The Confidence Podcast Archives - Trish Blackwell

Podcast #547   SELF-TALK THAT CHANGED MY LIFE It's time to master the transformative power of self-talk and sharing strategies for shifting your self-talk to change your life. The way we talk to ourselves can have a profound impact on our mindset, emotions, and behavior. Negative self-talk can lead to feelings of anxiety, self-doubt, and even depression, while positive self-talk can boost our confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. We'll explore practical techniques for changing your self-talk, including mindfulness, visualization, and cognitive restructuring. These are the shifts in self-talk that changed my life, and can change yours. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/547 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * How shifting your self-talk can change your entire life * Self-talk shifts that have changed mine * How to practice powerful self-talk consistently REVIEW OF THE WEEK: ANNOUNCEMENT: STOP CARING MONTH EXTRAORDINARY LIFE MONTH Both are happening at www.collegeofconfidence.com BUT EVEN BETTER. It wouldn't be a birthday without giving gifts, right?  This one's for you (even though it's my birthday). If you've never tried the COC out before, come and see what all the fuss is about … for FREE. For the next 5 days you can get 14 days for absolutely FREE. This is only if you've never given us a try before.  Go to www.trishblackwell.com/40th SELF-TALK COACHING My 40th birthday gift to myself is to spend a month in Paris.  I decided to do this on my 30th birthday. On my 30th birthday I had been 5 years into thought -work, and into reigniting / recommitting my life to the Lord.  I turned 30, then traveled to Bora Bora to marry Brandon.  We had a fairytale wedding. I remember walking on the overwater bungalow walkways and setting plans with Brandon that every big birthday - 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, 100 - we would do an epic travel adventure. One that was meaningful. And here I am, 10 years later, packing on my birthday for a month in Paris. We leave in just over two weeks. Paris is where I fell in love with life, when I was first there for a month when I was 20. It was where I had my first sip of wine, ever. It was where, years later, Brandon proposed to me. I started intentional thought work at age 25. My world exploded. This shifted me from fixed to growth mindset. 20 Year Old Me Thoughts: I need to figure this out.I hope this works. I gotta get better at …. I need to look impressive.  I can't fail or handle getting beat. I am worried that I might not be good enough.

Podcast #546   CONFIDENCE IMMERSION AND FAKING IT TILL YOU MAKE IT In this episode, we explore the concept of "confidence immersion" and the power of "faking it until you make it" as a way to increase both our perceived and actual confidence levels. We discuss the science behind this approach and share personal anecdotes and expert insights on how to adopt a confident mindset and behavior, even in situations where we may not feel entirely sure of ourselves. From adopting confident body language to practicing positive self-talk, we provide practical tips for building confidence and projecting a confident image to those around us. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/546 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * The difference of confidence immersion and faking it till you make it * How to show up as you belong, even if you don't feel like you do  * The magic that happens when you immerse yourself fully into what you are working to accomplish  REVIEW OF THE WEEK: ANNOUNCEMENTS 6 months from now you will have six months of excuses or six months of progress. CONFIDENCE IMMERSION "If you want to be successful, you have to start acting like it." - Unknown "The more you act like the person you want to become, the more you become like that person." What is it? -Like language immersion, going all in on something -Starting before you're ready How to do it? -Embrace being a beginner -Be willing to be vulnerable -Develop a positive, consistent, self-affirming voice -Show up as if you belong -Realize that no-one is actually paying attention Faking it till you make it means to act as if you have the confidence, skills, or knowledge to succeed in a particular area, even if you don't feel fully confident or competent yet. Here are some tips on how to do it: Practice visualization: Visualize yourself as the confident and successful person you want to be. See yourself speaking confidently, making decisions easily, and achieving your goals. * Adopt a positive mindset: Surround yourself with positive affirmations, motivational quotes, and success stories. Focus on your strengths and past accomplishments rather than your weaknesses or failures. * Learn from others: Observe and learn from successful people in your field. Study their habits, body language, and communication skills. Adopt these behaviors in your own life. * Dress the part: Dress professionally and appropriately for your job or industry. When you look the part, you will feel more confident and others will perceive you as competent. * Take small steps: Break down your goals into smaller, achievable steps. Each time you accomplish a step, it will boost your confidence and motivate you to keep going. * Practice, practice, practice: The more you practice a skill or behavior, the more natural and confident you will become. Don't be afraid to make mistakes; they are opportunities to learn and grow. Remember that faking it until you make it is not about being dishonest or pretending to be someone you're not. It's about stepping outside of your comfort zone and pushing yourself to be your best self. FAKING IT TILL YOU MAKE IT You don't really do this - you just tell yourself to start before you're ready This removes overthinking, procrastination, social anxiety,

