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  Podcast #519   DEALING WITH NEGATIVITY AND NEGATIVE PEOPLE EFFECTIVELY Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity. A negative mind will never give you a positive life. The less you respond to negativity, the more peaceful your life becomes. This episode will teach you how to distance yourself from negativity, how to create a positive mind (and a positive life), and how to stop reacting to negative people. This week we're coaching on how to overcome negativity: * Your negativity, others' negativity, and negative inputs in your life * Toxic friends and toxic family - what to do about them * Creating a more positive life for yourself "Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power." -- Shirley MacLaine  "There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative." -- W. Clement Stone "Negative people need drama like oxygen. Stay positive, it will take their breath away." -- Unknown "Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow." -- Helen Keller REVIEW OF THE WEEK:  Get your copy of Straighten Your Crown today. www.trishblackwell.com/crown YOUR NEGATIVITY Your thoughts. Criticism, complaining, comparison, coveting. Your actions. Inaction, procrastination, over-exaggerating a task, self-pity, avoidance (lack of belief or too much importance on doing something right) What to do? Notice when it happens. Resist judgment. Brain dump to find out the initial thought. Offer new thoughts to your brain to think. Ways to be More Positive: Journal daily Affirmations and intentional thought work Be generous Compliment others Be a helper Gratitude Journal Exercise Moments of margin Happiness pockets of peace Good music  NEGATIVE PEOPLE Toxic friends, toxic family, toxic coworkers * Limit your time around them to the extent that you can. * Increase your time around positive people. * Speak back to the negativity - shed light.  EPISODE SPONSOR: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/confidencepod and get on your way to being your best self. Sometimes I wish I just had an owner manual for life - and for parenting - but unfortunately, life doesn’t come with a user manual. So when it’s not working for you, it’s normal to feel stuck.

  Podcast #518   HOW TO HAVE MORE DISCIPLINE & BE MORE PRODUCTIVE Increased productivity and increased discipline mean that you make more progress on what matters, and have more free time as you do. Learn how to increase your self-discipline and personal productivity with these time-management hacks and mindset shifts; you'll see a change in how you approach your life management right away. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/518   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * How to shed your past bad habits * How to have more discipline (and why you don’t right now) * How to be more productive   ANNOUNCEMENT: Double Coaching Month!!! www.collegeofconfidence.com/join   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Trish is a magical human. She has a confidence level that is indescribable and her ability to effortlessly coach her audience is truly next level. Trish, thank you for your energy and all of the compassion you have for your following. You truly are living your dharma.  -Audra V    HOW TO SHED PAST BAD HABITS You're not undisciplined - you just have allowed the habit of being that way. Know that this is a choice. Be aware of your excuses and justifications. (ADHD, fatigue, etc.)  The undisciplined habit  -Optional -Procrastination -Lacking belief -Now focused instead of future-focused The good news - habits can be changed. They're only strong because you've repeated them a whole bunch. Are you willing to do the work to repeat them?    HOW TO HAVE MORE DISCIPLINE Stop relying on willpower (it's like strengthening your pinkie) Set up systems where things are easy Know why what you do matters  Separate yourself from "average" Create accountability - group accountability and accountability to your future-self Work on your internal belief Commit to the compound effect - the belief that your efforts of investment always pay off   HOW TO BE MORE PRODUCTIVE Know the benefit --- more done in less time. Know that you can be - and operate from the emotion of inspiration and excitement, not pressure, guilt, and shame Calendar your week. Allocate a time spot for everything - including rest and workouts and fun time. Brain dump all your tasks. Gamify things and reward yourself. Do what you do best and pay someone else to do the rest.  * ABC 123 Method.* DDD Method (

Podcast #517   PERMISSION FOR HAPPINESS     REVIEW OF THE WEEK: No matter where you are in your life and in your thinking, this podcast has so much to offer you. I've grown more in just a few weeks than I have grown from years of therapy. -Amber Lauren   PERMISSION FOR HAPPINESS Most people seek happiness when happiness is actually a choice. The Huffington Post republished an article from Collective Evolution entitled, “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying”  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. 3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish I had let myself be happier.   Know When You Feel Happiness * Pause * Lean in * Describe it * Notice how it feels in your body * Write it down * Know what things bring you joy Often, we have happy lives that we discount because we are too busy with the next thing and on getting through the day that we don't actually notice, feel or enjoy the happiness.   Happiness Thought Blockers This isn't going to last. I don't deserve this. Why should I have nice things - I should be more practical. It's not fair to be happy when others are struggling. Don't focus on happiness, it will attract tragedy.  I need to do this better / I need to be better. They're "ahead" of me. (Any comparison thought)    Why Aren't We Happy? We don't believe we can be. We aren't paying attention to our thoughts and unhappiness narrative. We are a dress-rehearsing tragedy. We are weighing ourselves down by not guarding our minds. We are allowing fear to direct us instead of faith. We aren't committed to the small habits and follow-through we promise ourselves and so we live constantly disappointed in ourselves and our lives - and unhappiness is a result of our own doing.  We aren't taking responsibility to choose happiness and thinking about things on purpose that will create happiness.   Permission Slip to Have: * Give yourself permission to have goals. Happiness comes from believing that what you do matters. Joy comes from the challenge of the process and the fulfillment we feel when we see progress. * Give yourself permission to be a life-long student. This takes the pressure off, releases you from perfectionism, and sparks joy. * Give yourself permission be enjoy the little things. This builds appreciation, satisfaction in life, and joie de vivre. This is not silly, it is not unimportant - it is wise. * Give yourself permission to trust God. His goodness will not run out, and He created you with the capacity to be happ...

