The Confidence Podcast

  “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” -C.J Jung.     POWER TO THE A EPISODE #72     In today’s show I’m excited to chat with you about: What power to the A means The three A words that can make you a better you My biggest lesson from pregnancy this week – and how it can apply to you, whether you are pregnant or not!   As always, I want to start today’s show with a personal “thank you” to the folks who gave the show a five-start rating in iTunes this week.  Your rating and your subscriptions to the show is what helps new listeners find the show. “Thank you” KrisCakes – who I know is Kris Wood – and Web1026 for taking the time to leave reviews this week.   The 3 A's: ATTITUDE AWARENESS AUTHENTICITY     “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”  - Brene Brown IF YOU WANT TO BE FEATURED AS LISTENER OF THE EPISODE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SHARE YOUR STORY WITH ME!   Voicemail Email - trish at trishblackwell.com Contact on my website - www.trishblackwell.com Twitter - @trainerTRISH Facebook - www.facebook.com/trishblackwellfitness Instagram – @traintrishtrain   ________________

  The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love. –William Wordsworth      THE KINDNESS CARD EPISODE #71       In today’s show I cover: BIG, EXCITING NEWS that is LIFE-CHANGING for me The greatest gift my grandmother has ever given me and that I want to in turn give to you. 5 ways kindness is overlooked and how to change that How to activate the power of kindness in your life What you don't know about how kindness can change your heart The newest motivation app in the iTunes Store (www.trishblackwell.com/motivateme)   Ellen Madeline Pollin, my beloved grandmother, on her wedding day in 1947. Today's podcast episode is dedicated to Ellen and her legacy of kindness, 1926-2014.   HUGE HIGH FIVES and thank you to: JessMack26 Jjrrccjj1234 Chaneemalf   The truth about kindness is…. 1)    That we often rush it 2)    That in our overscheduled lives we often discount its value and power 3)    That we are more kind to others than to ourselves – to the extent that we are actually unkind to ourselves 4)    That we underestimate the inherent need the world has for more kindness 5)    That kindness deepens our connections – to the world, to others, to strangers, to love, to life  ______________________ What would happen if you lived in such a way that you realized that your kindness towards yourself DOES in fact have a direct impact on others?    ______________________ Kindness matters.  It opens our chasms of compassion and prepares us to participate in the potential of life.   The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love. –William Wordsworth   Today my family honored my grandmother Ellen Madeline Pollin, and though it was a small ceremony, the reoccurring statement said is that she did everything for everyone without ever complaining or even talking much.  She was a quiet woman, but inexhaustibly loving, always looking for someone to help or serve or love.  My aunt and uncle – who spoke at the ceremony – both said the same thing of her: she did countless, nameless and unremembered acts of love.  Those acts – the noticed and unnoticed – paved her life and have been remembered as her legacy. Remember, we are remembered for what which we most consistently do and most fervently believe in.  How you live now affects the legacy you will leave with the world in the future.   Some quotes on kindness: Kindness is the language the deaf can hear and the blind can see. – Mark Twain No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. –Aesop A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money. –John Ruskin Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness giving creates love. –Lao Tzu Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness. –Khalil Gibran   [[Three ways to immediately start using your KINDNESS CARD]] (ONE). Name this month – the next 30 days – a “month of kindness”.  Do one thing kind towards (a) yourself (b) someone you love (c) a coworker every day for the next 30 days. (TWO). Remember that, like Ellen, kindness is often displayed in nameless, unremembered acts.  Create a list of 20 ways you can increase your kindness in general.

      EPISODE #70 HUG YOUR FEAR    Hug your fear by learning that fear is, in fact, something you can embrace and face. // Always do what you are afraid to do. -Ralph Waldo Emerson     In today’s show I cover: How to HUG YOUR FEAR with Varonica Frye from www.hugyourfear.com How to catch the Crash Course Webinar Replay (www.trishblackwell.com/replay) The newest motivation app in the iTunes Store (www.trishblackwell.com/motivateme)   Get your own copy of Dr. Susan Jeffer's inspirational book: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway®: Dynamic techniques for turning Fear, Indecision, and Anger into Power, Action and Love Also, get your copy of Claire Weeke's book: Hope and Help for Your Nerves. The final book referenced in this week's episode is by Louise Watson, Stop Making Your Life a Misery.     IF YOU WANT TO BE FEATURED AS LISTENER OF THE EPISODE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SHARE YOUR STORY WITH ME!   Voicemail Email Contact on my website Twitter Facebook Instagram – Oh, yeah, I’m there….many of you didn’t know it. @traintrishtrain   ________________ Only when we are no longer afraid are we able to live. -Dorothy Thompson ________________  

