Relationship Alive!

As much as we don't like to admit it, we all hold a vivid image in our minds of our partner at their worst. And the bad news is, your partner also holds a core negative image - of you! Thankfully, we also have a core *positive* image - which is part of what keeps us in relationship when things get challenging. Based on the groundbreaking work of Terry Real, the core negative image is an important tool in elevating your relationship. You'll learn to take this "core negative" and use it for something good.

What do you do if you want to have conversations about emotions with your partner, and all they want to do is talk about how they think about things? Or vice versa? In today’s episode, we chat with Sue Johnson for a few minutes to get her take. Sue Johnson is the author of “Hold Me Tight” and the creator of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) - and has trained thousands of couples therapists. Sue also reveals one thing that you can do, today, to add positive energy to ANY relationship.

Remember that spark you had with your partner when you first met? Well, how do you get that back after you’ve settled into a routine of work, home, dinner, dishes, mouthguard, sleep? Today’s guest is Dr. Cheryl Fraser. Cheryl combines her knowledge of how the mind works from a psychological and Buddhist perspective with her mission to help people create sexy, passionate, playful relationships. She’s also the author of Buddha’s Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy.

What do you do if your partner tells you that they don't love you anymore - or, maybe, that they think they never actually loved you? What are your next steps if your partner had an affair? These are all varying degrees of "leaning out" of your relationship. So - how do you respond in a way that has the best chance of not only preserving your sanity and dignity - but also, potentially, re-igniting your relationship? In today's episode we get to the heart of what to do in these situations.

With so many different potential approaches to helping your relationship, how do you choose the one that’s right for you? The Gottmans, Sue Johnson, Esther Perel, David Schnarch, Stan Tatkin, Ellyn Bader & Peter Pearson, Terry Real - all describe different ways of getting the same thing - a loving, thriving, passionate relationship. To help us integrate, we’ve invited Dr. Keith Witt back to the show. Keith Witt is an integral psychologist, and will help us make sense of all these roads that lead to Rom

Are you worried that your partner might not like you for who you truly are? And if you notice that you've been not entirely "you" in your relationship - how do you shift gears to create more authenticity? Sometimes we discover something new about ourselves. Other times we knew all along that there were aspects that we've been hiding. In today's episode, I show you exactly how to bridge the gap into truly being yourself - and how to invite your partner to be more authentic.

How do you actually heal old attachment wounds in partnership - so you can create passionate, secure attachment with your partner? Our guest today is Dr. David Mars, the creator of AEDP for Couples, and he is here to teach you how to connect with your partner powerfully, in the present moment, to rewire your brain, break unhealthy patterns, and find the joy and wonder that’s waiting for you just below the surface.

We’re all talking about attachment style now, and how it relates to the way that we show up in relationship. It can be enlightening to learn about your attachment style, and to see how it plays out in your relationship. And...to see your partner’s attachment style. How do you avoid being victimized? Is there a way to get beyond the unhealthy ways that we related to each other? If you’re a securely attached person, how do you avoid the potential challenges when your partner has an insecure attachment s

Communication can feel very complex - but today we’re going to show you some very specific and practical exercises you can do with your partner that will improve your communication, mindset, and relationship satisfaction. This week, our guest is Jonathan Robinson, the author of More Love Less Conflict: A Communication Playbook for Couples. Jonathan Robinson has worked with many couples and has been featured on TV and media (including being on Oprah several times!)

How do you figure out your truth? In a loud world full of distraction, chaos, and uncertainty, there's a simple way to get to the truth within you - that you can do in a mere 15 minutes (or less). In today's episode, Neil Sattin will go on the journey with you, to discover the truth that's right there within you, waiting to be known. You'll also get a break from overwhelm and information overload by getting in touch with your own stillness, the inner guidance system that's waiting there with wisdom for you.

What if you had a way to improve your relationship in just 20 minutes per week? Working on your relationship doesn’t have to be heavy and time-intensive. This week, our guest is Alicia Muñoz. Alicia is the author of the new book No More Fighting: The Relationship Book for Couples: 20 Minutes a Week to a Stronger Relationship. After today’s episode, you’ll have a sense of how to improve the quality of your time with your partner - and worry less about the quantity.

The Five Love Languages only tell part of the story. It's just as important for you to understand the "Four Fear Languages" Just like the Love Languages, the Four Fear Languages are universal - we all share them, but experience them in different ways. In today's episode we'll pick up where Gary Chapman left off, and you'll discover how understanding your core fears, and your partner's core fears, will help you create more love and connection in your relationship. Heal your triggers by understanding them!

What if there were a guide written to help you not only communicate better with your partner, and experience love more deeply - but that would also heal the triggers that keep creating conflict between you and your partner? As it turns out - that guide exists! This week, our guests are Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D, authors of the classic book, Getting the Love You Want which was just updated and re-released. Hear them reveal the essential pieces that they use in their own relationship.

We all share a need for variety in our lives. Without it, our lives can be tedious and boring. But sometimes, our quest for adventure and novelty can stop feeding us, and instead can actually become detrimental to our well-being. How do you know if you have a healthy amount of variety? And how do you know if your pursuit of variety has become something negative? After this episode, you’ll be able to quickly diagnose yourself, or your partner - and know exactly how to remedy the situation.

Is depression affecting you or someone you love? What do we know about the best ways to overcome depression? And how can we mitigate the ways that it impacts our relationships? This week, our guest is Michael D. Yapko, Ph.D., clinical psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and author of 15 books and he is here to share how he approaches treating depression and provides some steps that you can take if you’re dealing with depression yourself.