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This time a year, we hear a lot of stories about sending letters to Santa. But on this episode Matt reads a letter he received, this week, from the North Pole. Now as far as we know, Santa doesn’t listen to Pornfree Radio. But someone does and we have the proof. Your Porn Free Playbook-2016 (link) Join our new course and 2016 can be the year you go 100% porn free. I want to help. I want to work with you, because having another person walk through this with you is the only way to ditch this addiction. Finally, A Practical, Actionable Process for Quitting Porn * Build a rock solid plan that is custom to you * Find the missing pieces that keep you from freedom * Identify hidden triggers and roadblocks * Celebrate your successes (there will be success) * Discover the confidence and contentment that comes in recovery * Integrate freedom habits that add fun and fulfillment to your life Learn More   Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.

Fresh off the American holiday of Thanksgiving, where over indulgence is common, and Black Friday, America’s shopping spectacle, Matt digs into one of the best letters he has ever gotten on PFR. This show references some past episodes: * 012 Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad? * 019 My Wife Caught Me Looking At Porn. Now What?!?! * 053 How Do I Know If I’m Getting Better? Resources: Netflix with boundaries? On-demand without the junk? Watch movies your way with VidAngel (affiliate link.).  Select the content you don’t want to see and VidAngel’s smart streaming service removes it while you watch. No more surprises! Your Porn Free Playbook-2016 (link) Join our new course and 2016 can be the year you go 100% porn free. I want to help. I want to work with you, because having another person walk through this with you is the only way to ditch this addiction. Finally, A Practical, Actionable Process for Quitting Porn * Build a rock solid plan that is custom to you * Find the missing pieces that keep you from freedom * Identify hidden triggers and roadblocks * Celebrate your successes (there will be success) * Discover the confidence and contentment that comes in recovery * Integrate freedom habits that add fun and fulfillment to your life Learn More   Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.

In this episode, we talk about  The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People. We hosted a webinar a few weeks back on the same subject and over 60 guys jumped on to watch. But many of you couldn’t make it. If you have struggled going 100% porn free this past year it may be that you’re just missing a 1 or 2 key habits. So today I reveal the 5 essential habits of porn free people who go 30, 60, 365+ days without porn. In this episode: * You’ll learn each of the 5 Essential Habits * What to do if you’re weak in an essential habit * The secret to making goals happen * Why no one accidentally goes porn free Resources: Netflix with boundaries? On-demand without the junk? Watch movies your way with VidAngel (affiliate link.).  Select the content you don’t want to see and VidAngel’s smart streaming service removes it while you watch. No more surprises! Your Porn Free Playbook-2016 (link) Join our new course and 2016 can be the year you go 100% porn free. I want to help. I want to work with you, because having another person walk through this with you is the only way to ditch this addiction. Finally, A Practical, Actionable Process for Quitting Porn * Build a rock solid plan that is custom to you * Find the missing pieces that keep you from freedom * Identify hidden triggers and roadblocks * Celebrate your successes (there will be success) * Discover the confidence and contentment that comes in recovery * Integrate freedom habits that add fun and fulfillment to your life Learn More Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.

If everything I do is preventative, setting up filters, rules, boundaries,etc. — how do I know if I’m recovering? Am I really getting better? What are proactive things can I do speed up my recovery? Resources: Trust in the Slow Work of God Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, S.J. (1881-1955) Above all, trust in the slow work of God. We are quite naturally impatient in everything to reach the end without delay. We should like to skip the intermediate stages. We are impatient of being on the way to something unknown, something new. Yet it is the law of all progress that is made by passing through some stages of instability and that may take a very long time. And so I think it is with you. Your ideas mature gradually. Let them grow. Let them shape themselves without undue haste. Do not try to force them on as though you could be today what time, that is to say, grace and circumstances acting on your own good will, will make you tomorrow. Only God could say what this new Spirit gradually forming in you will be. Give our Lord the benefit of believing that his hand is leading you, and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete. Above all, trust in the slow work of God— our loving vine-dresser. Amen.   Register for our Webinar 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST. Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.  

Smartphones are the #1 threat to being porn free today. They are up to a 100x more powerful than computers we used a few years ago and sit on our nightstand. But smartphones are not the problem, it’s our relationship with them. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why abstinence at first is one of the only ways to curb your smartphones habits * Why changing your relationship with your smartphone is crucial to getting free * The three goals you need to set for yourself with your smartphone * What Matt’s personal smartphone look likes * About accountability software and what to look for in a partner Software Resources: * Covenant Eyes * Accountable2U Register for our Webinar 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST. Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.

Slips. Close calls. Edging. How do we define those little behaviors that are related to our old porn rituals? Matt tackles the age old recover problem: Did we have a slip or did we relapse?     Register for our Webinar 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST.   Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.

