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Summary: RecoveredMan.com presents Pornfree Radio with Matt Dobschuetz. This is THE podcast for motivated guys, who want to quit looking at porn, get hope and take action. Whether you have been at this a long time or just hit rock bottom, this podcast is for you. Matt Dobschuetz shares how his journey to being porn free started with the humiliation of being caught by his wife downloading pornography in 2001. What came out of that lowest point was a new desire to get free and a passion for helping others. Matt has practical advice and a plan for getting out of porn addiction. He gets it. He been there and made mistakes but now lives 100% porn free. Getting a system that works and is repeatable is the cornerstone of Pornfree Radio. Every time you fail you have an opportunity to learn what works for you and make the necessary changes to your plan. Whether your goal is improving your marriage, your career/business, or just making you a better dad- getting rid of the porn will free you to make it happen. Get hope and take action!

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 026 Shame and Porn Addiction | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 16:26

Your problem might not be porn, it might be shame. Shame keeps us isolated and in the dark. In this environment, porn addiction grows like mold on forgotten left overs in the back of the fridge. In this episode you’ll learn: * A simple definition for shame * Why it has little to do with religion or beliefs * How it perpetuates porn addiction * Why it keeps us isolated * What the antidote is for shame Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 026 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 025 The Pornification of Culture: Surprising Advocates | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 27:01

In this episode, Matt shares some surprising advocates in the mainstream with strong opinions about the harm of porn in today’s culture. Resources: * WTF with Marc Maron Episode 547 – Dr. Drew Pinsky (Podcast) * Highly Evolved Human   Bonus Content: The Bus – Written and produced by Nick P Ross Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 025 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 024 Creativity and Recovery with Ben Fraser, Creator of Brick House | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 47:10

In this episode, we discuss the relationship between creativity and recovery with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares about his own journey out of porn addiction and how he turned his struggle into a web series that features comedy, music, dancing, and puppets. Resources: * Brick House | the web series * No-Porn Forum * Reddit NoFap * Adblock Plus (Chrome Plugin to Block Unwanted Ads)   Brick House – Episode 1 – The Question Brick House – Episode 2 – The Voice  Brick House – Episode 3  – The Support Group Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 024 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 023 Our Greatest Trap in Life | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 31:01

Our greatest trap in life comes from a quote by Henri Nouwen. Hint: it’s not porn or lust. This trap can undermine the recovery work you are doing and actually perpetuate your porn addiction. In this episode you’ll learn: * What the human heart’s greatest need is * What Fr. Henri Nouwen calls our greatest trap * How this trap undermines our recovery and perpetuates our addictive behavior * Why Nouwen’s Book Life of the Beloved is meaningful for those who want to live pornfree Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 023 (PDF) Leave a comment below or email me directly- matt(at)pornfreeradio.com. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!  

 022 The Biggest Warning Sign of a Relapse | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 19:03

There is one thing that precedes every relapse with porn. It’s not a powerful trigger, a stressful day at work, free porn on your hotel TV, or a web link sent from a coworker. It’s an internal action we CHOOSE. In this episode you’ll learn: * About the choice you always make before acting out * How this action undermines active recovery * How you will never be free from porn if you don’t interrupt this pattern Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 022 (PDF) Leave a comment below or email me directly- matt(at)pornfreeradio.com. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!  

 021 Feedback: Forgiveness, Nostalgia, and Voyeurism | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 33:28

This week we respond to Pornfree Radio listener feedback from Episode 19 and Episode 20. I am traveling today and recorded this episode on my iPhone with a microphone. Let me know what you think about the audio quality. In this episode you’ll learn: * What the “full pardon” metaphor in Episode 19 means * What role forgiveness plays in our recovery * How nostalgia may be a driver in the celebrity triggers discussed in Episode 20 * Why the child part of us may be the reason we respond to fetishes like voyeurism “I have found all your topics helpful I wasn’t aware of how much smutty tv, news, social media I had let into my life. I have cut everything out but FB… I’m in a 12 step group now and I no longer go to work hating myself for what I did the night before.” – Pornfree Radio Listener from Facebook Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 021 (PDF) Leave a comment below or email me directly- matt(at)pornfreeradio.com. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!  

 020 Celebrity Nudes: How To Avoid Powerful Triggers | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 37:46

This show is ripped from recent headlines. The internet almost shut down a few weeks back when hackers released nude photos of a group of famous celebrities. This got me to thinking about our response as people committed to being pornfree. First, how should we think of this. Second, how can we avoid these powerful triggers. In this episode you’ll learn: * What we’re AFTER on Pornfree Radio * Why someone might listen again from the beginning * How Matt had a red-carpet relapse many years ago * Why God’s image is important when we think about other people’s bodies * Why objectifying celebrity nudes is like shoplifting * How viewing these images are violations and show a lack of empathy * 5 ways to avoid the powerful trigger of celebrity nudity * Which social media site I gave an ‘A’ to and which sites failed his porn trigger risk assessment * What action you can take if you had celebrity-triggered relapse Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 020 (PDF) Leave a comment below or email me directly- matt(at)pornfreeradio.com. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!  

 019 My Wife Caught Me Looking At Porn. Now What?!?! | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 19:07

After being caught with porn, or after a relapse, how you talk to your wife about it could be the difference in saving your relationship and losing it. In this episode you’ll learn: * Why we need to be ruthlessly honest with our wife * Why a full and accurate confession is necessary * What your job is when answering her questions * 4 Important things to NOT do under any circumstances when coming clean with your wife * Why being concrete and concise actually builds trust Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 019 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 018 Pornfree and Single | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 23:59

If you’re single does it matter if you keep pornfree? In this episode, Matt tackles the issue of porn and the single guy. In this episode you’ll learn: * What happened to the lost Pornfree Radio theme song * What one question Matt had to ask himself after being married and in recovery * 4 Reasons to stay Pornfree as a single person “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.” –G.K. Chesterton Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 018 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 017 How To Stop Objectifying and Oogling with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 48:42

Craig Perra, life coach and founder of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery, returns to teach a lesson from his exclusive online course on the stubborn habit of objectifying and oogling. In this episode you’ll learn: * How to simply define a habit * Why Matt needs to be more mindful on the morning commute * What a-ha moment came to Craig through Hannibal Lector * Why it’s important to become aware of what we are oogling (and what we are missing) * What three steps you can use to stop the habit of objectifying and oogling * Why we need tools in the fight against porn addiction Craig was generous enough to share an awareness exercise on objectifying and oogling.  This is the same download he provides his paying clients. Download How To Stop Objectifying & Oogling (pdf) Working with Craig: Use my affiliate link for The Mindful Habit to purchase the video program. I have personally checked out the modules and I recommend the video plan because it includes weekly webinars with direct access to Craig. Awesome stuff! Resources: * Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich (Free Digital Book) * Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich (Free Audio Book) Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 017 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 016 Escaping Porn Addiction with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 45:22

This is the first of two dynamic episodes with Craig Perra, life coach and founder of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery. We start with Craig’s beginnings, being exposed to porn at age 8, through an out-of-control porn and sex addiction in his late 30s. His escape from porn addiction came after getting fired from his corporate job. With the support of his wife, Michelle, and some aggressive coaching with George Collins he put his life back together. Now he is helping others do the same. Resources: * The Mindful Habit Craig’s Coaching and Online Program * Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions Craig and Michelle’s Podcast * George N. Collins, MA Director of Compulsion Solutions Author of Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame * Gordon Dalbey Author of Healing the Masculine Soul and Sons of the Father * Michelle Perra’s Blog Craig’s wife and her blog about being the partner of a sex addict. Working with Craig: Use my affiliate link for The Mindful Habit to purchase the video program. I have personally checked out the modules and I recommend the video plan because it includes weekly webinars with direct access to Craig. Awesome stuff!   Bonus: Craig and Michelle Perra on Katie Couric 2014 Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 016 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 015 Porn! Recorded Live in Indianapolis | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 43:07

There are things porn addicts know coming into recovery and more importantly things they need to know. This episode was from a workshop with Matt Dobschuetz recorded live for ministry leaders in Indianapolis, Indiana on August 9, 2014. In this episode you’ll learn: * The one thing porn addicts know on some level when they ask for help * Things they don’t know, but desperately need to * How leaders can really help * Ideas for getting deeper in understanding your pain “If you’re a porn addict, believe me, the last thing you need to hear is that you’re a sinner. We already know that. We know that it hurts us and it prevents us from becoming fully human and experiencing true freedom. We get it. The one thing we don’t know is that we’re free to let go of shame. If it’s true that nothing we do will separate us from the love of God, then that has to work both ways. It means that even if we are 10 years sober we are no more loved by God than if we looked at porn an hour ago. Right away, there’s no need to feel shame if is separated from all these ideas of who you are and whether God loves you.” -Paul Robinson, blogger for XXXchurch.com and online recovery group leader Resources: In this episode, I quote Paul Robinson from an article that originally appeared on Christianity Today’s website called, The Article That Changed Everything, by Laura Leonard. Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 015 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 014 Seven Things To Know When Starting a Support Group for Porn Addicts | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 34:58

“It’s so great you’re helping *those* people.” Sometimes people will say that at church. They’re trying to compliment me, because they think that having a porn related podcast or having a church support group related to sexual issues is kind of a noble thing. And they see the people who go to that are not people like themselves. But I help others because it helps me continue to walk out the journey. So when  they talk about *those* people, they don’t realize that they’re speaking directly to one of *those* people. As you start to look around in your own journey and recovery, you start seeing others who are a little farther behind who are making the same mistakes you did. And you start getting a vision for helping them. In this episode you’ll learn: * Working on your own journey is a necessary component to being a good servant leader. * Investing in others will help you grow. * The steps needed to build an effective group. * Tips on how to lead with confidence and keep people safe. * Those who attend may not be the people you expect. * Building a group, like recovery, takes time. Resources and links mentioned in this episode: * Redeemed Lives * CrossCurrent * Desert Stream * Celebrate Recovery * Samson Society * Faithful and True Right click here to download the mp3 file to your desktop. “Listened to episode 10, of your podcast (Four Porn Pitfalls With Popular Media.) Wow. Excellent stuff. Thanks for being so honest and open about your experiences and struggles. It would have been easy to make this a finger-wagging type of podcast, but since you genuinely shared from where you are and where you’ve been it came off more genuine and inspiring. Instead of receiving a list of movies or shows “we” should not watch, you did a great job of explaining how you came to your decisions and offered some honest questions that we all need to ask ourselves in our journeys. Thanks again.” -Jason Transcript: Click Here to Download the Transcript for Episode 014 (PDF) Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page!

 013 Top 5 Benefits From Helping Others With Porn Addiction | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 34:40

It may seem counter-intuitive to those looking for help with porn addiction. But early in my own recovery I started a support group and I actually helped myself. Could you start a group in your area in the next year? You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. – John 15:16 In this episode you’ll learn: * How helping others takes the focus off our self * How it creates a new motivation to stay clean * The benefits of togetherness * How we have an opportunity to ask for help * How we grow as leaders by helping others * Why helping others brings meaning to our journey * What your true calling is in recovery * What next step you can take this week Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it. And by all means hit the LIKE box on this post for our new Pornfree Radio Facebook Page! Yes welcome to 2014 Matt. I know, I know.

 012 Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad? | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 37:38

The M-Word aka Masturbation is the  800 lb gorilla in the room in any conversation about pornography. Most people with a porn problem have a strong masturbation habit. So what happens with masturbation when we shut off the porn? Is it bad? Good? Neutral? “I have the right to do anything,” you say–but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”–but not everything is constructive. –1 Cor 10:23 In this episode you’ll learn: * How to think about masturbation apart from shame * Why the question, “Is masturbation without porn bad?” is the wrong question to ask * 5 reasons masturbation is NOT beneficial for people leaving porn * 5 practical tips in dealing with masturbation BONUS: C.S. Lewis on Masturbation “For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back; sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. “And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman. “For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no woman can rival. “Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover; no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. “In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself. . . . After all, almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison.” – Personal Letter From Lewis to Keith Masson (found in The Collected Letters of C.S. Lewis, Volume 3) These quotes originally appeared in the post, C. S. Lewis on Lust, Women, and Masturbation by Matt Fradd. Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please rate it and review at iTunes because that helps get the word out. I realize this is a porn-themed podcast, so if you don’t want to leave a public review that’s okay. Just leave a rating. Also tell a friend who might benefit from it.

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