Transforming Monday

It's not what you say...it's how you say it We've all heard that saying before, and you know what?  It's 100% true. As a communicator, you are responsible not only for what you say, but for how your message is received. Over the last 36 hours, the kerfuffle over Duck Dynasty has given us a real life example of how not to express your opinions, especially when it comes across in a destructive, not constructive way. Now, just like Phil Robertson, each of us absolutely has not only the right to our own opinions, but to express them.  We do not, however, have the right to be free of the consequences of what we say. So, the next time you're in a delicate position and have to deliver a delicate message, be delicate with your words so your message isn't lost in translation.

70% Of New Year's Resolutions Fail True.   Seven out of ten of you who make resolutions will be back to your old you by February 1st, if not sooner. Why? Simple...they're too vague, they're too big, and you don't have a plan.  And a goal without a plan is just a wish... ....and you know what wishing will get you. This year, do it differently.  Take a little time to give yourself an honest self-evaluation.  Honestly reflect and think about what you want 2014 to bring...then.. make a plan on how you're going to get there. Make them flexible, be ready to edit them as time passes...don't get stuck on a single path as running into roadblocks can lead you to giving up on what you really want. Between now and New Year's Eve, I'm offering a free 30 minute coaching call to assist you in doing just that.  Consider it my holiday gift to you.  Just send me and email at christian@transformingmonday.com, visit us at Facebook.com/TransformingMonday, or tweet me at twitter.com/xformmonday, and I'll make sure you hit the ground running in 2014.   Tonight's sponsor: Qivana.  Lose the weight you want and keep it off.  Check out their products and, if getting healthy is your goal, let me know how I can assist you.

70% Of New Year's Resolutions Fail True.   Seven out of ten of you who make resolutions will be back to your old you by February 1st, if not sooner. Why? Simple...they're too vague, they're too big, and you don't have a plan.  And a goal without a plan is just a wish... ....and you know what wishing will get you. This year, do it differently.  Take a little time to give yourself an honest self-evaluation.  Honestly reflect and think about what you want 2014 to bring...then.. make a plan on how you're going to get there. Make them flexible, be ready to edit them as time passes...don't get stuck on a single path as running into roadblocks can lead you to giving up on what you really want. Between now and New Year's Eve, I'm offering a free 30 minute coaching call to assist you in doing just that.  Consider it my holiday gift to you.  Just send me and email at christian@transformingmonday.com, visit us at Facebook.com/TransformingMonday, or tweet me at twitter.com/xformmonday, and I'll make sure you hit the ground running in 2014.   Tonight's sponsor: Qivana.  Lose the weight you want and keep it off.  Check out their products and, if getting healthy is your goal, let me know how I can assist you.

So, you want to be an entrepreneur...be your own boss.   Congrats on making the first decision to set yourself free. Now... that being said, there are some things you'll need to know, be aware of, as you journey into freedom-land.  Successful entrepreneurs all have certain traits such as: consistency, dedication, fearless, trainable, ambitious... things not normally part of the human psyche. Join Charlotte and I as we talk about these traits, why they're important, and the importance of finding the right opportunity for you. Being an entrepreneur is sweet, sweet freedom. It's also a lifestyle, a mindset, and the scariest, most exhilirating thing anyone can do with their life. Remember...it is what it is....and the next stop is truly anywhere you decide it to be.   Show Sponsored by A Transformed You - Looking to lose weight or fight the effects of aging, check out ATransformedYou.com to see how YOU can start your path to better health today. Check out Charlotte's blog at MomsWithAPassion.com Connect with us at: TransformingMonday.com Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/xformmonday

So, you want to be an entrepreneur...be your own boss.   Congrats on making the first decision to set yourself free. Now... that being said, there are some things you'll need to know, be aware of, as you journey into freedom-land.  Successful entrepreneurs all have certain traits such as: consistency, dedication, fearless, trainable, ambitious... things not normally part of the human psyche. Join Charlotte and I as we talk about these traits, why they're important, and the importance of finding the right opportunity for you. Being an entrepreneur is sweet, sweet freedom. It's also a lifestyle, a mindset, and the scariest, most exhilirating thing anyone can do with their life. Remember...it is what it is....and the next stop is truly anywhere you decide it to be.   Show Sponsored by A Transformed You - Looking to lose weight or fight the effects of aging, check out ATransformedYou.com to see how YOU can start your path to better health today. Check out Charlotte's blog at MomsWithAPassion.com Connect with us at: TransformingMonday.com Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/xformmonday

In this world of information overload, where everything is at our fingertips, our desire for instant gratification often impedes our path to personal growth. Personal growth is a life-long journey that takes patience, discipline, awareness, and constant focus.

