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Thriving at sixty

Summary: Wendy B. delivers million dollar motivation, inspiration and success strategies for Entrepreneurs or would be entrepreneurs, people who would like to thrive for the next forty years regardless of your age or circumstances. Learn to overcome fear, failure and adversity by developing a new mindset. Wendy's motto is when you are handed lemons how fast can u make lemonade

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 Where Can you bring Generosity! #449 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 11:14

Generosity can come in many forms from smiling, giving food, giving of your time. It doesn’t have to be spending money and it can be. I’m inviting you to brainstorm with people all sorts of different ways to be generous. Once I saw an old man and woman sitting on a bench. They were struggling with doing up his jacket. I saw it was frustrating for them. I stopped and offered to help. I took his jacket got the zipper unstuck and helped him zip it up again. That was an act of generosity. They were so pleased and thanked me. The Christmas Holidays are over now. It would have been great if I could have downloaded the next podcasts before Christmas. Some Circumstances arose and that did not happen. This is the last podcast around the holidays. I believe this podcast will be worthwhile to listen to for any holiday or any time of year, so I will be downloading this one for your benefit this week. Better late than never. Valentines is the next big one maybe listen to the words of wisdom from this podcast Apply them to any holiday or an area of life that could make a difference to you and or others. I’ve become the main home to have people over dinner. I have a fairly large two-bedroom ground-floor apartment. One way I express love is I have always encouraged my girls to invite their friends over at any time but particularly on holidays. My girls are now 26 and 33 years old. They do not live with me. They still are doing this. I love it. This Christmas eve we had a blast, eating, a few drinks, and playing hilarious games we laughed and had so much fun. I want to address men here for a minute. Sometimes I don’t think some men realize the difference they can make with their children, particularly their adult children.. I spent a lot of time with my children as they were growing up, unfortunately, their dad did not. My youngest daughter is in her twenties and has a four-year-old daughter. I have watched her Blossom because her dad is in her life and spending time with her and my granddaughter. What is neat about this is we divorced when she was a teenager and he just sorta wrote her off. I kept encouraging him to keep in touch with her and to spend time, even take her out for lunch every few months. My former husband is always going to be part of my life because we have children together and our children no matter how old they are want their parents together on holidays and special occasions. They want everyone to get along to celebrate with family. I have encouraged my former husband to support me in creating an environment where we can kid around and poke fun at each other in a loving way, This allows the adult children to feel free to come to spend time, invite friends, etc That wasn’t always true it took a lot of work to have that happen. I knew it was important for my children so I bit my tongue for the first couple of years after the divorce. My husband was not kind to me and it took a big act of generosity to focus on what was important for my children. Now I am at peace. We are all at peace. What can you let go of around family gatherings so there is peace? This is an act of generosity. Let go let God. Look around you. Especially with families that have broken up. Can you forgive and have it work for your children’s sake? What is it going to take for you? Where can you be generous? What can you forgive? Where can you forgive? Can you forgive other family members, neighbors, Can you look at the bigger picture and look at what would be best for everyone? Can you give up your righteousness? Don’t be so righteously good you are no earthly good. The question is,

 What would it take to bring Peace! #448c | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 13:08