  To be a student of life, you must ask questions. Here are your most asked Q&A questions from The Confidence Crash Course Webinar.  Keep asking questions, never stop growing, never stop learning.  EPISODE #69 YOUR Q&A   In today’s show I cover: 10 Questions & Answers that came up from last week's Confidence Crash Course How to catch the Crash Course Webinar Replay Where to download the FREE list of 101 ways to boost your confidence           IF YOU WANT TO BE FEATURED AS LISTENER OF THE EPISODE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SHARE YOUR STORY WITH ME!   Voicemail Email Contact on my website Twitter Facebook Instagram – Oh, yeah, I’m there….many of you didn’t know it. @traintrishtrain   ________________ Perfectionism is the mask of procrastination. ________________  

  Life becomes magical when you engage your enthusiasm.  Learn the formula for enthusiasm and what three habits might be keeping you from living fully. There is a real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment. –Norman Vincent Peale EPISODE #68 ENGAGE YOUR ENTHUSIASM   In today’s show I cover: my big announcement that is changing my life and my sleep patterns 10 reasons why you should want to arm yourself with enthusiasm (and the 3 main reasons why you probably have neglected maximizing this amazing skill) a simple formula that will translate into a life with more enthusiasm open enrollment call for my August session of Breakout – starting August 3rd webinar replay option if you missed the Confidence Crash Course       BUT FIRST, A big thank you to the following confidence conquerors who took the time to rate the show this week. Remember, subscribe and rate the show if you want to help others stumble upon the same encouragement and inspiration that you get every week. If you want to hear your name on the show, this is how to do it! THANK YOU TO: BAK45343 Loriginal01 Loving the Confidence Boost Yehudite   OK, WHY ENTHUSIASM…10 REASONS WHY ENTHUSIASM ROCKS First, some quotes to whet your appetite: Enthusiasm moves the world. –Arthur Balfour, 19th-century British statesman Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. –Samuel Ullman, 19th Century American poet Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it, nothing great was ever achieved. –Ralph Waldo Emerson, the great 19th Century poet There is a real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment. –Norman Vincent Peale, 20th Century American Clergyman Enthusiasm is the yeast that makes your hopes shine to the stars. Enthusiasm is the sparkle in your eyes, the swing in your gait. The grip of your hand, the irresistible surge of will and energy to execute your ideas. –Henry Ford   …10 REASONS WHY ENTHUSIASM ROCKS   Enthusiasm is contagious and it brings out the best in you and in those you meet. Enthusiasm is attractive to others and makes you more enjoyable to be around. Enthusiasm makes life more fun. Enthusiasm communicates powerfully. Enthusiasm gets things done. Enthusiasm enhances creativity. Enthusiasm is energizing and lifts up others. Enthusiasm opens your mind to new possibilities. Enthusiasm empowers you to solve problems more effectively. 10. Enthusiasm has the ability to persuade. AND......THE ENTHUSIASM FORMULA...   The formula for enthusiasm is simple:  [Permission to enjoy] + [permission to be oneself] + [permission to be optimistic] = enthusiasm.   WEBINAR REPLAY OPTION - A SPECIAL GIFT FOR PODCAST LISTENERS ONLY! https://trishblackwell.leadpages.net/webinar-replay-opt-in/   LISTENER OF THE EPISODE Laura Zeek, who contacted me on Twitter … @trainerTRISH I met my goal for an under 30 minute 5K time, decided to do a half marathon in the fall. Downloaded your app today! #5ktohalf #running IF YOU WANT TO BE FEATURED AS LISTENER OF THE EPISODE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SHARE YOUR STORY WITH ME!

  I want typos, and you should too. Typos - literal or metaphorical ones - mean that you are taking action on your dreams and you are going out and making life happen.   //  “It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” -
Leonardo Da Vinci EPISODE #67 I WANT TYPOS As a writer, you might think I’m crazy by saying that I want typos. But I do. You should too, let me explain why. Typos, or any other imperfection on our creative work, are a sign that we are putting ourselves out there. If you wait for everything to be perfect, you will never take any action on putting yourself out there. I WANTED TO TALK ABOUT ACTION TODAY BECAUSE I MENTIONED IT LAST WEEK IN EPISODE #66 AS THE SINGLE MOST DEFINING FACTOR THAT DISTINGUISHES ME / IT IS THE KEY TO MY SUCCESS, MY CONFIDENCE, MY HAPPINESS       TYPOS  REPRESENT ACTION Napoleon Hill wrote “action is the real measure of intelligence” “It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”
Leonardo Da Vinci   ACTION IS HOW WE LIVE OUT WHO WE ARE.   You can’t be who you are until you act who you are. Stop waiting to become you want to be -> it takes action. The key to taking action is being willing to make mistakes along the way….make TYPOS.   HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU NEED TO PUT IT OUT THERE? / HOW CAN YOU BREAK FREE FROM PERFECTIONISM? Steven Pressfield wrote, “The more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that the enterprise is important to us and to the growth of our soul.” SO, HOW DO YOU TAKE MORE ACTION? Most people struggle immensely with taking full action. Just the other day I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine who I am working with on a project. He openly told me that he’s fabulous at getting the first 95% of anything done and then terribly catastrophic at getting the last 5% completed. So what it is about the 5%? Is that 5% really that much harder? Well, no, it’s not. That 5% represents the fear that comes with doing anything that’s worthwhile.   Decide to start taking more action Create a plan Keep your daily plan short (three things) Know that small steps count – give yourself credit for them START Be accountable to yourself Be accountable to others Remember you don’t have to have all the answers Know that it’s not how you feel; it’s what you do Remember action builds confidence An action is a habit; it’s hard at first and then becomes easier over time. What if you could say that you’re someone who gets ’s stuff done? "Hi, my name is Trish Blackwell and I get stuff done." Now you try: "Hi, my name is _________, and I get stuff done!" HERE’S A BABY ACTION STEP FOR YOU TO TAKE RIGHT NOW. Don’t put it off until an hour from now. Do it now. Sign up for my upcoming FREE webinar, “The Confidence Crash Course" at www.trishblackwell.com/webinar   WEBINAR: CONFIDENCE CRASH COURSE…. 90 minutes of Condensed Confidence Tuesday, July 29th at 8 am or 2 pm EST In this webinar, you’ll discover…. 5 PROVEN tricks to instantly elevate your confidence 3 EXACT step-by-step strategies to grow your confidence sustainably 100+ ways to be more confident IMMEDIATELY Essentially, I’m giving you my best tools to triple your confidence!

  EPISODE #66 TURN YOUR WORLD UPSIDE DOWN   Turn your world upside-down with transformed self-esteem.  Fight for your highest possibilities and honor your story. “Your life is important. Honor it. Fight for your highest possibilities.”  -Nathaniel Branden Let him that would move the world first move himself. -Socrates         Self-esteem is: “Confidence in our ability to think, confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life; and confidence in our right to be successful and happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving, entitled to assert our needs and wants, achieve our values, and enjoy the fruits of our effort.” –Nathaniel Branden “A feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities; a confidence and satisfaction in oneself.” – Merriam-Webster “Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect”   “Your life is important. Honor it. Fight for your highest possibilities.”  -Nathaniel Branden Self-esteem is the health of the mind. The judgment you make of yourself is perhaps the most important judgment you can make Believe implicitly that yesterday’s pattern will be tomorrow’s result Our self-esteem influences how we act “The healthier our self-esteem, the more inclined we are to treat others with respect, benevolence, goodwill, and fairness – since we do not tend to perceive them as a threat, self-respect is the foundation of respect for others.” Self-efficacy and self-respect Self-respect is basic and inescapable Self-esteem prevents us from being manipulated by fear Low self-esteem inhibits thought Self-esteem is a mind that is active rather than passive Without self-acceptance, self-esteem is impossible   Self-esteem is:   “Confidence in our ability to think, confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life; and confidence in our right to be successful and happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving, entitled to assert our needs and wants, achieve our values, and enjoy the fruits of our effort.” –Nathaniel Branden “A feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities; a confidence and satisfaction in oneself.” – Merriam-Webster “Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect” The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem:   (1).  The practice of living consciously (2). The practice of self-acceptance (3). The practice of self-responsibility (4). The practice of self-assertiveness (5). The practice of living purposefully (6). The practice of personal integrity   Questions:   Which of the above six pillars do you most need to focus on? What would happen if you brought just 5% more awareness to that activity or practice?   TRUST YOURSELF / MAKE THIS YOUR CREDO:   Never in a hurry Never worried Never desperate Never stopping short   The Pillars of Self-Esteem, book by Nathaniel Branden, a highly recommended read!   ________________   ANNOUNCEMENTS:    WEBINAR: CONFIDENCE CRASH COURSE…. Tuesday, July 29th at 8 am or 2 pm EST In this webinar, you’ll discover…. 5 PROVEN tricks to instantly elevate your confidence 3 EXACT step-by-step strategies to grow your confidence sustainably 100+ ways to be more confident IMMEDIATELY Essentially,

  Move on from the baggage of your past so that you can live fully in your present and in your future. Moving on happens intentionally when you make a decision to not be a certain way anymore. You have the power to redefine yourself and to align yourself with powerful potential, so do it!    MOVE ON EPISODE #65 Let him that would move the world first move himself. -Socrates       Fake it until you become it.  Make a decision to stop living in the past and instead to really start maximizing your present, and thereby your future. Put the content of today's "move on" subject into action by working through the following questions:   (1). What exactly is it that you want to take action on? (2). Why have you been waiting to do it? (3). Are you ready to stop being an excuse maker? (4). How exactly do you want to define yourself from here on out?  (My answers to this are: confident, authentic, loving, generous, bold, honorable and trust-worthy). (5). What action do you need to take today to really move on towards your best you / your dreams? ________________  

  Here are my best resources for maintaining a positivity mindset; remember, you can change your life just by the way you talk about it.    Resources to Increase Your Positive Mindset EPISODE #64           The value of community – many hands makes for light work. Brandon and I moved from Fredericksburg back to my house in Ladysmith in the span of just 7 hours, thanks to the many helping hands of our friends and neighbors.  Yes, we actually had neighbors we barely knew offered to come to help us move….   …what would happen if you always stopped and offered 20 minutes of your time whenever you saw a moving truck?   …community is everything. Are you plugged into a community?   …the community that helped us was our LifeGroup, from our local church; a group that we have intentionally sought out….so stop waiting for a community and start creating your own.    _________________   We become most like the five people we surround ourselves with…. What should you surround yourself with?   (1). Know your triggers (2). Saturate your world with truth (3). Focus on the heart    _________________ My Resources:   Podcasts: Michael Hyatt, “This is Your Life Podcast” Elevation Church Network (there’s an app) Dave Ramsey Show   Facebook Clean Up: Darren Hardy Christine Caine Todd Durkin Trent Shelton Entrepreneur Training for Warriors Keri Murphy’s Inspired Living Natalie Jill Fit Kath Eats Brendon Burchard Tony Robbins News: Entrepreneur.com Businessinsider.com CNN.com  ________________ Make a decision to become a LIFE-LONG LEARNER. Another approach is to simply cut back on the inputs in your life.   Go back to the basics. Stop checking your email incessantly throughout the day. Don’t check Facebook before you get out of bed. Don’t check Facebook first thing before falling asleep. Read more books. Textless. Get rid of negative feeds / stop telling yourself they don’t affect you Listen to less radio and more podcasts / more of the music you actually like   ________________        

  The greatest advice I can give anyone is to be themselves.  Period. That's it, just be you.  We are who we thanks to the journey that our history has taken us on. Don't stop climbing over your history; the more you climb, the greater your destiny.     THE GREATEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE EPISODE #63   Being yourself frees you to live the life you were meant to live.  Additionally, by pursuing the freedom of being 100%, authentically yourself, you will, in turn, inspire others to do the same. The result is maximum impact all around! Listen to find out the 4 strategies I have for living out "being you" in a world that tries to make everyone the same.         ________________  

  "Am I memorable?"...a question that we all ask ourselves. The answer? The more you serve and love others, the more memorable you will be.    AM I MEMORABLE? EPISODE #62   If you want to live a memorable life, you have to be the kind of person who remembers to remember. - Joshua Foer  People remember me because I remember them. -Kimberly Dickut       ________________  

  Be more present to have more happy in your life.  Three tricks on how to train your mind!   BE MORE PRESENT: 3 TRICKS TO TRAIN YOUR MIND EPISODE #61  “Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." -Jim Rohn "Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the present controls the past." –George Orwell True happiness is…to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future. -Lucius Annaeus Seneca       (1). Marathon Story Run your own race Resist the temptation to compare yourself to others Don't be distracted   (2). Ownership of Your Thoughts If you know how to worry, you know how to meditate! Emotional vampires will be in your life - it's up to you to not them own your thoughts Renew yourself every day   (3). Give Your Full Attention To people To yourself To your day   Listener of the Episode: Is actually a group of people! I want to give a huge shout out to the hundred+ people who have completed the Insecurity Detox.  CONGRATULATIONS to you for investing in yourself for 7 days straight. The results and attitude/confidence changes are out of this world!  Remember everyone, life is determined by the small decisions we make, not the large ones. So today I celebrate all of my INSECURITY DETOXERS for their small daily decisions to say no to insecurity and yes to confidence.  To sign up for the INSECURITY DETOX go to www.trishblackwell.com/insecuritydetox ________________  

  Choose to be powerful: you already are, you just need to tap into it!    HOW TO BE YOUR #1 FAN, NOT YOUR #1 CRITIC EPISODE #60     1.  See yourself as a whole, not as divided parts.   2.  Celebrate your strengths.   3.  Stop comparing yourself to anyone else.   4.  Capture your criticism – rewrite your words.   5.  Know that you are normal.   6.  But also know that you are special, and you do have something to contribute.   7.  Pitiful or Powerful, which is it?   8.  To have self-esteem, do estimable things.   ________________   “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"    You can be pitiful or powerful, you can't be both. -Joyce Meyer      

  Celebrate the resistance in your life – it is what makes us become the people we are meant to be. Problems will never go away, and we don’t want them to, they are the resistance we need to gain the strength we are intended to have.    NEW POINT SYSTEM FOR LIFE EPISODE #59   What point system are you prescribing to in life? If you want to change the outcome of your game, change your point system.   Change your point system: Be proud of your internal changes Celebrate the real you, not the physical one What really matters to you in life? What do you want to be remembered for? How do you want to describe your life?         The Story of the Mexican Fisherman -Anonymous An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked.  Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna.  The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied, “only a little while. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?” The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine, and play guitar with my amigos.  I have a full and busy life.” The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.” The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?” To which the American replied, “15 – 20 years.” “But what then?” Asked the Mexican. The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part.  When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions!” “Millions – then what?” The American said, “Then you would retire.  Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.” ________________ For those of you looking to change how you track points in life – trying to change your perspective – and if just aren’t sure where to start or how my Breakout Program is for you.  There are only 4 days left to grab one of the last 3 spots. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/breakout ________________   Tim Ferris's book, The Four Hour Work Week....a highly, highly recommended read!

  Happy 31st birthday to me! Here are 31 quick confidence boosts as my gift to you!   31 CONFIDENCE BOOSTERS/ HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME! EPISODE #58     Decide to pursue confidence Decide to be the best version of you possible Decide to be compassionate towards yourself Decide to be someone who does what they say they are going to do Decide to live life to the fullest Decide to believe that you are not defined by your past Decide to start training your thoughts Decide to love yourself for who you are today Decide to surround yourself with people who inspire you Decide to live with joie de vivre Take captive toxic thoughts Take your own self-care seriously Take notes whenever you are around people who inspire you Take yourself seriously Take adventures Take note of what you love to do and of what makes you feel most alive Take your nutritional choices mindfully Take a bad picture or a negative comment less seriously Take life like an adventure at your fingertips Take your good and make it great Take heart and remember that life is about the journey Take compliments Be yourself Be the type of person today that you want to be tomorrow Be congruent Be okay with your imperfections Be present Be an optimist Be enthusiastic about the possibilities of life Be a person of integrity Be grateful   Thanks for celebrating my 31st birthday with me!