Transforming Monday

It's extraordinarily rare that you or I can pick up a new skill, a new tool, a new technique, and instantly be an expert. That's ok. In fact, it's perfectly natural to not be good at something new. Learning through application helps to make a stronger imprint of what were learning on our neural patterns and muscle memory. The important thing when learning a new skill, etc., is that you don't give up right away. Naturally we all want to be experts right out of the gate. However, what you'll find is that what you learn along the way to becoming a "natural" can be more powerful, more impactful for you and others than simply what you've learned.

It's extraordinarily rare that you or I can pick up a new skill, a new tool, a new technique, and instantly be an expert. That's ok. In fact, it's perfectly natural to not be good at something new. Learning through application helps to make a stronger imprint of what were learning on our neural patterns and muscle memory. The important thing when learning a new skill, etc., is that you don't give up right away. Naturally we all want to be experts right out of the gate. However, what you'll find is that what you learn along the way to becoming a "natural" can be more powerful, more impactful for you and others than simply what you've learned.

All the tools, strategies, and personal development in the world isn't going to change your life unless you apply it and get off your a$$ and do something. We all know someone like my coworker who is always complaining about how horrible everything is but doesn't ever do anything about it. Those people prefer to be miserable and it's fear that keeps them from getting off their a$$es and taking charge of their life. In 2012, I decided to get off my a$$ and ended up moving from Arizona to Florida and hitting every single outcome I set for myself. In 2013, buoyed by the success of 2012, I'm shooting for even bigger things. It can be your year, too... if you want it.

All the tools, strategies, and personal development in the world isn't going to change your life unless you apply it and get off your a$$ and do something. We all know someone like my coworker who is always complaining about how horrible everything is but doesn't ever do anything about it. Those people prefer to be miserable and it's fear that keeps them from getting off their a$$es and taking charge of their life. In 2012, I decided to get off my a$$ and ended up moving from Arizona to Florida and hitting every single outcome I set for myself. In 2013, buoyed by the success of 2012, I'm shooting for even bigger things. It can be your year, too... if you want it.

One of the not so glamorous parts of changing your life is the inevitable death of your old life. Whether it's personally, professionally, physically (health-wise), emotionally, spiritually, or relationship-ally, there are parts that are going to have to die for you to keep growing. In some cases, letting it die won't be enough, you'll have to kill them.... like wooden stake to the heart, shot with silver bullets, making a garlic necklace, put some concrete shoes on it kill it. These things won't be easy, but if you want to get to where you want to go, you're going to have to go through hell.

One of the not so glamorous parts of changing your life is the inevitable death of your old life. Whether it's personally, professionally, physically (health-wise), emotionally, spiritually, or relationship-ally, there are parts that are going to have to die for you to keep growing. In some cases, letting it die won't be enough, you'll have to kill them.... like wooden stake to the heart, shot with silver bullets, making a garlic necklace, put some concrete shoes on it kill it. These things won't be easy, but if you want to get to where you want to go, you're going to have to go through hell.

Everyone knows an Eeyore, someone who can suck the life out of a room, who always sees the dark cloud instead of the silver lining...someone whose outlook on life is negative and it's reflected in the words they use. Getting rid of your inner Eeyore and Eeyore tendencies is as simple as making a decision. Daily affirmations can assist you in shifting your mindset and your focus from the negative in life to the positive.

Everyone knows an Eeyore, someone who can suck the life out of a room, who always sees the dark cloud instead of the silver lining...someone whose outlook on life is negative and it's reflected in the words they use. Getting rid of your inner Eeyore and Eeyore tendencies is as simple as making a decision. Daily affirmations can assist you in shifting your mindset and your focus from the negative in life to the positive.

For the two transitory weeks between Arizona and Florida, I was unemployed and homeless. It was the most liberating two weeks I'd had in forever. The freedom that comes with with knowing that no matter whether or not the decision you make works out that you can always make another choice is one of the keys to a creating an abundant life.

For the two transitory weeks between Arizona and Florida, I was unemployed and homeless. It was the most liberating two weeks I'd had in forever. The freedom that comes with with knowing that no matter whether or not the decision you make works out that you can always make another choice is one of the keys to a creating an abundant life.

Ever have that retail or restaurant experience that just seemed sub-par? I mean the service is bad, the food is bad, etc., to the point you think to yourself "I should talk to someone in charge about this"? The question is, did you? Did you take actions to meet the standards you've set or did you settle for what they gave you? The standards you have, both for yourself and others, determine what kind of life you'll have. However, having standards is only half the equation. The other half is being uncompromising about those standards. You deserve to get what you want and if you settle for less... you'll settle for a life that's less than what you deserve.

Ever have that retail or restaurant experience that just seemed sub-par? I mean the service is bad, the food is bad, etc., to the point you think to yourself "I should talk to someone in charge about this"? The question is, did you? Did you take actions to meet the standards you've set or did you settle for what they gave you? The standards you have, both for yourself and others, determine what kind of life you'll have. However, having standards is only half the equation. The other half is being uncompromising about those standards. You deserve to get what you want and if you settle for less... you'll settle for a life that's less than what you deserve.

Ever listen to someone speak and just be dumbfounded by the word salad coming from their mouth? Or have you had difficulty reaching others, seeing them stare at you like you have three heads while you're speaking? Then perhaps you or people you know are great talkers but lousy communicators. Communication is a skill, and everyone communicates in their own style. In this episode, we talk about three styles, and how you can begin to recognize and, more importantly, communicate with those who are of a different style than you. These tips will put you on a path to eliminating "failures to communicate" from your life.

Ever listen to someone speak and just be dumbfounded by the word salad coming from their mouth? Or have you had difficulty reaching others, seeing them stare at you like you have three heads while you're speaking? Then perhaps you or people you know are great talkers but lousy communicators. Communication is a skill, and everyone communicates in their own style. In this episode, we talk about three styles, and how you can begin to recognize and, more importantly, communicate with those who are of a different style than you. These tips will put you on a path to eliminating "failures to communicate" from your life.

When people like Tony Robbins say "to create change in your life, you have to take massive action" does it scare the bejeezus out of you? It used to scare me, too, but I learned how to overcome that fear. Listen and learn the 3 steps to creating change that exercise your decision muscle so you can move from little steps outside your comfort zone to taking massive action that leaves your comfort zone in a cloud of dust.