The Christmas Holidays are over now. It would have been great if I could have downloaded the next 2 podcasts before Christmas. Some Circumstances arose and that did not happen. I believe the next two podcasts are well worthwhile to listen to for any holiday or any time of year, so I will be downloading them for your benefit this week. Better late than never. Valentines is the next big one maybe listen to the words of wisdom from this podcast Apply them to any holiday or an area of life that could make a difference to you and or others. I’m inviting you to look at your relationships all of them. I’ll say a little bit more about that a few paragraphs from now. When I originally did this podcast it was a few weeks before Christmas. I try to keep things simple and affordable. 10 years ago my husband and I parted and I lost my home and had to start over again I just kept things simple. I didn’t have a lot of monies to play with. I started going to second-hand stores and buying all different size Christmas Stockings. I kept only a few ornaments that meant a lot to me. Now I have about 25 to 30 Christmas Stockings. I get my young granddaughter to help me tack them on the walls in the kitchen, dining room, and living room. It looks very festive. A few years ago I picked up two dancing singing Christmas trees for 18.00. They are about 12 inches high. My granddaughter loved them at 1 year of age and still, years later enjoys them. I have a few more neat ornaments I picked up at the different second-hand stores. Every year my young Granddaughter and I decorate the house in less than an hr. She loves it. I keep costs down by staying on a budget and buying things on sale from July on. The thing is on most special occasions it’s nice to get things but the biggest gift is giving of your love and time. So I started an Inquiry of what would bring peace. As I drove through traffic. I would notice people being aggressive, darting back and forth in and out of lanes. I’ve been there, done that. What I noticed is when I slowed down and let people get into my lane I felt more peaceful. I started noticing one way to bring peace to myself and others is by contributing to others. Small contributions can make a big difference to others. We have no idea what people are dealing with. Contribution can be smiling at someone, letting someone know you appreciate what they did. Saying thank you. Being courteous, opening a door, helping someone carry something to their car. Giving someone a cup of tea or coffee when they weren’t expecting it. I have two daughters that have been at loggerheads with each other for six months. One blocking the other. They were both hurt and would complain to me. I wouldn’t take sides. I just invited each one to get into the others world and try to understand where the other one was coming from. I reminded them that the only one that really gets hurt in all this is my granddaughter who loves both of them dearly. I also reminded them of one of their aunts who cut me out of her life for 27 years. Who really suffered? My Children and my nephew and niece because the cousins never got to grow up with their cousins or their auntie. Their Aunt came back into min and their lives four years ago and it’s great but look at what we all missed out on. My nephew and niece are in their 40’s now. A bit late for us. I told them other than murdering someone or physically abusing someone I can’t see how people can justify cutting people out of their lives. I also told them that when there is war and people are shooting one another they create a 24 hr agreement to put down their arms and bring peace to one another during that time. I said I wasn’t asking them to even do i...

 Holiday & Fun no need to be Frantic #447 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 11:51

The Christmas Holidays are over now. It would have been great if I could have downloaded the next 3 podcasts before Christmas. Some Circumstances arose and that did not happen. I believe the next three podcasts are well worthwhile to listen to for any holiday so I will be downloading them for your benefit this week. Better late than never. Valentines is the next big one maybe listen to the words of wisdom from this podcast and apply them to any holiday Remember the purpose of holidays. I believe it is to have us be connected, loving, and generous in expressing our love for one another. Let’s be caring and respectful. If this was your last day on earth What would you be doing? Who would you be talking to? I know for me it would be to have my loved ones around, playing games and expressing my love to them. I would cook their favorite food and enjoy sitting around the table sharing the bountiful food. The biggest gift to each other is to be loving and respectful. With all the different flues going around and the uncertainty around them, here is an opportunity to give each other the dignity and respect of listening to each other’s choices and not make each other wrong for those choices. There is no guarantee that there is going to be a tomorrow so what legacy do you want to leave right now at the moment. HOLIDAYS are not about how much money you can afford to spend on each other. In my family, there are very wealthy and there are very poor so how would you interact so everyone feels valued and experiences that they can contribute and be contributed to? In this podcast, I share some simple fun, and loving ways. One of my relatives seems to always be broke around any holiday time. She is very creative. She makes these lovely cards hand-printed on cardboard and she cuts them with pinking shears and decorates them with ladybugs or stickers. She taught this to the little ones as well so they felt they were contributing. Here are some examples of these cards from the little ones. I will let you do my hair complaint-free. I will put away my toys. I will put my jacket on. I will get Aunty to loan you her car. I will play with my toys quietly. I will go for a nap like a good girl. Examples for the adults. I will shovel snow from your driveway every time it snows. I will wash your floors and vacuum once a month. I will wash your car. I will clean the inside of your car when you ask. I will weed your garden when you ask. I will mow your lawn. You getting the drift. Listen to the podcast who knows what words of wisdom you may hear. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go the way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others?Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to personally hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me know they left a five-star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,

 Holiday & Kindness #446a | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 12:05

I’ve been committed to getting a few podcasts out before Christmas and I said I would do one for every day before Christmas which would have been 11 but that is not going to happen and I will have a few out at least 4 before Christmas. Yeah. I going to talk about something that is controversial for most people. My intention is to have everyone listen to each other not to be controversial. Be loving Kind and try to get into each other’s world without giving your opinion. This is a stressful time of year for many without the pandemic. Throw that in and we have a lot of stress. Consider that for the vaxed people it’s stressful. consider It’s just as stressful for the nonvaxed. PEOPLE ARE DOING WHAT THEY FEEL IS RIGHT FOR THEM TO FEEL SAFE. READ THAT OVER SEVERAL TIMES, PEOPLE ARE DOING WHAT THEY FEEL IS RIGHT FOR THEM TO FEEL SAFE. We don’t have to agree and we need to respectfully listen to one another. We need to get into each other’s shoes and walk a few miles. We can respectfully let each other have a view and not be accusatory or go into fear. That is what accusations are. They are not coming from the truth. Let’s be generous loving and supportive. Do you have any Holiday traditions? Share what they are. My adult children still expect me to roast turkey, mash potatoes, bake sweet potatoes, and squash. Home-made gravy, Homemade cranberry sauce, and homemade pumpkin pie with homemade whipping cream. Awesome no-fail gluten-free turkey gravy Take the turkey out of the roast pan leave turkey juice. Put the roast pan on burner around med temperature Boil water and put a package of onion soup mix in a large cup add boiling water add to turkey juice In a jar put pea flour approx 4 to 5 heaping tablespoons (pea flour get at a grocery store in the Asian section) add water and beat until smooth and thick, add to the roast pan with the turkey juice and onion soup mix. You can add more water to the turkey gravy if you wish. Depends on the amount of gravy you need and the thickness you want the gravy to be. Stay stirring the gravy the whole time so it does not burn. Cranberry sauce 2 cups of water to 1 cup of cranberries. add 1/2 cup of monk fruit or sugar. Bring to boil stirring and let cranberries crack open. Approximately 10 min. Take off burner cool. When it’s cool to the touch put it in a covered container in the fridge. Make a day before cooking turkey. I usually double this recipe. Gluten-free dressing Buy a loaf or two of Gluten-free bread. The night before taking the bread and spread it on cookie sheets. Let the air get to the bread so it gets hard or crusty. The next day in a large bowl tear all bread apart and put it in a large bowl. Chop up one large onion and two to four stocks of celery. Add one to two tablespoons of poultry seasoning. Add just enough water to moisten the bread and have everything stick together. Put half in a large casserole dish. Then add giblets and turkey neck to the middle of the casserole dish. Then continue to add the rest of the dressing on top. One hr before the turkey is finished cooking take it out of the oven and scoop one to two cups of turkey juice and put it inside the casserole. Put the lid on the casserole dish. Then put the turkey back in the oven and put the casserole dish in the oven bake at 350 for an hour. Yummy Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?

 The Plus Side of Failure #443 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 19:44

Without Failure, we can have no success. In my Experience Failure just means you failed to achieve the outcome you were striving for. In failing ask yourself several questions. What did you do that didn’t work? What could you do next time to either succeed or push yourself forward closer to success? What did you do regarding the situation that you could have NOT done? What did you say at the time, either to yourself or to others, that you could not have said? What did you not do that you COULD have done? What did you not say that you could have said? When we fail to succeed to achieve a particular outcome we can learn from the failure or not. We do not have to suffer. Suffering is only one option. When we suffer it’s because we make failure mean something about us, about them, or about it. When we can take responsibility for all of the outcomes. I’m not talking about blaming here. I’m talking about the ability to respond powerfully to everything and anything that happens. It takes practice, practice, practice to learn to respond powerfully to everything and anything that happens. Keep trying until you succeed. Don’t stop. Don’t give up. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go the way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others?Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to personally hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me know they left a five-star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min Discovery session.  During this session, I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward.  Also, there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total Package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just a private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session. Go to my webpage and book a sessionAnything that is said on this podcast and anything said before or after are from my views only.Thanks for Listening!Keep THRIVING! AND LET’S GET YOU UNSTUCK and have you THRIVE!Go to my web page https://www.wendybergen.com/amazon cahttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B084X2BPHTamazon.comhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B084X2BPHTamazon ukhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B084X2BPHT

 R U willing to let go & Let God #442 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: Unknown

Sometimes in life, we have times where we are going through challenges; It seems that at those times we must be willing to let go and Let God. In the last 6 months, I have gone through three deaths of young people. Two suicides one in my family the other in a girlfriend’s family, and one young person murdered outside our home. I have had to pack up and move three times. One move for my sanity and safety. Put stuff in storage, take stuff out of storage. Rent moving trucks. Create teams of people to help me move. Reduce what I own and put articles on sale at garage sales and let go of articles that once meant a lot to me. Create teams of people to help me do that. I have had to let go of some relationships because they were emotionally not healthy for me. I had to still keep working and slow down so that I could catch my breath. While going through all this I learned and am still learning. There is a lot of grief when you are dealing with this amount of emotional happenings. Here is a list of some things you need to do to stay grounded. take care of yourself – Be gentle with yourself Communicate responsibly – Being Vulnerable Make bold powerful Requests – Asking for what you want Staying in gratitude Prayer & meditation -Grant Forgiveness Prioritizing – Allow Yourself to Grieve Keep Sharing with others so you know you are not alone. Grief is a process Here are some questions my friend and Grief Coach (Jennifer Waugh) gets you to ask yourself Have you ever experienced the death of a spouse?Have you experienced the death of a close family member?Have you experienced the death of a distant family member?Do you harbor any resentments or ill feelings towards adeceased parent, spouse, friend, or relative?Do you have strained or painful relationships with a livingparent, spouse, or friend?Have you ever been married or divorced?Have you ever had a miscarriage, stillbirth, or abortion?Have you experienced a major change in your financialsituation? (Positive or Negative)Did you ever have a pet die?Have you been involved in a long series of unsuccessfulrelationships?Do you have long stretches of your childhood that you cannotremember?Have you ever experienced a series of illnesses and accidents?Were you physically abused as a child or as an adult?Were you sexually abused as a child or as an adult?Have you ever experienced the loss or the use or the function ofany part of your body?Did you graduate from high school or from college?Have you ever quit or been fired from a job?Did you move more than twice before the age of 10?Yes NoEvents that may be Causing You GriefYES NO Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go the way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others?Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to personally hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me know they left a five-star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes,

 Are You Willing to be happy? #441 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 15:30

This week will talk about Giving up the need to be always right. and the need for others approval The need to be Right: I think we all can own the need to be right from time to time. We love being right. If we are right someone is wrong. There is a high cost to always being right and making someone wrong. Have you ever been around someone who always has a view and they always have to be right about their view. There is no room for the view of the other. Even when it is not necessary to point something out, they always have to point something out. What is your experience when that happens? My experience when I’m around that behavior is. I don’t feel validated, I don’t feel valued. I don’t feel I get a voice when someone is repetitively being right around me. Ask yourself this question. Why am I saying that? Is it to be right and make someone wrong? What is my motive behind being right at this moment? You can be right and if you allow others the dignity to discover that for themselves, they probably will learn more. Lots of time in relationships we want to have one over on the other – hmm- see I told you! In certain areas of your relationship you could be right a lot, it can become humorous. But if it is continuous and no let up, there is not a lot of dignity left for others. For example, there are times where I have a need to be right. When my oldest daughter purposely says things to provoke especially after we have a disagreement. If I have to be right at that moment there is no winning for either of us. There is no peace. Why can’t I just let it go and in a quieter moment have a conversation around it? I also notice that when I’m trying to be right, I’m not feeling secure in those moments. especially if I have to insist on being right. I can be right without having to say anything. Sometimes I think people are right because they have no confidence. So they want to have one over on another. There is a cost in our relationships when we have to be right all the time, people stop wanting to hang around us. When we are so righteously good we are no earthly good, we get to avoid being vulnerable and present to another person. I really believe everyone has a right to their view. One view isn’t better than the other. If we can give each other dignity that we don’t always have to agree to each other’s views and we have a right to have a view the world would be a happier place. We would all feel heard and valued. I just know at times when I have to be right and you are wrong there is not a lot of peace and there is not a lot of happiness. A question to ask at that time. Who do you never get to be when you are righteous? Is being right getting you what you want? Another thing to give up to be happy is the need for approval. It is similar to impressing others. For years I wanted the approval of my father. My father was not a mentally healthy man. Yet even though his behavior was repeatedly inappropriate towards me, I constantly looked for his approval and I did not get it. Then this light bulb went off for me. My father was afraid of me. If I told people what he was doing they would be pretty upset. Once I realized my dad’s behavior towards me was out of fear. I was totally free and stopped seeking his or others’ approval. I was totally freed up. I don’t know about you When I am needy for approval ...

 Happiness Secrets what to give up to be Happy #440 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 15:13

Switch to draftPreviewUpdateAdd title There are numerous things to give up to be happy. Here is a list of only nine things to give up to be happy. * Complaining* Limiting Beliefs* Blaming Others* Negative Self-talk* Dwelling on the Past* Resistance to Change* The need to impress others* The need to be always right* The need for others approval Two weeks ago we talked about 1 Complaining. Last week we covered 2. Limiting Beliefs, 3 blaming others, 4 negative self-talk. This week we will discuss #5 Giving up dwelling in the past #6 Giving up Resisting Change #7 Giving up the need to impress others. #5 Giving up Dwelling in the Past. We need to speak about the past with a commitment to letting the past go. Rehashing old stuff has you stuck in the past not moving forward. If you were traumatized then go to a specialist who deals in that area. Get complete. There are particular questions to ask to get complete. You can book a complimentary session, my gift to you. I will walk you through the exercise My commitment is you get free of the past so you can have space to move forward and create new beginnings. When you stay in the past you become a victim of the past. Rehashing old stories without getting complete causes you to resent the situation or people all over again. I was a victim of sexual abuse, beaten, etc from age two on. I left home at 15 to save my life. I bottled up all that anger, relieving the unfairness. It kept me stuck. Until I was willing to do the hard work and move on, I repeatedly was stuck as a victim. I have been free since my early thirties. It took hard work and I continually do growth work to make sure the past stays in the past where it belongs. You can too. Today once something happens it is the past. why let people live rent-free in your brain taking up space, Learn those four questions to get complete so you can be free moment by moment. I’m not saying it’s easy, but with practice, it becomes a daily habit to be free and complete to start new, daily. I promise that is real freedom. #6 Give up Resisting Change. I constantly resist change. When I’m grocery shopping at my local supermarket, if they change where they normally put the tea I get annoyed. I like things comfortable and familiar. Ha! have you ever heard of the saying whatever you resist persists? God will keep giving you the same problem over and over until you have learned the lesson. If you are in business you need to learn different social media or at least hire someone to do it for you. I resisted doing facebook lives, now with practice, it’s become natural to do a Facebook live every Sunday at twelve noon unless I’m leading or have another workshop. Same with my podcasting, when I first started the first 100 were pretty rocky, now no problem. I still get nervous and I do it anyway. In today’s fast-paced world you need to embrace change if you want a successful business. You don’t have to know how to do something perfectly. Create a support group around you and go for it. I’m in my sixties. I wasn’t raised with all this technical stuff and I’m doing it. I even hired an awesome virtual assistant so she can teach this old dog new tricks and she can do stuff a lot faster than I. It’s a great investment of my time to get her to do a lot of my technical work for me. Where are you resisting? Is it holding you back from being more effective? What could you do to shift that? What new action are you going to take after listening to this podcast that will move you forward? I talk about this in Chapter 13 of my best selling Book ...

