The Confidence Podcast Archives - Trish Blackwell

Podcast #561 FORGIVING YOURSELF AND LOVING THE PAST YOUSelf-forgiveness is the start of freedom. If you're hard on yourself, and tend to beat yourself up for past mistakes or unhealthy habits, this episode is for you. Learning how to nurture a narrative of grace and compassion will open you to a powerful growth mindset and free you from the prison of a fixed and perfectionistic mindset. This episode will help you come to terms with your past self, and even find gratitude and appreciation for the mistakes, struggles and valleys you have walked through - even those that were self-inflicted - so that you can really maximize the person you have the ability to become in the present. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering:* The process of self-forgiveness and letting go of being hard on yourself* How to love the past you, even the painful, poor decision-making you* Letting go and letting it be a part of your story with acceptanceANNOUNCEMENT:SELF-DOUBT DETOX WEEK REGISTRATION IS OPEN!Sign up for your spot now >>www.trishblackwell.com/detoxTHE PROCESS OF SELF-FORGIVENESSAcknowledge that it is needed.Release the dialogue that "you're hard on yourself"Identify your primary emotionDecide if you want to keep the emotionTell yourself a compassionate storyCreate a healing or growth-based take-awayLOVING THE PAST Y0U:Identify your current story.How do you describe yourself in this narrative?Generate Compassion:How does it make sense that you struggled?How is it okay now?How was what you went through something you grew through?Express Love and Thanks:In what ways can you thank your past self?How is she still deeply loveable?Forgive and Respect:I forgive for you not knowing how to handle pain.I forgive you for not having the skills of emotional management or thought work.I forgive you for hurting yourself. It made sense at the time.I release beating myself up. I have outgrown beating myself up. HOW I KNOW THIS PROCESS:I spent a decade being ashamed of my past self. Why couldn't I pull it together? Why did I make such painful and fearful choices, and then convince myself that I would struggle forever?DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO NOWWhat do you regret the most? How did you miss out?Identify what you wish you had known then.Then double down and intentionally create that for your present and your future.This is what fires me up in my core soul.LETTING GO AND ACCEPTANCEClose the chapter.Remember that all stories need pain points - a hero story.Decide that it was ultimately for your good. Accept your story.Decide upon your future story. LISTENER OF THE EPISODEOH MY GOSH!! You are amazing. So I’ve listened to Joyce Meyer for years. Lately, I have felt like GOD is leading me to something bigger. And there you were! I feel like your podcast and college of confidence is going to be life changing for me. I am going to purchase that on payday. I have always been loud and full of personality. I want to master all the skills you teach. BIG PICTURE, I want to be a life Coach, Speaker and eventually write a book. I have been through so much mental and physical trauma starting from childhood. I want to help women get through all the things I’ve had to endure. Molestation, rape, physical abuse and mental abuse. I lost my first child 2 days after delivery. I wish I would have had someone help me through all this. I am still trying to free myself from all this baggage. Where can I start?Thank you for listening, Rena’ TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabUnknown Speaker 0:01 You're listening to the confidence podcast, your favorite coaching podcast oozing with motivation, inspiration, and confidence to help you boldly take action on your dream...

Podcast #560   NEGATIVITY AND SADNESS: HOW TO NOT LET THEM OVERWHELM YOU In this episode we explore the balance between confidence, happiness, and the reality of experiencing negativity and sadness. When you give yourself permission to feel the full range of human emotions, your emotional fitness increases and your ability to take action in life when you're feeling down becomes more natural. This episode is for anyone who wants to live a positive life and make a positive impact; you'll learn how to not be discouraged by the negativity and setbacks you experience along the journey of purpose and impact.   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * Staying confident and happy while also feeling negativity and sadness  * A new approach to feeling your emotions and effectively talking to them * What not to do when you're sad and overwhelmed or in a season of struggle REVIEW OF THE WEEK:  THE PROCESS OF FEELING YOUR EMOTIONS All your feelings. Learn to understand them. Make friends with them. Normalize and neutralize. 5N Process for Feeling: Notice (awareness and curiosity) Narrate (talk as if you were it and then talk to it) Normalize (this is part of being human, let it make sense) Neutralize (expand your perspective and reframe) Next (decide what new emotion you want to start to generate or the new path forward) The more you are willing to feel, the more you can achieve in life. I held myself back (unknowingly) because I was afraid of feeling-disappointed -discouraged -embarrassed -judged  -bored SADNESS It's okay to feel this sometimes.  Learn to not run from it - to avoid or numb or buffer it. Be curious.Know your triggers, energy patterns and hormonal patterns NEGATIVITY Seasons of negativity - when everything feels like it's going wrong. I notice this in myself when I struggle to reframe, when my brain offers cynicism, when I feel like giving up, when I snap at my husband or when I'm impatient with my children. Don't judge this - open to it.  If you keep thinking things are going to be hard, they will be. -Am I making this harder than it seems? -How is today easy in some ways and hard in others? (I notice I get fixated on how far something is when I feel like my day is hard or that it's going to be hard - I then start to feel sorry for myself; know where your negativity voice stems from -- mine comes from a victim mentality / it shouldn't be this hard / it's not fair)  Question and get curious: -Am I managing my mindset? -Have I allowed some of my habits of excellence to get sloppy? -Where am I allowing negative influences in? -How often am I proactively reframing my thoughts? -Am I insisting on positivity and possibility in my life? Emotional maturity and the ability to feel your feelings opens the gateways of life. SPONSORSHIP This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/CONFIDENCEPOD and get on your way to being your best self.” Sometimes we're faced with a crossroads in life,

Podcast #559   CURATING AND NURTURING SELF-LOVE Self-love is the ability to have unconditional positive regard towards oneself, and no matter your personal background or current level of self-esteem, everyone can strengthen their foundation of self-love. A solid concept of self-love creates the base of confidence, self-trust and the ability to achieve anything you set your mind to.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * What is keeping you back from self-love * What self-love is and what self-love isn't * New power phrases to practice to increase your internal dialogue of self-love and to rewire the core base of your self-perception  REVIEW OF THE WEEK WHAT INHIBITS SELF-LOVE Self-criticismBelief that you aren't deserving of love unless you reach….Misunderstanding self-loveNegative Self TalkFeelings that you shouldn't focus on self Chronic Stress and Burnout: Constantly pushing oneself to the point of exhaustion or neglecting self-care can hinder self-love as it undermines physical and emotional well-being. Comparisons: Constantly comparing oneself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. This habit of measuring self-worth based on external achievements or appearances can hinder self-love. Negative Self-Talk: When individuals constantly criticize themselves, focus on their flaws, or engage in self-deprecating thoughts, it erodes their self-esteem and makes it difficult to cultivate self-love. 3 QUOTES ON SELF-LOVE "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." - Lucille Ball The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you'll tolerate." - Unknown "Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we'll ever do." - Brené Brown WHAT SELF-LOVE IS AND WHAT IT ISN'T What Self-Love Is: -Self-kindness and self-respect -Unconditional high regard for oneself -Believing and understanding that you are God's masterpiece What Self-Love Isn't: -It's not selfish or self-focuses -It's not lazy or indulgent  SELF-LOVE POWER THOUGHTS: I am deeply loved and cherished, just as I am. * I believe in myself and my ability to overcome any challenges that come my way. * I am a unique individual with valuable qualities that the world needs. * I am worthy of all the love, joy, and abundance life has to offer. * I am proud of my progress and the person I am becoming. * I deserve to treat myself with kindness, respect, and utmost care. * I trust my instincts and make choices that align with my true desires. * I am constantly growing and evolving, and that's something to celebrate. * My self-love radiates, positively influencing the people around me. * I am resilient and can handle whatever life throws at me. * I give myself permission to prioritize my needs and well-being without guilt. * I am capable of achieving my dreams, and I take steps every day to get closer to them. * I honor and appreciate myself for all the progress I've made, no matter how small. * I am a beautiful soul, deserving of love, compassion, and inner peace. * Today, I choose to love myself unconditionally, and that empowers me to embrace life fully. * I am worthy of love and respect exactly as I am. * I am enough, just as I am, and I don't need to prove myself to anyone. * I embrace my imperfections and see them as part of my unique beauty. * I choose to let go of self-doubt and believe in my abilities.

Podcast #558   OBSESSED WITH OVERWORKING? FINDING BALANCE AS A HIGHLY MOTIVATED PERSON Break the cycle of overworking and learn to not let work dominate your entire life. This episode will break down why we get caught up in an overworking addiction and self-induced stress. We explore the alluring trap of excessive ambition and the toll it takes on achieving a balanced work/life harmony. Join us as we unravel the keys to breaking free from this cycle and creating a happier, healthier lifestyle. Discover how to trust yourself, work smarter, and achieve more without sacrificing your well-being. This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * The overworking achievement trap * How to trust yourself, work less and achieve more * Finding balance as a highly motivated and driven person ANNOUNCEMENT Join me this month in the College of Confidence for SELF-TALK MONTH. www.collegeofconfidence.com/join Happy birthday to my beautiful baby boy, Baker! LISTENER OF THE EPISODE OVERWORKING: WHY DO YOU DO IT? The Overworking Achievement Trap:Be driven Decide to work harder than anyone else Get results Repeat What this fails to see is that it is not just your work and your effort that gets results, but rather your consistency, your follow through and your thoughts. Working more than anyone else is NOT what makes you stand out. It's just what exhausts you.  Then you get addicted to it. Then fear comes in and you stop trusting yourself WHAT DOES IT GIVE YOU? False belief in yourself Distraction from growth While striving and working hard can lead to accomplishments and success, it's important to distinguish between healthy ambition and overworking to the point of detriment. Some people may find themselves stuck in a negative cycle of overworking due to certain perceived mental benefits, even though it's ultimately detrimental to their well-being. Some of these perceived mental benefits might include: * Sense of Purpose and Identity: For some individuals, their work becomes a significant part of their identity, giving them a sense of purpose and validation. They may believe that their worth is tied to their achievements, leading them to overwork to maintain that sense of identity and self-worth. * Achievement and Recognition: Overworking can result in greater accomplishments and, in turn, recognition from peers and superiors. This external validation can become addictive, reinforcing the belief that working excessively is necessary to maintain that level of achievement and recognition. * Avoidance of Negative Emotions: Some individuals may use work as a way to escape or avoid dealing with negative emotions such as stress, anxiety, loneliness, or personal issues. Immersing themselves in work can provide a temporary distraction from these feelings, leading them to overwork as a coping mechanism. * Fear of Failure: A fear of failure can drive people to overwork to the point where they feel they are less likely to fail. They might believe that working harder and longer will increase their chances of success, even though it may lead to burnout in the long run. * Social Expectations and Norms: Societal norms or pressure from family, peers,

Podcast #557   NOT MEASURING UP If you've ever felt like you don't measure up in your life, this episode is for you.  The feeling of not feeling "enough," or like you're not doing enough, or not popular enough, or not ready enough is not as uncommon as you think. The unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves can tarnish and damage our confidence and keep us from the life we are meant to live, not to mention make life harder on yourself than it needs to be.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on: * 5 Ways to Believe You Measure Up * Redirecting Comparison  * How to Create Your Own Standards   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: QUOTES ON NOT MEASURING UP The deepest fear we have, 'the fear beneath all fears,' is the fear of not measuring up, the fear of judgment. It's the fear that creates the stress and depression of everyday life. -Tullian Tchividjan  Never compare your beginning to someone else's middle. -Jon Acuff We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and n3ever measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are. -Miguel Angel Ruiz ANNOUNCEMENTS: Coaching Certification - live session tomorrow Wednesday 7/26 at 7PM EST Join me at www.trishblackwell.com/zoom 1:1 for high achievers - doctors, lawyers, overthinkers - your life is great and people see you as massively successful, and yet you feel anxious and awful most of the time and question your path; if this is you, find out more and fill out an application to chat with me about if coaching is right for you at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching 5 WAYS TO BELIEVE YOU MEASURE UP Change the Language You Use Train Your Brain to Find the Good List and Track Your Wins Commit to Daily Intentional Gratitude Get Obsessed with the Long Game / With Showing Up  THOUGHTS THAT CREATE PRESSURE / NOT-ENOUGHNESS I'm not ready. I'm not doing enough. They're better than mean…. People will think that I …. I can't mess this up… There's too much to do..... DECIDE ON YOUR MEASURING STANDARDS Who are you measuring yourself against? What do you actually want? How much are you distracting yourself by watching what other people  Track your own progress. Insist on doing The 3/3/3 Method Celebrate your micro-milestones FOCUS YOUR MIND ON YOUR OWN VISION Know what you want - and stay singularly focused on that. With focus you won't care what other people think. Believe your own vision and progress is inevitable.  REDIRECT COMPARISON 

BONUS EPISODE: SHOULD YOU BECOME A LIFE COACH / CONFIDENCE COACH In this episode, we dive into the world of coaching and tackle the question of whether becoming a life coach or a confidence coach is the right path for you. Join us as we explore the skills, responsibilities, and challenges associated with these coaching specialties. If you've ever wondered how to be a confidence coach, this episode will give you a clear path. Whether you're considering a career change or simply curious about the coaching profession, this episode will help you make an informed decision about your future. In this episode we're coaching on: * How to know if you should become a coach, and what steps to take * The gift of being able to make any type of impact that you want in your life * Next steps to help cut through the overwhelm of getting started Over the past few years, I've gotten a lot of the same questions about coaching: How did I know I should be a coach? What did I do to get started? How did I start getting clients? How did I know what to charge? What did I do when I was discouraged? How did I know I was ready? What is the income earning potential in coaching? What do I need to do to become a successful coach? The main question I get though is, "How can I do what you do?" I'm now answering all those and more, in my new Confidence Coaching Certification program. We have ten spots left, and if you've been itching to get into the coaching industry, and you love my coaching style, this is for you. Not only will I teach you how to coach, but I will coach and certify you to coach my exact coaching methodologies and I'll teach you how to make as much money you want in your coaching business ... and how to make a deep impact at the same time. Click here or on the link below to find out more: www.confidencecoachingcertification.com This is a 6-month, intimate coaching certification experience, where you will get personalized support and attention from me the entire journey.  I made a lot of mistakes when I launched my coaching business, and so I created the coaching certification course that I wish had been available to me when I started.  WHY THIS CERTIFICATION OVER ANOTHER? Proven results. 10 years of intimate experience - hundreds of hours of coaching. Built my own platform, paved the way in an industry that didn't exist. Pull back the curtain. You can eventually work for me and my company I'm massively committed to my coaches getting results.  WHAT DOES THE 6 MONTHS OF EDUCATION LOOK LIKE? MONTH ONE - CONFIDENCE BASICS Thought Work - Journaling, Affirmations, Downloads, Reframes, Boundaries The Tea Technique Being Confident Enough to Coach Confidence Confidence for Self-Esteem and Identity Confidence for Achievement and Growth Confidence for Athletics Confidence for School and Work  MONTH TWO - COACHING BASICS Holding Space and Being Neutral Blind Spots and Helping People See Their Thoughts Acceptance and Neutrality Staying Organized Creating a Coaching Method MONTH THREE - NICHING DOWN & REACHING OUT

Podcast #556   REFRAMING - MASTERING THE ART OF POSITIVE INNER SELF-TALK Learn the art of positive self-talk and how to change your inner voice by learning the skill of "Reframing." Discover practical strategies to reframe your mindset, even on days when nothing is going right and the world feels like is against you. Master the skill of establishing mental standards aligned with the life you desire. This episode will help you master the most powerful tool available to our brains -- reframing. In this episode, we're coaching on: * When complaining and inconvenience are real, and how to make the brain positive when life feels negative or frustrating (How to reframe when you don't "feel like it"…) * How to reframe, why it matters, and how to master it * Establishing mental standards for yourself that align with the life you want REVIEW OF THE WEEK: ANNOUNCEMENT: Money Confidence - all month in the College of Confidence Come give the COC a 100% risk-free try at www.collegeofconfidence.com QUOTES ON REFRAMES * "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer * "It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." - Epictetus * "Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change." - Unknown * "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James * "In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you." - Deepak Chopra HOW TO REFRAME What is it? -The most powerful process or skill you could possess to live a positive life A mental reframe refers to the process of shifting or changing one's perspective, beliefs, or interpretation of a situation, in order to view it in a more positive or empowering light. It involves consciously altering the way you think about something in order to cultivate a more constructive or beneficial mindset. A mental reframe can help individuals reframe challenges as opportunities, setbacks as learning experiences, and negative thoughts as positive affirmations. It allows for a shift from a limited or negative mindset to one that is more optimistic, empowering, and conducive to growth and well-being. By consciously reframing our thoughts, we can reshape our perception of situations, change our emotional responses, and ultimately enhance our overall outlook on life. Mental reframing can be a powerful tool for personal development, resilience, and finding meaning in difficult circumstances. WHY REFRAMING MATTERS Reframing your thoughts is important because it has a significant impact on your overall well-being, mindset, and how you navigate through life's challenges. Here are a few reasons why reframing your thoughts matters: * Positive mindset: Reframing helps cultivate a positive mindset by shifting your focus from negative or limiting beliefs to more empowering and optimistic perspectives. This positive outlook enables you to approach situations with resilience, creativity, and a greater sense of possibility. * Stress reduction: Reframing your thoughts can reduce stress levels. By reframing negative thoughts or stressful situations, you can alter your emotional response and perceive challenges as opportunities for growth. This change in perception can lead to decreased stress and improved emoti...

Podcast #555   MONEY CONFIDENCE The way you think about money affects how much of it you have in your life. Confidence creates ease, and you can create more ease and positive flow in your financial life by increasing your money confidence and your money mindset, no matter your current financial status. This episode will teach you how to have more ease with money, how to manage it with confidence, and how to make more of it, without adding stress or overwhelm to your life.  In this episode, we're coaching on: * Money confidence - how to have more ease and a better relationship with money in your life * Phrases to eliminate from your vocabulary if you want to have financial peace and money abundance * How to have a positive (not stressful) relationship with money and to make more of it; or as much of it as you want REVIEW OF THE WEEK: QUOTES ON MONEY * The only way to permanently change the temperature in the room is to reset the thermostat. In the same way, the only way to change your level of financial success 'permanently' is to reset your financial thermostat." - T. Harv Eker * "A wise person should have money in their head, but not in their heart." - Jonathan Swift * "Money, like emotions, is something you must control to keep your life on the right track." - Natasha Munson * Money is usually attracted, not pursued." - Jim Rohn * "Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune." - Jim Rohn * "Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that." - Norman Vincent Peale * The person who doesn't know where his next dollar is coming from usually doesn't know where his last dollar went." - Unknown * "Money is only a tool. It will enable you to experience more of who you truly are." - T. Harv Eker ANNOUNCEMENT: MONEY CONFIDENCE MONTH Are you tired of feeling limited by a scarcity mindset when it comes to money?  Do you find yourself constantly worrying about your financial situation and longing for a more abundant and confident outlook?  Do you desire to enhance your financial situation and cultivate an abundant money mindset?  Are you tired of feeling anxious about money and yearn for a sense of peace and confidence in your financial decisions?  Perhaps you want to develop the courage to ask for a raise or start charging more in your business.  Or maybe you're seeking ways to improve how you and your partner communicate about money and transform your relationship with it. If any of these resonate with you, then the College of Confidence coaching this month is tailor-made for you. We are spending the entire month of July dedicated MONEY CONFIDENCE.  Here's what you can expect to gain from the Money Confidence coaching theme: Unlocking Your Earning Potential: Learn strategies and techniques to boost your income and make more money. Gain the confidence to step into your value and charge what you're worth. Abundant Money Mindset: Discover powerful mindset shifts and belief systems that will help you develop a positive and abundant relationship with money. Transform scarcity thinking into abundance thinking. Overcoming Financial Anxiety: Acquire practical tools and exercises to over...

Podcast #554 REINVENTING YOURSELF At any moment, you have the power to reinvent yourself and reinvent the story of your future. In this episode we're diving into the process of how to reinvent yourself, how to know what to drop and how to practice being the person you want to become. This is a transformation process that you can start, no matter your age. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* Deciding who you want to be, no matter your age* Becoming that version of yourself that you can be* Actionable steps to reinventing yourself START IMAGINING:Who do you want to be 10 years from now?What do your net worth to be?What contribution will you be making in society?What story will future generations tell about you?ANNOUNCEMENT:This is the one time of year we offer this publicly.Get lifetime access to coaching with me.Just a one-time payment of $2997.www.collegeofconfidence.com/lifetimeThis means you get access to everything we've ever offered.And everything we'll ever offer. STARTING REFLECTIONS* What aspects of my current life or self do I feel unsatisfied or unfulfilled with?* What are my core values and beliefs, and how well are they aligned with my current lifestyle?* What are my passions, interests, and talents that I haven't fully explored or utilized?* What are the biggest fears or limitations holding me back from making significant changes?* How do I envision my ideal life or self? What does success and happiness mean to me?* What are the key skills or knowledge I need to acquire or improve upon to achieve my desired reinvention?* What steps can I take to challenge myself and step out of my comfort zone?* Who are the people or communities that inspire me or share similar aspirations? How can I connect with them?* What habits or patterns do I need to break or replace in order to support my reinvention?* How can I create a practical and realistic action plan to initiate and sustain the changes needed for my reinvention?Remember, self-reflection is a personal journey, and the answers to these questions may evolve over time. Use them as a starting point to gain clarity and set yourself on a path of reinvention and personal growth.Where are you dissatisfied?What habits are holding you back?What do you want your relationship with food to be like?What do you want your relationship with your body to be like?What do you want your relationship with time to be like?What do you want your relationship with alcohol to be like?What do you want your relationship with money to be like?YOU 1.0 VERSUS YOU 2.0 Having just turned 40, I get to ask myself who I want to be in my 40s.Some of my vision: Someone who lives unrushed, with peace and joy in every daySomeone who gives herself permission to think bigger than ever beforeSomeone who manages her brain with diligence and discipline dailySomeone who loves being different and doesn't apologize for itSomeone who embraces being a little extraSomeone who's life is an expression of worship and gratitudeSomeone with a high tolerance for risk and failureSomeone who knows that all failure is formativeSomeone with high standardsSomeone massively in love with lifeSomeone joyfully committed to her husbandSomeone who thinks with optimism and beliefSomeone with expansive creativitySomeone willing to do the little things with excellenceSomeone committed breaking glass ceilings in her lifeSomeone who is better friends with her body than she's ever beenSomeone who is an example of what's possible and invites others in to thinking biggerWhat's YOUR vision?YOU CAN BE WHOEVER YOU DECIDE TO BEYou are not victim to your past. Your past doesn't dictate your future.Why not you?Stop waiting for the gatekeepers in your life - start opening your own gates - or waiting for the Lord to open them (and have the faith that they will at the right time) REINVENTING YOURSELF ACTION...

Podcast #553   BELIEVING YOU MATTER & THAT YOU ARE REMARKABLE In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about: * How to know that you matter - and then how to believe it * 12 steps that you can implement to strengthen this belief * Deciding to create a remarkable life ANNOUNCEMENTS Wanting to deepen your journaling practice?Get your copy of my newest journal prompt book on Amazon, Inner Radiance: 1000 Journal Prompts for Self-Confidence and Joy www.trishblackwell.com/innerradiance Inspiration for this episode: From my own experience of being overwhelmed by the world. My thoughts were that I was forgettable. My childhood experience of feeling like the ugly duckling, even though I was an extremely cute kid - comparison to my brother. From my amazing cousin Karen who specializes in working with teens - and when I asked her what the biggest challenge for young people now is, she said this: knowing you matter.  The more you appreciate what others do for you, the more you will appreciate that the good you put out in the world, and the way you contribute by being yourself, adds massive value. We are so distracted by the digital world and by a culture of comparison that we lose sight of what matters. -Like the friends who send GIFs that make you smile at random times of the day -Like the strangers who exhibit unnecessary kindness and generosity -Like the person who helps you in a time of need (changing your tire - Bragg Hill story?) -Like the handwritten note that someone keeps for decades -Like the way your grandma would make your sandwich with extra juicy tomato slices and bring to the beach  -Like someone who remembers your name and shares enthusiastic energy -Like the unsolicited compliment -Like the investment of belief that someone pours out over you -Like the example of what is possible that someone you admire demonstrates for you -Like the feeling of being understood and heard that a friend or companion can give you -Like the encouragement that you receive from someone who listens to you vent and makes you believe that it's going to be okay -Like the coach or teacher from twenty years ago who's example of how they lived in the world or the few things they said to you still inspire you  Don't dismiss what matters in life - the little things. The things that seem "impressive' or that get "likes" don't necessarily make someone happier or their life matter more. The inner experience of life determines your happiness. There is a battle for your attention and for this belief that you matter. It's a spiritual battle.If the enemy of your soul can get you to believe that you don't matter and that nothing matters, you get taken out of the game of life - figuratively or literally.  Fight to believe you matter. HOW TO KNOW THAT YOU MATTER … AND THEN HOW TO BELIEVE IT You are here. That in itself is a miracle. Whatever your faith background - there's universal agreement that this fact is evidence of purpose, worthiness,

Podcast #552   DOING WHAT YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING In this episode, we're diving into the often-dreaded topic of doing what you don't feel like doing. We all have tasks on our to-do list that we'd rather avoid, but procrastination only makes things worse. So how do we push through and get things done? We'll explore practical strategies for overcoming resistance and building momentum, as well as the mindset shifts that can help us reframe our approach to challenging tasks. Whether it's a daunting work project, a tough conversation, or just getting to the gym, this episode gives actionable tips for doing what you don't feel like doing and achieving your goals.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * How to be someone how always does what they say they're going to do * Managing your emotions more effectively so you can take massive action * Create traction and get more results where you want in your life ANNOUNCEMENTS There's no better time than now to join the College of Confidence. Find out more at www.collegeofconfidence.com Create a before and an after.  Want to reinspire your journaling habit? Check out my newest journaling book  Inner Radiance: 1000 JOURNAL PROMPTS TO SPARK CONFIDENCE www.trishblackwell.com/inneradiance WHAT HOLDS US BACK FROM DOING Dread. Fear. Distraction. It's an emotion. When you find out that you're just afraid of the emotion, you'll feel empowered to move forward. ACKNOWLEDGE THE AVOIDANCE Avoidance will keep you from your dreams. -It keeps you small -It creates a nature of delay in your character -It shrinks the world that is available to you Remember, we all know people who talk big. But you know the difference between those who talk big and those who actually implement and do. Be a doer. Be someone that when people hear you say something that you are going to do, they know you'll do it. Practice this on your own, in the smallest of small ways. Excuses about your preferences will keep your potential buried. -Stop preferring to "feel like it"  -Develop emotional maturity to know the difference between priorities and preferences -Decide to be someone who doesn't make excuses - and be proud of yourself every time you act as this person Focusing on your lack will sabotage what you do have -You have all you need right now to start -Own the time abundance in your life - and create more -Stop believing that you need to do it all on your own BETTERHELP SPONSORSHIP: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. But when we spend all of our time giving, it can leave us feeling stretched thin and burned out. Therapy can give you the tools to find more balance in your life – so you can keep supporting others, without leaving yourself behind.  If you’re thinking of starting therapy, give BetterHelp a try. It’s entirely online. Designed to be convenient, flexible, and suited to your schedule. Just fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist,

  Podcast #551   WHEN LIFE IS UNFAIR AND YOU FEEL BEHIND Life can feel and be massively unfair. But you don't have to let unfairness be a disadvantage. You can create your own unfair advantage so that you no longer feel behind or feel like you're starting from a disadvantaged place. Learn exactly how to reframe how you think about your life so that you can use your exact circumstances to create confidence, power and breakthrough. You'll get all of the tips you need in this episode of The Confidence Podcast.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * Unfairness and how to reframe it in your life so it doesn't hold you back  * How to create your own unfair advantage, no matter your circumstance * The relation between unfairness, being behind and trusting yourself REVIEW OF THE WEEK  UNFAIRNESS * "The only thing that makes life unfair is the delusion that it should be fair." - Dr. Steve Maraboli * "Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not." - Oscar Wilde It exists for everyone. It is a universal experience. That is to say - some people have more unfairness than others. Dwelling on this is not helpful and doesn't serve you. Decide that you don’t need things to be fair to succeed. In fact, you thrive on being the underdog, on being an overcomer. I'm not talking about unfairness in social justice. We still fight. We still stand up for those who don't have a voice. We still advocate. We do what we are called to do BUT we just don’t obsess about the limitation it is creating in our own lives. Those who make history are the ones who break through the limitation and barrier - the unfairness that is there and do it anyways.  EXAMPLES OF PEOPLE WHO ACTS IN SPITE OF MASSIVE UNFAIRNESS In 1967, Kathrine Switzer became the first woman to run the Boston Marathon. At that time, women were not allowed to participate in the marathon due to the belief that women were not physically capable of running long distances. However, Switzer registered for the race using her initials "K.V. Switzer" and was accepted. During the race, one of the officials tried to physically remove her from the course, but she persisted and completed the race. Switzer's determination and courage inspired many women to participate in long-distance running, and she became a symbol of the fight for gender equality in sports. Switzer went on to run 39 marathons, and in 1972, women were finally allowed to officially participate in the Boston Marathon. Switzer's pioneering efforts paved the way for future generations of female runners and helped to break down barriers in sports and beyond. Nick Vujicic is an international motivational speaker who was born with a rare condition known as Tetra-Amelia syndrome, which resulted in him being born without arms and legs. Despite the challenges he faced growing up, including bullying and depression, Vujicic found hope and purpose through his faith and his desire to inspire others. He began speaking publicly at the age of 19 and has since spoken to millions of people in over 65 countries, sharing his message of hope, resilience, and determination. Vujicic's powerful speeches have touched the lives of countless people, and he has become a role model for those facing adversity. He is also a successful author, with several best-selling books to his name. Through his work, Vujicic has shown that anything is possible with the right mindset and attitude, and that true strength comes from within. Rosa Parks was an American civil rights activist who becam...

Podcast #550   HOW TO GET MORE DONE & ACCELERATE YOUR SUCCESS RATE The more you can get done, the more you will get ahead, and getting "ahead" will increase how confident you feel about a task or about your life in general. There are some simple time abundance hacks and strategies that will revolutionize how you approach time management and your pace of life. From time-blocking and prioritization to delegation and self-care, we'll share insights and actionable advice for increasing your productivity and making meaningful progress toward your goals. Join us as we dive into the world of productivity and learn how to get more done while staying focused on what truly matters to you. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * Productivity hacks for peak time management, whether you consider yourself driven or not * How to tap into time abundance - no matter how busy you are * The key to staying confident about progress and timing in your life  ANNOUNCEMENTS: Free opt-in: www.trishblackwell.com/DDD Refer to Deliberate Daily Design system in the COC  REVIEW OF THE WEEK: MINDSET PREREQ You can't get a lot done from a mindset of self-pity.  Substitute every "have to" with "get it" -- gratitude will transform your focus and follow-through. WHY I AM TALKING ABOUT PRODUCTIVITY * I've been a master of time management since I was 14.In high school I was in 5 APS, team captain of 2 varsity teams, president of the student body and did triple workouts daily - and still had a social life. * In College I maintained a full-scholarship training schedule D1, worked 15 hours per week, was in a sorority, founded and launched a non-profit and took extra classes like ASL for fun. * As a single person, I worked 50 hours a week in a corporate job, starting working as an entrepreneur 10 hours per week and trained for my first Ironman for 20 hours per weekMarried and as a new mom, I quit my full-time job and went all in on myself. Over the past few years I have sold over $1.5 million dollars of personal training, while being home with my kids for much of the time with minimal babysitting (can anyone say pandemic?!) PRODUCTIVITY HACKS  Batching content Deciding and scheduling ahead of time Color coding your planner Utilize timing systems that work for you Red tape time 3/3/3 Method Outsourcing Meta Summary: Think ahead. Plan ahead. Put time boundaries on what time it will take. Never avoid. Massive action in micro-steps.  Self-Image  -I am good at doing hard things. -I am a time ninja. -I use my time wisely and joyfully.

 Podcast #549 SELF-KINDNESS FOR THE SELF-CRITICAL PERSONIn this episode, we're discussing the important topic of self-kindness, specifically for those who tend to be self-critical. It's all too easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk and self-blame, but learning to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion is key to building a healthy self-image and improving our mental well-being. We'll explore practical strategies for cultivating self-kindness, including mindfulness, reframing negative thoughts, and practicing self-care. Whether you struggle with low self-esteem, imposter syndrome, or just the occasional bout of self-criticism, join us as we explore the transformative power of self-kindness and learn to treat ourselves with the love and respect we deserve.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering:* How to drop the self-critical pressure you are putting on yourself* Becoming someone who practices self-kindness, even if you don't have tons of time* Obstacles to effective self-kindness practice* Integrating self-kindness into daily life in micro (and doable) waysANNOUNCEMENT:Happy 43rd birthday to my handsome husband, Brandon Synan! REVIEW OF THE WEEK:QUOTES ON SELF-KINDNESS"Self-care is not selfish. You cannot serve from an empty vessel." - Eleanor Brown"Self-compassion is the ultimate act of self-care." - Kristin Neff"Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to myself." - Nathaniel Branden"Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others." - Christopher GermerHOW TO DROP THE SELF-CRITICAL WEIGHTIt's pressure-focused, lack-based and creates low-grade anxiety and unworthiness.We think we are motivating ourselves, but we are not. It's not an effective way to self-motivate.Identify your main self-critical thoughts.Write them down.Respond to them.Practice your new responses daily.Applaud yourself when you catch a self-critical thought.Give yourself a gold-star when you think a new natural self-kind thoughtPRACTICING SELF-KINDNESS (EVEN IF YOU'RE BUSY)This is for you if you think you're too busy, or that self-kindness is just fluff. Practicing self-kindness is crucial to maintaining mental and emotional well-being. Here are some ways to practice self-kindness:Speak to yourself with compassion: Instead of criticizing yourself for your mistakes, try talking to yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a close friend. Speak to yourself as you would to someone you love.Take care of your body: Nourish your body with healthy food, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. Pay attention to your body's needs and prioritize self-care.Do things you enjoy: Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether that's reading a book, taking a long bath, or spending time outdoors. Allow yourself to take a break from your busy schedule and recharge your batteries.Set realistic goals: Instead of setting impossibly high standards for yourself, set achievable goals and celebrate your progress along the way. Remember that perfection is unattainable, and progress is the key to success.Practice mindfulness: Take time to slow down and be present in the moment. This can be as simple as taking a few deep breaths or practicing meditation. Mindfulness can help reduce stress and increase self-awareness.Remember, practicing self-kindness is a daily practice. By treating yourself with compassion and prioritizing your well-being, you can improve your mental and emotional health and live a happier, more fulfilling life.If you're someone who is super busy, finding time for self-kindness may feel like a challenge. However, even small acts of self-kindness can make a big difference in your overall well-being. Here are some ways to practice self-kindness when you're short on time:Take a break: Even if you can only spare a few minutes,

Podcast #548   STAYING CONFIDENT WHEN SELF-DOUBT IS PRESENT Self-doubt isn't a problem, unless you make it one. . If allowed to run wild, self-doubt can be a powerful force that holds us back from pursuing our goals and living our best lives. But with the right mindset and tools, we can learn to navigate self-doubt and maintain our confidence in the face of uncertainty. In this episode you'll get practical tips for managing self-doubt, including reframing negative thoughts, building a support system, and setting achievable goals so you can create an extraordinary life. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering: * Why self-doubt isn't a problem, and what to make it mean instead. * Giving yourself the power to decide what to make self-doubt mean, and how to leverage your self-doubt into currency that will drive and propel you forward. * How to cultivate more belief than you've ever had before REVIEW OF THE WEEK ANNOUNCEMENT OF THE WEEK Stop Caring Month is still happening in the COC, and it's not too late to get access to everything we have covered. Head to www.collegeofconfidence.com to coach with me 100% risk-free. Next month we're coaching on creating an extraordinary life. Just a sneak peek into some of the upcoming workshops includes:  * Thinking Outside of the Box Workshop * Abundance Mindset Workshop * Designing Your Life on Purpose Workshop * Defining Your Extraordinary Life Workshop * Why Not You Workshop * Doing What Others Don't Do Workshop * Mastering Celebration and Self-Validation Workshop SELF-DOUBT IS NOT A PROBLEM "The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt." - Sylvia Plath "Don't let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks." - Dr. Roopleen "Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will." - Karim Seddiki "Self-doubt is the anchor that keeps our ship from sailing." - M. Kirin "Believe you can and you're halfway there." - Theodore Roosevelt Remember, self-doubt is a natural part of the human experience, and it's important to be kind and patient with yourself as you work through it. With practice and persistence, you can learn to stay confident even in the face of self-doubt. You've got to keep hitting the self-doubt ball back into the other side of the court. In fact, self-doubt is a good thing --- it's a sign that you're creating something with your life. If you didn't have self-doubt, you would just be coasting. It's easy to live a mindless life that requires nothing of you. Choose your "negative" emotional experience -the discomfort of temporary doubt or the permanence of a disappointing life.  Eliminate "I'm Going to Try…" This has an undertone of doubt to do. If you don't fully believe in what you can do, you won't be able to do it. The greatest skill you can cultivate is BELIEF Practice and revisit on purpose the belief Notice and allow the doubt that comes in (the …but…")And realign the belief. Remind yourself of what you are choosing.  What to Know About Self-Doubt:  Everyone experiences it. It's just an emotion - and emotions don't have power unless you give them power. You can turn down its volume. It doesn't mean that you’re not capable.  It' a sign that you're doing something big and worthwhile.  Practice self-compassion: Be kind and compassionate towards yourself,