relationships   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Thank you Trish - 5 stars, DaisieH I came across this podcast a couple months ago and I listen to about 5 a week now. I needed a good confidence boost so I searched "confidence" and am so grateful to have found your podcast. I newly struggle with breakouts and it's crazy because I can be confident in every part of me but when I experience a bad breakout, my confidence goes down in every aspect. You have helped me because now I do things like look in the mirror and smile, and focus on the thing I do like instead of the things I don’t. You have also helped me to renew my relationship with God which I desperately needed. Thank you for your encouraging words and I love your soothing voice. Also the ones where you talk to your daughter as so adorable and she's so lucky to have a mom with your words of wisdom. Thank you for what you do. Your book is on my books to read list. :)    THANK YOU: PATRONS Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   HEALING YOUR CONFIDENCE AFTER ABUSE OR TRAUMA IS POSSIBLE Listener topic request:  Would you be able to do an episode on your past abusive relationship and what you learned from how you healed and the joy you have in your relationship with Brandon now? (Rachel)  I've been a listener of The Confidence Podcast for about a year now, and you have no idea how much your words have positively impacted my self esteem. I always look forward to Tuesdays when I get to hear the radiant message you get to share with the world. As a graduate student, I easily let my self-worth depend on my work or school-related accomplishments, and your podcast has helped me realize that I am worthy because of WHO I am, regardless of WHAT I do. I am working on my self confidence every day, and building my sense of self piece by piece. Thank you for all that you do! You are such a light in my life.   TOOLS THAT REBUILT MY CONFIDENCE AFTER ABUSE o   The Nick and Joanie Experience (Take the challenge yourself - listen to episode #431: How to See Yourself Differently Than You Do) o   Victim vs. Victorious.  o   Coaching and Personal Development    TOOLS THE REBUILT MY CONFIDENCE AFTER TRAUMA  1.     Therapy. > Supportive space to bring the darkness into the light.  2.     Writing. > Prayers, Journals,