 Things to give up to be happy Part 2 #439 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 15:48

There are numerous things to give up to be happy. Here is a list of only nine things to give up to be happy. * Complaining* Limiting Beliefs* Blaming Others* Negative Self-talk* Dwelling on the Past* Resistance to Change* The need to impress others* The need to be always right* The need for others approval Last week we discussed giving up complaining. This week we are Discussing #2. Giving up and recognizing limiting beliefs #3Giving up Blaming others # Giving up and recognizing negative self talk. #2 Limiting beliefs are tough to discover becaus we usuallly are blind to them. The easiest thing to discover limiting beliefs is wherever you have any should. I should, they should is a limiting belief. #3 Blaming others. What are you avoiding? You are getting something out of blaming someone else rather than take responsibility. Listen to the podcast. #4. Negative Self-talk. We selfdom notice we are talking negatively. It looks real so we justify why we say what we say. Have you ever caught yourself saying “that was dumb” “I’m not smart enough, fast enough, ” “they can do it but I can’t” those are all negative self-talk, there are many more. We all have friends where we can see the negative self talk. we seldom see it in ourselves. The opportunity is to catch yourself, and to invent new conversations that will move you forward. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go the way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others?Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to personally hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me know they left a five-star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min Discovery session.  During this session, I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward.  Also, there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total Package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just a private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session. Go to my webpage and book a sessionAnything that is said on this podcast and anything said before or after are from my views only.Thanks for Listening!Keep THRIVING! AND LET’S GET YOU UNSTUCK and have you THRIVE!Go to my web page https://www.wendybergen.com/amazon cahttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B084X2BPHTamazon.comhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B084X2BPHTamazon uk

 THINGS TO GIVE UP TO BE HAPPY! #438 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 13:56

There are numerous things to give up to be happy. Here is a list of only nine things to give up to be happy. * Complaining* Limiting Beliefs* Blaming Others* Negative Self-talk* Dwelling on the Past* Resistance to Change* The need to impress others* The need to be always right* The need for others approval Complaining: Stop Focusing on what isn’t working You need to kow the facts. Just look at whats not working as a reference to whats so. Focus on what are the actions I need to take right now to turm this aroumd?What are the solutioms and if I can’t think of any, Invite others to look at the situation with you and ask them what am I dealing wtih in this situation?Then break it down into bite size actions. Ask what are the actions I can take so I can start moving forward. I ascert if you do this you will get freed up. Complaining doesn’t give you any access to freedom or the ability to take any new actions. Start looking at what so in the situation with a commitment to moving forward. You want to have committed listeners for the project you are playing at. Look at whats missing to get the project moving forward? If you put the missing into the project would that allow you to start moving forward? Start asking questions about the situation or project. What is my main goal here? What do I intend to happen? What are the benefits to me if I accomplish this? What are the benefits to others here? Remember when there is a breakdown and we are complaining. There wouldn’t be a breakdown unless we had a commitment to something else happening. There would be no upset unless we are committed to a different outcome than what is happening. So next time we are complaining start looking for the payoff? What do you get to avoid when you are complaining? What do you not have to be responsible for? You are getting something out of the complaining. One thing you are getting is you get to be right and they are wrong. That can be a payoff. As long as they are wrong you don’t have to be responsible to make it work. Sometimes we are blind to what is in front of us. Sometimes we are too attached emotionally to the situation. Be willing to be open and brainstorm with others for solutions. In the brainstorming, you may get to see something in a different light. Next week we will go over some of the other things to give up to be happy. I think this will be a three part podcast. Enjoy. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go the way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others?Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to personally hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me know they left a five-star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a compli...

 Experience vs what happened #437 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 16:28

