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Competitive Mindset: Is There’s More to Life Than Winning or Losing? — Tripp Lanier Does your mood go up or down depending on your numbers? Do you get pissed off when someone else gets more recognition than you do? And what can we do so that our competitive mindset doesn’t get the best of us? Today we take a look at how we can make the most of our competitive mindset without turning life into a pissing match. Plus I share some tips for dealing with the fear of missing out, playing small, and that time I got diarrhea from the FSU vs Miami football game. Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle. Tripp Lanier is… Tripp Lanier is the author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times. As a Professional Coach… Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun. As Host of The New Man Podcast… Tripp Lanier has conducted hundreds of interviews with experts and authors from all walks of life including: * Tim Ferriss (The 4 Hour Workweek, The 4 Hour Body, The 4 Hour Chef) * Laird Hamilton (Big wave surfing legend) * Ryan Holiday (The Obstacle is the Way, The Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic) * Phil Stutz and Barry Michels (The Tools, Coming Alive) * Dan Millman (Way of the Peaceful Warrior) * Steven Pressfield (The War of Art, Turning Pro) * Robert Greene (48 Laws of Power, Mastery) * Steven Kotler (The Rise of Superman, Stealing Fire)

Doc G (Earn and Invest) - Is There More to Life Than Chasing Money and Being Important? Do you worry that you’re on the wrong path in life? Are you focused on goals and outcomes or doing what you actually enjoy? And what if there’s more to life than chasing money or the need to be important? Before Doc G became a writer and host of the Earn and Invest Podcast, he was like many doctors. But after years spent chasing outcomes, money, and building an ideal version of himself, he realized he was in a trap. Today we discuss how he reinvented his personal and professional life based on what gave him a sense of aliveness and meaning. We’ll also dive into our fixation on money, safety, and why death can be a wonderful teacher. In this interview: * Is life forcing you to change? * Who are you if you’re not chasing money? * Joseph Campbell on feeling alive * Doing things to prove we’re enough * Why ego gets in the way of meaning or purpose Plus: * Why Doc G got depressed once he was financially free * Thinking if you were someone else you’d be free once and for all * Redefining your life based on what brings aliveness and meaning * Chasing outcomes instead of enjoying the process * Dealing with resistance and self-doubt * Searching for “hacks” to avoid discomfort, risk, and vulnerability And: * How dealing with death on a regular basis impacts our ability to live * What is hospice? * What is the dying process like? * How does spirituality affect our ability to die peacefully? * The fear of dying with peace instead of regrets Click here to check out Doc G's podcast and blog Earn & Invest. About Doc G Doc G was born in Evanston, Illinois, in 1973, his interest in becoming a doctor ignited when his father, an oncologist, died unexpectedly in the prime of life. This profound and life-shaping boyhood loss colors Doc G's self-reflective writing and manifests as his “genetic destiny” to practice medicine. After graduating from the University of Michigan, he moved to Chicago and received his medical degree from Northwestern University. He now practices Internal Medicine in Northbrook, Illinois. He was an Assistant Professor, first at Northwestern University and then at The University of Chicago. He has been a medical director of several nursing homes, started multiple palliative care programs in extended care facilities, and currently is an associate medical director at Journeycare Hospice. Doc G's strong leadership stance for responsible medical training permeates many of his stories and essays. He shares from his own experience, advising and plainly addressing the challenges of becoming a physician in today’s political-medical milieu. Doc G is passionate about communicating. He is a consummate writer and speaker about not only medicine but also personal finance. He started a podcast, Earn & Invest, in 2018 to explore financial independence and wellness. He has also run several small businesses including a concierge medical practice, an online art gallery, and a blog and podcast on personal finance. Click here to check out Doc G's podcast and blog Earn & Invest.

