The Legendary Marriage Podcast

Sometimes on the road to a Legendary Marriage, the challenges of life, and the wounds we give each other add up and a Strategic Separation can be a powerful way of creating space, and hitting “reset” on the relationship. Most of the time, when a couple talks Separation – it’s honestly really just a first step towards divorce. But it doesn’t have to be. In fact, a Strategic Separation can be a catalyst to rekindle the love that brought you together and grow individually. Today’s show is a frank and honest conversation about the ins and outs of making a Strategic Separation a positive step. Anyone who’s been married for any length of time has gone through a crisis and maybe even wondered if time apart might be for the best. On the show, we’ll talk with Pastor and Relationship Coach Bill Meunch about the ins and outs of a strategic separation.  We talk about shifting the perspective from a “soft divorce” to a strategic time to work on yourself, in order to bring your best back to your marriage.  Bill offers ways to set boundaries in place, so that the time apart is used not only for a taste of what life would be like apart, but also a time for healing and getting to know yourself in the deepest places of your heart. Show Highlights:  * Separation must be strategic * Possible strategies for separation * Importance of living independently * Dangers of dating while separated * Weighing the stakes * Don’t muddy the waters with booty calls About Bill Meunch: Bill Muench is the President of Not Ashamed Ministries in Austin, Texas. Bill has 17 years of experience in biblical counseling and has spent countless hours deepening and strengthening relationships, families and marriages all over the United States. Bill currently serves as the Lead Pastor at Redemption City Church in Round Rock, Texas. Bill & his wife Debbie have transformed & impacted hundreds of families and couples in there 17 years of serving together. Bill holds a Bachelor of Business Administration degree from St. Edwards University and a Masters of Divinity Degree in Advanced Biblical Languages from Southeastern Seminary in Wake Forest, N.C. Bill also plans to pursue his Ph.D. degree in Strategic Leadership in the future. Bill and Debbie have been married for 22 years and have three amazingly crazy boys. You can find Bill at his Website and Redemption City Church as well as Instagram and Facebook. Talk About It: Take some time this week and discuss this episode with your spouse. We love Bill’s question he asks each couple after a particularly difficult session.  What is something you’d like to celebrate about your spouse? Next Steps: AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at legendarymarriage.com/community     Listen Now:

We all know eating healthy is truly what’s best for us, but we make endless excuses, and it’s robbing our marriages. Today’s guest,Health and Wellness Coach Suzz Adikhari takes the typical excuses that sabotage us and gives us a fresh perspective to help us make healthy an everyday practice TOGETHER. Suzz shares how she went from growing up in Nepal, to junk food eating college student, to contemplating being paralyzed for life.  As her health was declining, she was left with more questions than answers, so she set out on her own journey, filling her life with practices that put her in the best health of her life. She encourages us to make eating healthy part of our self care that pays dividends in the health of our family, as well.     About Suzz Adakhari Suzz Adhikari is a Health and Wellness Coach for women. She thrives on helping women lose weight and maintain it for good, without sacrificing themselves in the process. She’s had her fair share of health issues she realized how important it was to take care of herself. She believes that if you aren’t 100% taking care of yourself, then it impacts every other area of your life as well, so it’s important to truly take care of yourself and put your well being first. You can find Suzz at her Website, in her Facebook Group, and on Instagram   Show Highlights: * Contemplating paralysis * Growing up in Nepal was only healthy eating * Lunch is the most important meal to prep * 3 Excuses for not eating healthy * Lack of self care is robbing those you love * Making healthy substitutions in your favorite meals * Importance of sharing WHY you want to get healthy * Neglecting your health will catch up with you * Time management or priority management?     Talk About It: Take some time this week and discuss this episode with your spouse. Here’s your conversation starter: Where is your health situation robbing you and your family of the best?   Next Steps: Grab Suzz’ free resource: Exercise Mastery – Creating the Exercise You Love AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at legendarymarriage.com/community     Listen Now:

