Thriving at sixty

This is a thought provoking poem . I want you to read it from top to bottom I’m very ugly, so don’t try to convince me that I am very beautiful person Because at the end of the day I hate myself in every single way And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying ] There is beauty inside of me that matters So rest assured I will remind myself That I am a worthless, terrible person And nothing you say will make me believe I still deserve love Because no matter what I am not good enough to be loved And I am in no position to believe that Beauty does exist within me Because whenever I Look in the mirror I always think Am I as ugly as people say (Now read from bottom up) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Lets !get you unstuck

Have you ever taken on projects or areas of your life where you don’t complete things? I assert even if they are small things like not putting the cap on the toothpaste or flushing the toilet they get in the way of us being effective. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (Wendy b) You may be considered effective and if you took on the practice of completion you could be more effective.  If you are not effective in areas that you want to be start bringing integrity and completion to those areas.  Listen to Podcast 334 where I take you through the steps of completion then send me an email and let me know how you have improved in that area.  I could put you on my podcast.  Lets get started creating completion for 2018 and a new beginning for 2018 where you bring completion, clarity, freedom and power. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (Wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.

I believe that when we declare something complete and take the actions we need to complete for a moment a day or a lifetime we bring an opportunity to create newly.  Without completion our mind is cluttered.  Without knowing it, that can sow us down. Here are some things i do daily that create completion and freedom so i start each day newly as well as end my day with peace. *  I start the day with mediation, it can be two to 5 min.  It can be longer and usually 5 min works effectively for me.* I start the day with a written intention.  Through out the day are my actions supporting this intention.  It takes practice.* Then I write what I am going to do for the day.  Frequently after the end of my day completion, I may write what I want to accomplish for the following day, either way can work.* At the end of the day I look at what I accomplished and write that down, looking at what I originally said I would do.  Sometimes I accomplished something that I didn’t originally write down I include that.* I write down what I did not accomplish that I said I would and declare I am complete for right now about that.  I may add that to my list of what I want to accomplish for the following day.  If I do not accomplish the task repeatedly then I need to as my self what is at the source of me not completing.  I usually ask a coach who is great in that area to support me. (look at no 3 again)* Then I write down 5 or more things I can be grateful for that day. Look at no 3 again.* Then I pray and meditate before falling asleep. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (Wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.

Effectiveness comes from being able to master altering your perceptions.  When we are stuck or suffering we frequently focus on the wrong thing,  the problem or the hurt.  That is why we stay stuck or continue to suffer.  If you focus on the lesson or the solution you will continue to grow.  This takes consistent practice.  We need coaches and others around us to support us to continually master altering our perceptions.   Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.  

    What do you want people left with?  People always remember how you make them feel.  Before you speak let your words pass through three gates. Is it True It it necessary Is it kind Lots of times we come from our opinion and not the truth. Especially if we are reactivated or in a confronting situation.  Do you say things that are not necessary?  Where and when do you do this?  Are you kind regardless of the circumstances or do you lash out?  Take a look and see.  These could be habitual patterns and barriers to your effectiveness.   Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.    

Remembrance day reminded me of this. My adopted dad was a war vet, he died in 2002.  It started making me think of the freedoms i have that i take for granted.  I have a lot of freedoms i enjoy because of the sacrifice of Thomas Perfetti and many i never knew and i want to say Thank you.  If you look at your life what are the freedoms you take for granted?  Also look at the sacrifices you made so you can have freedom later on.  I am financially doing okay because i saved money.  I spent less than what i earned.  I did not  buy the brand new car every three years.   I bought a good used car and had it last me 10 to 15 years.  That saved money.  I didn’t go out for a lot of meals,, I chose to eat at home and save money.  I chose to eat healthy and forgo alot of goodies.  So because of those sacrifices i have money, health and peach of mind.  Freedom baby. What are you willing to sacrifice to have freedom in your later years?   Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.    

Have you ever wondered how much being grateful can effect your ability to experience being happy and fulfilled in life?  Have you ever lived through some shitty situations and  wondered why me?  Yet looking back there was a lesson through it all that moved you forward or helped you in some way?  i assert there is a reason for everything and if you can keep  focusing on gratitude you will live a far more fulfilled life.   Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.    

Have you ever wondered how much being grateful can effect your ability to experience being happy and fulfilled in life?  Have you ever had conversations with people who have so little and they are full of gratitude?   Then you talk to people who are frequently annoyed and complaining about something.  They have wealth, health and they still do not  experience being fulfilled.  i assert that the more grateful you are regardless of your circumstances the more you will experience joy, happiness and fulfillment.   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.    

Do you ever try to understand why someone is saying what they are saying?  Or do you take what they say personally and react? Do you ever wonder why someone one replies to an email right away and another can take weeks to respond?  If you got curious and asked questions from real curiosity you might be emphatic and have room for why they did it the way the did or why they responded the way they did. Get curious rather than reacting.An unhealed person can find offense easily when others speak and take actions.  A healed person understands that the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with them.  Today and each day you get to decide which one you will be. WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.    

Alter your perceptions and you will alter your actions.The other day i came home and i saw what looked like 3 white paint spots on my rug.  I knew there was one but to have two more meant someone had been in my apartment while i was away..  At first I was fearful, then i became angry.  Then I questioned is this really white paint. My Landlords are trustworthy and i hated to shift that perception.   When i put my hand over the two other spots they seemed to disappear, then reappear again.   Then i noticed it was a shadow that made them disappear.  Then i looked up and saw the blinds had two little spots of white light shining through that gave an appearance of white paint on my rug.  When i closed the blinds the two extra spots of white paint disappeared. For five minutes i swore there was extra paint on my rug.  If i had taken action correlate to that perception I would have taken actions that made someone at fault for something that wasn’t true.  Fortunately it got figured out quickly.  How often in life do you see something and rarely question your thoughts about what you perceive? WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening! Lets get you unstuck

Did you ever notice whatever you focus on seems to appear in your life.  So if you are focusing on your debt more debt appears.  If you focus on why me, more why me appears.  That is why it is so important to be conscious of what your mind is focusing on.  We are always winning the game we are playing, even if we are not aware that is the game we are playing?   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening! Lets !get you unstuck

Have you ever been driving down a road and thought you saw an animal lying on the side of the road.  There are three other people in the car and you tell them what you see and everyone has a different version of what is lying on the side of the road. When you get to where the object is all four views were not accurate.   It really makes you start to think.  I start asking myself where else could my views not be accurate?  Your actions change depending on your view.  Shift your perception, shift your actions. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will callpeople who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening! Lets !get you unstuck

What ever we resist persists so we need to have tools to learn to accept what is and what isn’t.  When to fight and when to surrender.  Looking at whats so, only then can we move forward.  First we have to become aware of what is so, then accept and only then we can take action otherwise we are forcing an outcome and that my friends rarely turns out. Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. I need to regularly  follow this prayer and it helps me tremendously to  live a life of freedom, clarity and power.  What do you use to bring yourself freedom, clarity and power.   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening! Lets !get you unstuck

I assert that the faster you can accept change the less suffering you will experience.  Especially in this fast pace world.  Change is inevitable and its all around us.  Look at the google or gmail its frequently changing.  Social Media, T.V. cameras, telephones, mail , raising children, education.  . Sometimes we live a life of daily changes depending on what we do for a living. Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. I need to regularly  follow this prayer and it helps me tremendously to  live a life of freedom, clarity and power.  What do you use to bring yourself freedom, clarity and power.   WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening! Lets !get you unstuck

Acceptance i have to repeat the Serenity Prayer over and over God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The Courage to change the things I can.  and the wisdom to know the difference. One of the things i notice is what ever i resists persists.  I have had about 5 big losses since May, Loss of job, home had to move to a new town, loss of friends and whats familiar, loss of a  friend to death and now my fathers death and I now have a hard time concentrating and i have not been able to do my work consistently.  Its like my brain wants to relax and breath so i have to put work stuff on hold and relax and breath.  I have been resisting that.  Now I am going to accept and let myself have until the middle of September without being obligated to finish anything that takes some serious thinking.  I can do it. i’m just giving myself permission to let go and let God. There are 5 stages of grieving.  We won’t necessarily have to do all 5.  They are not done in a particular order and there are people who communicate when they grieve, others isolate.  One isn’t better then the other its just whats so.Each stage varies in time for each individual.  Recognize the stages you are others are in and don’t resist.  Whatever we resist persists. * Denial * Anger * Bargaining * Depression * Acceptance     WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only.     Thanks for Listening! Lets get you unstuck