Brian Johnson and the Hero’s Journey to Build Heroic Do you have a sense that something is rumbling in your soul, trying to get out? Do you feel confused about who you are professionally? And are you waiting until you feel ready, or are you building the world you want to live in? Philosopher and CEO, Brian Johnson is back. This time he’s set his sights on an ambitious goal to create a company that will change the world. The Heroic Public Benefit Corporation is a platform that will provide the tools for optimal living as well as an online community that will become the answer to The Social Dilemma. At the time of this recording, Brian’s raising $11 million to get the ball rolling, and Heroic stands to be the first company in history to raise $5 million through crowdfunding. There’s so much more to his grand vision, and you can learn more by visiting wefunder.com/heroic. Now if you’re like most of us, you may have a sense that there’s something calling you to the next level of your life. Perhaps you’re not clear about the role you’re supposed to play or maybe you just don’t want to rock the boat. Brian is no different. And so as Heroic finds it’s footing in the world, he’s agreed to pull back the curtain and let us in on his personal process. Throughout this series of interviews, we’ll ride along with Brian through his hero’s journey — and find our own gold along the way. In this interview: * Heeding the call to go big * Dealing with ambivalence * “Am I a philosopher or a CEO?” * “What one can be, one must be.” Maslow * Walt Whitman, “Simmering, simmering, simmering…to a boil” * “What kind of world do I want to live in and what am I going to do about it?” * Building the answer to The Social Dilemma Plus: * Confronting self-doubt * Meditation to increase personal power * Phil Stutz and leaning into the things that scare you * Does pain or discomfort mean something is wrong? * Wanting to find the hack, cheat code, or short cut * How do we know if we’re on the “wrong” path? And: * Trusting yourself instead of doing what makes others feel comfortable * The key to becoming anti-fragile * Hustling and success that makes us “weak” * Burning ourselves up and out in order to impress others * Is ambition a dirty word? * Living and working in service of something bigger than yourself * No more waiting to lead Click here to learn more about Brian Johnson's project Heroic. About Brian Johnson After selling my first business (eteamz) over 15 years ago (at 26), I had enough money to take a little time off to figure out what I wanted to do when I grew up. I became a lover of wisdom—a philosopher. My quest? I was obsessed about understanding what makes great people great. What is it about that .0001% of people in the world who truly optimize their lives, actualize their potential and give their greatest gifts in greatest service to the world? (And… enjoy the process!) I read a ton and traveled a bit, studying Socrates in Athens, Aurelius in the Danube of Hungary, Jesus in Jerusalem, and Rumi in Konya, Turkey. I started sharing what I was learning via a daily newsletter that quickly went from a couple hundred friends to thousands of people.

John Jantsch - Self Reliant Entrepreneur Does being professionally successful mean you have to sell your soul? What happens when we do things just to make a buck? And how did a subpoena from the FBI help today’s guest reveal his deeper values? Duct Tape Marketing founder, John Jantsch has written some bestselling business books, and now he’s pulling back the curtain to discuss how our deeper values play a role in our success. His book, The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur is a gift to those of us who want to create alignment between what we believe and how we create value in the world. If you’re tired of the typical, hyper-achievement BS that passes for business advice, then today’s conversation will be a breath of fresh air. In this interview: * Dealing with the unknown * Learning lessons the hard way * How building a business transforms us as people * The trap of doing things just to make a buck * The fear of polarizing others Plus: * Finding your values * Saying no to things outside of your integrity * What happens when we come from a place of lack * Playing a role just to be successful * What does it mean to be self-reliant? And: * Why business is more like nature than a linear formula * Are our professions more like competition or art? * Who were the transcendentalists? * How is transcendentalism different from stoicism? Click here for John Jantsch's book The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur: 366 Daily Meditations to Feed Your Soul and Grow Your Business. About John Jantsch John Jantsch is a marketing consultant, speaker, and author of Duct Tape Marketing, The Referral Engine, Duct Tape Selling, The Commitment Engine, and SEO for Growth. His newest work, The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur: 366 Daily Meditations to Feed Your Soul and Grow Your Business taps into the wisdom of 19th-century transcendentalist literature and the author’s own 30-year entrepreneurial journey to challenge today’s entrepreneur to remain fiercely self-reliant while chasing their own version of success. In addition to his own writing, speaking and consulting career Jantsch is a podcasting pioneer, with a continuous string of weekly podcast episodes dating back to the summer of 2005. He has interviewed thousands of guests and appeared on the other side of the mic, as a guest, hundreds of times. Click here for John Jantsch's book The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur: 366 Daily Meditations to Feed Your Soul and Grow Yo...