When I was a little girl, just a toddler I was taken from my home, parents, and family and put in different foster homes until I was nine. I would frequently say as an Adult I was torn from my family and raised in foster homes. Words create our world. When I got some coaching recently, about the words I used, and those words shaped my world. Torn means I’m a victim. I was a victim of my circumstances. I had no say in the matter. Imagine waking up and finding yourself in a strange home, no mommy or daddy or your older and younger sister. They are just gone. I have a little granddaughter almost four years old. She lives with her mom through the week and I babysit her. Then her dad usually has her on weekends. This is routine for her. I couldn’t imagine what it would be like for her if the routine was taken away, she never got a say and was raised with strangers. My experience was I was terrified, confused, uncertain. I felt I had no voice. I didn’t matter. What I wanted didn’t count. My coach got me to look at the whats so of the situatiion The reality was, I was taken from my home and put into another home with strangers. I didn’t understand why and made up a lot of things about myself and others. I started living my life from all those conversations I made up about myself, about others. You can not trust adults. I can’t have what I want. Life is tough and scary. Those conversations shaped me and I took action from those conversations. Life occurred for me as not safe, you can’t trust anybody and I personally can’t have what I want. When I look back over my life I see a pattern that I had never seen before. So our words shape our world. When I say I was torn I am a victim. When I say I was removed from my home and raised with strangers, something else becomes available. I don’t have to live my life from being a victim. I was victimized as a child and that doesn’t have to shape me as an adult unless I hang on to conversations that keep me victimized. Like I was traumatized, I was torn. I ascert breaking things down into simple (what happened), takes the drama and emiton away and gives you some access to your own power. I believe it is our birth right to be successful. Pay attention to how you word things. Words shape our world. We take actions from those words. Take on be conscioous to what you are saying to yourself, to others and to the world. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go the way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others?Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to personally hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me know they left a five-star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary...

 What Shapes Your Actions! #436 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 14:51

I noticed that what shapes my actions is how I hold something, or perceive something. How something occurs for you can shape your actions. I discovered that I have been blind to an old conversation that shapes most of my actions. When I was a little girl, I was removed from my siblings and parents and put in several foster holmes. I made that mean I don’t count. I can’t have what I want. I’ve seen that conversation before and thought I had interrupted it. Yet when you look back over my life there is a definite pattern there that keeps me from achieving what I want. I had never seen that before. Its come up alot lately and I’m curious where that old conversations runs my actions. There is a default way of being and acting when I experience I don’t count or I can’t have what I want. If I look deeper some of the conversations I say to myself when I experience I don’t count is “why bother” “What the use” etc. I finally am seeing that I set up my life so I don’t get what I want. There is a definite pattern. Sometimes it’s subtle. I have a large number of monies and then I end up giving it away or spending it when I could have done something else, like buy a property for security. When I married my former husband I owned a store and an apartment and had no debt. Twenty-three years later when we split I am broke, living in poverty, and have to start again. I have had to start again from scratch financially a few times. I find that interesting. I say I want to be a billionaire philanthropist yet if you looked at my bank account, there is a huge gap there. How does life occur to you in the moment.? Can you see some patterns if you look at your past and now. What is a default way of being that you fall back on over and over again? Get curious. what shapes your actions, you might be surprised. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min Discovery session.  During this session, I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward.  Also, there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total Package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just a private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session. Go to tmy webpage and book a sessionAnything that is said on this podcast and any thing said before or after are from my views only.Thanks for Listening!Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK and have you THRIVE!Go to my web page https://www.wendybergen.com/amazon ca

 Expectations & Holidays #435 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 14:51

Expectations & holidays can lead to resentments. Try it out whenever you have an expectation, something should be a particular way. When it doesn’t go the way you want it to you get resentful. Mothers day is a holiday Try to remember whatever you focus on manifests. So don’t be attached to an outcome. You can make requests and then let people choose what’s best for them. Our children are God’s gift to us. We don’t own our children. It is our privilege to raise and guide them. As mothers, we do the best we can with the tools we have. We are not perfect, we make mistakes. Let our children celebrate us. Let us celebrate our children. I usually work every holiday. I ask my children if we can celebrate after and they usually are fine with it. I love that my children want to hang out with me. It’s usually brief and then off they go to their other things. I don’t know about you but the biggest gift to me is your giving of your time and playing card or board games with me. Eating together and playing together. Consider if you have an expectation and you get disappointed it did not turn out as you wanted. You had a premeditated resentment. I’ll let you ponder on that one. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b)I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.!Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.comFace book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min Discovery session.  During this session, I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward.  Also, there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total Package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just a private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session. Go to tmy webpage and book a sessionAnything that is said on this podcast and any thing said before or after are from my views only.Thanks for Listening!Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK and have you THRIVE!Go to my web page https://www.wendybergen.com/amazon cahttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B084X2BPHTamazon.comhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B084X2BPHTamazon ukhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B084X2BPHT

 WHO says U can’t CHANGE your PAST! #433 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 16:35

