The Confidence Podcast Archives - Trish Blackwell

Podcast #577HOW TO LIVE YOUR DREAM LIFE: 5 MISTAKES MOST PEOPLE MAKEDo you want to travel more? Do you want your net worth to increase? Do you want a generation-changing marriage? Do you want to change your family's legacy? Do you want to create a non-profit that makes a difference in the world? Do you want to enjoy your life more? Do you want to see what's really possible and within you, to really see what you're made of? This episode is for you. In this episode we're going to reawaken the dream inside of your heart and reignite your belief that anything is possible, for those who believe and those who are willing to take bold, relentless action until they achieve what they want.  We'll cover the 5 mistakes most people make when setting goals and designing their life so that you never find yourself thinking about your life, your gifts, your potential was "woulda, coulda, shoulda."In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on:* The 5-step process to the life of your dreams* Core ways to stay consistent and committed * The 5 mistakes (and 2 bonus mistakes) people make with their dreams THE 5-STEP PROCESS TO THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMSDecide What You WantDesign Your Ideal DayDetermine Who You Need to BeDelve Into the Work Double Down Against Doubt and Discouragement Decide what you want -- this is often the hardest step.Think bigger. Let is fire you up. The vision needs to be compelling. You can’t win when you doubt and you can’t win when you’re discouraged.The effort you make everyday to keep yourself encouraged, inspired and taking action MATTERS. Reframe those thoughts. Speak life over yourself. Surround yourself with positive people. Write your goal down every day. Ground yourself in gratitude. Track your micro-wins.You are on your way, more than you think you are. CORE CONTRIBUTORS TO CONSISTENCY Commitment vs. Consistency(Committed to Brandon, unwavering boundary.)These are just my core new standards. Thought Standards:What thought standards will you have about yourself?What thought standards will you have about the environment of the industry?What thought standards will you have about your work?What thought standards will you have about others? This is my standard. I do not deviate from it.When I show as sub-standard, I identify it, and then correct it.Radical responsibility for your thoughts will change your life.(Just because you have a thought doesn't make it true or mean you have to keep it) Examples:I show up with excellence in all that I do.I decide to be optimistic and a positive thinker in all areas of my life.I do not entertain victim-mindset thinking or negativity.I don't camp out around negative, fearful, comparative or anxious thoughts.I am committed to brushing my brain daily and managing my thoughts. MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE: * Vague Vision and Mediocre Clarity* Not Prioritizing Mindset Management * Failing to Analyze and Evaluate* Distracted Lifestyle and Disorganized Mind* Settling Standards and Lowered VisionBonus Mistakes:Not Setting Intentions, Not Feeling Full Range of Feelings Not Having a Coach or Written PlanDO MORE IN 2024 INVITEToday is the last day to join us.www.trishblackwell.com/domoreIf you attend and don't think it’s the best $297 you've spent on yourself and your future, just email my team and we'll happily refund you.TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 Do you want to travel more? Do you want your net worth to increase? Do you want a generation changing marriage? Do you want to change your family's legacy? Do you want to create a nonprofit that makes a difference in the world? Do you want to enjoy your life more? Do you want to see what's really possible and within you to see what you're made off? If you want more if you know you've got talent and gift and potential within you wh...

Podcast #576PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE AND TAKING RISKS WITH CONFIDENCEYou know you're made for more, and you have big dreams, but how do you get past the overwhelm of putting yourself "out there"? What will people think? What will happen if you go after that big dream, you write that book, you put yourself up for the promotion, you speak up and start leading with your ideas … and people don't like it, or even worse, like you? If you want to have more confidence when it comes to taking the emotional risks involved with leveling up your life, this podcast episode is for you. I'll teach you why standing out and being extraordinary is easier than you think and I'll share 5 strategies I use to manage vulnerability and risk hangovers so you can use them successfully too.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* How to have the courage to stand out and take risks* Why standing out / being extraordinary is easier than you think* 5 Strategies I use to manage vulnerability / risk hangoverSign up for DO MORE IN 2024 and plan out your year with SUCCESS. Get your ticket now at www.trishblackwell.com/domoreThe two-day virtual event is happening on December 13th and December 20th from 7PM-9PM EST.REVIEW OF THE WEEKGabriela RiveraQUOTES MENTIONED"The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams." - Oprah Winfrey"Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do." - Mark Twain"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood..." - Theodore Roosevelt"Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart." - Roy T. BennettMessy, mundane, magical.ANNOUNCEMENTSBig things are happening in the College of Confidence this month, as we dive into DOUBT DETOX month to prime our minds and hearts to enter into 2024 in a state of TOTAL BELIEF AND SECURE CONFIDENCE. (Not total confidence because there's no such thing!)Wondering what types of "wins" our College of Confidence members experience? These are just a few of the posts our members have shared in the past week...promotions, raises, sold out retreats, new company cars, twin pregnancy announcement after struggling with infertility! Confidence work pays off, in big ways!!! Click here to join us.Sandra got a big promotion, a big raise and a brand new company car.Courtney sold out her retreat, with her largest group to date.Monica sold out her retreat tooMalorie got a level promotion at her company (and a raise)Amber got a raise and mapped out her student loan set payoffRachel worked her mindset and health to stay positive during two years of infertility and recently found out she's pregnant with two healthy twin boysPUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE - IT'S EASIER THAN YOU THINKBe willing to look like a fool, to be made fun of, to be teased.Because people will talk, until your walk and your talk make them admire you.It's easier than you think to stand out and be extraordinary.Be energetic.Be reliable.Be of integrity.Be positive.Be consistent.TAKING RISKS WITH CONFIDENCEThere's no such thing as a guarantee or a perfect decision.Your commitment to a decision is what makes it perfect and good. No risk, no reward.Be willing to be different.Be willing to create a different life. Don't fear putting yourself out there, because there's no risk if you are this type of p...