The Truth About Relationships - Neil Strauss (Replay) Note: This is a previously released interview from The New Man. It’s been a while since it was published, but the valuable ideas are still just as relevant today. Here’s an opportunity to listen again or for the first time. Enjoy! What do you say to your wife so she doesn’t get upset? If you’re attracted to other women does it mean something is wrong with you or your relationship? And is your relationship something that supports you to live an amazing life or is it a cage of rules and limitations? Neil Strauss is here to discuss the cost of dishonesty and what he’s learned from his journey through infidelity, sex addiction rehab, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, sex clubs, and now marriage and fatherhood. In this interview: * Sleeping with his girlfriend’s best friend * Patterns of withholding information and the truth * Going to rehab for sex addiction and/or love addiction * Tantra, sex clubs, swingers, “the lifestyle”, polyamory, open relationships * Living in a house with multiple women/sex partners Plus: * How our relationships with our parents shape our romantic relationships * Why his mother isn’t currently speaking to him * Setting healthy boundaries with parents and loved ones * Why Neil severely restricted phone and internet access for himself * Dealing with anxiety thru porn, social media, and other distractions And: * Finding power in being comfortable with yourself * How to tell if you and your relationship need some help * Books and workshops to consider if you want to explore them * Tips for being honest with your partner (including my story about almost losing my mind on a beach in Hawaii) * Resisting the temptation to hide and isolate * The importance of mentors and being part of a group that talks openly and honestly about life Click here for Neil Strauss' book The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships. About Neil Strauss Neil Strauss is a ten-time New York Times best-selling author. His books, The Game and Rules Of The Game, for which he went undercover in a secret society of pickup artists for two years, made him an international celebrity and an accidental hero to men around the world. Both books topped The New York Times best-seller list and were #1 on Amazon, and the former has the dubious distinction of being the most stolen book at Barnes & Noble besides The Bible. In his follow-up book, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships, Strauss dives deep into the worlds of sex addiction, non-monogamy, infidelity, and intimacy, and explores the hidden forces that cause people to choose each other, stay together, and break up. He was a music critic, cultural reporter, and columnist at The New York Times for a decade, where he won the ASCAP-Deems Taylor Award. He has also won awards for his cover stories for Rolling Stone, for which he’s well-known for earning the trust of some of the most guarded and secretive celebrities in the world. These interviews were collected in his best-selling book Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead.

The Tools to Get Out of Your Own Way - Barry Michels (Replay) Note: This is a previously released interview from The New Man. It’s been a while since it was published, but the valuable ideas are still just as relevant today. Here’s an opportunity to listen again or for the first time. Enjoy! Do ever you feel bad when you compare yourself to others? Would you get pissed if someone called you “average”? And what’s more important to you: being the best you can be or being better than someone else? The Tools and Coming Alive co-author Barry Michels is back to discuss the trap of external validation. We’re going to talk about how trying to be better than others is an un-winnable game and how we can learn how to play our own game instead. In this interview: * Why seeking external validation through money, sex, and attention is an un-winnable game * The difference between creating and getting * What if you were to give up hope that you’ll ever get the external reward you want? * The huge difference between being the best you can be vs being the best in the world (or industry, community, etc.) Plus: * Why being average is so scary for so many * How to tell if you’re being a “black hole” or a “sun” * How to tell if you’re the icky sales guy (that creeps everyone out) or someone who inspires others Click here for Barry Michels' book Coming Alive: 4 Tools to Defeat Your Inner Enemy, Ignite Creative Expression & Unleash Your Soul's Potential. About Barry Michels Barry was profiled in the March 21, 2011 issue of The New Yorker (“Hollywood Shadows, A Cure For Blocked Screenwriters,” by Dana Goodyear.). With his coauthor, Phil Stutz, he wrote the New York Times bestseller The Tools in 2012, and its sequel, Coming Alive, in 2017. He has published numerous articles in Psychology Today, Salon, and Quora. Featured by Joel Stein in Time Magazine, he has also been interviewed by Dr. Oz, Lawrence O’Donnell and Charlie Rose, and has appeared on ABC’s Nightline. Barry has given his workshops at a variety of venues, including In goop Health summits in Los Angeles in 2017, in Vancouver in 2018 and in London in 2019. He has given a Google Talk, and has spoken at 20th Century Fox Television, the University Club of Chicago, the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, the Writers’ Guild, the 92nd Street Y and the Endeavor 2019 annual retreat. Barry received his A.B., magna cum laude, from Harvard College in 1975, his J.D. (law degree) from University of California Berkeley, School of Law (Boalt Hall), in 1979, and his M.S.W. from U.S.C. School of Social Work in 1984. He maintains a clinical practice in Los Angeles and teaches internationally. Click here fo...