The real scandal behind the Ashley Madison hack didn’t make headlines, but it has real implications for guys who want to go porn free. I’ll share what we can learn from Ashley Madison and what it has in common with sites like Google,YouTube, and Facebook. Gizmodo Series by Annalee Newitz: * The Fembots of Ashley Madison [Updated] * Ashley Madison Code Shows More Women, and More Bots * How Ashley Madison Hid Its Fembot Con From Users and Investigators The Ashley Madison con may have played on some of our most ancient desires, but it also gives us a window on what’s to come. What you see on social media isn’t always what it seems. Your friends may be bots, and you could be sharing your most intimate fantasies with hundreds of lines of PHP code. – Annalee Newitz, Gizmodo Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out.

This summer my mailbox has been full. In this episode, I’ll be answering questions from listeners. You can always email at matt@pornfreeradio.com. I am the only one who checks that email box. Please include your first name. If there is anything you need to keep private please give me the heads up. Questions discussed in this episode: * Why did I Binge after 30 days of success? * How do you build more trust in your relationship with your wife? * What advice do you have for partners on the other side of porn addiction? * How do I not get conceded in my recovery, letting down my guard because I figured it out? Resources: Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it.

Have you ever gotten home and realized you were alone with unaccountable time? And your next thought was, “Yippe I can look at porn.” Or have you ever had 10 minutes of free time on your smart phone and thought no one will know if I do a quick search? Well you have experienced “Home Alone Syndrome.” It’s that all too common trap we get in when we are alone and feel like nobody is watching. It can short circuit weeks of strong sobriety in minutes. In this episode you’ll learn: * About one of our most dangerous threats to being porn free * 3 lies that drive “Home Alone Syndrome” * 3 ways to counteract this pattern Resources: Break Glass In Case of Emergency 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Cheap enough to buy now without regret. Costly enough to make sure you use it later. Remember this is not a document that you read once and forget about it. It’s made to use in the MOMENT, when you’re on the EDGE, to jolt you back to safety. Use it wisely and it could save your butt today. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it

This is part 2 of 2 episodes with Craig Perra from the Mindful Habit . In this episode, Craig continues to share the emotional experience he had shooting the reality TV show, Living With the Enemy, where he lived with a porn star for 8 days. In this episode, we talk about the show’s climactic scene where Craig takes Emily back to the scene of his darkest moment. Resources: Amazon Prime Video Living With the Enemy  Naked or Afraid A life coach for porn addicts and adult film actress go toe to toe in an intense eight-day battle debating the impact pornography has on society. The Mindful Habit The Mindful Habit Program to End Porn and Sex Addiction is Craig’s online program. It’s a system that once you learn, you can use for the rest of your life in your recovery. It includes videos, guides/exercises, weekly support calls, a member forum, and a 1-on-1 session with Craig. Use my affiliate link to sign up. I am affiliate for The Mindful Habit. The links on my site to The Mindful Habit are affiliate links. Meaning if you sign up, I will earn a modest commission at no additional cost to you. Break Glass In Case of Emergency 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Cheap enough to buy now without regret. Costly enough to make sure you use it later. Remember this is not a document that you read once and forget about it. It’s made to use in the MOMENT, when you’re on the EDGE, to jolt you back to safety. Use it wisely and it could save your butt today. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it

In early 2015, Craig Perra, life coach from the Mindful Habit, lived with porn star, Emily Nicholson, for 8 days. They were on the Lifetime reality series, Living With the Enemy. This is part 1 of 2 episodes with Craig where we get his take on the show and how it affected him. In this episode we talk about Craig’s experience being on set at a porn shoot. Resources: Amazon Prime Video Living With the Enemy  Naked or Afraid A life coach for porn addicts and adult film actress go toe to toe in an intense eight-day battle debating the impact pornography has on society. The Mindful Habit The Mindful Habit Program to End Porn and Sex Addiction is Craig’s online program. It’s a system that once you learn, you can use for the rest of your life in your recovery. It includes videos, guides/exercises, weekly support calls, a member forum, and a 1-on-1 session with Craig. Use my affiliate link to sign up. I am affiliate for The Mindful Habit. The links on my site to The Mindful Habit are affiliate links. Meaning if you sign up, I will earn a modest commission at no additional cost to you. Break Glass In Case of Emergency 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Cheap enough to buy now without regret. Costly enough to make sure you use it later. Remember this is not a document that you read once and forget about it. It’s made to use in the MOMENT, when you’re on the EDGE, to jolt you back to safety. Use it wisely and it could save your butt today. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it.

The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment.  It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape. Think about like this: there is an escape pod between desire and action. Our job is first to be aware of temptation and then to hit escape button in the moment it comes. No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. – (1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV) In this episode you’ll learn: * Why it’s important to know temptation is common * About our ability to deal with temptation * There is always a way of escape * The 4 types of escape “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory, and Other Addresses Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Break Glass In Case of Emergency 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Cheap enough to buy now without regret. Costly enough to make sure you use it later. Remember this is not a document that you read once and forget about it. It’s made to use in the MOMENT, when you’re on the EDGE, to jolt you back to safety. Use it wisely and it could save your butt today. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. (function() { var _fbq = window._fbq || (window._fbq = []); if (!_fbq.loaded) { var fbds = document.createElement('script'); fbds.async = true; fbds.src = '//connect.facebook.net/en_US/fbds.js'; var s = document.getElementsByTagName('script')[0]; s.parentNode.insertBefore(fbds, s); _fbq.loaded = true; } })(); window._fbq = window._fbq || []; window._fbq.push(['track', '6029448780006', {'value':'0.01','currency':'USD'}]);

Our first of two episodes, on temptation, is all about your desire. Before you learn how to deal with temptation, you have to first define what it really means. Then you have to see the temptation cycle and how your desire drives it. In this episode you’ll learn: * Why the popular definition of temptation is wrong * Why the milk did not “spill itself” * What your desire has to do with temptation * What the “Temptation Cycle” is * Why we need to take responsibility for our desires * How awareness helps us find the way out But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death. (James 1:14-15) Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting this month. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Break Glass In Case of Emergency 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Cheap enough to buy now without regret. Costly enough to make sure you use it later. Remember this is not a document that you read once and forget about it. It’s made to use in the MOMENT, when you’re on the EDGE, to jolt you back to safety. Use it wisely and it could save your butt today. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it.  

The phrase “porn addiction side effects” is searched in Google over 60, 000 times a month. In attempt to self-diagnose anything from Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction, depression, intrusive thoughts, dopamine headaches, fetishes or escalating behaviors, guys are looking for answers.  In this episode, we look at the porn addiction side effects that are common to all of us who struggle. In this episode you’ll learn: * 3 Common Porn Addiction Side Effects * Why there is hope for recovery Offers: Covenant Eyes: Get 2 Months Free if You Sign up by 8/31 Covenant Eyes is a filtering and accountability software, multi platform, multi device filter and tracker. There is a family price even to protect your whole family. Decrease the hesitation. If you have listened to this show for any length and have had a reset you NEED a filter. To get 2 months free use my affliate link at http://recoveredman.com/EYES. Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings starting in September. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and I’ll set up a free 15-min call to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it.

Our final installment in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on your plan. “Fail to plan. Plan to fail.”, is a true statement. Without a plan in place you continue to get triggered, go to unsafe places, and relapse. Again and again. At the end of this episode you will have the tools to build a simple plan that you can improve on as time goes on. See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom and 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend to listen from the beginning. In this episode you’ll learn: * The 3 Steps To Build a Plan The  T–UP Exercise (courtesy of my friend John) * Take a piece of paper length wise. * With a pen divide into three columns. * Label them T – U – P T is for Triggers List all possible trip wires that can lead to porn. Examples: * Emotion * Being Alone * Visual trigger * Family * Cable TV * Drinking Alcohol * Stress * Late Night U is for Unsafe Places List all unsafe places. These are places or things you cannot do. Here is the definition: If I do this activity, _________, I will look at porn.These things lead to porn 99% of the time. Possible Unsafe Place: * Unfiltered Internet * Strip Clubs * Surfing Video sites * Smartphone in bed * A 7/11 that sells porn * A HBO Show * A park where people have anonymous sex * A browser on your smartphone P is for Plan(or planning.) The planning step looks at triggers and unsafe places and defines actions. The key is they are specific, accountable, and measurable. If this happens __________ (insert trigger) I will do this ___________. Examples: * If I have stress at work today, when I get home I will exercise first thing and avoid the computer.  * If my mom gets under my skin during my Thanksgiving holiday, I will go for a walk for an hour. * If it’s after 10 PM at night, I will not go on the internet.   Sprint Coaching for Porn Addiction Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I started offering sprint coaching packages in June. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com and we’ll set up a free 15-min call to see if sprint coaching is right for you. Resources: Covenant Eyes is a filtering and accountability software, multi platform, multi device filter and tracker. There is a family price even to protect your whole family. Decrease the hesitation. If you have listened to this show for any length and have had a reset you NEED a filter. To get a month free use my link at http://recoveredman.com/EYES. BONUS: C.S. Lewis on Masturbation “For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back; sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. “And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman.