Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Discover a new voice and unique perspective in the treatment and assessment of attachment injuries. Dr. Patricia Crittenden shares her model, the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment and Adaptation, and uses her rich international background to deepen our understanding of culture and context on self-survival strategies.

Want a totally free, no-hangover naturally produced cuddle-drug?  Oxytocin provides a boost of the best bonding drug possible and is the natural love drug our bodies make at key relational moments such as child-birth, nursing, orgasm and falling in love.  In this episode we discuss how to create this moral molecule without even needing complicated human relationships by connecting mutually to our companion pets.  What's not to love about that?

The science of relaxing into love, this episode continues the exploration of Polyvagal Theory by bringing it to life through discussion and real-life examples.  Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley continue to break down one of the most important theories of our generation when it comes to trauma and psychological treatment.

Dr. Stephen Porges, the neuroscientist behind Polyvagal Theory & Sue Marriott discuss mechanisms in the brain that create an array of psychological symptoms. Learn how to regulate your nervous system and co-regulate those you love. Full version.

Learn 3 distinct features that make one vulnerable to addiction and understand the varied dynamics through the lens of attachment with guests Brad Kennedy and Dr. Vanessa Kennedy. By getting curious about our behaviors and understanding why we do what we do, we can begin shifting our narrative from one of shame to one of compassion.

Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new?  There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make.  Kids are naturally curious.  As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered!  What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that curiosity is one of the most powerful relationship tools we have?  Curiosity is much more than a quest for knowledge and is not as simple as it seems.

It's hard enough to unfold yourself in therapy, but when your life experience has challenged you, avoidance is sure to follow.  It is difficult to open up if you found safety in being cloaked - but that cloak can clog up our current adult relationships.  Dang it. Sorry to tell you what we imagine you already know. :) Gotta lose the cloak, friend.

This episode breaks down and enhances your neurofluency - the basics of neuroscience as it relates to human beings in relationship. This skill will help you with your boss, your teacher, your student, your child, you client or you spouse. Learn to use the solid findings from interpersonal neuroscience in therapy on either side of the couch, as clinician or patient, and across varied life experiences. Co-host Sue Marriott interviews Dr. Lou Cozolino, a master psychologist, researcher, and world renown author of a boat load of books and original articles on the subject. Please hit play and enjoy!

Building security by yourself can seem near-impossible, so for today we are ditching the heady neuroscience to break down 6 quick tips to improve self-confidence entirely on your own.  It's what to do, not why to do it.  You’ll discover how this handful of minute steps can vastly improve the way you feel internally and the way you carry yourself externally.

This episode is packed! Learn about complex trauma, debunk myths of false memories from an expert witness of child sexual abuse, and revisit the 3 Pillars Model of effective treatment for attachment disturbances! Also special offer included.

We end the year by co-host Sue Marriott addressing in depth 2 questions from our audience. These focus on mentalization, the attachment spectrum and regression. We look at how we can lose the capacity to mentalize when we are in a dismissing state of mind and what happens when we regress into early modes of functioning - fun juicy topics! Enjoy!

Using the science of attachment, mentalizing and emotional regulation in the classroom.  A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one's life and the workplace.

Neurobiological differences can be detected between secure and insecure relating, and even between the two organized insecure patterns of attachment (Dismissing and Preoccupied)!  Cool, huh!? In this Therapist Uncensored episode, co-hosts and real therapists Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP  begin to the question – why are there only 3-4 categories established in the largest body of attachment research given the zillions of different experiences across the globe?  We point to the neuroscience behind our attachment strategies that limit our biology in responding to stress and threat. This is cool because we can understand it and begin to gain mastery over our primitive reactions (& help regulate those close to us – quite a perk!). As always, we love to hearing from you!  Uncensor you feedback, comments & discussion – get in touch, or better yet, leave us a live Voicemail that we can respond to by clicking the side button on our website (add your email to enable us to message back)! In this episode, TU84, we discuss: * What is social engagement and what is the neuroscience behind it? * The role of Oxytocin in positive interaction seeking behaviour * Discrepancies in how information gets encoded between different partners can lead to difficulties with couples, especially with how future social information is encoded * The link between attachment and threat * The role of re-appraisal & neuroception * The difference between emotional and cognitive mentalization * How mentalization looks across the attachment spectrum Join the Conversation We primarily use Facebook and Twitter (@austinshrinks) This week’s question (for our private online Facebook group – join here if you are a neuronerd and would like interesting, supportive, non-solicitive engagement with other neuronerds!) Question: What 1-2 specific take-aways did you get from this episode?  (ie. What do you want to remember or for other people to be sure to hear?) Explore these Resources from this episode: * Neuroscience of Social Interaction and Adult Attachment Style – GREAT article! * The Neurobiology of Infant Attachments  – a list of articles * Neurobiology of Social Interactions – for true nerds Liked this episode? Then you’ll probably enjoy this one, too Establishing Neurological Safety Through Relationships with Guest Bonnie Badenoch. Follow our Podcast * Subscribe to  Therapist Uncensored on any podcast player, there are TONS but here are links to:  iTunes, Android (Google Podcast app now supports all formats, it’s already on your Android phone) and Spotify   (this means epidsodes are downloaded automatically to your podcast player) * You can listen via Alexa or Google smart speakers… *  

Learn about the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma.  In addition, this episode addresses the myth of self-regulation and how to re-engage interpersonal relationships if they’ve been neglected. Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP chats with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind. You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our day-to-day life using our autonomic nervous system.  Also, special hats off to Steve Porges and polyvagal theory. 0:00-30:00  What creates safety? How do our internal systems want us to be received?  Sympathetic activation happens when there’s a need to control something in light of an obstacle. Internal systems challenge to remain in an open and receptive state. Polyvagal theory and Steve Porges. How can we explore the relationship between safety and curiosity and best use the language of “safety,” versus “comfort” and “discomfort”, especially towards the beginning of therapy and in new relationships? Badenoch contends that there’s no such thing as a maladaptive experience; that humans are always adaptive and require co-regulation.  What’s the difference between co-regulation and auto-regulation? Is there a “myth” of self-regulation? Discussion of  ideal parent figure protocol.  Badenoch explores the connection between co-regulation, neural circuitry and forging relationships in your life.  30:00-60:00  Social Baseline Theory is what happens to our perceptions when someone we trust is with us. The difficulty and pain of tasks is always reduced when we’re with a trusted beloved and this relaxes our amygdala response.   Badenoch walks us through her experience of feeling safe during and between client sessions.  It’s key to have mutual, caring, receptive relationships with people who are willing to listen rather than jump in and try to offer advice. Young therapists. Everyone’s doing the best they can with what they have in their neural make up but how can we embody a therapeutic presence in the world through compassion or a “happy humility”?  Resources: A Symphony of Gifts From Relational Neuroscience (1) Excellent PDF from Bonnie Badenoch Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology [2008] Badenoch  The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook [2011] Badenoch  The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships [2017] Badenoch The Heart of Trauma Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships  by Steve Porges!   For our listeners! We’ve partnered with Audible so that our listeners get a free audio book and 30 days free membership, cancel at anytime! GET MY FREE BOOK HERE We are now part of Patreon!  Become a Supernerd, an Out and Proud Supernerd or become a Platinum Neuronerd!

Can men be BOTH Relational and Masculine?  It couldn’t be a more important time for thoughtful, honest, and provocative discussion on what it means to be a man in today’s culture.  Perel makes a case that men are both harmed by the existing power structures and perpetuate harm by the codes imposed on them by all of us. In 2018 there are many contentious ideas about masculinity and “the male code” including confusion by men about how to hold themselves out as safe and masculine during this time of #MeToo and Kavanaugh. Esther Perel, named by Oprah as one of the 100 Supersoul visionaries joins Therapist Uncensored’s hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott in a daring discussion about the modern man at the precipice of historic mid-term elections in the United States.  Can women discuss this without “womensplaining” and what is the difference?  Well there certainly is…  Find out by hitting play! Perel also gives a glimpse into the backstory of her next Sessions Live event, the Masculinity Paradox  Second annual Sessions Live: “The Masculinity Paradox” sign up here. What is it – check it out below: Debates around patriarchy, gender equality, toxic masculinity, fatherhood and changing sexual dynamics surround us like fog, throwing us into an unusual time of transition, confusion and trouble. This one-day Sessions 2018 clinical event and workshop is built on the premise that if we support change in the emotional lives of men, it inevitably changes the lives of their partners. Drawing from psychology, trauma theory, family systems therapy, and anthropology, The Masculinity Paradox provides an essential multidisciplinary training on the current cultural crisis of gender relations — and its unique potential to change and improve the lives of all.   Episode notes: 00-20:00 Perel discusses her interest in the topic of men as well as the ability to discuss others in general and encourages women to talk about masculinity and men to talk about femininity.  Perel previews what her “Sessions Live” events are like.  Perel reflects on under/over-representation in certain fields and how she can better provide a platform for unheard voices.  Perel’s definition of the modern man and modern masculinity as a win-or-lose mentality. Perel breaks down “the male code”. What are the pressures put on men in society and in relationships?  20:00-40:00  Expectations of change compared with ambivalence towards change. Emotional afflictions of women can be considered worse for men because society deems that they are not supposed to have these feelings.  Like this and want to hear more?  Join our email list here, subscribe to Tunes here or leave us a voicemail on our website just click the button on the right, we may read or play your review on air, please rate and review us on your favorite podcast player, it helps so much!! Finally – this is really easy – join our Facebook page here to get updated popular articles on these subjects of interest. Check out our free YouTube video on using the attachment spectrum:  Modern Adult Attachment 101 to learn more Want more like this? Sexual Vitality 6 Principles of Sexual Health with Doug Braun-Harvey Resources: Masculinity Paradox livestream