Relationship Alive!

Ever feel like there’s a little too much drama in your life? Well, if that’s the case, then you probably have been caught in the Drama Triangle. If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle then be prepared - you’re going to start seeing it EVERYWHERE. Today you’ll learn how to spot it - and even better, how to escape it. Our guest is Dr. Stephen Karpman, the creator of the Drama Triangle, and author of the recent book “A Game-Free Life: The Definitive Book on the Drama Triangle and the Compassio

How do you communicate about your feelings in the most effective way possible? While we're at it, how do you even *feel* your feelings so that they can move through you - instead of getting stuck or repressed? And, as you learn how to communicate about your feelings - what does the way that people respond to you tell you about them? This week, you'll discover some easy ways to touch into your deepest feelings, and to communicate about them in ways that can help connect you to the people in your life.

How do you know if you, or someone you love, is addicted to sex, or porn? What can you do about it? And along with healing patterns of addiction, what is most helpful for the partners of people with addiction? Our guest is Paula Hall, one of the world’s leading experts on treating sex and porn addiction, and the author of “"Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction” and many other books on the topic. You’ll learn powerful strategies to overcome sex addiction and reclaim a healthy sex

Are you being true to who you are? What are the ways that you're holding back in your relationship, or compromising yourself? Even if you're single, there might be ways that you're not quite being fully yourself! Of course, sometimes being "you" is risky - and requires courage and vulnerability. In this week's episode, you'll diagnose the places where you could be shining a little more brightly - and help you learn how to step back into integrity before your light gets too dim- or the resentment too great.

Conflict is often viewed as a bad thing. It’s uncomfortable. It makes us feel bad, and often makes others feel bad too. What if you’re missing out on an opportunity? This is the moment where something new can form within that relationship. And within you. This week we're joined by Viola Neufeld. She works to help those stuck in conflict to get to a place of profound inner transformation. Viola is also the author of “Grateful For The Fight: Using inner conflict to transform yourself and your relationsh

It’s easy to talk about “Self Care” - to pay lip service to it - but what does it really mean to take care of yourself? In today’s episode, we’re going to get back to basics to ensure that you’re actually nourishing the most important person in your world - you! Because if you’re not, then how are you going to show up for the people around you? By the end, you'll have a sense of exactly what's essential for keeping you at your best.

There are ways to communicate that keep you stuck, or that make things worse - and there are ways to communicate that foster the healthy development of your relationship. So how do you avoid the pitfalls, and reconnect with each other in spite of your differences? Or even in appreciation of your differences? In today’s episode, we have a return visit from Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, co-founders of The Couples Institute, with practical tips to improve the health of your relationship through communicatio

In what ways are you being controlled by your partner? In what ways are you controlling them? How does it help you? And how does it hurt you? In today’s episode, we’re going to dive deep on this issue of control, and see if we just can’t dismantle the ways that it’s holding you back in your relationship. By the end, you'll see exactly what structures of control you've put in place in your relationship, understand why they're there, and have a path towards greater freedom to be yourself in your relat

Is it possible to be a spiritual being in a human body? Transcendent, yet grounded? Why do so many “spiritual leaders” tell us to leave our feelings behind? Can you be truly connected to another person - including on the spiritual level? To get to the heart, body, and soul of these questions, we’re talking to Jeff Brown, author of “Grounded Spirituality”. Jeff’s will connect you to your precious, unique divinity - in a way that’s practical, connected, and...real. Or as he might say...enrealed

Can people really change? And how do you know if someone *will* change? It's a good question, especially if you're dealing with some significant challenges in your relationship. You might be wondering about your partner - or you might be wondering about your own ability to do things differently. We'll tackle how change works - what are the requirements for creating changes that stick? What's a realistic pace for change? And how can you tell if someone else is truly going to do what it takes?

When looking to change things in your world, how do you let pleasure be the force that guides you? How do you fulfill desire while you fight for change? How do you take care of yourself while you transform? Today we’re speaking with author, activist, and healer adrienne maree brown. Her most recent book, the New York Times bestseller “Pleasure Activism”, leans into black feminist traditions to challenge you to rethink how to facilitate change in your own life without sacrificing health or pleasure.

When things get challenging in your relationship, what's the best way to ensure that you and your partner can make it through? How do you avoid the losing strategies that come naturally in a moment of crisis - and, instead, choose ways of dealing that are more likely to lead to a positive outcome? Whether it's something small, or something apocalyptic, we'll talk about how to weather the storm successfully, with strategies that will help you navigate a painful moment without doing something destructive.

How would you know if there were experiences from the earliest moments of your life affecting you here and now? And if you are indeed being impacted by the distant past - what can you do to heal those early traumas so that you’re more free and connected in your current life? Our guest today is Peter Levine, creator of Somatic Experiencing, and author of many bestselling books on healing trauma. Today you’ll learn how to see the signs of these deep emotions, and what to do to regulate them with your part

Do you want one surefire way to know if the way you're interacting with your partner is something that they're into? Get their consent! Is there a place for getting consent even in a long-term relationship where you're pretty sure you know what your partner wants (and doesn't want)? Absolutely! Getting consent is a pathway to deeper intimacy, passion, and presence - for ALL relationships. Today you'll learn how to re-introduce the language of consent in a way that's empowering for both you and your partner.

Beneath anxiety, depression, guilt, and shame, are core emotions that are hardwired into our circuitry. When you’re able to tap into the core emotions - and move through them - you’ll feel a new sense of freedom and empowerment. Our guest today is Hilary Jacobs Hendel. She’s a psychotherapist and the author of the new book, "It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self,” which will be a game changer for you.