ARE YOU STUCK in a story that leave you DISEMPOWERED? Picture this: I’m forty-six years old and get a phone call at 3:00 am. from my half-sister; our mother has just died unexpectedly in her sixties. My sister informs me that my mom’s burial will be in three days. At that time, I was a single mom with a 3-year old and a 10-year-old. I could not afford financially or time-wise to fly three thousand miles on short notice. I found out from my twin brother that my half-siblings didn’t share the reading of the will and they took everything. (later i found out that legally we could have insisted on seeing the will, given we were her children as well). We didn’t receive anything. All the memories of being abandoned were right there for me; they seemed so real to me. My internal voice is ranting, “one more time”, and ” I don’t count.” Who made that story up? Me, and then I gathered all the evidence to support that story, and it’s not hard to justify given I’ve bounced around living in foster homes for most of my youth. Then my distinctions from Landmark Worldwide kicked in, life is a story, it’s all made up. I decided then and there that if I made up, “I don’t count,” I can change the story to one that would free me and empower me. So I did and some of the creation of my new story is from the truth. Imagine my new empowering story. It goes like this: My mother had insured her common-law husband when he died, the insurance paid for the house that my half-siblings grew up in. Because the house was purchased with the insurance money, my mother felt it was their dad’s legacy to give to them. Inside of this new empowering story, I WASNS ‘T BEING ABANDONED ONE MORE TIME. My half-siblings were being acknowledged by their dad and mom. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. That new statement empowered me, ad I no longer felt abandoned. Wow, I CHANGED THE PAST (ABANDONMENT STORY) ALL WITHIN MINUTES. How powerful is that? You too can rewrite your story and you can rewrite your past or at least the meaning you put on the past. We have patterns everywhere and they evoke emotions and memories. I was excited to discover this access. When I started to distinguish what was really going on versus my stories that I made up, it allowed me to take ownership, and to realize that I can alter my perception. That might sound crazy, but I have viewed certain experiences a particular way from the past and when I started being responsible and recognizing that what happened was my perception, my internalized conversation, I realized that my creation of, “I don’t count,” and “why bother?” was getting in the way and keeping me stuck. These limiting statements became a barrier by which I viewed life through a limiting lens and I gathered the evidence to confirm my limiting belief of, “I don’t count,” and “what’s the use,” and “Why bother?” It’s very powerful for you to see this. Landmark Worldwide is a course where you get to distinguish this very powerfully. Check it out. If you can practice this distinction you can have freedom, clarity, and power. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part?

 The Power of Acknowledgement! 432 | File Type: audio/mpeg | Duration: 15:06

I’m inviting you to look at Achnowlegemet in a way you may have never looked at before. Consider that when we acknowledge people they feel heard or understood and connected to you in a way that helps your communication flow better. You need to authentically acknowledge them and it is easy to do. Acknowledgment can be expressed in many different ways. It can be verbal letting the person know what you like, admire or love about them. It can be in a gift form. Writing them a note or buying them a small token or it can be done with a smile. It can be done by you amplifying them to others. It can be done just by smiling at someone, or touch them lightly somewhere their hand, back, knee. Another powerful way to acknowledge people is to really listen to them. Don’t judge just listen. People start to heal the moment they feel heard. You can’t be a healer if you refuse to step outside of your own emotions and view things entirely from the perception of the other person. Another way to acknowledge is to write down all your accomplishments. If we want to be masterful at acknowledgment, we need to be able to acknowledge ourselves, the good the bad and the ugly. First I want you to simply acknowledge your accomplishments and focus on them. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the person you are in the mirror. Practice daily acknowledging yourself for one thing. Do the mirror work. Look right into your eyes until you fall in love with who is there. Practice daily acknowledging someone else. Remember it doesn’t have to be verbal. It can be with a smile. Also another practice to take on is when someone is annoying you. Stop. Authentically look at what are their accomplishments. What are they really good at. There is always something. Then Authentically acknowledge them. Take that practice on and look at what miracles can occur. Track the miracles. Go for it!  I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write to me at wendy@wendybergen.com Face book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min Discovery session.  During this session, I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward.  Also, there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total Package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just a private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session.

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