In this world of information overload, where everything is at our fingertips, our desire for instant gratification often impedes our path to personal growth. Personal growth is a life-long journey that takes patience, discipline, awareness, and constant focus.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. - Lao Tzu” The language we use creates our reality. There are 5 words in particular that create a dull, drab reality that is guaranteed to lead to a life of regret. Listen to this episode to learn what those 5 words are and what two phrases you can immediately replace them with to start creating massive change and the life you always "wanted".

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. - Lao Tzu” The language we use creates our reality. There are 5 words in particular that create a dull, drab reality that is guaranteed to lead to a life of regret. Listen to this episode to learn what those 5 words are and what two phrases you can immediately replace them with to start creating massive change and the life you always "wanted".

Nobody likes to be criticized. Nobody. However, if you have relationships with people who hold you accountable, then criticism is an inevitable part of that relationship's dialogue. Tonight we focus not on how to deliver criticism (that'll be in a future episode), but on how to receive and accept criticism without nuking the relationship. There are 3 simple things you can do to be better at accepting criticism AND ensure the integrity of the relationship stays strong. Listen in to find out what they are.

Nobody likes to be criticized. Nobody. However, if you have relationships with people who hold you accountable, then criticism is an inevitable part of that relationship's dialogue. Tonight we focus not on how to deliver criticism (that'll be in a future episode), but on how to receive and accept criticism without nuking the relationship. There are 3 simple things you can do to be better at accepting criticism AND ensure the integrity of the relationship stays strong. Listen in to find out what they are.

Yes, that time of year is once again upon us...the beginning of the holiday season. It's that time of year where we are easily overwhelmed with all we have to do, and easily stressed because of...oh, so many reasons. Tonight we talk about the two types of people: Kairos (event/moment/relationship) oriented people Chronos (linear time/Type A) oriented people. Being a chronos oriented person, it's easy to get overwhelmed when the schedule gets full and when schedules aren't kept. Kairos people can let time get away because they're more 'in the moment' and end up stressed because they're confused as to where the time went. Listen to how Charlotte (kairos) and I (chronos) work on balancing the two when things get crazy. Find out how we set schedules, say no, don't commit to things we can't do, and how we keep our schedules open to allow for spontaneity in a season where free time can be a luxury.

Yes, that time of year is once again upon us...the beginning of the holiday season. It's that time of year where we are easily overwhelmed with all we have to do, and easily stressed because of...oh, so many reasons. Tonight we talk about the two types of people: Kairos (event/moment/relationship) oriented people Chronos (linear time/Type A) oriented people. Being a chronos oriented person, it's easy to get overwhelmed when the schedule gets full and when schedules aren't kept. Kairos people can let time get away because they're more 'in the moment' and end up stressed because they're confused as to where the time went. Listen to how Charlotte (kairos) and I (chronos) work on balancing the two when things get crazy. Find out how we set schedules, say no, don't commit to things we can't do, and how we keep our schedules open to allow for spontaneity in a season where free time can be a luxury.

We've often talked about how relationships can be strained, particularly when you're on a journey of personal growth. Others don't understand you, they're confused as to why you're not the same person they've always known, and perhaps they're taken aback by your new-found confidence.... ...and this can strain, and even break, long-standing relationships. Particularly with those closest to you. What do you do when you want to see about healing those relationships? You can't go back to the way things were...yet you're unsure about how to proceed. Honesty....and honest communication without judgement...are the keys to taking those first steps. Listen to this episode to find out how relationships can be healed, whether you're the one hurt or the one who did the hurting.

We've often talked about how relationships can be strained, particularly when you're on a journey of personal growth. Others don't understand you, they're confused as to why you're not the same person they've always known, and perhaps they're taken aback by your new-found confidence.... ...and this can strain, and even break, long-standing relationships. Particularly with those closest to you. What do you do when you want to see about healing those relationships? You can't go back to the way things were...yet you're unsure about how to proceed. Honesty....and honest communication without judgement...are the keys to taking those first steps. Listen to this episode to find out how relationships can be healed, whether you're the one hurt or the one who did the hurting.