Better Choices For Life: Your Coaching Guide

In this final episode we do a  review of Season 1, and find out what you get in Season 2!

Feeling anxious in a social or work situation? Want to overcome this issue? In episode 11, Julia and Nakul show you how to transform your Self Image. Experience a dramatic shift in how you feel and respond, and boost your confidence. For individualised one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn how to: * Change the internal images you make of yourself and of other people, feel more confident and have more choices about how you behave in challenging situations * Modify your internal image to feel more resilient and strong on the inside * Use your internal image to motivate yourself toward your outcomes Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * Andreas, Steve. Transforming Your Self – Becoming who you want to be. Moab, UT. Real People Press, 2002 * Andreas, Connirae, and Andreas, Steve. Heart of the Mind. Moab, UT. Real People Press, 1989 * Derks, Lucas, Social Panoramas. Crown House Publishing Company, 2002 * Andreas, Steve, and Andreas, Connirae. Change Your Mind – and Keep the Change. Moab, UT. Real Property Press, 1987

Feel like your mind is racing at a hundred miles per hour? Tired of negative critical Mind Talk? Want to know about this ONE thing that can skyrocket your chances of success? In this episode you’ll learn how to: * Stop your negative mind talk * Change it to help you deal with anxiety * Use it to create strong motivation * Build a great relationship with yourself   To resolve specific issues with the help of one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * ‘Help with Negative Self-talk’ Volume I, by Steve Andreas, © 2009 Real People Press, www.realpeoplepress.com * Trancescript Number 47, June 2009, Article “SLEEP: An NLP Perspective” © Dr Richard Bolstad, originally 1995 * Ekman, Paul. Emotions Revealed: Understanding Faces and Feelings. London,Orion, Phoenix, 2004 * ‘Your Voice – How to Talk to Yourself and Why It Matters’, by Pamela Weintraub, June 2015, Psychology Today

Do you have trouble falling asleep? Do you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t fall asleep again? Or maybe it’s a mixture of both? If so, this episode is for you! Sleep better by learning new secrets to falling asleep naturally and easily. To resolve specific issues with the help of one-on-one coaching face to face or online, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn how to: * Adjust your environment and modify your behaviours and habits * Establish routines that help you get to sleep * Manage the positive intentions of not-sleeping * Effectively use self talk to sleep Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * Trancescript Number 47, June 2009, Article “SLEEP: An NLP Perspective” © Dr Richard Bolstad, originally 1995 * Transforming Sleep CD http://www.integrace.co.nz/products and http://www.transformations.net.nz/products-books.html: Track 1: A Complete Guide To Using NLP To Transform Your Sleep, and Track 2: The Transforming Sleep Process (45 minutes)

Do you or someone you know have a child who gets upset, angry or scared in certain situations? In episode 8, we talk to an eight year old child and show her how to feel confident and better manage a stressful situation. This powerful technique with proven results can easily help your loved ones discover breakthroughs in such patterns. To resolve specific issues with the help of one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn how to: * Help children improve their relationships by stepping in to a positive state of mind * Assist children to Anchor themselves in to a desired state of mind e.g. confidence for an exam * Use this technique to show children how to manage their state of mind effectively Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * Short film ‘Just Breathe’ helps kids deal with emotions (amysmartgirl.com) * ‘Inside Out’, 2015 comedy-drama film * ‘NLP and change with children’, Lynn Tympany

Welcome to Episode 7, where we share techniques on how you can get in to a state of Confidence and Relaxation easily. Listen and get information on how to receive a FREE Audio Guide. To resolve specific issues with the help of one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn how to: * Improve your relationships by stepping into a positive state of mind * Anchor yourself into positive feeling states of Confidence and Relaxation * Use these techniques to manage your state of mind effectively Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * http://www.transformations.net.nz/trancescript/resilience.html * http://www.gottman.com/marriage-couples-research/research-abstracts-marriage-couples/

Do you want to learn how to be more resilient in challenging situations in your personal or professional life? Listen to episode 6 of our Podcast series, where Dr. Richard Bolstad explains the keys to creating resilience. Learn how using these strategies can help you to respond better when there appears to be a ‘crisis’. To resolve specific issues with the help of one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn: * About patterns of resilience, recovery and chronicity in response to crisis situations * How to respond to challenging situations through good goal setting and avoiding ‘double thinking’ * How to find the best frame for looking at experiences in your life * How to step in to a state of mind that you want Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * http://www.transformations.net.nz/trancescript/resilience.html * http://www.transformations.net.nz/trancescript/resilience-chronicity.html

Welcome to Episode 5! Along with guest Dr. Richard Bolstad, an expert in the field of NLP, we talk about what happens in the brain when someone goes through a traumatic event, the current research on Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and techniques that can help someone recover from trauma. To resolve specific issues with the help of one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn about: * How the brain codes traumatic events * Research and new approaches to help overcome them * Tips to reduce the impact of traumatic memories  Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * http://www.transformations.net.nz/trancescript/trauma-process-handouts.html * http://www.transformations.net.nz/trancescript/christchurch.html

Welcome to Episode 4! What you do AFTER Your Talk can tremendously affect your next presentation! Learn simple strategies that will help you become better at public speaking, faster. To develop individual techniques in one-on-one coaching, contact Julia and Nakul on their pages at www.betterchoices.life In this episode you’ll learn how to: * Make taking questions and answering work for you, not against you * Handle challenging questions with elegance and respect * Use feedback to your advantage * Build ‘Bulletproof’ confidence by consciously choosing how you evaluate yourself * Transform ‘your own worst critic’ into ‘your own best supportive friend’  Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * Harvard Business Review https://hbr.org/2013/03/the-ideal-praise-to-criticism/ * http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Anthony_Robbins * https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200403/marriage-math * https://www.gottman.com/research/research-faqs/

Welcome to Episode 3, in which we share simple and effective tools that you can use to overcome nerves during your presentation. To develop individual techniques in one-on-one coaching, contact Julia or Nakul via their pages on www.betterchoices.life. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: * Use your voice qualities to emphasise your message, i.e. Tonality (Question, Narration, or Command), Volume, and Pitch. * Use non-verbal communication to make your presentation more impactful. * Manage your state through peripheral vision. * Prepare for and recover from anything unexpected and even use the unexpected to your advantage Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * A. Mehrabian’s findings on communication * The Guardian on the ‘uptalk’ questioning tonality * Andy Smith, Trainer on ‘The Power of Peripheral Vision’

Welcome to Episode 02! In the next three episodes – Before, During, and After Your Talk – we will focus on strategies that can help you overcome your nerves and improve your public speaking skills. We share simple, practical, and new tools that you can use to dramatically improve your public speaking. To develop individual techniques in one-on-one coaching, contact Julia or Nakul via their pages on this website. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: * Pause, and punctuate your talk, as you can only talk when you are breathing out! * Think in terms of what you WANT INSTEAD of what you do NOT want. * Channel your nervous energy into enthusiasm as successful speakers and performers do. * Prepare and practice your script until you memorise it. * Get into the powerful states of Confidence, Passion, and Enthusiasm leading up to your talk by altering your body just before. Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * TED talk by Amy Cuddy http://blog.ted.com/2014/09/23/amy-cuddy-power-poses-through-pop-culture/

Welcome to our first podcast episode! We are dedicating this first season of our podcast show ‘Better Choices for Life’ to an issue which is the No.1 complaint amongst our clients, and highly common among the general population. We are talking about ‘Anxiety’ and the problems associated with it, and offer you free tools and techniques to overcome it. If you follow the guidelines suggested in these episodes, you can expect to have a better response to a variety of situations which make you anxious, and enjoy more of what you truly want in your life. In this episode, you’ll learn: * About the structure of Anxiety and how you make it happen in your brain * How to coach your brain to think differently and focus on what’s more useful * Three Tips on how to end Anxiety by- * Identifying and modifying your internal triggers * Directing your attention to what you want and setting realistic outcomes * Adjusting your muscles, breathing and internal imagery Links and Resources mentioned in this episode: * http://btci.stanford.clockss.org/cgi/reprint/2/4/325.pdf, (Barlow, Esler and Vitali, 1998, p 312) * https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-real-story-risk/201211/the-thing-we-fear-more-death * http://www.livescience.com/9125-woman-fear-intrigues-scientists.html * http://www.transformations.net.nz/trancescript/nlp-and-the-treatment-of-anxiety.html * http://www.lynntimpany.co.nz/building-outcome-bridges * http://www.thesecretsofyoga.com/breathing/how-the-nostrils-work.html * http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/12/16/brain-damaged-no-fear_n_797848.html