Podcast #575SEASONAL SADNESS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT ITThe darkness of the winter season is upon us and if you have ever struggled with winter sadness or holiday anxiety then this episode is for you. I'm going to share 3 simple strategies that I use that have been game-changing, as well as some mental shifts in how you can think about the seasonal sadness and allow emotional space for your heart and soul to feel all of the feelings this season without being burdened or side-railed by them. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/575In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* Seasonal Sadness, how to know if it's affecting you (and what to do about it)* Deepening your experience of joy in the holiday season * Being present and planning for the next season effectively, without overwhelmREVIEW OF THE WEEK:WHAT IS SEASONAL SADNESSSeasonal sadness, also known as seasonal affective disorder (SAD), is a type of depression that occurs at a specific time of year, typically during the fall and winter months when there is less sunlight. It is characterized by symptoms similar to major depressive disorder, including low energy, irritability, difficulty concentrating, changes in sleep patterns, and feelings of hopelessness.The exact cause of seasonal affective disorder is not fully understood, but it is believed to be related to changes in exposure to natural light. Reduced sunlight exposure during the fall and winter months may disrupt the body's internal clock (circadian rhythm) and affect the production of certain neurotransmitters, such as serotonin and melatonin, which play a role in mood regulation and sleep.Conversely, some people may experience a milder form of seasonal affective disorder during the spring and summer months, often characterized by symptoms such as poor appetite, insomnia, and anxiety.Treatment for seasonal affective disorder often involves light therapy (phototherapy), where individuals are exposed to a bright light that mimics natural sunlight. Additionally, psychotherapy and medication may be recommended in more severe cases. If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of seasonal affective disorder, it's essential to seek professional help for an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment.WHY DAYLIGHT MATTERSIn summary, daylight influences our internal biological processes, including circadian rhythms, hormone production, and neurotransmitter activity, all of which play crucial roles in regulating mood, sleep, and overall well-being.Daylight has a significant impact on our happiness and well-being due to its influence on various physiological and psychological processes. Here are some key reasons:Regulation of Circadian Rhythms:* Exposure to natural light helps regulate our circadian rhythms, which are internal biological clocks that govern our sleep-wake cycle and other bodily functions.* Proper alignment of circadian rhythms with the natural light-dark cycle promotes better sleep quality and overall well-being.* Melatonin Production:* Daylight exposure suppresses the production of melatonin, a hormone that promotes sleep. Reduced melatonin levels during the day contribute to increased alertness and wakefulness.* Exposure to natural light in the morning helps set a healthy sleep-wake pattern by signaling to the body that it's time to be awake and alert.* Vitamin D Synthesis:* Sunlight is a natural source of vitamin D, which is crucial for bone health, immune function, and overall well-being.* Adequate exposure to sunlight helps the body produce vitamin D, and a deficiency in this vitamin has been linked to various health issues,

Podcast #573HOW TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELFIf you've ever said any of the following statements, this episode is for you:I've lost my confidence…I just wish I had the confidence to do that…There's no way I could do something like that …I don't know how to have more confidence in myself…I'm not confident enough to…I second guess everything I do…I'm just an overthinker / I struggle with indecisionMy self-esteem has taken a hit…I'll feel more confident after I …..I just need to have more confidence in myself…I wish I had confidence in myself….In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to talk about how to reawaken the confidence inside of you, how to train the confidence muscle (even if its atrophied or you feel like you never had it), and what mistakes that you might be unknowingly making that are chipping away at your confidence instead of strengthening it. This week on the show you'll learn:How to have more confidenceWhat you can do to feel more confident right The mistakes most people make when it comes to confidenceStay tuned to the end for a new coaching opportunity.This will be for you if you:-Are high achieving-Want more out of 2024 than you got out of 2023-Desire a mapped out plan and strategy for success for 2024REVIEW OF THE WEEK:HOW TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCEEstablish an honest baseline. Where are you starting?Get a vision of what confidence means to you. Commit to "Confidence Work:WHAT'S CONFIDENCE WORK?The 5 Pillars of Confidence-Know Who You Are-Know What You Want-Know That You Matter-Know How to Think-Know Your Future RocksThe Confidence Habits:-Gratitude-Affirmations-Journal-Celebration-PrioritizationMost notably, it's the willingness to think about what you think about. MAKE SURE NOT TO DO THESE THINGS:Notice the patterns that are tarnishing confidence. You might not realize it, but you might be the one chipping away at your own confidence.Many of us are actively destroying our confidence and chipping away at it-taking pictures over and over-not actively reframing a thought or intrusive thought-scrolling-carelessly comparing -trusting other people's opinion over our own-waiting for someone else to affirm you instead of learning to do that for yourself-believing the lies that someone broken or toxic said about you to youStop waiting for confidence.Permit self-indulgent passes on "not helping it" - ie: I'm just hard on myselfStop believing you need to feel confident to be confident. POWER PHRASES FOR CONFIDENCE:I am becoming confident. I am working my confidence muscles intentionally.This is me becoming the most confident version of myself.I have permission to be confident.I give myself authority to trust myself.I am brave and bold and I am going after the life of my dreams.I am where I am and I am on my way to where I want to be.OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE:#446: How to Find Yourself and Your Confidence#546: Confidence Immersion and Faking it Till You Make It MADE FOR MORE IN 2024Coaching Experience2-Part, Happening in DecemberLimited to 100 people.4-hours of workshopping and coaching.Regular cost if done privately, $3335Your cost $297.Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/madeformoreTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 If you've ever said any of the following statements, this episode is for you.Unknown Speaker 0:08 I just wish I had the confidence to do that. I've lost my confidence. There's no way I could do something like that. I don't know how to have more confidence in myself.Speaker 1 0:21 I've never been confident. I'm not confident enough to I second guess everything I do. I'm just an overthinker my self esteem has taken a hit. I'll feel more confident after I just need that more confidence in myself. Or I wish I had competence in myself. In this episode of The confidence podcast, we're going to talk about how to reawaken the competence inside of you how t...

Podcast #572TAKE ACTION AND DO HARD THINGSThe secret to success is to have a bias for action. Those who train in themselves to become massive action takers increase their confidence, their self-esteem, their self-concept and their results. This episode will give you mindset hacks to help you train yourself into being a person who takes massive action with ease … and with the results that action brings. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* How to trick yourself into taking more action* Why your avoidance of action is false protection* Micro action habits that generate massive action takingUpdate, we're in Puerto Rico! TODAY I CELEBRATE 11 YEARS OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST REVIEW OF THE WEEKANNOUNCEMENT:No Excuses November is happening now at www.collegeofconfidence.comHAVE A BIAS FOR ACTIONFuture self vision. See yourself as someone who has a bias for action.To have a bias for action you have to:-trust yourself-practice having your own back-get obsessed with micro follow-through-celebrate your immediate actions-believe that you make good decisions-have confidence that there's no such thing as wasted effortThe little things are the big things.How you do one thing is how you do everything.It's what people don't see that will make the things in your life that they do see stand out. WHAT BEING AN ACTION TAKER MEANS-You've decided to stop thinking and start doing.-You've decided to stop watching other people's live and instead make your own great.-You're talking back to the "what if"HOW TO TRICK YOURSELF INTO TAKING MORE ACTIONTrack your actionGet an accountability partnerInvest in coaching Put more skin in the gameMICRO-ACTION HABITS THAT GENERATE MASSIVE ACTIONIf it takes less than 2 minutes take immediate action.Time AssignElevate your standards -Always make your bed-Clean toothpaste in the basin-Do what you want to avoidWHY WE DON'T TAKE ACTIONWe overthink.We let fear win over faith. We get distracted.We don't actually believe it will matter.We're too attached to immediate results.We are concerned by what people will think - when it goes well and when it doesn't go well.We aren't sure what to do.We have a sloppy management of our gift of time. POWER THOUGHTSI take immediate action. I am a doer.I create movement in my life.Little actions create big rewards.I have raised my standards.DO HARD THINGSBe a person who leans into hard.Most people avoid hard, and the avoidance makes it even harder.Approach or Avoid. WILLINGNESS:Be willing to do things others aren't.Start by being willing to have a different relationship with "hard things"All progress starts when you begin to tell yourself the truth.Where are you not being all in?Where are you not committed?Where are you going for "good" instead of "great"? Understand that you can't avoid hard.Hard things, when avoided become different hard emotions - the emotion of disappointment.Hard or hard, which will you pick? Pick the one with the biggest result you want. What have you been unwilling to do?How have you been thinking about "hard things?" -How you think is a form of communication - the communication and inner dialogue you have with yourself MATTERS. OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL ENJOY:#233: Focusing in the Face of Distraction #191: How to Take Massive Action LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:JenK from IGTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 If you've always wondered how some people seem to always be confident or seem to know what they're doing, and you want to be one of those people, then this episode is for you. I want you to know this, those people aren't special or better or more motivated or more qualified than you. They're just doing one thing differently that yo...

Podcast #571 EXCUSES THAT ARE HOLDING YOU BACK AND HOW TO STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR GOODYou may not be consciously making excuses, but chances are, you're probably holding yourself back with some of these common and sneaky excuses. If you want to stop tip-toing in life and playing smaller than your potential, then it's time to identify and put a stop to the excuses, subconscious or conscious, that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. This episode explores the excuse mentality in depth, our excuse culture and how it leads to micro-quitting, and how to become someone who makes excuses a thing of their past once and for all. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* Sneaky excuses you might not realize you're making that are keeping you stuck* How to overcome your common and default excuses so you can stop micro-quitting on yourself* The secret to becoming a person who doesn't make excusesREVIEW OF THE WEEK:ANNOUNCEMENT:NO EXCUSE NOVEMBER is starting!Your potential is exceedingly above what you can imagine.Two Problems:* Lack of Vision* ExcusesQUOTES ON EXCUSES:"Ninety-nine percent of failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses." — George Washington Carver"Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure." — Don Wilder"He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else." — Benjamin Franklin"The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can't achieve it." — Jordan Belfort"Excuses will always be there for you, but the opportunity won't." — Unknown"It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one." — George Washington"Your excuses are just the lies your fears have sold you." — Robin Sharma"Don't make excuses, make improvements." — Tyra Banks"The only man who never makes a mistake is the man who never does anything." — Theodore Roosevelt"Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing." — Steven GrayhmWHAT EXCUSES DO:They limit us.They hold us back.They make life harder.They create a state of constant micro-quitting."Results, not excuses.""No shortcuts, no alibis.""Embrace the challenge, reject excuses.""Accountability over excuses, always.Excuses are the enemy of progress.""Commit to your goals, not your excuses.""No room for alibis, only room for action.""Excuses limit, determination unleashes.""Zero tolerance for excuses, 100% effort.""Make it happen, no matter what.""Excuses won't achieve your dreams; action will.""No more 'I can't,' only 'I will.'""Success demands no excuses, only dedication.""Excuses are the crutches of the weak; stand strong."SNEAKY EXCUSES:Average Excuses:-I don't feel like it-I don't know how-I don't have enough time-I don't know if I can-They're better than meNot Knowing What to Do ExcuseNot Enough Time ExcuseDon't Feel Like It ExcuseSneaky and Undetected Excuses:-Overcommitting -Perfectionism-Exhaustion / Sleep deprivation-Unprepared -Stretched thin-Not readyOVERCOMING EXCUSES:Change the story you're telling yourself.Raise your personal standards. -What are your standards?-Where are you sloppy?-Where are you living other peoples lives instead of your own?THE SECRETThe secret to being a person who doesn't make excuses is to stop making them.Get curious about the following:-Where have you accepted excuses?-What do you really want? How can you make your vision bigger?-What are your sloppy micro-excuses?-Are you blaming anyone? / Being a voluntary victim instead of an overcomer?OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL ENJOY#005: Eliminating Excuses#033: No Excuses: Be YouTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabUnknown Speaker 0:00 Are you tired of working hard, I'm not seeing fast enough results like really hard,

Podcast #570   HOW TO START YOUR BIG DREAM AND CHANGE YOUR LIFE + HOW I GOT WHERE I WAS Everything is possible. Everything is learnable. Every problem is solvable. Every effort pays off and adds up. Your dream can happen. Your life can change. BUT you have to start. You have to be willing to do the work, to fail and to keep showing up. This episode will teach you how to get started, and more importantly, how to keep going. You'll hear Trish's full journey and how to train and increase your willingness and bias for action. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * Willingness, and increasing yours * How to be a person who starts their dreams instead of just thinking about their dreams * The steps required to create the life of your dreams ANNOUNCEMENT: Go to www.trishblackwell.com/Q&A to sign up now. REVIEW OF THE WEEK   WHERE I STARTED  What sets me apart is that I'm willing. I'm willing to try. I'm willing to work hard. I'm willing to fail. I'm willing to take risks. I'm willing to be embarrassed. I'm willing to get up at 4AM. I'm willing to invest in myself. I'm willing to not know but try anyway. I'm willing to manage my mind and work my belief. Wilingness. Action, concrete action creates results. * How I got started? * Where I came from. * My focus on where I'm going. Believe this: * Everything is possible. * Everything is learnable. * Every problem is solvable. * Every effort pays off. HOW TO BE A PERSON OF WILLINGNESS Masters never stop until they achieve their goals. Unshakeable grit is the key to any goal you can envision. Consuming information is useless unless it's followed by concrete action. Be sure to subscribe, there's an upcoming future episode on taking action. Be scared. Embrace all of the feels. Determine to be an example of what's possible.  Get an idea. Take massive action. JUST START. JUST START. JUST START. "You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." - Zig Ziglar "Small minds discuss people, average minds discuss events, and great minds discuss ideas." - Eleanor Roosevelt "Action is the foundational key to all success." - Pablo Picasso Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." - Dale Carnegie DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT Have a vision. Even if it's to be a person who takes action on life. I want to squeeze out the fullness of life. I want to hear "Well done,

 Podcast #569SOUL CONFIDENCE: UNCOMPLICATING FAITH AND FINDING MEANING IN LIFEThose with unshakeable confidence have tapped into soul confidence. Soul confidence is different than confidence that is self-focused. It is God-focused, and it is strengthened by deepening one's relationship with God. This episode will help you find deep meaning and fulfillment through the deepening of your faith. It will also help you uncomplicate any challenging or painful past relationships with religion or faith that was imposed onto you.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:* How faith creates the most unshakeable core foundation of confidence* Habits that Strengthen Your Faith* What God says about youANNOUNCEMENT:Ask Trish - Live Coaching SessionHappening Wednesday, October 25th at 12PM EST. www.trishblackwell.com/Q&AREVIEW OF THE WEEKMY FAITH STORY:Why Jesus is Different:He went against religion.He loved and prioritized women.He was a teacher that resonated with everyone.He honored and loved the little children.He never judged, always loved.Jesus of Nazareth is widely regarded as a counter-cultural leader due to several aspects of his teachings, actions, and the social context of his time that set him apart from the norms of society. Here are some key reasons that made Jesus a counter-cultural figure:Challenging Religious Authorities: Jesus often challenged the religious authorities of his time, including the Pharisees and Sadducees. He criticized their rigid interpretations of religious laws and emphasized a more personal and compassionate relationship with God. This challenged the established religious hierarchy and normsInclusivity: Jesus welcomed and associated with marginalized and outcast individuals, such as tax collectors, prostitutes, and the sick. In a society marked by strict social hierarchies, this was a radical departure from the norm. His message of love and inclusion went against the prevailing exclusivity of his era.Nonviolence: Jesus preached nonviolence and advocated turning the other cheek in response to aggression. In a world where power often rested on military might, his emphasis on nonviolent resistance was revolutionary and counter-cultural.Teaching Love and Forgiveness: Jesus emphasized love, compassion, and forgiveness as core principles. His teachings, including the Sermon on the Mount, promoted a radical ethic of loving one's enemies and forgiving those who wronged you, which contradicted the prevailing culture of revenge and retribution.Wealth and Materialism: Jesus spoke against the excessive pursuit of wealth and material possessions. His parables often depicted the dangers of wealth and the importance of sharing with the less fortunate, challenging the prevalent greed and materialism of his time.Equality of Women: While the cultural norms of Jesus' time often marginalized women, Jesus interacted with women openly, challenged sexist attitudes, and included them in his circle of followers. This was a significant departure from the social norms of the era.A New Kingdom: Jesus preached about the Kingdom of God, which was not a political or earthly kingdom but a spiritual one. This message went against the prevailing expectation of a messianic figure who would lead a political revolt.Sacrificial Love: Jesus' willingness to sacrifice himself for the sake of others, as symbolized by his crucifixion, demonstrated a radical form of love and selflessness that was counter-cultural and transformative.Focus on the Inner Life: Jesus emphasized the importance of the heart, inner purity, and genuine intentions over outward displays of religiosity.

 Podcast #568STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP: IT DESTROYS YOUR CONFIDENCEDo you find yourself trapped in the cycle of self-criticism and "should haves"? It's time to break free! In this episode, you'll discover 10 compelling reasons to put an end to self-inflicted judgment and learn how to break the mental habit of beating yourself up. If you want to feel better in life, and not feel so much self-created internal pressure, this episode will give you your next steps. If you ever beat yourself up over small mistakes, or constantly feel like you're falling behind and "should" be doing better than you are, then you're making life harder than it needs to be. This episode is for you. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, you'll learn:* 10 reasons to stop beating yourself up* How to break the mental habit of beating yourself up* The key to creating a new reality for yourself ANNOUNCEMENTSqueeze the Day: Get More Done and More Out of Your Lifewww.trishblackwell.com/squeezeIt's happening tomorrow, 10/10 at 6PM! 10 REASONS TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UPIt's not effective.It makes life harder.It creates a negative life.It sets you back unnecessarily.It perpetuates anxiety.It destroys your self-concept.It dramatizes your hiccups and keeps you stuck in them.It makes you unpleasant to be around.It tarnishes your sense of self-trust and self-kindness.It disrupts your sleep and ability to rest well.Fatigue shifts our ability to perceive challenges appropriately HOW TO BREAK THE HABIT* Stop saying "you can't help it."* Decide to be a kind person.* Change your strategy. * Dedicate yourself to managing your mind.* Think thoughts on purpose.OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE#561: Forgiving Yourself and Loving the Past You#559: Curating and Nurturing Self-Love#557: Not Measuring UpLISTENER OF THE EPISODE:Find out more about coaching or snag yourself a power hour session with me at www.trishblackwell.com/coachingTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:01 You're listening to the confidence podcast, your favorite coaching podcast oozing with motivation, inspiration, and confidence to help you boldly take action on your dreams. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized Confidence Coach, Best Selling Author and founder of the College of Confidence, the most encouraging place on the internet. I teach go getters in life, how to take your thoughts captive, how to step out of the shadows of self doubt, and how to courageously step into their purpose. With competence. It's time to pump our competence muscles and train our thoughts, y'all. Let's get started. Hey, guys, it's Trish Blackwell. And you're listening to that competence podcast. This is episode 568 are talking about something near and dear to my heart, beating yourself up. Because chances are, you listen to this show because you're driven, you're a high achiever, you tend to over commit, you have big goals, you've always done. And with that voice, that high achieving overachieving type, a driven personality comes the critical self voice, it's the voice that says you're not doing enough, it's the voice that says you should be perfect is the voice that says we need to be further along than we are. And it's the voice that will make you feel inadequate, wake up with anxiety,

Podcast #567 REVERSE INSPIRATION: HOW TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANTWhen you know what you want, like, really know, it's easy to stay consistent. Most people don't achieve their goals, not because they aren't trying, but rather because they don't have a clear idea of what they really, really want in life. Sometimes in order to know what you do want, you have to first get clarity of what you don't want. We call this process "Reverse Inspiration" and I'll teach you exactly how to go about it in this week's episode. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:* How to use your past to design your future* The secret to having unwavering confidence in what you want in life* 5 ways to have more fun creating the life of your dreamsANNOUNCEMENT:Squeeze the Day - Get More Done, Get more out of life.Happening on Tuesday, 10/10 at 6PM ESTSign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/squeezeREVIEW OF THE WEEK:HOW TO USE YOUR PAST TO DESIGN YOUR FUTUREInstead of regretting your past, take from it.Even the things that you feel "took" from you - you can take back from. You're always winning when you're growing or learning.You have to date the wrong people to know who the right people are.You have to have jobs you don't love to know what jobs you do love.You have to try things to know what you like and what you don't like.Categorically label each decade of your life.-Assign 2-3 words to it.-Describing your past tells you want worked and what didn't.WLWB-Great tool to really reflect on what you do when life works best.HOW TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:The secret to having unwavering confidence in what you want in life: Reverse InspirationAsk yourself:What do I want my life to look like?How do I want my life to feel?What do I not want my life to look like?What do I not want it to feel like?What makes my soul sing?WHAT IS REVERSE INSPIRATION?Being inspired by what you don't want.-In your own life-In the lives of others-In the behaviors of others5 WAYS TO HAVE MORE FUN IN LIFE:* Take it less seriously. Truly ask yourself what you want to create.* Decide that you make life happen; life doesn't happen to you. (Victim vs. Creator)* Be proactive instead of reactive.* Make and assign time for what matters to you.* Put yourself around others going after life too - who will build you up along the wayOTHER EPISODES YOU WILL LOVE:#473: How to Know Exactly What You Want #418: How to Figure Out What You Want#453: Why You're Not Doing What You Want to DoTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:01 You're listening to the confidence podcast, your favorite coaching podcast oozing with motivation, inspiration, and confidence to help you boldly take action on your dreams. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized Confidence Coach, Best Selling Author and founder of the College of Confidence, the most encouraging place on the internet. I teach go getters in life, how to take your thoughts captive, how to step out of the shadows of self doubt, and how to courageously step into their purpose. With competence. It's time to pump our competence muscles and train our thoughts, y'all. Let's get started. Hey, guys, it's Trish Blackwell, and you're listening to the confidence podcast. This is episode number 567. Today, it's a great simple approach to know what you want in life because here's the reality. So often, we don't know what we want, we think we do. But often we are just regurgitating and reliving that which has been passed on to us that what culture tells us the environment in which we were raised the expectations what our family thinks is prestigious or not. And we are a product of our environment, for better or for worse. And so we're gonna do something new today, we're gonna just get curious,

Podcast #566   HOW TO BE MORE LIKED AND LIKABLE When you like yourself, others will like you more. Increasing your likability factor can open doors of opportunity, expand favor in your life, and make you appear more confident to others. But there's a difference between being likable and caring too much what people think. This episode will help you find the courage to be disliked, as well as how to increase your overall likeability, which all starts with first liking yourself. Listen to this for 19 ways to be more likeable, while also releasing some of the pressure you are putting on yourself about whether or not people like you. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on: * 19 ways to be more likeable * Why likeability matters  * The difference between being likeable and caring too much what people think * Finding the upside in the courage to be disliked LISTENER OF THE WEEK: Finnegan.  CONFIDENCEFEST  Confidence in Your Decisions | Workshop Confidence for Your Kids | Workshop Confidence in Your Potential | Workshop Confidence in Your Friendships and Relationships | Workshop Confidence in Your Work | Workshop Get into the program so you don't miss out at www.collegeofconfidence.com REVIEW OF THE WEEK: HOW TO BE MORE LIKEABLE - SOME BASICS: Being more likable is a valuable social skill that can help you build better relationships and connections with others. Here are some tips to help you become more likable: * Smile: A genuine smile is one of the most universally likable expressions. It makes you appear friendly and approachable. * Active Listening: Show genuine interest in what others are saying. Give them your full attention, maintain eye contact, and nod or provide verbal cues to show that you're engaged in the conversation. * Be Positive: Maintain a positive attitude and try to see the bright side of things. People are drawn to those who radiate positivity and optimism. * Empathy: Practice empathy by trying to understand and relate to the feelings and perspectives of others. Show that you care about their emotions and experiences. * Use Names: Address people by their names when speaking to them. It creates a sense of personal connection. * Body Language: Pay attention to your body language. Maintain open and welcoming postures. Avoid crossing your arms or appearing disinterested. * Be Genuine: Authenticity is key. Be yourself and let your true personality shine through. People appreciate sincerity and can often spot insincerity. * Compliments: Give sincere compliments when appropriate. Recognize and appreciate the qualities and achievements of others. * Remember Details: Make an effort to remember details about people's lives, such as their interests, birthdays, or important events.

Podcast #565 OPTIONAL DRAMAThere's a fine line between fact and fiction in our thoughts. This episode will teach you how to understand the difference between thoughts you should believe and thoughts you should change if you want to decrease your stress levels and enjoy your life more. You'll discover how to de-dramatize your thinking and determine with thoughts are creating "optional drama". These confidence tips this week will help you live with more confidence ease, and mental peace.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:* Optional drama, and how it's making your life harder than it needs to be* The Fact vs. Fiction question you need to be asking yourself* How to feel less stressed and drama-free in your lifeREVIEW OF THE WEEKSPONSORSHIP NOTE:“This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/CONFIDENCEPOD and get on your way to being your best self.”Do you ever find that just as you’re trying to fall asleep, your brain suddenly won't stop talking? Do your thoughts start racing right before bed or at other inopportune moments? I used to think that having a racing mind was normal. I thought that I would always feel overwhelmed and burdened with anxiety. It turns out, one great way to make those racing thoughts go away is to talk them through. Therapy gives you a place to do that, so you can get out of your negative thought cycles and find some mental (and emotional) peace. It’s helpful for learning positive coping skills and how to set boundaries; it empowers you to be the best version of yourself; it isn’t just for those who’ve experienced major trauma; etc.If you’re thinking of starting therapy, give BetterHelp a try. It’s entirely online. Designed to be convenient, flexible, and suited to your schedule. Just fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist, and switch therapists any time for no additional charge.Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp dot com slash CONFIDENCEPODtoday to get 10% off your first month. That's www.betterhelp.com/confidencepodWHAT IS OPTIONAL DRAMA?"Optional drama thoughts" typically refer to thoughts that may not be necessary or productive, but can still create unnecessary stress, conflict, or emotional turmoil. These thoughts often contribute to drama in our lives, making situations more complicated than they need to be. Here are some examples of optional drama thoughts:Assuming the Worst Intentions:* "They didn't invite me to the event; they must be purposely excluding me."* "She didn't respond to my message immediately; she must be mad at me."Creating Conspiracy Theories:* "I'm sure they're all talking about me behind my back."* "There must be some hidden agenda behind why they're being so nice."Blowing Things Out of Proportion:* "If I make one mistake at work, I'll probably get fired."* "He disagreed with my idea; he must hate everything I suggest."Playing the Victim:* "Nothing ever goes my way; life is always unfair to me."* "People are always taking advantage of my kindness."Exaggerating Small Issues:* "This minor inconvenience ruined my entire day."* "If she doesn't like my post, it means she's no longer my friend."Jumping to Conclusions:* "They canceled our plans; they probably don't want to spend time with me."* "He didn't acknowledge my greeting; he must be angry with me."Gossiping and Speculating:* "I heard that she did something really embarrassing; let me tell you all about it."* "I think there's something going on between them; I saw them talking."Assuming Everyone's Attention is on You:* "I know everyone noticed when I stumbled; they're all laughing a...

Podcast #564 MORNING ANXIETY VS. EVENING ANXIETYWhether you're an early riser grappling with dawn's anxieties or a night owl navigating the challenges of evening unease, this episode offers practical strategies to help you find peace and balance throughout your day. Tune in to gain a better understanding of your anxiety patterns and learn techniques to enhance your mental well-being. Anxiety can express itself, and be triggered, differently depending upon the time of day and upon your core thought patterns. This is an episode you don't want to miss if you want to decrease your overall anxiety in life … and when you decrease anxiety, you increase peace and confidence. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* The differences between morning anxiety and evening anxiety* 5 simple habits that reduce overall anxiety* Specific shifts you can make for morning anxiety vs. evening anxietyANNOUNCEMENT:Life is short.www.trishblackwell.com/100statementsREVIEW OF THE WEEK:MORNING ANXIETY VS. EVENING ANXIETYMORNING ANXIETYWhat are your behaviors?-Snooze-Over-caffeinationEVENING ANXIETYWhat are your behaviors?-Avoidance-BufferingTriggers:Morning Anxiety: Morning anxiety can sometimes be triggered by the anticipation of a stressful day ahead, worries about upcoming responsibilities, or a racing mind as you wake up and start thinking about your to-do list.Evening Anxiety: Evening anxiety may be triggered by worries about the events of the day, concerns about the future, or fears related to bedtime or sleep.Physical Symptoms:Morning Anxiety: Physical symptoms of morning anxiety can include increased heart rate, rapid breathing, muscle tension, and gastrointestinal discomfort.Evening Anxiety: Physical symptoms of evening anxiety may manifest similarly, but they can also include trouble falling asleep, restlessness, and nighttime awakenings.Coping Strategies:Morning Anxiety: Coping with morning anxiety may involve relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or light exercise to help reduce cortisol levels and calm the mind.Evening Anxiety: Coping with evening anxiety may focus on stress management throughout the day, setting aside time for relaxation and winding down before bedtime, and creating a calming bedtime routine.Causes:Morning Anxiety: Morning anxiety may be more common among individuals who have a higher baseline level of anxiety or those who have a demanding and stressful daily schedule.Evening Anxiety: Evening anxiety can result from unresolved worries, anticipation of events, or rumination on past events, which may become more pronounced as the day winds down.5 SIMPLE HABITS THAT REDUCE ANXIETY* Brushing your brain* Breathing with purpose* Bossing your brain* Being intentionally grateful* Be still MORNING ANXIETY REDUCTION ACTIONS-Intentional music-Ideal nighttime routine-The 2-Minute Journal-Breathing exercisesEVENING ANXIETY REDUCTION ACTIONS -Mood setting-Enjoyable and inviting non-screen evening wind down -Reduction of alcohol consumption-Live your own life (stop scrolling social media)-Breathing exercises-3-3-3 MethodOTHER EPISODES TO CHECK OUT:#563: First Thought: The Easiest Hack for Confidence#514: What to Do When You Wake up with Anxiety#560: Negativity and Sadness: How to Not Let them Overwhelm YouLISTENER OF THE EPISODEHey Trish, I just wanted to share as encouragement to you. A little back story, my husband is a firefight and right now he is gone for two weeks on a fire in another state with minimal cell service. My two kids and I started out the first week strong. I for the first time ever didn’t let myself go into a victim mindset or self pity. This is huge for me because it’s been my inner voice for as long as I can remember. That being said. Yesterday was hard. I woke up,

Podcast #563   FIRST THOUGHT: THE EASIEST HACK FOR INCREASING CONFIDENCE The "First Thought" concept is one of the quickest and easiest ways to boost your confidence and to improve your overall happiness and productivity rate. This episode will give you the step-by-step process to training your first thought and to tapping more easily into a more positive brain. This process will help you have more positive days with less effort … and to implement the process requires less than 30 seconds. ANNOUNCEMENT: It's not too late to join Self-Doubt Detox: Are you tired of self-doubt holding you back from reaching your full potential? It's time to break free and embrace a life filled with confidence and self-assurance. Join us for the Self Doubt Detox, a transformative event happening during the first week of September! Don't miss this opportunity to reclaim your self-worth and reignite your self-belief. Mark your calendar and visit www.trishblackwell.com/detox for all the details and to secure your spot today. REVIEW OF THE WEEK FIRST THOUGHT OF THE DAY The first thought of the day acts as a crucial anchor, setting the tone for the hours ahead and shaping our emotional landscape. Like the initial strokes on a canvas, this thought has the power to paint the hues of our entire day. Whether it's a positive affirmation, a sense of gratitude, or an anticipatory worry, that initial mental brushstroke can ripple through our thoughts and actions, influencing our reactions to challenges and interactions. A positive start often cultivates an optimistic outlook, enhancing resilience in the face of obstacles. Conversely, a negative or anxious beginning can cast a shadow, coloring moments with doubt and stress. Recognizing the impact of this early thought allows us to consciously choose and shape it, guiding our emotions and experiences towards a brighter, more fulfilling day. Start observing it. Set your own standards. See for yourself. Trash Thoughts "Trash thoughts" is a colloquial term used to describe negative, unhelpful, or irrational thoughts that often lack a basis in reality or evidence. These thoughts may be self-critical, judgmental, anxious, or pessimistic, and they can contribute to feelings of stress, insecurity, or unhappiness. Trash thoughts tend to be automatic and may arise from cognitive biases, past experiences, or societal influences. They often undermine one's self-esteem, distort perceptions, and hinder rational decision-making. Recognizing and addressing these thoughts is an important step in maintaining mental well-being, as it allows individuals to challenge their validity and replace them with more constructive and accurate ways of thinking. Clean Thoughts The opposite of "trash thoughts" could be referred to as "empowering thoughts," "positive affirmations," or simply "constructive thoughts." These are thoughts that uplift, motivate, and contribute to a healthier and more balanced mindset. Empowering thoughts are rooted in reality, self-compassion, and a growth-oriented perspective, leading to improved emotional well-being and a more positive outlook on life. FIRST THOUGHT DURING THE DAY Every day, our minds generate an astounding number of thoughts—around 60,000 to 80,000 on average. However, it's important to recognize that just because a thought crosses our mind doesn't automatically make it a fact.

Podcast #562   CONFIDENCE FOR INTERVIEWS AND MEETINGS In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * How to be confident when it matters most  * Confidence preparation tips  * Letting go of the anxiety   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: SELF-DOUBT DETOX This 5 day event starts next week, grab your spot now at www.trishblackwell.com/detox WHEN IT MATTERS MOST: Be your best. Trust God with the rest. Decide to be the type of person who any company would love to hire. Be invaluable.  CONFIDENCE PREPARATION Confidence plays a crucial role in interviews as it helps you present yourself in the best possible light and make a positive impression on the interviewer. Here are some tips to boost your confidence during interviews: Preparation is Key: Research the company, the role, and the industry thoroughly. Understand the job description and requirements, and prepare answers for common interview questions. The more you know, the more confident you'll feel. Practice, Practice, Practice: Rehearse your answers with a friend, family member, or in front of a mirror. Practice will help you articulate your thoughts more clearly and reduce nervousness. Body Language: Maintain good posture, make eye contact, and offer a firm handshake. These nonverbal cues exude confidence and professionalism. Dress Appropriately: Choose attire that suits the company culture and the role. When you feel well-dressed, it can boost your confidence. Positive Self-Talk: Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments before the interview. Visualize Success: Spend a few minutes visualizing yourself acing the interview. Imagine yourself answering questions confidently and making a positive impression. Focus on Your Achievements: Prepare stories that showcase your skills and accomplishments. Sharing these examples can remind you of your abilities and enhance your confidence. Listen Actively: Pay close attention to the interviewer's questions and respond thoughtfully. Active listening demonstrates confidence and shows that you're engaged in the conversation. Pause Before Responding: Take a moment to gather your thoughts before answering a question. A well-thought-out response is more effective than rushing into an answer. Ask Questions: Prepare thoughtful questions to ask the interviewer. This shows your interest in the role and company, and it also shifts the dynamic from one-sided to more of a conversation. Embrace Nervousness: Accept that some nervousness is normal. It's a sign that you care about the opportunity. Channel that energy into enthusiasm for the role. Remember Your Value: Remind yourself that you have unique skills and experiences to offer. The interview is an opportunity for them to learn about you as much as it is for you to learn about the company. Learn from Rejections: Even if you don't get an offer, view each interview as a chance to improve. Reflect on what went well and what you could enhance for the next interview. Practice Mindfulness: Deep breathing and mindfulness exercises can help calm nerves before the interview. Taking a few deep breaths can have a calming effect on your mind and body. Experience Matters: The more interviews you do, the more comfortable and confident you'll become. So,