Podcast #516   BEING DIFFERENT AND DEALING WITH LONELINESS   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about: Being confident while being different - and correcting your mind to stay in your life and to live your own life well. Dealing with loneliness creates hope and purpose when you feel down.   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: A light in my day!  M.gabrielle1924 I was introduced to your podcast through a friend, and over time it has helped me to catch and adjust the thoughts and beliefs that aren't serving me. When I'm having a hard day, and feeling down, your podcast is my go-to, the episodes help provide an avenue for me to reframe my circumstances. Thank you, Trish!    BEING DIFFERENT Maybe you feel like the black sheep in your family, maybe you feel like the only one with faith or certain opinions, or maybe you just feel like you're not cool enough or that you don't fit in. Accept that this is normal. Ask yourself if you want a normal life - or a different life. Question if anyone is really "normal" Make your difference your superpower.  * Appreciate Your Uniqueness* Take Pride in Being Different* Get Curious About How Your Difference Serves You and the World* Surround Yourself with Other People Who Are Different* Explore Your Passions* Focus on Individual Friendships* Understand that Your Brain is Creating Stories* Take Some Initiative* Have faith (intentionally reset this and choose this) to believe that you have purpose   DEALING WITH LONELINESS Pay attention to your thoughts - your thoughts are creating your loneliness. Be careful not to over-personalize loneliness - that you're the only one. This is a human emotion and part of the human experience.  An estimated 703,000 people a year take their life around the world. For every suicide, there are likely 20 other people making a suicide attempt and many more have serious thoughts of suicide Be on to yourself - know your loneliness thought patterns. * Identify why you feel lonely* Journal your thoughts and feelings* Learn how feeling your feelings* Pray * Change your atmosphere* Reach out to someone * Do something to help someone else   CREATING HOPE AND PURPOSE WHEN YOU'RE FEELING DOWN Your mess can become your message. What was meant to harm you, God can use for your good. Billions of people need hope - will you be light? Create Hope: Envision a future you want Allow yourself to dream Take action to create change in things that you have control over Mindfully attack and eliminate self-pity Create Purpose: Do good in the world. Use your voice in a way that matters. Cultivate something beautiful in your life. Activate your creative or curious brain (read, explore)   GET ACCESS TO DELIBERATE DAILY DESIGN It's time to get more done. Learn how to: Do more in less time

Podcast #515   MINDSET HABITS FOR CONFIDENCE Our habits help us live our days well; and when we can learn how to live one day well, we are capable of living a week well. Knowing how to live a good week gives you the power to know how to live a good life … and it all starts with your habits. The most important habits are your mindset habits. This episode will teach you the top mindset habits of highly successful and supremely happy people.   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * How when you can create a good week, you can create a good life* Must-do mindset habits to increase your success* The secret to staying committed and consistent    ANNOUNCEMENT: I have an open 1;1 spot. 6-months to a massive change in your life. Put in an application to work with me at: www.trishblackwell.com/coaching   REVIEW OF THE WEEK I love how Trish gets vulnerable and shares her personal experiences, so you know she's right there with us, practicing what she preaches. Can't recommend this podcast enough! Thank you! -Lalalaryssa   A GOOD WEEK = A GOOD LIFE Why do mindset habits and life habits matter? Because they are our tools of creation. We come alive when we create. Creation gives us perceived control; it's fulfilling. If you can create a good day, you can create a good week, and if you can create a good week, you can create a good year, and if you can create a good year, you can create a good life.   MINDSET HABITS * Journal Daily.* Parent Your Thoughts. (Have internal standards on your self-talk)* Take Captive Your Thoughts. (Identify unhelpful ones, question and reframe)* Gratitude Practice.* Mark Your Wins.* Work Your Belief on Purpose.* Intentional Quiet / Intentional Boredom.* Monitor Inputs.* Prayer and Spiritual Nutrition.* Affirmations. For resources on affirmation work, I have two freebies for you: FREE AFFIRMATION BOOK: www.trishblackwell.com/ebook FREE AFFIRMATION WORKSHOP: www.trishblackwell.com/affirmations   THE SECRET TO STAYING COMMITTED AND CONSISTENT * Decide on purpose, not haphazardly* Understand the compound effect on your life * Remind yourself daily of what you are doing and why* Identify as a person who is committed* Understand that you always reap what you sow * DDD - Deliberate Daily Design* Be onto yourself and your own excuses* -the brain will always be trying to convince you quietly quiet or micro-quit* Know which thoughts are keeping you stuck   TODAY'S SPONSOR: BETTERHELP Get 10% off your first month of therapy at: www.betterhelp.com/confidencepod   RESOURCES MENTIONED: Find my journal resources: www.trishblackwell.

If you struggle with anxiety, this episode is a must-listen. Anxiety can feel like an unpredictable and powerful monster in your life, especially if you ever find yourself waking up feeling attacked by it before you even get out of bed. This episode will give you practical and easily applicable steps to victory over your morning anxiety in a way you've never heard before. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/514

Procrastination and putting things off creates a reactive, delayed life. No matter how deep your default patterns of procrastination or avoidance are, you can learn a new way to think and approach the things in your life that matter most to you. This episode will teach you the core tenants of how to stop procrastinating and settlings for average. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/513

Trusting yourself to make good decisions, and trusting your ability to show up big in your life in your own personal follow-through changes everything. If you've ever struggled with indecision, overthinking or lack of self-trust, this episode is for you.  This episode will teach you how to practice self-trust, how to not belabor or second-guess yourself, and how to get out of the spiral of overthinking. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/512

The more confidence you have, the more potential for money - the ability to earn money, the ability to manage money, and the ability to have money - that you will have. Whatever your money story in your past has been, there's no better time than now to decide how you want to make money work for you and to be more fun and lighthearted in your life. This episode will help you have more confidence in your money habits, more confidence in your money beliefs, and more tools to overcome any negative money mindset that is keeping you from financial freedom and abundance. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/511

The inner self-critical voice has the power to keep you from your fullest potential and from your ability to experience pure happiness in your journey. When you learn how to pursue progression, and not perfection, the self-critical voice starts to lose it's power, but you still need to learn how to get rid of the bully for good. This podcast will teach you exactly how to talk back to your negative, self-critical thoughts so that they don't hold you back any longer. ________________ Get more info on the INCREASE MASTERMIND at: www.trishblackwell.com/increase Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/510

You want to love your life, but you have things in your life right now that are less than ideal, and don't have a prospect of changing soon. Maybe you don't love your job, or maybe where you live, or maybe you find yourself in a season of challenge. This episode will teach you how to find happiness where you're at, even if where you're at isn't where you want to be. Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/509

Life can feel massively unfair, and like everything is working against you. If you've found yourself ever feeling like nothing is working, or like things are happening for everyone but you, then this episode is for you. Learn how to reframe unfairness and stay confident when you feel discouraged or are losing faith. You'll also get the top 10 new thoughts you can practice thinking that will help you curate belief for when you feel down or discouraged. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/508

  Bonus Episode: Stress, Overthinking, and Anxiety Reduction Stress, overthinking and anxiety can weigh you down. There's a simple 5-step proven process that I want to share with you that will alleviate and reduce these heavy emotions in your life, no matter how chaotic your schedule feels right now. Sign up for the Stress Less Challenge Week, starting Monday, August 15th through Friday, August 19th now at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless Stress blocks happiness.  It limits belief.  It creates fertile soil for fear. And that's why I’m inviting you to learn how to radically reduce the stress you feel - even if your circumstances in life right now don't immediately change. The stress you feel is directly related to the thoughts you think, which means that we have more control over our stress levels than we think we do. If you want to decrease your stress as we get ready for a new season of the year, you've got to take part in the STRESS LESS CHALLENGE, happening August 15th - August 19th. Sign up today at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless or hit the link in my bio. Got questions about the challenge? Comment below or DM me and I'd be happy to reply! Already a member of the College of Confidence? You're already registered for the challenge as it's included in your COC membership.  Reduce your stress reactions, and increase your power to achieve and create in your life. Day 1: Understanding the Thoughts Behind Your Stress Day 2: Talking Back to Your Stress Effectively Day 3: Reducing Your Stress Load with Strategic Habits Day 4:Increasing Your Self-Concept to Decrease Stress | Becoming Someone Who Doesn't Stress Day 5: Replacing Stress with Happiness and Flow (and therefore more success) Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless

Everyone wants to be happy, but not everyone knows how to be happy, and how accessible happiness is to anyone, no matter your circumstances. People are sadder and sicker than ever before, but it doesn't have to be that way for you. Learn some easy, free and simple methods that you can apply to your life right now that will increase your happiness and make your life feel more vibrant, fulfilling and happy. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/507

Rejection can derail even the most confident person if you mismanage what you make rejection mean about you. Learn how to reframe rejection and the awkwardness that can be felt when you don't feel like you fit in. This podcast episode will teach you why rection can be a good thing for massive growth and increased happiness in your life - and will teach you how to see rejection through a confident perspective. ________________ Take what you learn on the podcast deeper, and really experience massive life change by joining me RISK-FREE in the COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com Get my FREE EBOOK of faith-based affirmations, an instant download, my gift to you. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/ebook To learn how to stop caring what people think, take my FREE INSTANT ACCESS MASTERCLASS. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring Order my customized journals from Amazon at www.trishblackwell.com/journals Get a copy of my newest book, STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN. You can get the audiobook, Kindle or paperback version at Amazon by going to www.trishblackwell.com/crown Want to get on my waiting list for my next 1:1 coaching spot? Fill out an application at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching For more notes from this episode, go to www.trishblackwell.com/506