The Mindset Difference Between a Leader and a Follower: Are You Hiding Out? — Tripp Lanier Not everybody gets to be king. What’s the mindset difference between a leader and a follower? Are you a king hiding out as a knight? And how do we define success on our own terms? In this short lesson, we explore the major mindset differences between a leader and a follower. We discuss why so many of us are “kings in hiding,” as well as some practical tools to own our creative, visionary energy in service of something greater than ourselves. Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle. Tripp Lanier is… Tripp Lanier is the author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times. As a Professional Coach… Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun. As Host of The New Man Podcast… Tripp Lanier has conducted hundreds of interviews with experts and authors from all walks of life including: * Tim Ferriss (The 4 Hour Workweek, The 4 Hour Body, The 4 Hour Chef) * Laird Hamilton (Big wave surfing legend) * Ryan Holiday (The Obstacle is the Way, The Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic) * Phil Stutz and Barry Michels (The Tools, Coming Alive) * Dan Millman (Way of the Peaceful Warrior) * Steven Pressfield (The War of Art, Turning Pro) * Robert Greene (48 Laws of Power, Mastery) * Steven Kotler (The Rise of Superman, Stealing Fire) *

Motivation Beyond Fear: Underachievers vs Overachievers — Tripp Lanier Do you have “just enough disease” or “never enough disease”? Is there a better motivation than fear? And how can we learn to turn pro, find flow, and finally do what matters? Today we discuss ways to find motivation beyond fear, develop our self leadership, and get out of the feast or famine cycle. In this episode: * The (2) types of fear based motivation * “Just enough disease” and “never enough disease” * Getting out of a prey mentality * Developing self leadership and sovereignty * Turning pro and finding flow Plus: * Always pushing but never getting anywhere * Our inner critic and the fear of being a loser * Creating from something deeper than fear * Stephen Pressfield on Turning Pro, The War of Art  * Getting out of the feast or famine cycle Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle. Tripp Lanier is… Tripp Lanier is the author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times. As a Professional Coach… Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun. As Host of The New Man Podcast… Tripp Lanier has conducted hundreds of interviews with experts and authors from all walks of life including: * Tim Ferriss (The 4 Hour Workweek, The 4 Hour Body, The 4 Hour Chef) * Laird Hamilton (Big wave surfing legend) * Ryan Holiday (The Obstacle is the Way, The Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic) * Phil Stutz and Barry Michels (The Tools, Coming Alive) * Dan Millman (Way of the Peaceful Warrior) * Steven Pressf...

No More Mr Nice Guy Do you get pissy when you do something nice for someone and they don’t return the favor? Do you bend over backwards to avoid upsetting your woman, family or friends? (Remember this podcast?) And why do the guys who go out of their way to please everyone always get the raw end of the deal? Today we’re talking with the author of No More Mr Nice Guy, Robert Glover. How are the macho jerk and the spineless wimp really the same? And what are the four steps YOU can take to avoid the nice guy syndrome? Note: This is a previously released interview from The New Man. It’s been a while since it was published, but the valuable ideas are still just as relevant today. Here’s an opportunity to listen again or for the first time. Enjoy! In this episode: * How can you tell if you’re a Nice Guy? * What is the Nice Guy Syndrome? * Why does the Nice Guy make his life so difficult? * If you’re a Nice Guy, does that mean you need to be a jerk? * How is the Nice Guy very similar to the Macho Jerk? * What are the (4) Steps for Getting Out of the Nice Guy Syndrome? * What can you do TODAY to work with your anxiety? Click here to learn more about No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. About Dr. Robert Glover Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life and Dating Essentials for Men. Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships. Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men and the director of TPI University. Dr. Glover lives in Puerto Vallarta,

Am I With the Right Person? — Tripp Lanier Do you ever wonder if you’re with the right person? What are the 3 reasons why so many of us end up in relationships where we feel bored, overwhelmed, drained, trapped, or even isolated? And how can we take baby steps so that our relationships are more expansive, empowering, and rewarding? In this video, we explore the purpose of our relationships and how this relates to the rest of our lives. Plus, you’ll hear how I was humiliated when my cheerleader girlfriend broke up with me in middle school. In this video: * Are you settling in your relationship? * Not feeling aligned with your partner * Walking on eggshells * Withholding the truth in order to keep the peace Plus: * How always playing it safe kills our sex life * Turning your lover into a parent instead of a partner * Waiting for our partner to change Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle. Tripp Lanier is… Tripp Lanier is the author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times. As a Professional Coach… Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun. As Host of The New Man Podcast… Tripp Lanier has conducted hundreds of interviews with experts and authors from all walks of life including: * Tim Ferriss (The 4 Hour Workweek, The 4 Hour Body, The 4 Hour Chef) * Laird Hamilton (Big wave surfing legend) * Ryan Holiday (The Obstacle is the Way, The Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic) * Phil Stutz and Barry Michels (The Tools, Coming Alive) * Dan Millman (Way of the Peaceful Warrior) * Steven Pressfield (The War of Art, Turning Pro) *

How to Meditate for Mindfulness — Tripp Lanier What’s the point of meditation? How does it help us bounce back from fear and reactivity? And what’s it like to meditate in a room full of farting people? Today, Tripp Lanier shares some insights gained from 20+ years of meditation plus why he insists that his coaching clients develop a meditation practice. In this video: * Why bother meditating? * Why your hobby isn’t a meditation * Flow states vs meditative states * Different types of meditation * Developing the “witness” or mindfulness Plus: * A basic overview for how to meditate * Meditating in a room full of farting people * The upside to having a consistent meditation practice * How meditation helps us become better leaders * Become the “chairman of the board” in our minds Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle. Tripp Lanier is… Tripp Lanier is the author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times. As a Professional Coach… Since 2005, he has spent thousands of hours coaching people all around the world to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were put on this earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, meaning, and fun. As Host of The New Man Podcast… Tripp Lanier has conducted hundreds of interviews with experts and authors from all walks of life including: * Tim Ferriss (The 4 Hour Workweek, The 4 Hour Body, The 4 Hour Chef) * Laird Hamilton (Big wave surfing legend) * Ryan Holiday (The Obstacle is the Way, The Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic) * Phil Stutz and Barry Michels (The Tools, Coming Alive) * Dan Millman (Way of the Peaceful Warrior) * Steven Pressfield (The War of Art, Turning Pro) *

The War of Art, Fear, and Resistance Note: This is a previously released interview from The New Man. It’s been a while since it was published, but the valuable ideas are still just as relevant today. Here’s an opportunity to listen again or for the first time. Enjoy! Are you planning to some day — when the time is right — finally get around to living your dream or calling? Why do you sabotage yourself? And is it possible to make yourself sick because you don’t do what you were born to do? Legendary author of The War of Art, Steven Pressfield is with us to talk about beating resistance, getting out of your own way, and finding your true calling. In this episode: * What is resistance? * How resistance can ruin your life * Self-sabotage * Resistance and cancer * The “Authentic Swing” and the Authentic Self * What are you called to do? * How to beat resistance Click here for Steven Pressfield's book The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles. About Steven Pressfield Steve Pressfield was born in Port of Spain, Trinidad, in 1943, while his father was stationed there, in the Navy. He graduated from Duke University in 1965 and in 1966 joined the Marine Corps. In the years following, he worked as an advertising copywriter, schoolteacher, tractor-trailer driver, bartender, oilfield roustabout, attendant in a mental hospital, fruit-picker in Washington state, and screenwriter. His struggles to make a living as an author, including the period when he was homeless and living out of the back of his car, are detailed in his book The War of Art. His first book, The Legend of Bagger Vance, was published in 1995, and made into a film of the same name, starring Will Smith, Charlize Theron, and Matt Damon, and directed by Robert Redford. His second novel, Gates of Fire, is about the Spartans and the battle at Thermopylae. It is taught at the U.S. Military Academy, the United States Naval Academy, and the Marine Corps Basic School at Quantico. In 2012, he launched the publishing house Black Irish Books with his agent Shawn Coyne. Click here for Steven Pressfield's book The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles.

Do you wonder how to be more productive? Are you busy but still feel like you’re not doing enough? Today we explore the possibility that our desire for greater productivity may be rooted in fear and delusion. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2020/10/how-to-be-more-productive

"I was a mercenary set out to divide and conquer.” Are we being manipulated to believe today's funhouse mirror version of reality? How to have a powerful mindset when everyone acts like turd tossing toddlers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2020/10/divide-conquer

A quick dive into the uncomfortable topic of integrity. Let’s shine a light on the ways we fudge the truth, the costs of doing so, and the opportunity to use honesty to great advantage. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2020/10/personal-integrity