Let’s be honest men, when it comes to dressing well, most of us have some room to grow. We can get stuck in a rut, just dressing for comfort, but jeans and t-shirts can only take you so far in life. It’s time to talk about becoming a well dressed man. Today’s guest, Ty Cutner shares his journey from bus driver to COO and owning his own company.  It all started by taking a look in the mirror and realizing he needed to make a change and that change was his personal style.  Little did he realize, when he changed what he wore, he was also changing his own heart, as well as the world around him.Ty reveals the ways that changing your appearance changes much more than your clothes. It can change yourself-esteem and open up doors to new opportunities.   About Ty Cutner: Ty looked in the mirror and asked himself how could I allow my life to get to this point? He knew he needed to make a change, so he started with his image. The first step was dressing like a man. To him, that meant dressing like a professional, every day. Once he did that his life changed almost overnight. Ty became a COO (Chief Operations Officer) of a non-profit organization. He started helping friends dress better and watched as they began earning more money and dating out of their league. That’s when he realized there was something special about dressing well that most people overlook. He now helps men gain the social and psychological benefits of a sharp appearance by teaching them how to dress exceptionally well. You can find Ty at his WEBSITE, on FACEBOOK, and INSTAGRAM     Show Highlights: * From baggy jeans to suits * Looking in the mirror as a blue collar worker * Well dressed individuals attract different types of people * Changing your identity * Showing you care for yourself * Learning how to put on a jacket * Benefits of a good fit * Learning the basics first * Gold suit or not to gold suit? * Importance of your shoulders and hands     Talk About It: Take some time this week and discuss this episode with your spouse. Here’s your conversation starter: Does how your spouse dress matter to you? What does dressing well mean to you?   Next Steps: Men, download Ty’s free resource called the Dress Better Video, where Ty will show you how to put your best foot forward. AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at legendarymarriage.com/community   Listen Now:

An unhealthy relationship with money can create all kinds of challenges, including Emotional Overspending, and it can be especially difficult when you and your spouse can’t get on the same page about this important topic. Money fights can tear a marriage apart, especially when you cannot get on the same page about how to spend your money. Couples fight when they have not healed from the broken money stories from their past. They revert back to feelings of lack and scarcity and immediately resort to overspending to comfort themselves. Today’s guest, Heidi Carter, Money Breakthrough and Business Coach will help us to identify the root causes of Emotional Overspending and how to have a healthy relationship with money, so you can have more GREEN in the bank. About Heidi Carter: Heidi Carter is a Money Breakthrough and Business Coach for women entrepreneurs, wives and mothers. She’s on a mission to show success minded women leaders how deeply powerful they are, and help them strengthen their money relationship and increase their business income. You can find Heidi at her WEBSITE, on FACEBOOK, and INSTAGRAM. Show Highlights: * Your money story goes back generations * Is money evil? * Why overspending happens * What leads to emotional overspending? * Does money have a spiritual presence? * Learning to trust your spouse with money Conversation of the week: Is money a spiritual entity?  Does it have spiritual significance? Download Heidi’s free resource Meet Your Money Soulmate Meditation helping you to heal from your past money story. Then- talk about it with your spouse. Join the #Framily AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. Listen Now

Becoming a parent can change your marriage from wedded bliss to pulling your hair out.  It doesn’t have to be this way. Today’s guest, Nicole McCharen is a Coach for New Parents and she will teach us the 5 ways to strengthen your marriage as you welcome a new little one into the family. She finds over and over again that couples do a great job preparing with all of the baby gear, writing the perfect birth plan and reading the baby books, but they still fall short, because they don’t prepare for the toll a new baby takes on their marriage.  In this episode, Nicole McCharen gives us 5 ways to strengthen your marriage as you welcome a new baby into the family. Danielle and Justin share how they were one of those couples that did not have any idea of how different their marriage would be after kids.  They did a few things right, but fell hilariously short in other areas.   Show Highlights: * Unreal expectations of parenthood * We have all the baby gear, so we’re good, right? * The beautiful high of oxytocin * Resenting dad * Setting baby care expectations * What is the new normal? * 5 Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage during the transition * Mark the transition * Radical care * Embrace your new identity * Having clear communication * Establishing a baseline * Lies parents believe * What can you really control, anyway? * Stress triggers fight, flight or freeze   About Nicole McCharen: Nicole McCharen loves families and has been working with moms since 2003 in many different capacities. She is a birth doula, co-active coach & owner and leader of Mama Bloom, which provides individualized coaching, small groups and a larger community to mamas. Nicole has been married to her husband, Bill, for 15 years and has three kids (Jude, Mazzy, and Dylan) who were the largest spark of transformation in her life and which led her to create Mama Bloom. She specializes in building communities and connection, processing the transition into parenthood, facilitates finding your truest self, and creating safe & courageous spaces for transformation. She believes as parents thrive so do their children. You can find Nicole at her WEBSITE, and her Facebook Group.     The Challenge/ Wrap-up: Nicole makes the point of the first 3 months asking the question, what is the bare minimum we need to make sure we are okay.  I think we can settle into that mode for way more than 3 months? The challenge this week is to ask where you are settling for less than the best.  How can you switch it for something better?   Resources 1 month FREE coaching with Nicole! Just comment on her thread about the Legendary Marriage Podcast deal to claim. https://www.facebook.com/Mama-Bloom-Postpartum-Groups-433669433494321/ LISTEN NOW:

We all have relational needs, so frustration and resentment can begin to build when we feel like none of our needs are not being met by our spouse. Today’s guest, Terri Snead works with couples and businesses to open their eyes to how they are relating to one another.  She focuses on 10 relational needs we all have, but in any given season, we have 3 needs that rank extremely high.  Meeting one another’s top 3 relational needs is a great way to build more intimacy and connection. Terri puts Danielle and Justin through the wringer and helps them tackle their top needs and how they can love each other better, by meeting those needs.   Show Highlights:  * Why it’s hard to meet your partner’s needs * The importance of being emotionally intelligent about yourself * Top Ten Relational Needs are based out of the Bible * Asking for what you need * Grieving Cycle throughout infertility * Physical, financial and relational security is important * Relational needs are affection, acceptance, appreciation, approval, attention, comfort, encouragement, respect, security and support.   About Terri Snead:  Terri Snead is part of the Great Commandment Network and serves the team as the Director of Training and Resources. Terri develops curriculum for GCN, oversees all resource development efforts, coordinates training events and serves as a seminar speaker herself. She has a special burden for intergenerational ministries, pastor’s families and those who serve in a care-giving capacity. Terri and her husband, Wayne, have four children: Brad, Michael, Madison, and Jonathan. They have two very special grandchildren: Gavin and Patti Grace.You can find Terri at The Great Commandment Network website, and through their presence on Facebook.     The Challenge: Take the FREE Relational Needs Assessment and talk with your spouse about your top 3, just like we did on the show. AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at LegendaryMarriage.com/community     Resources FREE Relational Needs Assessment LISTEN NOW:

Communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and starting your own business comes with all sorts of challenges, one of the biggest being getting your spouse on board. Stepping out of the security that comes from a predictable salary, not to mention health insurance is a recipe for conflict. Today’s guest, Jessica Rodriguez shares how she’s always had dream to start her own business, but when she got married, her husband was definitely not on board. He put up every roadblock, but Jessica had to start her own successful  business and prove him wrong, so that’s what she did.  What she did not anticipate was the effect her 16 hour days would have on her marriage.  She woke up one day and realized that she needed to shift her priorities, right away.   Show Highlights: * How they met on MySpace * Is good fighting even possible? * Do you deserve happiness in more than one area of life? * The fear of uncertainty, when starting a business * The influence of those around you * Stepping out, despite fear * Realizing your husband is more important than the business * Trading what you truly want for work * Owning what you bring to the marriage * Starting to work together * Having marriage goals   About Jessica Rodriguez: Jessica Rodriguez is a Business Strategist and Podcast Host helpingpurpose-driven women increase their profits, without increasing their working hours, by leveraging scalable offers that allow their business to workforthem (instead of the other way around). From being able to replace the income of four jobs within her first year of business to paying off over $60k worth of debt in six months, creating three profitable businesses within different sectors of the online space and bringing her husband home for the entrepreneurial ride as well; Jessica knows a thing or two about what’s possible when a woman makes the decision to succeed on her own terms Through her 1:1 work and her Achievers Circle membership community, she has committed herself to supporting women in accelerating their businesses’ growth in a sustainable way so they can create more freedom and change within their own lives, while giving back to the world in a bigger way. When she’s not helping people create massive growth in their online business, you can find her curled up on the couch making inappropriate jokes with her hubby and furbabies, Netflix binging or traveling to the next adventure life brings. Jessica can be found at thedaydreamachiever.com, on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.   The Challenge: Ask your spouse the question: what are you dreaming about right now? AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at legendarymarriage.com/community   Resources: Scale Your Income {Beyond 1:1} in just 3 Days: This guide that will show you three, easy to implement, strategies to create passive income in your business (using what you already have available!) so you can work less and live more.   LISTEN NOW:

Can you imagine spending months, sometimes years living thousands of miles apart from your spouse? Your kids? Throw in the kind of danger we only see in the movies, and that’s the reality of many military couples. Military Chaplin Tommy Watson and his wife Jackie share their story, and how they help military couples thrive during deployment, and when they come back home.  About Tommy and Jackie Watson:   Jackie and Tommy are leaders and champions of relationships, whether dating, married, or just hanging out together, they believe in healing and restoring relationships among couples so they can achieve their dreams and raise families that inspire the world. Jackie, M.S. Business Ed… is a wife, mother and passionate teacher at heart…who serves as an Instructor/facilitator for Eagle Rock Camp, Creative Director/owner of a dance and art studio, having taught in public and private schools for several years and planted churches with her husband. Tommy, D.Min. Leadership and Ethics… is a husband, father, military chaplain, successful business owner and entrepreneur, who serves as an Instructor/facilitator for Eagle Rock Camp and as a consultant for Military and Chaplaincy with the NC Baptist State Convention. Together they are parents to Caleb, Karis and Zeke and live in the Charlotte, North Carolina area. You can find Tommy and Jackie Watson at their website, Facebook and the Eagle Rock Website. Show Highlights:  * Trying to avoid the “calling” into the military * How God prepared Tommy to be a Chaplain * Eagle Rock Camp helps families come back together * Unique challenges for military couples * Transitioning back to living together * Marriage strain is amplified for military couples * Effects of deployment on a marriage * Dealing with times out of communication * Importance of creating memories together * Create a practice of leaving each other * 6 minute sex and 6 minute kiss   The Challenge: We really want you to try one of the magic six- a 6 second kiss each day this week. AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at legendarymarriage.com/community   LISTEN NOW:

If you have kids, and bedtime is a parenting nightmare, then our conversation this week with Amelia Bowler – The Behaviors Godmother, is going to be an answer to your prayers. Listen in as Amelia gives us the step by step process to create the kind of bedtime you always dreamed of with your kids. Blogger and behaviour therapist Amelia Bowler shares about how to save your sanity, get the kids to bed and get down to Funky Town, or just enjoy the rest of your night in peace. About Amelia Bowler: Amelia Bowler is a behaviour therapist, and helps people by listening to their goals and needs, then using behaviour science to help them choose the actions that get them closer to goals. Her priority is to help families, especially those with challenging behaviour problems including ADHD, Autism, and other brain differences. Challenging behaviour is stressful for everyone in the family, so it’s a team effort to overcome it. She’s always excited to help families build a life that works for each of them. You can find Amelia at her website, on Facebook, and Instagram. Show Highlights: * How growing up as an ADHD kid created a need for structure * Formulating the ideal bedtime * The impossible task of walking out the door * Fostering the kids’ independence during bedtime * Making PJ time fun * Is spanking a good option? * Role playing bedtime – a Freaky Friday experience * Sharing our normal bedtime antics The Challenge: We really want you to go to team up, as parents and jump over to Amelia’s website and download your FREE copy of Bedtime Battles: Flip the Script and enjoy a night without begging, negotiating and tears. AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. so come join the conversation at legendarymarriage.com/community Resources & Links for this episode: Get Amelia’s FREE Bedtime Battles: Flip the Script resource HERE Listen Now:

Poor health can really take it’s toll on your marriage. Even when all signs point to your relationship ending up in divorce court, little changes, leading to big changes can make all the difference.  Overhauling your personal health can not only fix your cholesterol and chance the scale, but radically transform your marriage, as well. Today’s guests, Daniela Bolzmann and Mark Avila from getsetmindset.com share the story of how career burnout and poor health led them on the path to a break-up.  As they embraced the 4 pillars of WELLth, they not only saved their health, but their relationship too. Mark & Daniela share about: • How burnout almost destroyed their relationship • The mindset shifts they made that changed everything • How they worked together to loose the weight, get healthy, and transform their relationship in the process. About Mark and Daniela: From celebrity clientele in Beverly Hills to fine dining kitchens in Chicago, the 15+ years of restaurant-life led Mark to his burnout but it also led him to his calling in nutrition coaching. He’s a classically trained Chef schooled in nutrition for optimal performance and fitness goals. Daniela is a recovering Techstars Founder and startup consultant. We say recovering because her burnout, like many serial entrepreneurs, is better described as a self inflicted addiction.She enjoys teaching life design and spreading her WELLth with others.   Show Highlights: * How ordering everything on the menu was normal * Getting stuck in a pattern of falling off the wagon * How poor health can tank a relationship * How little changes add up to a big difference * How burnout was the catalyst for change * The 4 Pillars of WELLth * How the right mindset can help you burn 2X the calories * The power of Intermittent fasting * Why embracing “cheat day” is so important The Challenge: Head on over to Getsetmindset.com and take the WELLth quiz. Then, have a conversation with your spouse about where you’re both at and where you want to go with your health and WELLth. AS ALWAYS, We are talking about all the hot topics from the podcast, and so much more over in our FREE community on Facebook. Resources & Links for this episode: * website * Facebook * Instagram LISTEN NOW:

Getting married means leaving your family of origin, and cleaving to your spouse in a way that is often challenging for everyone involved, but never the less, it’s a journey that must be taken if a couple is to survive, and thrive in marriage. Today’s guests, Gabe and Sherry Avila share their story including the challenging first years of their marriage, Including how they found a way through emotional abuse, being teen parents, and a well meaning, but intrusive family. In spite of the odds, Gabe and Sherry focused on building their independence, with a fierce commitment to fighting through every challenge together.   Show Highlights: * The unimpressive first meeting on the front porch * Getting married quick and young * How sucking at conflict can leave emotional scars * Finding your own way as parents * Standing against the odds, and transforming your family forever The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse and identify areas of your life and marriage where you might still be living out old stories and others expectations. Resources & Links for this episode: Join the Legendary Marriage Group  www.legendarymarriage.com/community LISTEN NOW:

Summary: It’s time to get back to basics! What did you need to know when you first got married?  At the time, we knew we have love and that was all that mattered.  Looking back, it would have been helpful to know some of the basic foundational elements, crucial to marriage.  Some of these basics are lessons, we are still learning.  If you’re a newlywed or you’ve been married for quite some time, this is a great way to focus in on bringing some of these simple skills to your marriage. In this episode, we’ll… * Identifying expectations for our relationship * The importance of bringing basics, like generosity, humbleness and excitement to your marriage. * The Newlywed Mindset   About Scott Kedersha: Scott Kedersha is the Director of Marriage Ministry at Watermark Community Church in Dallas, Texas. For over a decade, Scott has helped lead Watermark’s marriage ministry, working with couples all over the relational spectrum. He’s been married to Kristen since 2001, has four boys and blogs on marriage and family, relationships, ministry and leadership, and books/reading at Scottkedersha.com. Scott is most passionate about the local church, college football (Go Wake!), marriage and family, community, and reading. You can find Scott Kedersha at his Website, on Facebook, Twitter , Instagram, and at Watermark Church’s Marriage Ministry   Resources: 124 Killer Date Night Ideas Legendary Marriage Group on Facebook BOOK: Essentialism BOOK: Come and See BOOK: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married BOOK: Sacred Marriage BOOK: Cherish The Challenge: Check out Scott’s website and grab your copy of 124 Killer Date Night ideas and get your next date night planned.   LISTEN NOW:

Summary: We know that our material comforts and temporal accomplishments are not enough to fully satisfy us. In her new book, “Blessed are the Unsatisfied,’ author Amy Simpson explores the idea that being unsatisfied isn’t a bad thing. Momentary pleasures, whether of pure or darker motivations, are fleeting at best. But Christians often hear the idea that following Jesus means that we should be living a life of full satisfaction. How many of us actually experience that kind of life? Amy Simpson wants to debunk this satisfaction myth in the church. After forty years of walking with Jesus, she writes, “I am deeply unsatisfied not only with my ability to reflect Jesus, but also with the very quality of my intimacy with him. I strongly suspect that the abyss of my nature has not been entirely satisfied by Jesus.” Hers is a freeing confession for us all. Simpson explains that our very unsatisfaction indicates a longing for God, and understanding those longings can bring us closer to relationship with him. And that is where true spiritual health and vitality reside. Listen in to discover anew what it truly means to be satisfied in Christ.   About Amy Simpson: Amy Simpson is deeply committed to seeing purposeful people make the most of their gifts and opportunities. As an author, speaker, and life & leadership coach, she helps influencers get clear on their calling and thrive in times of transition so they can see clearly, lead boldly, live true, and fully engage in life with guiding purpose. Amy is author of the award-winning books ‘Troubled Minds: Mental Illness and the Church’s Mission,’ ‘Anxious: Choosing Faith in a World of Worry,’ and the forthcoming ‘Blessed Are the Unsatisfied’ (all InterVarsity Press). Amy loves to travel with her husband, Trevor, their two teenage girls, and their lovable dog, Rosie. She lives with these wonderful folks in the suburbs of Chicago, where she is committed to perfecting her dry sense of humor and reading nearly everything she can.   Where you can find Amy Simpson online: Website: AmySimpson.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amy.simpson.author Twitter: @aresimpson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aresimpson/   In This Episode: * What couples typically look to for satisfaction * Are you dissatisfied or unsatisfied? * Can you live a fulfilling life, dealing with mental illness or addiction? * What are the blessings of living an unsatisfied life? * On your 50th wedding anniversary, what do you want your spouse to say about you?   Resources: Blessed are the Unsatisfied  http://amysimpson.com/books/ Win a copy of her new book, Blessed are the Unsatisfied!  Comment on Amy’s post about this episode,  and tag a friend to be entered into the drawing! www.legendarymarriage.com/community   The Challenge: Knowing you will never be completely satisfied, or perfect this side of Heaven, talk about what you think God wants you to achieve individually or a couple in this life. * What would you like your marriage to feel like? * What would you like others to say about you, as a couple? * What are some areas, where you need to embrace being unsatisfied?   LISTEN NOW:

Summary: 1 out of every 4 women, and 1 in 6 men have experienced some kind of sexual abuse, and the fact is everyone has some kind of sexual trauma in their past.  This week’s guest, Chris Bruno, LPC dives deep with us into this topic to help uncover those dark places, so you can bring healing and restoration to your hearts – together. In this episode, we’ll… * Uncover sexual trauma that’s occurred in the past * 3 steps to healing from trauma * How to become a spouse that catalyzes the healing process   About Chris Bruno: Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of Restoration Counseling, Chris believes there is nothing more exciting than the intersection of transformation and adventure. He specializes in sexual addiction, trauma and abuse and challenges men and couples to daily engage the power of restoration through epic re-storying.   Where you can find Chris Bruno online: Website  www.restorationproject.net and www.restorationcounselingnoco.com Instagram @healknowrestore @storyrestored Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RestorationCounselingNoCo/ https://www.facebook.com/RestorationProject/   In This Episode:   * Past trauma depends on your interpretation & yours only * Why some people don’t know they’ve been abused * Pros and Cons of the #MeToo movement * Facing the darkness makes room for joy   Resources: The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender Healing the Wounded Heart  by Dan Allender   The Challenge: Have a conversation with your spouse, uncovering any sexual debris from your past. * How have I been held well emotionally? * How have I been objectified? * How have I been dismissed? * How was I exposed to sex at too early an age? Join the conversation in our FREE community on Facebook LISTEN NOW:

Summary: There is more to sex than what we learned in school, and that’s where kink & BDSM come in. If you’ve ever felt like your sex life needs a bit more spice, but it’s too scary or embarrassing to talk about, then this episode is for you! It turns out many people have a kinky side, but they suppress it, because of shame. In this conversation, Veronica Yanhs, will break through the misconceptions of being kinky and move you into a safe and fun exploration of kink and BDSM that will inform and challenge you. Wherever you land on the topic, it’ll make for a great conversation with your spouse! In this episode, we’ll… * Go through the preparation of having the kink conversation with your spouse * Incorporating household items into sex, that may be a bit out of the box. * Take the intimidation out of BDSM   About Veronica Yanhs: For Veronica, life, work, and play are about being laid bare. That is, “stripping away the layers of expectations you don’t need that society, friends, family, and even yourself have laid on you so that you can be free and thrive”. Veronica is the founder of Desires Laid Bare, where she helps people from all walks of life explore their kinky desires and curiosities in safe and responsible ways through a guided experience and support from the community of members on the same journey.   Where you can find Veronica Yanhs online: Website Instagram Facebook In This Episode: * The importance of journaling before starting to practice kink/BDSM * How trust can play into how much you are able to engage in kinky sex * The truth about what BDSM really is * How to incorporate kink into your everyday life, not just in the bedroom   Resources: Continue the Conversation on Facebook Getting Started with Kink     The Challenge: Have a conversation about Kink/BDSM * What are you curious about? * What scares you? * What do you agree with? * What might you try together?     Listen Now: