Thriving at sixty

  Do you get stuck reacting to situations? If you are stuck reacting you won’t be effective and productive.  What are you blind to that has you reacting? What are you being right about? What are you being unforgiving about?  Can you distinguish a limiting barrier there?  What new action could you take right now that could make a difference.?  Are you willing to give the reaction up? What question(s) could you ask that would be more effective and productive? What are you committed to in that moment or in that situation? Frequently I am committed to being peaceful and having a win,, win, where everybody is able to walk away with dignity and grace.  In that moment if i’m not being peaceful i ask myself.  Is this a habitual reaction to similar situations?  Is this reaction limiting my effectiveness in producing the outcome i want?  Are you willing to risk  and take a new effective action?  Are you willing to create a new and effective habit?     WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening!   Keep THRIVING!

Have you ever looked at a purpose worthy of your life?  i did when i was 26 and i have continually lived my life from that purpose. It shaped my speaking and acting,  My purpose was having families work regardless of their circumstances,  How i fulfilled on that purpose, was registering adults into the transformational  courses, in Landmark World wide, and other courses,  About 15 years ago after registering over 3,000 people i stopped counting and just continued to register people.. I personal offer  coaching programs and run my own transformational workshops. I highly recommend   Al-Anon a twelve step program for people who especially  love an  with an alcoholic or someone with addictions.  That is why i am always challenging people to transform their limiting beliefs. Regardless of what life throws at you how would you like to behave today?  Then create an intention for that day.  As the day progresses ask yourself are your actions in alignment to that intention?  If not stop breath and start again.  Mastery takes practice, practice, practice! What actions would You be taking if You was being that intention? You can create a intention newly every day and You get to choose reacting to your day or creating your day.  I prefer creating my day.  Try it, you might find some magic to your day, I certainly do.Thoughts are like clouds they  come and they go  True power and freedom comes from creation. WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO either of my  My Facebook Pages Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B OR Face book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min strategy session.  During this session I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward .  Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session.. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK! Email me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com or Wendyb@gettingunstuck.net

Regardless of what life throws at you how would you like to behave today?  Then create an intention for that day.  As the day progresses ask yourself are your actions in alignment to that intention?  If not stop breath and start again.  Mastery takes practice, practice, practice! What actions would You be taking if You was being that intention? You can create a intention newly every day and You get to choose reacting to your day or creating your day.  I prefer creating my day.  Try it, you might find some magic to your day, I certainly do.Thoughts are like clouds they  come and they go  True power and freedom comes from creation.   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening!   Keep THRIVING!

Do you plan out the day and then almost before you are wide awake breakdowns occur? Have you ever been around people that no matter what happens they make things happen,  while others use their circumstances to justify why they did not happen?   How you deal with these breakdowns will either give you freedom and power and you will be productive or you will loose momentum and justify why things didn’t get done. .   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening!   Keep THRIVING!

Sometimes we stereotype who is intelligent. Here are some quirky ideas to cause you to look at yourself differently and to possibly let go of conceived ideas of who is intelligent and who isn’t.  listen with a grain of salt and some humor please   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.   Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

We are either expanding or retracting our whole life!  What are you doing?  Are you playing a big enough game in life to insure that you are expanding?  A game could be as simple as joining in a community project.  Starting a community project.  Be accountable somewhere so that you can learn and grow. If you are not,  what are the dis empowering conversations you are having that have you not expand.  How long have those conversations been around? WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.   Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

Are you treating every moment as a Gift? If not why not? Are you living a life you can be proud of?  If not what  the habitual dis empowering conversations you are having when you are stuck? How long have those conversations been around? What are the lessons you could be learning through this situation?  WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.   Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

Boundaries:  Human beings are responders and initiators.Many times we have boundary problems because we lack initiative.  Are you willing to risk failing so you can learn and grow.  The best boundaries are formed when a child is pushing against the world naturally.and the outside world sets its limits on the child.In this way the aggressive child has learned limits without loosing his or her spirit.  Our spiritual and emotional well- being depends on our having this spirit. When a baby bird is ready to hatch, if you break the egg for the bird, it ill die, The bird must peck its own way out of the egg into the world. his aggressive ‘workout’ strengthens the bird, allowing it to function in the outside world . Robbed of this responsibility, it will die. Where in your life are you not taking the initiative?  If you weren’t so passive what could become available?  Also where are you not letting others like your children struggle through adversity so they can grow more resilient and from there grow more confident in their own abilities.? Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.(Part of sentences taken from the book) light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

What do you say consciously or unconsciously to justify spending the money.  Eating that particular food or foods are not doing what you said you would so forth and so forth. light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

Where in your life do you limit yourself because you already know what  will be said or what something looks like?  Do you already know what someone will say or what something will look like so you don’t hear what they are saying you only hear what you want to hear and you only see what you want to see. Have you looked for something and because you already know what it looks like you miss it because it doesn’t look  like what you think.  You miss the magic in life! This is what i would like you to look at if you are having challenges in your marriage, your job your relationships.  Where are you limited?  Where  are you  not seeing and hearing because you come from already knowing.  Knowing limits us.  What new action could you take right now so you can hear what people are really saying.  You can bring love and magic back into any relationship if you learn the skill of really listening and really seeing newly.   light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

What does envy got to do with boundaries?  Envy is a self perpetuating cycle.  Boundary less people feel  empty and unfulfilled  They look at another’s fullness  and feel envious .  This time and energy needs to be spent on taking responsibility  for their lack and doing something about it. Taking action is the only way out.  You have not because you don;t make specific requests or you don’t do the work that is needed.  We don’t just envy possessions  and accomplishments. We can envy a persons character. Proactive instead reactive .  Proactive people show you what they love, what they want, what they purpose and what they stand for,These people are very different from those who who are known by what they hate , what they don’t like what they stand against , and what they will not do. light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

Are you always saying i will loose those 10 lbs or whatever and then you rarely do? light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Do you start a gym then stop going or say you will join a gym but never do? What are the conversations you use to justify the weight gain or the tummy, big thighs. Do you have the body you want?  If not what why not.  Who and what are you listening too that justifies not having the body you want? Are you willing to re examine the conversations you are having consciously and unconsciously that are having you stuck in the rut you are in?  I’m an incredible coach in this area.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   Do you keep reacting to the same people or similar people over and over?  Whats it going to take to become proactive?When we keep reacting we are emotionally victims.  While reactive victims are primarily known by their “against” stances.  proactive people do not demand rights, they live them. The ultimate expression of power is Love; it is the ability not to express power, but to restrain it  Proactive people are able to “Love others as themselves” They have mutual respect.  They don’t have to dish back what they receive.  They have gotten past the reactive stance of the law and are able to love and not react and put healthy boundaries in place. Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Hurt and harm are different.  There is a point to this  Things can hurt and not harm us.  In fact they can even be good for us.  And things that feel good can be very harmful to us.  YOU NEED TO EVALUATE THE EFFECTS OF SETTING BOUNDARIES AND BE RESPONSIBLE TO THE OTHER PERSON, but that does not mean you should avoid setting  boundaries because someone responds with hurt or anger.  When you go to the dentist and getting a cavity filled, does it hurt?  It hurts but it makes you feel better and it doesn’t harm you.  When you ate that sugar that caused the cavity did it feel good?  Yes.  Did it harm you? Yes. Things can hurt and not harm us.  In fact they can even be good for us.  And things that feel good can be very harmful to us. We cause pain by making choices that others do not like, but we also cause pain by confronting people when they are wrong.  But if we do not share our anger with another, bitterness and hatred can set in.  We need to be honest with one another about how we are hurt.  |Speak truthfully to (your neighbour, for (you) are all members of one body. (we are human beings)   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! KEEP THRIVING!

(It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Happy Easter!  When was the last time you allowed yourself to actually be delighted?  I got the privilege to do that this Easter weekend babysitting my nine month old granddaughter.  Also I got to take her 3 year old cousin to the park with us.  He was so excited following a spider.  I think one of the things that keeps me young is I still haven’t lost my childhood wonder about life.  What about you?  When have you allowed yourself to dream and wonder and really appreciate life?  If you have forgotten hang out with little ones.  Have no expectation, get in their world. Listen in discover newly what life is really about.  Love, appreciation, being grateful for what is and isn’t.  Try it on and you may discover yourself thriving in life. Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!