Podcast #545   COMPARE & DESPAIR CYCLE In this episode, we tackle the topic of "compare and despair" and the negative impact that comparing ourselves to others can have on our mental health and well-being. We delve into the reasons why we engage in this behavior and provide practical strategies for breaking the cycle and cultivating a more positive and self-compassionate mindset. You'll get actionable tips for overcoming the urge to compare yourself to others and finding greater contentment in your own life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/545 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * 10 ways to break the habit of comparing yourself to others * My top 4 ways to actionably attack comparison when it pops up in your life * Some power thoughts to help you exit the tornado of Compare & Despair  REVIEW OF THE WEEK: ANNOUNCEMENTS The waiting list for my certification program is officially open. You are the first to hear about it. This is what you've been waiting for - those of you who have asked me about certifications, about having a successful coaching business, about how to teach my propriety coaching methodology to others, how to have confidence as your grow your business and how to work for me in my coaching work.  The first 10 people to commit to this cohort will get 50% off certification. We won't ever discount certification in the future. Be part of the first cohort, and get every update that's included in the future. Go to www.confidencecoachingcertification.com This is a 6-month, intimate training and mentorship program. We start in August, but you can save your spot today. QUOTES ON COMPARISON "Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt "Comparison is the death of joy." - Mark Twain "Don't compare your chapter one to someone else's chapter twenty." - Unknown "Comparison is the enemy of creativity." - Unknown "Comparison is the root of all feelings of inferiority." - Alfred Adler "Comparison is the death of authenticity." - Unknown "The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday." - Unknown "Comparison is an act of violence against the self." - Iyanla Vanzant "Comparison is the thief of dreams." - Unknown "Comparison is the cancer of happiness." - Unknown COMPARE AND DESPAIR "Compare and despair" is a saying that refers to the negative impact that constant comparison can have on our mental health and wellbeing. It means that when we compare ourselves to others,

Podcast #544WORK CONFIDENCEGet ready to boost your professional success with this episode where we dive into the crucial topic of work confidence. Discover how this elusive quality can make or break your career advancement and explore the many factors that contribute to our confidence levels in the workplace, from past experiences to our mindset and skills. With personal anecdotes and expert insights, we reveal practical tips and strategies that will help you build and maintain your confidence, including setting achievable goals, seeking feedback, and adopting a growth mindset. When you bring more confidence to your work, you'll enjoy less stress, better work/life boundaries, and faster career growth. Don't miss this essential episode that can transform your professional life! In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering:* Confidence for returning to work after a break, or for starting a new job* The 5 things needed for Confidence if you're an Entrepreneur* How to appear more confident than you feel* Knowing that you belong at the table - without overcompensating or overworkingANNOUNCEMENTS:Get the replay of my most recent masterclass:3 STEPS TO CONFIDENCESign up at www.trishblackwell.com/3STEPSSTOP CARING MONTH IS HAPPENING SOON!Join the College of Confidence to get all of the access! www.collegeofconfidence.comREVIEW OF THE WEEK:CONFIDENCE FOR RETURNING TO WORK OR FOR A NEW JOBReturning to work after a period of absence can be challenging, but there are some things you can do to regain your confidence and make the transition smoother. Update your skills and knowledge: If you've been out of work for a while, it's essential to update your skills and knowledge to keep up with changes in your industry or field. Consider taking a course or attending training sessions to get up to speed.Start with a part-time or flexible role: If you're feeling anxious about returning to work full-time, consider starting with a part-time or flexible role that can help you ease back into the workforce.Connect with others in your field: Networking with other professionals in your industry or field can be a great way to learn about job openings, gain new insights, and boost your confidence.Practice interviewing and networking: If you're feeling nervous about interviewing or networking, practice with a friend or family member to build your confidence and hone your skills.Be kind to yourself: Remember that returning to work after a period of absence can be challenging, and it's okay to feel nervous or anxious. Be kind to yourself, acknowledge your achievements, and celebrate your progress.Seek support: If you're struggling to regain your confidence, consider seeking support from a career coach, mentor, or counselor who can help you build your confidence and develop effective strategies for returning to work.CONFIDENCE FOR ENTREPRENEURSTop 5 things that make an entrepreneur confident as they grow their businessClarity of Vision: Having a clear and compelling vision for the business can help entrepreneurs stay confident and motivated as they grow their businesses. A strong sense of purpose and direction can provide the focus and drive needed to overcome obstacles and achieve their goals.Strong Network: Building a strong network of supporters, mentors, advisors, and partners can help entrepreneurs feel more confident and supported as they navigate the challenges of growing a business. Having a network of people who believe in the business and offer advice and feedback can be invaluable.Resilience: Being resilient and able to bounce back from setbacks is an essential trait for entrepreneurs. The ability to stay positive and keep moving f...

Podcast #543 LIMITING THOUGHTS AND WEAK BELIEF PROBLEMSLimiting language and thought errors can keep you from the live you were meant to live.  In this episode, we explore the ways in which our use of language can inadvertently limit our thinking and hold us back from reaching our full potential. From using absolute language to engaging in black-and-white thinking, we discuss the common pitfalls of our everyday speech and provide practical strategies for expanding our language and shifting our mindset to overcome these limitations. Join us for a thought-provoking discussion on the power of language to shape our reality. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/543In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering:* Limiting language that you might not even realize you're having and allowing* How to recognize thought errors - and what to do to take action* The steps to start taking responsibility for your thought management  Thought errors might be creating a negative mindset … and a negative mindset creates a negative life. ANNOUNCEMENTS:New webinar on work confidence --- 3 STEPS TO CONFIDENCE FOR ENTREPRENEURSFRIDAY, APRIL 28TH AT 2PM Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/moreconfidenceREVIEW OF THE WEEKWHAT IS LIMITING LANGUAGELimiting language refers to words or phrases that can restrict our beliefs, actions, or abilities by creating negative self-talk, reinforcing self-doubt, or imposing limitations on what we can achieve. Examples of limiting language include:* "I can't"* "It's impossible"* "I'm not good enough"* "I always/never"* "I should/shouldn't"* "That's just the way I am"* "I'll never be able to do that"* "It's too hard"* "I'm too old/young"* "I'm not lucky enough"By becoming aware of these limiting phrases and replacing them with more positive and empowering language, we can shift our mindset, increase our self-confidence, and achieve greater success in our personal and professional lives.ABIDE SPONSORSHIPIf the first thing you do when you wake up is look at your phone, then try this: instead of checking social media, open the Abide app, and start your day in the Spirit and peace of Christ. Can’t fall asleep? Find rest as you listen to bedtime stories by Abide. Doze off peacefully, as you meditate on God’s word. Abide is the #1 Christian meditation app. Abide users report less stress, lower levels of anxiety and depression, and better sleep. Start your day with Abide’s daily meditation. Based on Biblical scripture, these audio meditations will center you and draw you closer to Christ. Abide’s meditations start at 2 minutes long. They’re easy to fit in your schedule, and feature topics like overcoming anxiety, managing stress, addiction and recovery, finding forgiveness, and more And at the end of the day, find deep rest with Abide’s bedtime stories. Based on the Bible, they’re great for kids and adults alike! Join the millions of people using Abide - including Grammy award winning singers, church leaders, and Christians like you. CALL TO ACTION: For a limited time, our listeners will get 25% off a premium subscription, when you text “trust” to 22433.  Get started now with 25% off a premium subscription by texting “trust” to 22433. You’ll get additional stories and meditations, premium music, soothing sounds, and more.

Podcast #542 MORE CONSISTENCY AND MORE FOLLOW THROUGH Inconsistency creates self-distrust and discouragement. Discouragement destroys hope. Knowing what you want to do, but not doing it, cerates a sense of hopelessness. When you feel this, it feels like there's no point in trying - and it's easy to get overwhelmed with the bigger picture. And then, ultimately, your own thoughts, words and attitudes create lack of consistency and lack of follow through, and thereby failure. But, when you change your thoughts and you'll change your outcome. You can decide today to become someone who doesn't struggle with consistency or follow-through, and as a result, your confidence will skyrocket In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * Why you're not consistent, and how that negatively affects your confidence  * The top 5 reasons you're not consistent & 5 ways to become consistent * The character traits of consistency * Becoming someone who follows through   REVIEW OF THE WEEK ABIDE SPONSORSHIP Can’t fall asleep? Find rest as you listen to bedtime stories by Abide. Doze off peacefully, as you meditate on God’s word. Abide is the #1 Christian meditation app. Abide users report less stress, lower levels of anxiety and depression, and better sleep. Abide’s meditations start at 2 minutes long. They’re easy to fit in your schedule, and feature topics like overcoming anxiety, managing stress, addiction and recovery, finding forgiveness, and more. Join the millions of people using Abide - including Grammy award winning singers, church leaders, and Christians like you.  For a limited time, our listeners will get 25% off a premium subscription, when you text “trust” to 22433.  Get started now with 25% off a premium subscription by texting “trust” to 22433. You’ll get additional stories and meditations, premium music, soothing sounds, and more. Support this show and get 25% by texting “trust” to 22433.  CONSISTENCY COACHING Fundamentals of consistency= DECIDE and then DO.  Why You’re Not Consistent -From Inconsistent to Consistent - Becoming a Person of Consistency * You haven't decided to be. * You aren't taking ownership of your responsibility to be * You are running yourself too ragged to even notice / you're floundering * You're holding onto past stories about how 1.0 You operated * You don't 100% believe that consistent effort will work  TOP 5 REASONS PEOPLE AREN'T CONSISTENT: Lack of Motivation: Many people struggle with consistency because they lack motivation or a strong reason to follow through with their goals or commitments. When people don't have a clear and compelling reason to do something, it can be difficult to stay consistent. Poor Planning and Organization: Consistency often requires planning and organization. If someone fails to plan ahead and organize their tasks, they may find it challenging to stay consistent with their goals. Distractions and Procrastination: Distractions such as social media, TV, or other time-wasting activities can derail a person's efforts to be consistent. Similarly, procrastination can cause people to delay important tasks and fail to follow through with their commitments.

Podcast #541 NOT READY SYNDROMEToo many people put off their goals and their dream lives with the seemingly innocuous thought  of "I'm not quite ready to start yet." Not Ready Syndrome is a sneaky way that you will stay stuck, even though you feel like you're "working" on your goal. Get out of the stagnation station of feeling "not ready" or "not good enough" and avoid the weight of impostor syndrome that comes with both by applying the tools of this episode to help you feel confident before you're "ready". This will help you become a massive action taker right away.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're exploring …* Not Ready Syndrome and how it's keeping you stuck* 3 ways to overcome Not Ready Syndrome * 5 easy ways become a massive action taker and create the life you dream of * 15 POWER PHRASES massive action takers thinkYa'll, people have always just assumed things come easily to me. But they haven't. I'm not a unicorn. I'm just a massive action taker. I'm willing to try and fail, and try again and fail again and try and pivot.  I learned this by watching my mom, and you can learn it by watching me. Just because you haven't done it in the past doesn't mean you can't do it moving forward now. ANNOUNCEMENTJoin me for 30-Minutes Live: 3 SIMPLE WAYS TO BE MORE CONFIDENT* Thursday, April 6th from 7PM-7:30PM EST* Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/moreconfidentREVIEW OF THE WEEKNOT READY SYNDROME I'm not ready.--> Mythical concept of "more time" or "feeling ready" -- neither exist!"I'm not feeling motivated enough right now.""I don't have enough time to start this right now.""I need to wait until I have all the resources I need.""I don't know where to start.""I'm not good enough to do this.""I'll do it later when I'm in a better mood.""I need to finish this other task first.""I don't want to fail, so I'm not even going to try.""I'm too tired to start working on this now.""I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do.""I'm too overwhelmed to even start.""I need to research more before I can start.""I'll just do it tomorrow instead.""I'll wait until I feel more confident to start.""I don't have the skills or knowledge to do this.""I don't want to deal with the stress of starting something new.""I'm waiting for the perfect moment to start.""I'm afraid of making mistakes, so I'm not going to start.""I'm not in the right mindset to start right now.""I'll start when I'm in a better place in my life."Things People Say with Impostor Syndrome:"I don't deserve to be here.""I'm not qualified enough for this job/position.""I'm not as talented as others around me.""I'm just lucky, it's not because of my skills.""I'm afraid of being exposed as a fraud.""I feel like I'm fooling everyone around me.""I'm constantly worried about making mistakes.""I feel like I have to work twice as hard to prove myself.""I'm afraid to speak up or share my ideas because they might be wrong.""I'm just faking it until I make it.""I'm afraid of being judged or criticized by others.""I feel like I'm not living up to expectations.""I worry that others will discover that I don't know as much as they think I do.""I don't feel like I belong in this field/industry.""I don't feel comfortable accepting praise or compliments for my work.""I feel like I'm not good enough to be successful.""I'm constantly comparing myself to others and feeling inadequate.""I'm afraid that I'll never be able to meet the expectations of others.

Podcast #540   THE 5 CORE PILLARS OF CONFIDENCE Confidence is easier to train within yourself than you might think. This episode explores the 5 simple core principles that create, strengthen and scale one's confidence. By mastering each simple principle, you will feel and experience a massive shift in your confidence mastery. As you solidify your confidence foundation, doors in life will open to you, please will be attracted to you, and success will come more easily. It all starts with these simple focus areas.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're exploring … * The 5 core principles of confidence --- a simple approach to confidence for anyone * How to know which one to start focusing on in your life * The benefits of scaling your "it factor" / how confidence is the holy grail of success  ANNOUNCEMENT Join me for 30-Minutes Live: 3 SIMPLE WAYS TO BE MORE CONFIDENT * Thursday, April 6th from 7PM-7:30PM EST * Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/moreconfident REVIEW OF THE WEEK THE FIVE CORE PRINCIPLES OF CONFIDENCE Know Who You Are Know That You Matter Know What You WantKnow How to Think Know Your Future Rocks  WHY SHOULD YOU DO THIS WORK ON YOUR CONFIDENCE? Get the it factor. Make more money.  The holy grail of success. Magnetize favor. Create more ease in your life. Live with peace in the present and about the future. Active expression of faith  WHAT IS CONFIDENCE AND WHY DOES IT MATTER? Belief in oneself: Confidence is the belief in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. It is the feeling of knowing that you are capable of achieving your goals and handling whatever challenges come your way. Trust in the outcome: Confidence is also the trust that you will be able to achieve the desired outcome, even if the path is not always clear or easy. It is the ability to remain optimistic and motivated, despite setbacks or obstacles. Self-assuredness: Confidence is the sense of self-assuredness that comes from having a strong sense of identity and purpose. It is the feeling of being comfortable in your own skin and knowing who you are, what you stand for, and what you want. Resilience: Confidence is also the ability to bounce back from failure or rejection, and to keep moving forward with a positive attitude. It is the resilience to handle setbacks and challenges, and to learn and grow from them. Action-oriented: Finally, confidence is an action-oriented mindset. It is the willingness to take risks, to step outside of one's comfort zone, and to push oneself to grow and develop. It is the ability to take bold and decisive action, even in the face of uncertainty or fear.

Podcast #539   STOP TRYING TO PROVE YOURSELF - YOU'RE GOOD ENOUGH ALREADY Constantly trying to prove oneself can lead to feelings of inadequacy and burnout. It's important to recognize and appreciate one's abilities and accomplishments, rather than always seeking validation from others. Focusing on self-improvement and growth can be a healthier approach than striving for external validation. Remember that you are already enough and worthy, and that your worth is not determined by external factors or validation from others.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * Overworking, Overcommitting and Work Anxiety  * The undue pressure you're putting on yourself * Work-ethic versus Life-Ethic * Trusting yourself to be good enough  REVIEW OF THE WEEK: PROVING YOURSELF Unhealthy Expression: Rooted in fear and desperation Anxiety and insecurity as driving emotions Focus on people's thoughts about you as a result Healthy Expression: Rooted in desire to see what you're capable of  Curiosity and excitement as driving emotions Focus on your thoughts about you as a result To stop proving yourself, you can take the following steps: * Identify the root cause: It's important to understand why you feel the need to prove yourself to others. Is it due to past experiences or a lack of self-confidence? Once you understand the underlying cause, you can begin to address it directly. * Practice self-acceptance: Instead of seeking validation from others, focus on accepting and valuing yourself for who you are, including your strengths and weaknesses. * Set realistic expectations: Rather than striving for perfection or trying to meet unrealistic expectations, set goals that are achievable and aligned with your values and priorities. * Develop healthy coping mechanisms: When you feel the urge to prove yourself, try redirecting your energy towards healthy coping mechanisms such as exercise, mindfulness, or creative expression. * Surround yourself with supportive people: Seek out individuals who support and encourage you, and distance yourself from those who perpetuate feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt. By taking these steps, you can break free from the cycle of constantly proving yourself and cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and confidence. OVERWORKING, OVERCOMMITMENT, WORK ANXIETY These expressions are evidence of an unhealthy desire to prove oneself Additionally, they express lack of trust in oneself and a misplaced priority on work as the primary source for self-worth. * "Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough." - Julia Cameron * "The pursuit of excellence is gratifying and healthy. The pursuit of perfection is frustrating, neurotic, and a terrible waste of time." - Edwin Bliss What Happens? Creates hustle Generates anxiety Makes it difficult to rest Blurs work boundaries

Podcast #538 HOW TO BE A HAPPIER AND MORE SUCCESSFUL PERSONYou can be happier and feel more successful today, right away, right now. This podcast episode will give you an identity boost - and some power thoughts - to help you step more fully into a confident, happy, successful mindset where you feel good based on your thoughts, not on your circumstances. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants more joy and to feel better about where they are on the journey of their goals.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:* Creating your own luck and your own happiness* Happiness responsibility* How to create secure confidence in believing in your success potential and happiness potentialREVIEW OF THE WEEKANNOUNCEMENTS:We have a HAPPINESS CHALLENGE happening next week in the College of Confidence.Not yet a member of the COC?  It's happening March 20th-24th It's time to join in on this:www.collegeofconfidence.com/joinCOACHING ON HAPPINESSQUOTES ON HAPPINESS"Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them." - Steve Maraboli"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." - Jim Rohn"Happiness is a state of mind. It's just according to the way you look at things." - Walt Disney "Happiness is not something that someone else can give you or take away from you. It's something you have to create for yourself." - Unknown"You are responsible for your own happiness. If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed." - Unknown"Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy." - Ralph MarstonHOW TO CREATE YOUR OWN LUCK AND YOUR OWN HAPPINESSDecide to.Here are 5 steps on how to create your own luck:Take Action: Luck often comes to those who take action towards their goals. Instead of waiting for opportunities to come to you, take initiative and create your own opportunities by putting yourself out there and pursuing your goals with determination.Build Relationships: Networking and building strong relationships with others can increase your chances of being in the right place at the right time. Attend events, engage with people in your industry, and be open to collaborations and partnerships that can lead to new opportunities.Be Open to Change: Be open-minded and willing to adapt to change, as this can lead to unexpected opportunities and new paths to success. Be flexible and willing to pivot when necessary to take advantage of new opportunities.Focus on Your Strengths: Understand your strengths and focus on developing them further. When you leverage your strengths, you increase your chances of success and create more opportunities for yourself.Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a mindset of gratitude and positivity. This can help you see opportunities in every situation, even when things don't go according to plan. By focusing on the good in your life, you attract more positivity and increase your chances of creating your own luck.Here are 5 steps on how to create your own happiness:Define What Happiness Means to You: Take time to reflect on what happiness means to you and identify the things that bring you joy and fulfillment. This will help you create a personalized plan for creating happiness in your life.Cultivate Positive Habits: Incorporate positive habits into your daily routine, such as practicing gratitude, meditation, exercise, and spending time in nature. These habits can help increase your overall well-being and happiness.Focus on the Present: Avoid dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Focus on the present moment and enjoy the experiences and opportunities that are right in front of you.

Podcast #537 THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD - HOW TO MAKE IT POWERFUL AND POSITIVEThe voice in your head can be incredibly powerful and informative - it creates the results in your life. It's your internal compass that guides you based on what you know, believe and feel. How we talk to ourselves matters because it affects how we show up in our lives. With a little work, we can learn to leverage the power of our inner voice for positive effect. Recognize when negative self-talk creeps in and replace it with more productive and supportive thinking. You'll learn this all in this episode, and it will change everything about how you experience life.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* Translating and becoming fluent in your internal language* Understanding the voice in your head and reclaiming dominion over it* Making your voice powerful and positive, no matter how many years you have spent feeling helpless to the internal voice inside.ANNOUNCEMENT:CHANGING THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD WEEK!March 6th-10th, 2023Interactive, 5-days challengeIT'S NOT TOO LATE TO JOINBy the end of the week you will:-Reset the atmosphere of your brain-Detox perfectionistic thinking-Detox overwhelmed thinking-Detox self-critical thinking-Have a plan to manage your mindset masterfully You will feel and think differently on Friday than you did when you started the challenge on Monday, guaranteed. You will feel empowered and like you finally can take control of your thoughts.You will feel unstoppable about what this means for your future. You can and should think even bigger. Sign up now at www.trishblackwell.com/voiceweekREVIEW OF THE WEEK:MY OLD THOUGHTS VERSUS MY NEW THOUGHTSOld Thoughts:Success is hard to come by, so is money.The future could be bad.God is disappointed in me.I am loved for what I do.It's not safe for me to be too successful.No one gets me, I feel alone and misunderstood.New Thoughts:I have joy and endless possibilities.Money is easy to make.My future is bigger than my past.God delights in me.I am loved for who I am.It's safe for me to shine - it's unsafe / unwise for me to play small. There are so many people wired like me - I am surrounded by community.UNDERSTANDING THE VOICE IN YOUR HEADYour thoughts matter - and there's a constant stream of them - but the secret to breakthrough is that you have power to master the language of your mind.Just like starting any foreign language, learning a new tongue and new way to talk and think can feel daunting. But learning and mastering new vocabulary, new grammar rules and new standards takes time, and repetition, repetition, repetition, just like any other foreign language.At first it feels awkward and clunky, but with time, it gets easier. Listen to What You're Thinking* Write Down Recurring Thoughts* Identify Fact from Fiction (What stories are you telling yourself?)* Choose What Language You WantWhat Languages We Choose:Language of PossibilityLanguage of FaithLanguage of VictimLanguage of UnderdogLanguage of Martyr Language of NegativityLanguage of Criticism MAKING THE VOICE POWERFULPractice deep listeningGet curiousDevelop boundariesLearn how to talk back to yourselfCultivate your parenting voiceBookend your day with journalingIdentify and name the voice that is disempowering-Such as "Trashy Trish"-Eeyore Elaine-Mean MattNotice and understand the impact of your voice-Creates results in your life-Might be negative and self-sabotaging right now, but powerful nonethelessMAKING THE VOICE POSITIVEDaily gratitude.

Podcast #536   WHY IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT PEOPLE THINK - 10 REASONS & HOW TO BELIEVE THEM It's critical to learn the skill of knowing how to stop caring what people think, especially in the modern, constantly connected world that we live in. Everyone experiences fear and anxiety over being judged by others, but there are ways to overcome it. By following the 10 principles discussed in this episode and practically applying them to our lives, we can become more comfortable with ourselves and be more confident and independent in our pursuits! Most importantly, we can stop living in constant fear of what others will think and instead focus on living life according to our own principles In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * 10 reasons why it doesn't matter what people think … and then how to believe those reasons * The pillars of confidence and how to use them to help you stop caring what people think * What freedom from other's opinions really gives you -- you have to know what you're working towards to drive and motivate yourself enough to go through the discomfort of change ANNOUNCEMENTS: CHANGING THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD WEEK! March 6th-10th, 2023Interactive, 5-days challenge By the end of the week you will:-Reset the atmosphere of your brain-Detox perfectionistic thinking-Detox overwhelmed thinking-Detox self-critical thinking-Have a plan to manage your mindset masterfully  You will feel and think differently on Friday than you did when you started the challenge on Monday, guaranteed.  You will feel empowered and like you finally can take control of your thoughts.You will feel unstoppable about what this means for your future.  You can and should think even bigger.  OPEN CLIENT SPOT: Fill out an application here:www.trishblackwell.com/coaching REVIEW OF THE WEEK: KNOW WHAT MATTERS, AND WHAT DOESN'T The pursuit of caring what people think is an act of prioritizing and celebrating the wrong thing / wrong objective. Being popular and liked doesn't make you happier, doesn't create more opportunity (intentional social skills and networking does, and having the courage to ASK for what you want does), it doesn't give you better or more deep friendships. Ask yourself WHY you care what people think and then you will be on your way to breaking free from the chains of over-caring. WHY IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT PEOPLE THINK Their opinion has no bearing or impact on your life It's a misplacement of responsibility. 1. You are not responsible for other people's happiness. You are not responsible for making other people happy. You are responsible for your own happiness. Other people are responsible for their own happiness. If you are trying to make other people happy, you will likely be unhappy yourself. 2. You are not responsible for other people's opinions. Other people's opinions are just that - their opinions. They are not facts. They are not the truth. They are simply someone else's thoughts and feelings. You are not responsible for what other people think or f...

Podcast #535   SELF-TALK & KEEPING YOUR PROMISES TO YOURSELF Are you feeling stuck, weighed-down by self-doubt, or lack of control in your life? Do recurring negative thoughts seem to have a firm grasp on the way you think and feel about yourself? If this sounds familiar, it’s time to shift these damaging cycles and adopt new habits that lead you towards greater trust in yourself. In our latest podcast episode on Self-Talk and Keeping Your Promises to Yourself, we take an exploration into developing a more positive attitude about ourselves and increasing essential self-trust. When you learn to optimize the mindset dialogue within yourself, you can then create lives filled with fearless forward motion!  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on… * Keeping your promises to yourself * How to build a standard of self-trust  * Using pre-decisions to reduce decision fatigue & inconsistent follow-through ANNOUNCEMENT: CHANGING THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD WEEK! March 6th-10th, 2023Interactive, 5-days challenge By the end of the week you will: -Reset the atmosphere of your brain-Detox perfectionistic thinking-Detox overwhelmed thinking-Detox self-critical thinking-Have a plan to manage your mindset masterfully  You will feel and think differently on Friday than you did when you started the challenge on Monday, guaranteed.  You will feel empowered and like you finally can take control of your thoughts.You will feel unstoppable about what this means for your future.  You can and should think even bigger.  Sign up now at: www.trishblackwell.com/voiceweek REVIEW OF THE WEEK: SELF-TRUST  / KEEPING YOUR PROMISES TO YOURSELF Success isn't hard. But you have to decide which negative emotion you will have. Disappointment or discomfort.Loneliness or vulnerability.Resentment or risk.Boredom or bitterness. Keep your promises to yourself: By writing them down * By deciding, not trying * By being obsessed with showing up * By letting go of it looking perfectly * By parenting yourself * By taking ownership of any whiny or wimpy attitude * By visualizing your end goal daily / having purpose Stop breaking your promises.Stop letting things that don't go right make you give up.Stop micro-quitting.Stop thinking it's harder than it is.Stop feeling sorry for yourself.Stop letting your mind be mismanaged or run wild.  EPISODE SPONSOR: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/confidencepod and get on your way to being your best self.  Sometimes I wish I just had an owner manual for life - and for parenting - but unfortunately, life doesn’t come with a user manual. So when it’s not working for you, it’s normal to feel stuck. Therapy can help you get unstuck. BetterHelp has connected over 3 million people with licensed therapists. It’s convenient, secure, and accessible anywhere — 100% online. The combination of therapy and coaching was life...

Podcast #534 LOVING FOOD AND LOVING YOUR BODY Do you ever find yourself having unhealthy thoughts or feelings about food and your body image? Do you feel like you are constantly making decisions that aren't in your best interests when it comes to food and exercise? If so, then this is the perfect podcast episode for you! In this episode, we cover how to cultivate a healthy mindset around food and body image. We discuss different ways of approaching these issues from a mental health standpoint, offering valuable tips on how to free yourself from any negative self-talk and irrational beliefs. Tune in as we explore various strategies on how to step out of auto-pilot mode, stay mindful while eating, honor your body's needs and limits, eat with intention and gratitude - ultimately leading towards lasting positive change for healthier relationships with both food & our bodies. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/534 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:  * How my thoughts about my body have helped me love myself more at almost-40 than ever in my entire life and what body freedom and food freedom feels like now  * Power phrases for a positive relationship with food * Power phrases for a positive relationship with your body REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Types of Disordered Eating PatternsEmotional EatingMindless EatingRushed EatingDistracted EatingDisconnected EatingFearful Eating Relationship with Food & BodyWhat did you inherit?What did you copy / pick up from culture?What did you unknowingly absorb?What would you like to disinherit?What would you like to copy on purpose?What would you like to intentionally create? Watch Your Language - Your Body Is ListeningI'll always be like this…This is just how we are…I always…My genes are …. How to Love FoodInvestigate and explore your relationship with itPractice the act of fully enjoying itSeek pleasure but never to the point of a net negative effectGet curious about your satiety levelsPrioritize sleep - these regulate leptin and ghrelin hormonesExperiment with what foods feel good and energize you - 1 hour post eating Power Phrases for Positive Food RelationshipI honor my body in what it needs and craves in the right balance.I love to fuel my body with pleasurable food and food that feels good.I always eat in a way that honors my body as a temple.I find pleasure in the discipline of being mindful of how I fuel and care for myself.I am a person who gets to have fun with food and stays healthy as I do.I know when to stop and I love to stop eating before I am too full.I have an open relationship with food and nothing is off-limits unless by personal choice.  How to Love Your BodySpend time with yourself nakedLearn to appreciate the body as a whole, and all body typesTake the 30-day gratitude challengeTouch yourselfPractice complimenting yourselfTalk to your body and body partsGive praise for what your body can do Power Phrases for a Positive Relationship with Your Body:My body is God's masterpiece. I radiate beauty when I relax into my body.I love how strong my body is.I honor my body with good choices and love.My body is worthy of being touched and cared for.I am compassionate and warm to my body. My body is a vessel for my awesomeness.My body is my forever home and I am grateful for it.

Podcast #533   RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY - HOW TO REDUCE IT It is not uncommon for relationships to come with some anxiety; it is part of the process of opening up and building trust between two people. However, if the anxiety starts to become overwhelming, or gets you stuck in a cycle of worrying and mistrusting your partner's intentions, then it's time to take steps to get out of that loop. In this week’s podcast episode we will be discussing how relationship anxiety can quickly start dominating our thoughts and actions, as well as practical solutions that you can use right away -allowing us to reclaim self-confidence and let go of stressors so we can focus on creating healthier relationships In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:  * How to have confidence in your most important relationships * Trusting someone in a relationship, even if you struggle with anxiety or relationship anxiety * Changing how you think - and what you've been taught or what you've seen - about relationships so that you have only healthy ones in your life REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Change How You Think & What You Believe: New relationship, new story  Your past gives your information - not a curse Learn from your repeated mistakes Give thanks for bad examples. Find a way to find good examples  Trust that God has good people for your life Pay attention to red flags - all the time Have people in your life you can trust The Key to All Relationships: Communication.What are you holding back?What are you assuming the person is hearing you say that you aren't saying?Where are you being dishonest in your relationship? Decide What a Healthy Relationship Means to You Define it. * Describe it. * Look for examples of it. * Emulate it. * Practice it. 1. Mutual respect - both partners should be respectful of each other, their feelings, and their space2. Communication - communicating effectively is key to a healthy relationship3. Compromise - it's important for both partners to be willing to compromise on things that are important to them4. Supportiveness - being supportive of your partner during good times and bad is essential5. Equality - both partners should feel like they are equals in the relationship6. Stability - having a stable and consistent relationship is key to a healthy one7. Reliability - Be there for your partner when they need you - be supportive through both the good times and the bad8. Acceptance -Don't try to change your partner - accept them for who they are9. Common Interests - Have fun together! Spend time doing things that you both enjoy10. Individuality - Don't forget about yourself - make time for activities that make you happy and help you relax11. Humility and Openness -Seek professional help if necessary - don't try to deal with serious problems on your own12. Shared Beliefs / Goals - Communicate about your values, your goals, money, all the things.13. Vulnerability - both people should be able to be themselves, period, and feel safe being themselves.  Relationship Anxiety Welcome to being human. Anxiety isn't a problem. The volume you allow it to have you in your life is what poses a problem. Get honest about your role in your anxiety - and your history with relationships. Most often relationship anxiety is rooted in lack and scarcity.  Lack of Trust Lack of Communication. Lack of Clarity Lack of Confidence Lack of Self-Knowledge Lack of Time Together Relationship Confidence Within Your Control Know what you bring to the relationship Know what your non-negotiables are Know what your values are