The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

How do you feel when you realise or sense that someone doesn't like you? If intrusive thoughts about this have popped up more than you would like and even kept you awake at night, you are far from being alone. Natalie shares some of the reasons why humans dislike each other. She also talks about why not being liked bothers us so much, how we are often most bothered when it's someone we don't like or when we don't feel that we've 'earned' their feelings, and she also shares some questions for self-exploration and moving forward. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/151 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Natalie does a quick catch-up before going on her summer break until September. Meet me in Amsterdam August 8th: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/events Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Break The Cycle: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/breakthecycle Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

If you hardly knew somebody and something felt off, would you dismiss what you were sensing, seeing or hearing, or would you pay attention? Well, if like so many of us do, you ignored you, you're not alone. If you get niggling messages from within but dismiss them because they don't make sense or are 'inconvenient', you're definitely not alone. Natalie talks about how turning 42 and leaning into her forties has caused her to double down on listening to herself and shares ideas for tuning in. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/150 Meet me in Amsterdam: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/events Break The Cycle: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/breakthecycle Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

So many people experience shame around having needs, which is like being ashamed of breathing! Natalie delves into emotional needs and the importance of being our primary caregiver. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/149 Events: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/events Break The Cycle: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/breakthecycle Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Ever had somebody say something to you that *seems* like it’s supposed to be taken as a compliment, but it’s totally not? Or, have you been in a situation where someone’s making sly digs under the veneer of a smile or being helpful? In this week’s episode, Natalie delves into put-downs and how to handle them from an assertive place instead of putting you down in response. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/148 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Events: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/events Break The Cycle: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/breakthecycle Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Many of us have some level of fear of being alone, and when this drives us, it leads to some pretty painful and dubious choices. Is being with ourselves really that bad? Natalie delves into alone versus lonely, why alone doesn't equal 'unloved', and more. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/147 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Events: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/events Break The Cycle: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/breakthecycle Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

When things don't go according to plan and we feel baffled by someone's behaviour or the outcome, retracing our steps will inevitably reveal the slippery slope that we were on with our boundaries. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/146 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

There are 5 stages of relationships, and stages 0-1 set the foundation for what lies ahead (or doesn't). Natalie talks about the parallels between dating and job searches and how adopting a recruiter mindset keeps us grounded during these crucial stages so that we can be more discerning and set ourselves up for being available for the type of relationship we say that we need and want. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/145 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Natalie explores why so many of us don't realise that the pressure we feel to be or do certain things isn't always about what we actually want. Often it's about what we think we're supposed to want because we're, for example, approaching or in our forties, are a woman of a certain age, or because it's what our parents told us was the way life works. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/144 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

When Natalie had to train for the 2018 London Marathon in less than four months, it didn't take long before she realised that she was employing lessons she'd learned from doing No Contact and her initial struggle to create healthy boundaries. If you battle an inner critic that encourages you to do stuff only to switch things up and scare the bejaysus out of you about those same choices, or you wrestle with perfectionism or backtrack on changes you've decided to make because of the discomfort you experience, this episode is for you. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/143 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

How good do you feel about yourself and a relationship if it feels like you had to campaign or even hound your partner into committing? Yeah... exactly. Natalie talks about commitment-resistance and why it's time to stop trying to drag commitment out of people. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/142 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Do you know the difference between empathy and overempathy? Well, if you feel as if you've been burned by rescuing or helping, or you've stayed in situations long past their sell-by-date, it's time to discover the difference. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/141 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Have someone's lies baffled you because you thought that it was so ridiculous or unnecessary or that it was undeserved given how much effort you've put in? Has discovering a white lie caused you to question your future with someone because of how honest you believe you to be? Do you find it really triggering to be lied to, or to try to be honest with others? In this week's episode, Natalie delves into the topic of lies, including what motivates us to lie and why we sometimes need to check ourselves when we're insisting that we "never, ever lie". Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/140 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

Do you know where you learned your break-up habits? It's safe to say that it wasn't on the curriculum at school. Old memories and associations, especially ones we may have long forgotten, along with underlying concerns about avoiding things we fear or dislike, contribute to how we respond to being broken up with or us ending a relationship. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/139 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim

For many of us, the idea of willfully crossing somebody's boundaries sends a shiver through us. In fact, we'll often cross our own boundaries to accommodate those of others! But some people just don't give a fiddle about other people's boundaries, something we'll often blame ourselves for. Natalie explains the reasons behind their boundary aversion. Instagram: instagram.com/natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Show notes: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/138 Blog: www.baggagereclaim.com Membership: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/membership Twitter: twitter.com/baggagereclaim