ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show | Sex. Love. Commitment.

You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional abandonment or neglect Codependence and enmeshment If so, then you are in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage. This week Tony & Alisa shine the light on what these may look like in your home. More importantly they share the 5 steps you need to take to free yourself and your spouse from continued abuse. Women call: US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247. Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. Worldwide: Visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers. Men call: U.S. and Canada: Call the The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women at 1-888-7HELPLINE UK: Call the ManKind Initiative at 01823 334244 Australia: Visit One in Three Campaign

Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This week Tony & Alisa are flying high as they talk about how flying on the trapeze helped them overcome some fears, expand their level of trust, and grow together in their marriage.

Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to Play Ball!

Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey underwear, what they have done to rid themselves of them, and how it has impacted them as well as their marriage.

165 – Cuddle Up

Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how the act of cuddling, which was prevalent in their early years of marriage, has faded over time. They get to the root of why cuddling has faded over time and what they are going to do to get more cuddling in after sex.

The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can get feel better by getting more sleep. Not only will you learn the impact from lack of sleep, but tips on how to have a great night of sleep.

You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had planned. -The candles smell horrible. -There are laughs when you turn on the vibrator. -Your hotel room bed is bumpy. -A long day traveling leaves you spent. Recently one of those planned situations didn't go as Tony and Alisa had expected. This week they share what happened, how each of them reacted to the same situation, and what they did to make sure that they wouldn't let this unforeseen situation disrupt them for the long haul.

There are times in your marriage when fear will dictate when and if you will move forward. Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It's during these times of fear that we need to face what is holding us back and move forward. This week Tony and Alisa share times in their marriage when fear held them back and more importantly what they did to move through their fears. One of these times is in the very recent past.

Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding your hand, rubbing close to you, and those kisses. Your emotions […]

You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad sex view point even with your spouse. This week we are here to help you overcome the thoughts that are holding you back from have good sex if not great sex with your spouse. Listen in to the 3 steps to flipping the switch to good sex in your marriage.

Hopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little ones to adult children living with you. The stress of raising, disciplining, educating, and being active with your kids can put the breaks on your sexual intimacy. You're unable to let go of the daily activities to be present with your spouse, you continue to replay the argument from 3 days ago, and/or you feel guilty because you missed the soccer game. This week we share how the roller coaster ride of parenting has impacted our marriage and how we are able to still have the sexual intimacy we desire in our marriage. It's doesn't happen with a snap of your finger and yet with consistent baby steps forward you will have the emotional, spiritual, and sexual connection with your spouse.

Stop the Glorification of Busy! It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you and your spouse are "so busy" that you don't have margin in your life you are missing opportunities when the two of you can seize the day. Yes, you need margin in your lives so that you can experience the emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy you desire in your marriage. Don't miss the three tips on how you can find more time in your day so that the two of you can connect.

Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed.

It’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for you to profess you love with a card in any shape, style and size. As marriage educators we are not head over heels excited about Valentine’s day. It is a day to share your love with your spouse that is for sure. Unfortunately, it’s can be like your wedding day where there is lots of effort put into that one day that there isn't much thought or plans for all of the other days. This week make Valentine's Day as a launching point for what your marriage is going to be for the rest of the year.