The Legendary Marriage Podcast

Summary: If you’ve ever felt like your sex life is a bit dull, but you don’t know how to start a conversation with your spouse that doesn’t end in defensiveness, resentment and a night sleeping on the sofa, then you will love this week’s show! It turns out you and your spouse may be speaking totally different languages (between the sheets, so Suzan Acker, CPCC shares the Erotic Blueprint as a tool for beginning to talk abut sex with your spouse. Suzan shares: * How everyone is wired with one of 5 different erotic blueprints * The upside and downside of each blueprint * How to come together sexually, even if we are wired differently   About Suzan Acker, CPCC: She is a certified sex and relationship coach enthusiastic about sparking connection and igniting passion in couples. She helps people deepen their sexual self-awareness, heal shame, become wildly curious about their partner, and most of all, she helps couples discover what’s needed to create sexual satisfaction, deep connection and erotic fulfillment in their relationship. More specifically, she offers clients an 8-week program called the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough. During the program she serves as a guide and accountability partner, taking her clients deep into the Erotic Blueprint experience to help them break through the resistance that keeps them from experiencing the connection and pleasure they desire. (Erotic Blueprint was created by Jaiya, the internationally recognized, award-winning sexologist, author and the founder of New World Sex Education) You can find Suzan online at: www.couplesignited.com   In This Episode: * How failing sex can put your marriage in danger * How to have a conversation about what turns you on * How each one of you can explore the sex language of each other * The breakdown of each of the 5 Erotic Blueprints   Resources: Continue the Conversation in our community on FB Take the Erotic Blueprint Quiz     The Challenge: Take the Erotic Blueprints Quiz and have a conversation with your spouse about your results.   Listen Now:

Summary: Is it possible for a couple to come back from divorce, along with porn and sex addiction to thrive in their marriage?  Tray and Melody Lovvorn have a miracle story because of the hard work they did with God to bring them back together.  It isn’t all pretty, but it was all true. This week we’re having a conversation with couple, turned authors, speakers and podcasters about how they: * Lived the lie of church leaders, hiding a secret addiction * Divorced and lived separate lives for 6 years * Came back together on a redemptive, healing journey About Tray and Melody Lovvorn: Tray and Melody had been married for 11 years when Tray’s secret struggle with pornography and sexual sin ripped their family apart. After 6 years of divorce, God brought about a miraculous restoration and they reconciled and have been remarried for almost 9 years. Discovering that true healing is found on the other side of pain, Tray and Melody have a passion to help men, women, and families experience God’s grace in brokenness and to learn to connect deeply with others in authentic community. Tray and Melody are sought after speakers and teachers on the subjects of marriage, parenting, sexual addiction, and betrayal trauma, and God’s wonderfully scandalous grace. Through Undone Redone, their Birmingham-based non-profit and weekly podcast, Tray and Melody provide life and marriage coaching, recovery intensives, parenting solutions, and help churches establish Christ-centered recovery groups. They live in Birmingham, AL with their four children and ferocious Peekapoo, Toto. Where you can find Tray and Melody Lovvorn online: UndoneRedone Website Facebook YouTube UndoneRedone Podcast Twitter LinkedIn Instagram In This Episode: * Calling men to become more than helpless, hormone-ruled beasts * The shame of constantly living a lie is like trying to keep a beach ball under water * Doing the ugly, hard work to heal for Melody and Tray * The question on every man’s heart – “do I have what it takes?” * How white-knuckling never worked * How to fight together to get to the root issues Resources: Join the Marriage Masterclass Continue the Conversation on FB UndoneRedone Blog The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse about the role porn plays in your marriage and family. Listen Now:

Summary: How many times have you decided to begin a healthy eating routine, but fall off the wagon within a few days? This week we’re having a conversation with Alli Winklemann, Nutrition Coach and Founder about share the importance of starting the journey of achieving lifelong health and how to do it right. You;ll hear: * How meal planning can be a game changer * How boredom can sabotage your health journey * How healthy eating has a domino effect, impacting all other areas of life   About Alli Winkelmann: Today on the show we have Alli Winkelmann, Nutrition Coach and Founder of Endurance Wellness Coaching.  Alli works with people wanting to achieve lifelong health, by helping them to formulate the plan to achieve their goals. Alli has a Master’s in Nutrition and Functional Medicine and certificate in Nutritional Therapy, and while she  routinely eat chia seeds, and does squats while brushing her teeth, Alli is also all about realism. “I have days I forgot to meal plan, so we go out to eat, I have a husband who would eat like a 14-year-old boy every day if that wouldn’t give ME a heart attack, and I eat cookies (even the ones without coconut oil and flax seed!)” Alli believes her job is to make wellness a real an attainable goal for more people, because it often feels so out of reach.   Where you can find Alli Winkelmann online: website Facebook Instagram     In This Episode: * Which comes first, eating healthy or working out? * Saving your family from caring for you, in the future * Plan the work and work the plan * Who makes you strive to be your healthiest: your spouse or a friend? Resources: Join the Marriage Masterclass on our Facebook Page Continue the Conversation on FB:  www.legendarymarriage.com/community   The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse and confess where you are settling for easy now, but it may be killing you in the long run.   Listen Now:

Summary: Have you ever looked around at your life and just felt trapped? This week we’re having a conversation with Stephen Dull, men’s nutrition and fitness blogger and Creator of the 360 Man Project about how he went from feeling trapped to creating freedom. Stephen shares: * How he and his wife turned infidelity into an opportunity to learn to communicate better * How working out helped him become a better listener * How he continues to challenge himself and invite other men into the story   About Stephen Dull: Today on the show we have Stephen Dull, Navy Veteran, Blogger, and creator of The 360 Man Project. His mission is to help dads and husbands become the men they were made to be.  He encourages men to focus on Fitness, Faith, Strength, Skill, Endurance, and Mindset.   Where you can find Stephen Dull online: Website Facebook Instagram  Twitter     In This Episode:  * Working out helps him clear his mind and communicate better * How to bring scripture into your workout * The importance of a morning routine * Dealing with the “little foxes” that creep into your marriage   Resources: Join the Marriage Masterclass Thursday nights on our Facebook Page Join the Conversation in our online community The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse and confess where you are bringing less than your best to the relationship and how you want things to change.   Listen Now:

Summary: “Martial Arts saved my life.” – Dave Hackbarth Faced with health challenges, and a deep desire to level up his life, Dave Hackbarth began a health and fitness journey that has transformed his life, and influenced countless others. Dave Hackbarth, Martial Arts Expert and Nutrition Enthusiast will share his story, and how he learned to: * Tune into the messages his body was sending him * Use his past as a scrawny kid to motivate his future * Continue to challenge himself without backing down About Dave Hackbarth: Dave Hackbarth is a professional martial artist, a certified martial arts instructor, and the Program Director at Culin (pronounced que-lyn) Karate Center in Cedar Park, TX. He currently holds a 2nd degree black belt in taekwondo and cross-trains in hopkido, muay thai, kenpo, and krav maga. He will be testing in 2018 for his 3rd degree black belt and is a leading authority in personal self-defense and tactical, situational awareness training. Dave is a fitness enthusiast and has a passion for pushing himself to his limits having completed mulitple extreme fitness programs such as: P90X, P90X3 (twice), BeachBody’s Insanity, and 8-Weeks to SEALFIT. He is currently a member of the SEALFIT community and continues to train in CrossFit, Brute Force Sandbags, and SEALFIT Online. Dave has also developed a fitness program for his martial arts academy to help his students increase their emotional resilience, advance their physical fitness, and upgrade their mental toughness. For fun, Dave likes to participate in Obstacle Course Races and climb mountains. Where you can find Dave Hackbarth online: website Facebook In This Episode:  * How feeling like he was having a heart attack changed his life forever * Connecting his love of martial arts at a very young age to his career as a Black Belt * Winning a drawing changed his family’s life * The cookie cake that had him to making the decision to never cheat again Resources: Join the Marriage Masterclass each Thursday Night on our Facebook Page. Continue the Conversation in our online community   The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse about where you are settling and how to call each other forth to transformation.   Listen Now:  

Summary: Are you are faced with a new year and trying to kick-start your health and fitness? Erin Grieger, Beachbody fitness coach shares her top 3 ways to care for yourself and how it can set the stage for health for years to come, not only in you, but your entire family.  We’ll cover topics like: * The importance of setting yourself for mental stimulation every day * How to ensure your family will live a life of health and fitness * Putting God first and caring for yourself can cut down on mommy guilt About Erin Grieger: Erin is a wife and homeschool mom of three young girls. She is also an online fitness coach for Beachbody.com where she helps women lose weight, drop inches, learn how to eat healthy without breaking the bank, start to feel good about themselves, while having their spouses comment on their increased energy, confidence level and improving figure!   Where you can find Erin Grieger online:  website Instagram Facebook YouTube  In This Episode: * Find the best accountability partner * Becoming a healthy role model * How to find the best workout for you * How to avoid quitting your health journey only weeks in Resources: If you’re not quite “feelin’it,” check out Erin’s FREE: 8 Motivation Tips to get you fired up! Offer:  1 Week ReFocus Group (including workout plan, nutrition guide, accountability and coaching for just $30!) FREE 14 Day Beachbody Trial She Works His Way Darren Hardy’s book The Compound Effect  Darrendaily.com Superlife by Darin Lein  The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse about your fitness goals for the new year and how you can support and encourage one another.

Summary: Are you making New Year’s Resolutions? You know that moment when you realize another year has passed you by and you still haven’t accomplished the goals from last year? We’ll give you a process to put your minds and hearts together in a way that will make an impact on your family legend.  We’ll cover topics like: * New Year’s Resolutions: yea or nay? * Having a new year’s conversation together * How to make your new year’s commitments stick, this time   About Danielle and Justin Williams: Danielle Williams is the warm, bold, welcoming wife, mother, and Life Coach for Women behind the Legendary Marriage Podcast, where we inspire, encourage and challenge couples to stop settling for ordinary in their marriage. By teaching CORE communication skills, providing valuable resources, and powerful coaching, Danielle and Justin help couples transform their marriage from ordinary to legendary. Justin is the untameable, wild, creative spirit behind Legendary Marriage. A Husband and Father first, Justin is co-host of the Legendary Marriage Podcast, and a coach and facilitator Legendary Marriage Intensive. Justin combines deep introspective coaching, with strategic and tactical action plans that get results for his clients.   Where you can find Legendary Marriage online: website: http://www.legendarymarriage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendarymarriage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legendarymarriages/   In This Episode: * The danger of allowing your conversations to drift you toward isolation * How finding the “big why” can ensure a new year’s transformation * How SMART goals can turn your intentions to resolutions * The importance of goals in any area contributing to the health of your family The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse about your new year’s resolutions.  Make sure to find your “big why” and “how to.”   Listen Now:

Summary: 2017 has been an incredible year, and we are looking forward to making 2018 the best year ever- full of powerful conversations, laughter, and adventures together. Here’s a sneak peek into what we have planned for Legendary Marriage in 2018.   About Danielle and Justin Williams: Danielle Williams is the warm, bold, welcoming wife, mother, and Life Coach for Women behind the Legendary Marriage Podcast, where we inspire, encourage and challenge couples to stop settling for ordinary in their marriage. By teaching CORE communication skills, providing valuable resources, and powerful coaching, Danielle and Justin help couples transform their marriage from ordinary to legendary. Justin is the untameable, wild, creative spirit behind Legendary Marriage. A Husband and Father first, Justin is co-host of the Legendary Marriage Podcast, and a coach and facilitator Legendary Marriage Intensive. Justin combines deep introspective coaching, with strategic and tactical action plans that get results for his clients. Where you can find Legendary Marriage online: website: http://www.legendarymarriage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendarymarriage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legendarymarriages/ Facebook Group: http://www.legendarymarriage.com/community In This Episode:  * Having the Flu at Christmas * 2018 podcast topics and guests * Legendary Marriage Intensive in St. George, Utah * New MasterClass  The Challenge: Join the conversation over in the Legendary Marriage Facebook Group. Listen Now:

Summary: The Christmas season is a blessing, but we often miss it as we run around tending to all the activities of life. You know that moment when you realize Christmas is coming this week and you are disbelief? How can it be here already?  Justin and Danielle break down how to tap into the true blessings Christmas brings.  We’ll cover topics like: * How to be present, just like Jesus * Different ways to become a blessing * The importance expressing gratitude as a gift to your spouse About Danielle and Justin Williams: Danielle Williams is the warm, bold, welcoming wife, mother, and Life Coach for Women behind the Legendary Marriage Podcast, where we inspire, encourage and challenge couples to stop settling for ordinary in their marriage. By teaching CORE communication skills, providing valuable resources, and powerful coaching, Danielle and Justin help couples transform their marriage from ordinary to legendary. Justin is the untameable, wild, creative spirit behind Legendary Marriage. A Husband and Father first, Justin is co-host of the Legendary Marriage Podcast, and a coach and facilitator Legendary Marriage Intensive. Justin combines deep introspective coaching, with strategic and tactical action plans that get results for his clients. Where you can find Legendary Marriage online: website: http://www.legendarymarriage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendarymarriage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legendarymarriages/ In This Episode:  * Having to wear pants can change your life * Planning a Christmas date night can pay dividends * Making time to share gratitude with your spouse * Who is funnier- husband or wife?  The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse to express your gratitude about who they truly are. Listen Now:

Summary: How do you stop yielding to all the external expectations and intentionally create the Christmas moments you desire for you and your family?  Justin and Danielle break down how to cut through the crazy and get on the same page to come together and create memories with the ones you love.  We’ll cover topics like: * How an itchy Amazon finger can cause trouble in your marriage. * Is going to church that important? * The importance of dreaming about Christmas, together About Danielle and Justin Williams: Danielle Williams is the warm, bold, welcoming wife, mother, and Life Coach for Women behind the Legendary Marriage Podcast, where we inspire, encourage and challenge couples to stop settling for ordinary in their marriage. She offers Academy and Intensive programs, with her husband, Justin, where they guide  members in building more intimacy and connection in their marriage.  By teaching CORE communication skills, providing valuable resources, and powerful coaching, they help couples transform their marriage from ordinary to legendary. Justin is the untameable, wild, creative spirit behind Legendary Marriage. A Husband and Father first, Justin is co-host of the Legendary Marriage Podcast, and a coach and facilitator in both L.M.A., and L.M.I., As a Leadership Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Marketing Strategist, as well as founder and President of Wild RiverDog Development Group, Justin helps leaders grow their businesses. In his work with men through 1-1 coaching, and The Braveheart Intensive, Justin helps men become better husbands, fathers and leaders. With more than 15 years of ministry leadership, and nearly 30 years of entrepreneurial experience, Justin combines deep introspective coaching, with strategic and tactical action plans that get results for his clients. When he’s not working, chasing his 2 amazing daughters, or dating his wife, you’re likely to find him on the trail hiking, or hammocking in the shade by the nearest flowing water. A woodworker, motorcycle enthusiast, and adventure seeker, Justin is always on the go. Justin’s personal mission is to awaken, unleash, and untame the hearts of men, to experience the beauty, intimacy and adventure of a life with God, that lights up the world. Where you can find Legendary Marriage online: website: http://www.legendarymarriage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendarymarriage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legendarymarriages/ In This Episode:  * The best strategy for gift giving * Having the Christmas budget talk * Why you shouldn’t ask for the gift you need * Why we love to wait for the golf cart, this time of the year Resources:  The Challenge: Have an intentional conversation about the moments you want to create with your family this year. Listen Now:

Summary: How do you negotiate the craziness of Christmas, while making amazing memories for your family?  Moms, Anna Johnson and Lisa Hackbarth sit down with Danielle and tackle all the tricky holiday topics.  We’ll cover topics like: * How can anyone find a compelling reason not to gain ten pounds at Christmas? * Gift giving and the in-laws. What were they thinking? * The importance of getting on the same page with your spouse about the Santa situation About Anna Johnson and Lisa Hackbarth: Lisa Hackbarth and Anna Johnson both have legendary husbands, Dave and Ryan. These ladies are amazing moms of Ellie, Josiah and Jonah.  Most importantly, they are some of the best friends a girl can ask for.   Where you can find Legendary Marriage online: website: http://www.legendarymarriage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendarymarriage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legendarymarriages/   In This Episode: * The ladies share their differing views on Santa- to believe or not believe * How old is too old to get pregnant? * Is it possible to drop weight at Christmas? * Why are husbands are not the “be all end all”  The Challenge: Arrange a Girls’ Night or Guys’ Night and Catch up with your people.   Listen Now:

Summary: How do you know if your marriage is struggling, before a crisis hits?  Pastor Bill Muench sharing about the 3 warning signs that you and your spouse have settled into roommate mode.  We’ll cover topics like: * How can you be constantly around each other, but yet still feel alone? * How the perfect romantic Valentine’s Day can feel like a stab in the heart? * The importance of practices like Naked Friday About Bill Muench: Bill Muench is the President of Not Ashamed Ministries in Austin, Texas. Bill has 17 years of experience in biblical counseling and has spent countless hours deepening and strengthening relationships, families and marriages all over the United States. Bill currently serves as the Lead Pastor at Redemption City Church in Round Rock, Texas. Bill & his wife Debbie have transformed & impacted hundreds of families and couples in there 17 years of serving together. Bill holds a Bachelor of Business Administration degree from St. Edwards University and a Masters of Divinity Degree in Advanced Biblical Languages from Southeastern Seminary in Wake Forest, N.C. Bill also plans to pursue his Ph.D. degree in Strategic Leadership in the future. Bill and Debbie have been married for 22 years and have three amazingly crazy boys. Where you can find Bill Muench online: Website Church Instagram Redemption City Instagram Facebook In This Episode:  * Three signs you’ve entered the roommate zone * How to satisfy your partner * The importance scheduling “open space” * What it means to know someone deeply Resources: Drop an email  at bill@redemptioncitychurch.org to get a FREE Intimacy Inventory and see what your spouse is truly needing from you. The Challenge: Take the Inventory Assessment and have a conversation about how to practically meet one of your spouse’s need, this week. Listen Now:

Summary: It’s time to put an end to awkward silences, boring conversations about the weather, and political debates at the holiday dinner table, and ignite unforgettable conversations that will leave you laughing, loving and looking forward to the next gathering with your family and friends. In This Episode:  * What is the ideal family get-together? * Sharing gratitude for the big and little things * How to end the awkward family conversations * What really brings life to Thanksgiving dinner Resources: Special Resource – 27 Dinner Questions to Ignite Dinner Conversations. The power of these question is that they invite storytelling – not simple, short answers. Model authentic sharing and telling short stories, and your group will follow suit. * You are given $100 million dollars, tax exempt, how do you spend it? * You’re told you have 6 months to live in perfect health, then you will pass away in your sleep. How do you spend the time? * What’s the best prank you’ve ever pulled off? * What’s a dream that’s come true for you? * What bad habit do you wish you could break? * What’s a favorite jingle that you find yourself whistling or humming often? * Have you ever purchased anything from a telemarketer? what ? why or why not? * What’s the worst tasting thing you’ve ever eaten? * What is your super power? * If you were in charge of ending world hunger, where would you start? * Who is the greatest leader of all time? Why? * How do you define “true love?” * How do you offer comfort to those who are hurting? * What’s something you admire / respect / or love about someone at the table right now? * How have you been humbled? * What scares you? * What do you do to get “centered?” * Who are you when no one is looking? * Was there ever a time when your “blood ran cold?” Explain. * What holds you back? * What are you dreaming about lately? * When was the last time you cried? or What brings a tear to your eye? * Who or what inspires you? * What’s a family tradition that has special meaning for you? * Tell about the greatest day of your life so far. * How is your love for your family different from your love for your friends? * What one message would you share on a billboard over a busy highway? The Challenge: Pull out your 27 Questions list, and strike up an unforgettable conversation with your family. (kids can totally play too!) Listen Now:

Summary: Opposites do attract, and Eric Bryant helps us learn how to embrace our differences, even when they drive us nuts. We’ll cover topics like: * is it okay to go to bed angry? * how do you see your spouse as a superhero? * What advantage does it give you love people that seem to be against you in every way? About Eric Bryant: Dr. Eric Micheal Bryant served as part of the leadership team with Erwin McManus at Mosaic in Los Angeles, a church known for its creativity and diversity. He’s also a church planter…and now serves as Lead Pastor at Gateway Church in Austin, TX alongside Senior Pastor John Burke. He embraces the true sense of the church’s mottos: “no perfect people allowed” and “come as you are, but don’t stay that way.” He has written the book “Not Like Me,” encouraging all of us to love people that may seem like opposites. Eric lives with his wife, Deborah, his son Caleb and his daughter Trevi near downtown Austin, TX. Where you can find Eric Bryant online: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram In This Episode:  * How to make sure you pick a great paint color * The importance of planning before you buy anything * Avoid fights by talking about your feelings * How to decorate a home, even when you have littles Resources: You can order “Not Like Me” on Eric’s website for a big discount!  http://www.ericbryant.org/the-book/ The Challenge: Take the Enneagram test and find out about your strengths, as well as those of your spouse and then have a conversation about the results.  http://www.ericbryant.org/2017/03/09/self-awareness-through-assessments/ Listen Now:  

Summary: From Country Chic to Mid Century Modern, decor turns a house into a home, and Kate Hatherell is on the show this week to share her tips on biggest mistakes that couples make when trying decorate together. From painting the walls, to picking out throw pillows, Kate’s here to help us get our interior decor act together. About Kate Hatherell: Kate Hatherall runs The Home Design School, a website, blog and online school, teaching people how to decorate their homes, without needing to hire an interior designer. She’s a teacher turned interior designer, and loves helping people make their homes beautiful. She is a firm believer a home environment is really important to people’s sense of wellbeing, yet the interior design industry is often quite elitist, and prevents people from having access to affordable, good quality advice.  She aims to provide people with no-nonsense advice, and practical help too. She’s based in the UK, and married with two children along with Monty her dog.   Where you can find Kate Hatherell online: Website Pinterest Facebook Twitter Instagram In This Episode:  * How to make sure you pick a great paint color * The importance of planning before you buy anything * Avoid fights by talking about your feelings * How to decorate a home, even when you have littles Resources: Kate has put together a collection of FREE resources just for you and your spouse to begin designing your home together. Get yours HERE!  The Challenge: Download your FREE copy of Decorating Roadmap and start planning to transform your home into a place that you both love. Listen Now: