Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

In a previous episode, I promised to create an episode on my fundamental, absolute MUST-HAVES for a healthy relationship with another adult. Here it is!Whether that relationship is with your partner (most important), your parent, sibling, or adult children, these three things must be present or you are going to have pain, distress, stress, and resentment. Not good ingredients for a relationship you want to stay in, right?If you cannot develop, grow, or deepen these three must-haves, or only one person in the relationship wants to, you have big things to think about and big decisions to make. You'll especially have to think this through if you have children who are watching your relationship ...and learning about who they are, how to have a relationship, and what it means to be a man or woman in one!These foundations underlie every conversation you are likely to have in and about your relationship, too. They are that basic.Yet, often, you're so busy with the day-to-day incidents and must-do's that they go unaddressed. Too big. Too pervasive. Maybe, too daunting to talk about?I hope you'll see the value of considering your relationships with your partner, parent, sibling, or adult child in light of these relationship must-haves, and take the time to delve deeply into what is present in your relationship, what you're enabling in your relationship, and what you're settling for. If you need my help, I'm always here for you. BeAClient.com Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: The three essentials to having a healthy relationship with another adult See why these are must-haves in your relationship with your partner, parent, sibling, or adult child Why people overlook the upmost importance of these to the potential for happiness Five relationship gifts from my book, Kaizen for Couples, that must be present for the relationship to thrive Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Support Circles Only $5 for the first month at any level. Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#settlingforless #settlinginarelationship #relationshipmusthaves #equalityinrelationship #reciprocityinrelationship #mutualityinrelationship#mypartnerisdisrespectful #mypartnerputsmedown #abusivepartners #emotionalinequality#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Big leap from Trekkies and Six Days in Roswell to making a film called 'The Truth About Marriage?" I asked Roger Nygard about his fascination with seemingly impossibly deep subjects, and why marriage was his next plunge. You may be surprised by his response. Roger Nygard is obsessed with unraveling mysteries. Marriage can certainly be one, right? Curiosity, he believes, is our nature, and he enjoys delving into new explorations to shed light and plummet the depths. Roger says "Happiness is in the process" and we need to be challenged. Again, marriage can be challenging, right? What inspired Roger to look into the truth of marriage? He says that it was his own failures that caused him to look deeply at what was underneath the surface that he might have missed. Personal experience can shift your thinking in ways that a world of conversation cannot. Roger had those experiences, learned from them, and did what every inquiring mind does: he jumped into the why's, wherefore's, could have's, should have's, and why didn't I's. His movie is the result. Enjoy this conversation. I certainly did, and let Roger's experiences shortcut your journey. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why a filmmaker of Roger Nygard's reputation chose marriage as his next documentary subject What life experiences led him to explore the depths of relationship How open-minded inquiry can benefit your marriage Roger's thought that "Happiness = certainty" and where it took him What part purpose plays in happiness, and how that relates to marriage And, what about the Grand Plan??? GUEST: ROGER NYGARDDirector, producer, editor, writerRoger Nygard has made several award-winning, independent, feature films. His current project, THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE, focuses on his most challenging topic yet: marriage. His previous documentary, THE NATURE OF EXISTENCE, asks why are we here, and what are we supposed to do about it? His other documentaries include, TREKKIES and TREKKIES 2, about the most obsessive fans in the Universe, and a compelling look at UFO enthusiasts entitled, SIX DAYS IN ROSWELL. Nygard’s narrative films include HIGH STRUNG, a comedy starring Steve Oedekerk, the action film, BACK TO BACK: AMERICAN YAKUZA 2, and the car-salesman cult-film SUCKERS. He has also edited feature films such as Mike Binder’s comedy-dramas, MAN ABOUT TOWN and BLACK OR WHITE.ROGER NYGARD is perhaps best known to audiences and critics alike for his highly successful and acclaimed documentary Trekkies about the most obsessive fans in the Universe. Nygard’s previous documentary, The Nature of Existence addressed the impossible subject of the source of the world's philosophies, religions, and belief systems. Nygard has made several award-winning films, including the comedy High Strung, with Steve Oedekerk, Denise Crosby, and Jim Carrey, Back to Back: American Yakuza 2 with Michael Rooker and Bobcat Goldthwaite, Suckers with Daniel Benzali, Louis Mandylor, and Lori Loughlin, and the documentary about UFO fanatics, Six Days in Roswell. ROGER NYGARD has no free gift for you. Do, though, find and enjoy his movies. Find it HERE.CONNECT WITH MY GUEST:WEBSITE: http://thetruthaboutmarriage.comFACEBOOK:YOUTUBE: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/rogernygard/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/RogerNygardLINKEDIN: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Support Circles  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#RogerNygard #Trekkiesmovie #sixdaysinroswell #truthaboutmarriage #documentaryfilmmaker #happiness #marriagequestions #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Being with a #Hijackal is relentlessly difficult, for sure.Watching how the Hijackal treats your children can be heartbreaking. Today's episode offers insights into the dynamics of having a #Hijackal parent, AND of being the other parent with one. IT'S DIFFICULT! Children look to each parent as the source of their value, for validation that they deserve to take up space and draw breath on this earth. A Hijackal parent gives a child a very skewed and uncertain view: everything depends on the Hijackal's mood or needs in the moment. The child cannot possibly understand. Things go sideways. You, as the other parent watching all this, may be feeling doubly hurt and doubly anxious, for yourself and for your children. The Hijackal wants the child to be compliant and meet their narcissistic needs. The child wants the Hijackal parent to like, accept, and approve of them. An immediately negative power dynamic is set up! How do I protect my child?How do I support my child?How do I do this all without incurring further wrath from the Hijackal parent? On top of all you have to deal with, there's all this. It's no wonder that you are exhausted from getting inappropriate exercise by walking on eggshells and tightropes. It's an almost impossible task. So, today, I'm offering you insights and strategies to support your child, take care of yourself, and intervene in positive ways. Take a big breath, grab a glass of water, and sit back. This episode will help. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What the child looks for from the difficult, #Hijackal parent The impossibility of consistently pleasing a Hijackal Validating your own feelings of concern as the other parent with a Hijackal Preparing yourself to help your child Understanding the dynamics set up in the child with a demanding, unpredictable parent Supporting your child in effective ways to make sense of conflicting messages about who they are Giving your child back the right to have their feelings, thoughts, needs, and wants Help to stop the crazy-making for kids Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Support Circles Only $5 for the first month at any level. Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#narcissisticparent #difficultparent #howtohelpmychildwithnarcissisticparent #mychildisinpain #emotionalgrowth #hijackalparent #howcanIhelpmychild #parentingwithanarcissist #coparentingwithanarcissist#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ever feel stuck? Try as you might to get your leg out of the emotional muck, the next leg sinks in again? Did something happen long ago that still haunts and harasses you today?In this episode, you'll learn about where memories, fears, anxieties, and trauma are stored and how you can clear out that storage. Get some insights on clearing emotional clutter. Many current relationship issues stem from childhood experiences locked in cellular memory. Those childhood events and climates can definitely "infect" current relationships, especially your relationship with yourself. That can be changed. Perhaps, you've experienced trauma after childhood. That can change your perception of yourself and others. It can undermine self-confidence, or the willingness and ability to trust. Emotions are housed in the body, even though they often go unnoticed, or seem to lay dormant. Learn how this can affect you, your self-esteem, self-confidence, and ways you look at your world. Sherry Anshara offers wise suggestions for removing the emotional charges of current and past relationships, events, and circumstances. That's good news. Enjoy the episode! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What Sherry Anshara calls seeing with "real eyes" Why it's important to become an NEO (intrigued?) What is cellular memory? What does it store? Can it be cleared? How to remove the emotional charge for a memory or interaction The Anshara Method GUEST: SHERRY ANSHARASherry Anshara is an international bestselling author, professional speaker, former radio host of “Conscious Healing”, and contributing writer to national and international publications on the subject of the Anshara Method of Accelerated Healing & Abundance and overall wellness. Sherry Anshara utilizes her experience and expertise as a Medical Intuitive and Success Coach as the foundation of her groundbreaking work with Cellular Memory, which she calls the Anshara Method.Through the Anshara Method, you access your Cellular Memories which hold the root causes of your symptoms—whether mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, or financial. Sherry Anshara created these systematic processes so you can rid yourself of unwanted limitations, restrictions, negative thought patterns, and toxic behaviors. Sherry Anshara guides you to heal at the cellular level so you enjoy health, wellness, and abundance in every area of your life.SHERRY ANSHARA has gifts for you: ebook - Getting Your Answers in 10 Minutes Find it HERE.CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: WEBSITE: https://www.SherryAnshara.comFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/AnsharaHQYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/QuantumPathicINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/sherry_anshara/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/TheAnsharaLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherryanshara/--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Support Circles  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#SherryAnshara #takebackyourlife #cellularmemory ##conscioushealing #nonemotionalobserver #healatthecellularlevel #healtrauma#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

During the self-isolating shutdown, domestic violence has increased greatly. Hopefully, that will draw attention to the many people who need to be safer than they are. Unfortunately, the women and men who are being emotionally abused--experiencing emotional domestic violence--will once again go unnoticed. A BIG PROBLEM!Emotional domestic abuse on its own doesn't come with visible choke marks, bruises, casts, contusions, and black eyes. It comes with DEEP, LONG-LASTING EMOTIONAL SCARS! Fortunately, those can be helped to heal.It's been awhile since I've spoken about the many facets of emotional abuse. You need to keep them clearly in view. You need to step back from your relationship and recognize what's actually happening. Sometimes, you're so worn down by the tearing down and putting down that comes your way from a #Hijackal, that you can hardly face the enormity of it.Before you listen to this episode, I invite you to be in a place where you can have some time after listening to process your feelings. Take a bottle of water and sit down with your journal, and think about: How many of these forms of emotional abuse are you experiencing? How long have you been experiencing these? If it is your partner who behaves this way, did you have a parent who was also emotionally abusive? Have you become so used to the abuse that you recognize now that you need help? Do you make excuses for the #Hijackal's behavior? Do you rationalize or justify the emotional abuse? Very important questions to ponder, and spend some time answering. I know you're tired, probably emotionally exhausted. That's just how a #Hijackal wants you to be. Then, your thinking may be cloudy and the Hijackal will happily prey on your self-esteem and self-confidence.Emotional domestic abuse is real. I'm always here to help you. Listen to more podcasts. Watch my videos on YouTube: https://www.YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp .And, if you want to talk with me directly, become a member of my Support Circles, or work with me directly at http://BeAClient.comThis is SERIOUS STUFF! I'll walk with you on the healing journey.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How having to stay home with a #Hijackal increases the likelihood of domestic violence Emotional abuse IS domestic violence Recognizing 16 forms of emotional domestic violence generally takes in most #Hijackals Stepping back to allow yourself to see that you are being emotionally abused and do NOT deserve it Knowing that abuse is NOT YOUR FAULT (although a Hijackal tries to makes everything your fault ) Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Support Circles Only $5 for the first month at any level. Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#houseboundwithnarcissist #homewithahijackal #homewithanarcissist #stuckathome #lockeddown #isolatedwithanarcissist #isolationwithahijackal #staysaferwithanarcissist #gaslighting #toxicnegativity #emotionaldomesticvioldence #domesticviolence#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What do you think the balance is between trust and fear? Is there one? How do you create it?You'll need that to be emotionally resilient, especially after emotional abuse. Susan Dascenzi talks about emotions as "energy in motion," a new idea to consider in light of her explanation, for sure. This changes things!Susan has walked through many things as a six-time survivor of sexual assault. She brings a unique perspective because, not only has she been aware of her spiritual core since the age of four, but she sees her challenges with difficult people and toxic relationships as gifts. Even, her emotionally abusive ex-husband!Obviously, she brings hope to you in this interview!Susan is a licensed psychotherapist, so her insights come from her experience and her expertise. She has processed so much of what most people who have lived with emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and sexual abuse need to walk through in order to move into a new space of healing and peace within.Great conversation! How about vulnerability? It doesn't always feel safe when you're with a #Hijackal, does it? Listen as we discuss the balance between fear and trust, and how to achieve it.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why it is important to know what story is tied to the physical sensations you experience What is it that drives your fears, beliefs, and challenges with communication, and with others Susan Dascenzi's 5 part Truth Process How Susan dealt with the abuse of an ex-husband How Susan learned to see toxic situations and toxic people as gifts How you can protect yourself from the #Hijackal toxicity How to be aware of your own issues that need healing Why Susan says emotions are illusions and the truth is a lie GUEST: SUSAN DASCENZI Susan L. Dascenzi, MSW, VSTCLP, LCSWLicensed Psychotherapist – Coach – Author – SpeakerSusan L. Dascenzi, “The Possibilities Curator,” has invested the last 27 years guiding her clients in shattering limiting beliefs, negative conditioning, and overcoming past experiences to become the conscious creator of an infinitely powerful life. Her Infinite Possibilities framework, developed after she experienced six sexual assaults that nearly ended her life, has empowered both her, and her clients, to thrive in the face of tremendous obstacles.She is a co-author in Pebbles in the Pond—Wave 4 alongside Neale Donald Walsch and Marci Shimoff. Susan’s book, based on her Infinite Possibilities framework, is currently in the editing phase of production. Her naturally vulnerable and authentic speaking style endears her audiences as she uses personal and professional stories, analogies, and humor to destroy thelong-held beliefs that rob people of their power and future. A highly-regarded human behavior and emotions expert, she inspires and uplifts while honoring others with compassion, grace, and tenderness.SUSAN DASCENZI has gifts for you: The Secret to Loving Yourself: A Guide to Emotional ResiliencyFind it HERE.Learn more at this guest's websiteFind on FacebookEnjoy on YouTubeFollow on TwitterFollow on InstagramFollow on LinkedInFollow on InstagramWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my PODCAST, Save Your SanityLike my FACEBOOK pageFollow me on TWITTER Stay in touch on LINKEDINFind my inspiring graphics on INSTAGRAMSo much on my PINTEREST boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#lisacherny #getreal #liveyourbestlife #createyourbestbusiness #bebrave #bebold #step #www.GFR.life#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Still stuck with too much time up close and personal with a #narcissistic #Hijackal? That can be so difficult! They can be such emotional vampires, sucking energy out of every room.And, you end up getting way too much exercise walking on eggshells! This is the third in this Housebound With A Hijackal. In previous parts of this series, I've suggested never poke a #Hijackal. That just makes sense: they rage, threaten, or demean and it's just not worth it. Nothing moves forward. Today, I'm taking four things that #Hijackals do, and giving you internal antidotes--things you can do within yourself--to neutralize the external toxicity of the Hijackal. You know, those toxic demeaning, devaluing, discounting, dismissive ways along with the raging torrents of words and energy that are usually quite out of proportion with what's actually happening! Knowing that you have effective tools in your toolkit for those moments when a Hijackal dances on your last nerve is empowering...if you remember to use the tools. There is that, right? lol These four strategies will help you always, even when you're not housebound with a Hijackal. I think you'll find such relief that you'll use them often. I hope you will, that's for sure. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What to do when complaining, blaming, and shaming come at you #narcissisticabuse Recognizing gaslighting An exercise to empower you when a #Hijackal wants to define your reality for you Understanding true assertiveness and how to express it well How to take charge of your breath and use it to modify your state Affirmations to help you stay present and positive in the face of negativity and blame Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#houseboundwithnarcissist #homewithahijackal #homewithanarcissist #stuckathome #lockeddown #isolatedwithanarcissist #isolationwithahijackal #staysaferwithanarcissist #gaslighting #toxicnegativity #breathingtorefocus #takebackyourpower#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sometimes, we play small. We hide out.Sometimes, we get into relationships that want to control us, to overshadow us, to keep us small.AND, sometimes, we just get an irresistible new idea of what is possible and we allow ourselves to run with it.GOOD NEWS: If any of those are true for you, you'll be inspired by this conversation with Lisa Cherney, and motivated to look at what's possible for you! Usually on Save Your Sanity, I'm talking with folks who are in, or have been in, a toxic relationship. Today, I'm bringing you inspiration, motivation, encouragement, and clear steps to not only see the future you want, but to have the courage to step into the future you want. When you've had #Hijackals in your life, you are so used to being limited by them, and by fear of what they think, want, or might do, right? It's natural. It's what the #Hijackal wants to achieve, too. And, you know when you want to step out of what a Hijackal wants you to do, you're going to meet with ridicule and resistance. Today, INSPIRATION from my friend, Lisa Cherney. She's fabulous, and appears fearless. She talks with me about how she made a HUGE SHIFT in the face significant downside potential. She lets you in on what was really happening within, and how she overcame trepidation, and not an insignificant number of folks saying, "Are you out of your mind?" BE INSPIRED! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How Lisa Cherney allowed herself to change course...even though she was wildly successful! What she had to go through, think through, and work through to make a huge shift in life and business Lisa's opinion on whether it's best to go cold turkey or slow release What about toxic naysayers who don't want you to change? Figuring out how you want your future to FEEL The downsides of fear-based decision-making How dealing with difficult people can serve a mission-based business owner GUEST: LISA CHERNEYLisa Cherney, now known as The Queen of Clarity, is host of the ground-breaking confession-based Get F***ing Real show for successful soulful entrepreneurs and founder of the GFR Squad, a lively community that is serious about embracing the GFR lifestyle and living a life without regrets.In 2014, after 15 years in business, Lisa Cherney got f***ing real and dismantled her successful 7-Figure business as the Juicy Marketing Expert. She was proud of the financial accomplishment, but burdened by the “monster” she created. It did not make her happy. To makes things worse her “6-Figures On Your Terms” events were helping hundreds of entrepreneurs make money fulfilling their mission and her refreshing “Cash Through Clarity” Marketing training was in high-demand around the world. But Lisa learned that just because something is successful and people like it, doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it. She always knew she had a low tolerance for not being happy (after all she left a “successful” corporate career, with companies like AT&T and Lipton at age 28), but now she knows her mission is to help other successful and soulful business owners GFR so they can get out of their own way and help more people!LISA CHERNEY has gifts for you: Her 12 GFR Commandments. You're going to love them! Find it HERE.Learn more at GFR.lifeFind on FacebookEnjoy on YouTubeFollow on TwitterFollow on InstagramFollow on LinkedInListen to Podcast Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! 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Still being housebound with a #Hijackal during this difficult time? Even after things go back to somewhat normal and the #Hijackal in your house returns to work, you'll be in better shape if you follow these practices now. If your #Hijackal works from home all the time, you'll find these strategies useful. However, they won't solve the chronic stress and anxiety caused by the need to be hyper-vigilant around a toxic person. You'll need help to navigate the challenges and clarify your thinking to make good long-term decisions. #Hijackals want to be the ones that make the rules, right? So, being told to stay home when it's not their idea, NOT GOOD! You will be blamed for everything, even for world events and other things totally beyond your control. You know that's true. Hijackals take no responsibility for what they say or do. When you remind them of what they said, they tell you you didn't listen well. In fact, they'll say you NEVER listen well. And, of course, they didn't say it. It's your faulty thinking or remembering. Crazy-making! Now, magnify that by being in a situation where they cannot do what they want? Nightmare! You need some sanity-saving short-term strategies. These may prove so effective you establish a new long-term pattern. Great! I know how difficult this time can be when you're trying to cope with being cooped up with a difficult, toxic, self-centered supposed adult. Try these. No magic, but even a little relief will be welcome, I'm sure.Big hugs! Rhoberta HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How you can best use this time to practice empowering strategies Taking charge of where you place your attention What absolutely won't work Know this "housebound 24/7" is not going to last forever Changing your internal conversation to save your sanity Why it's never a good idea to poke a #Hijackal Temporary measures to save your sanity Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#houseboundwithnarcissist #homewithahijackal #homewithanarcissist #stuckathome #lockeddown #isolatedwithanarcissist #isolationwithahijackal #staysaferwithanarcissist #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

So much information online and in the media right now about the coronavirus!How do you know what to believe? How do you know what to do to stay safe and healthy in the face of coronavirus? My guest today, Dr. Dave Vigerust, is a long-time infectious disease and preventative medicine specialist. I'm talking with him because you may well be cooped up with someone who is toxic, pushing your buttons for the sheer joy of having power over you. Or, you may be cooped up with children who are bored and not wanting to listen? Or, other humans who don't seem to want to keep everyone safe. Dr. Vigerust has the accurate information, the scientific information about this coronavirus and other epidemics in recent memory. This one moves faster! That's why it's so important to listen to someone like Dr. Vigerust to get accurate information. Be informed about the coronavirus, and how the coronavirus spreads. That way, you can do your part to stop it. And, if you're cooped up with a toxic person, this episode will give you accurate information to share. Maybe, just maybe, the #Hijackal will listen because s/he wants to live, too! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How much fear is appropriate about coronavirus? What are the real facts? What's the difference between an epidemic, an outbreak, and a pandemic? How fast is coronavirus spreading and what speeds it up? What precautions are imperative right now? How long does the virus stay on surfaces? What is your best practice for when you need to go to get groceries? How does this compare with other viruses like SARS and H1N1? How to stay safe and healthy. GUEST: Dr. David VigerustDave Vigerust, MS., Ph.D. received a bachelor’s degree in Biology and Chemistry from the University of Texas at El Paso, a master’s degree in Microbiology and Immunology from Texas Tech University and a Doctorate in Cellular and Molecular Pathology from Vanderbilt University School of Medicine. Dr. Vigerust conducted post-doctoral research at St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. Dr. Vigerust completed a second post-doctoral fellowship at Vanderbilt University Medical School in the Department of Pediatrics Disease in the area of molecular biology. Currently, Dr. Vigerust is completing a second master’s degree in Molecular Diagnostics from Arizona State University. Dr. Vigerust was a faculty member in the Pathology, Immunology and Microbiology Department at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine and a Health Research Scientist in the U.S. Department of Veteran’s Affairs. Most recently, Dr. Vigerust is the Chief Scientific Officer and molecular scientist for a diagnostics laboratory focused around precision medicine, genomics and infectious disease. Dr. Vigerust has published extensively in top tier international journals, presented his research at national and international conferences and is an active editor and reviewer for several prominent journals. Dr. Vigerust has developed several novel molecular diagnostic assays for the prediction of inflammation and cardiovascular risk in patients with diabetes, infectious disease and cancer. Dr. Vigerust speaks often on the subject of precision medicine and was selected as a TEDx speaker in 2016. Dr. Vigerust currently maintains an Adjunct Assistant Professor position at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in the Department of Neurological Surgery and a Clinical Assistant Professor position with the University of Maryland, Eastern Shore School of Pharmacy. Dr. Vigerust’s academic and research interests focus around areas of precision medicine in the treatment of a broad range of disorders that are driven by inflammation including psychiatric and behavioral disorders, pain, neurooncology and cardiovascular disease.Dr. David Vigerust has no gifts for you at this time.Learn more at StrategicBiosciences.comFind on FacebookWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! 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Housebound with a #Hijackal? Did the first moment you realized that you might be quarantined with a Hijackal parent or partner send shivers through you?This is NOT THE TIME to try to work things out or point things out. Difficult though it may be, when you are 24/7 with a #Hijackal, that the time to be the coolest you have ever been! Difficult, toxic people freak easily. What do they do when they freak? They demand more power and control. OK, tell them they MUST stay home, and they are going to do two main things: refuse to stay home because "No one is gonna tell me what to do!" or stay home and be miserable, self-centered, and annoying, at a minimum. You know that. Today, I'm giving you these ten truths clearly so that you will not expect the Hijackal in your life to be different. You won't expect them to change. You'll save yourself the time, effort, anxiety, and stress of hoping they will change. Home 24/7 with a Hijackal? You'll get all the exercise you need walking on eggshells. These ten truths will help you see how to avoid blowing the roof off...or, at least, do you best to keep things to a dull roar. Big hugs! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Fears about being housebound with a toxic person Know what to do to maximize peace Know what to do to minimize rage Why expectations need to be low Why to stay in "Observe" mode to save your sanity 10 basic things that #Hijackals do that you cannot change no matter what you say What to do while you wait it out. SO IMPORTANT! Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#housebound #homewithahijackal #homewithanarcissist #stuckathome #lockeddown #isolatedwithanarcissist #isolationwithahijackal#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Left a relationship and wondering about re-entering the dating life?Getting your courage to date again?Afraid to step out, or choose wisely?Need encouragement and inspiration to be self-confident?Karen Solomon offers some great ideas for Complete Communication that come from the key distinctions between men and women and how some specific, deliberate communication modalities will work for you.You're starting over in life, leaving a relationship, job, or mindset.What do you need to think about when starting over in the dating world?Are you Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over? Or, want to be?Especially if you are leaving a toxic relationship--a relationship with a #Hijackal--or, you were raised by one, you may be feeling fear, trepidation, and excitement all at once.Can I do it?How will I do it?Is there a good way to prepare to date again?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Karen's story of discovery and inspiration after divorce What Complete Communication is and why it's important What the common denominator among sex, money, and relationships is How to know when you're ready for transformation Who are you pleasing and why? Differences in communication style between men and women GUEST: Karen SolomonKaren Solomon, author of Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over, teaches keys to confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom and inspires her clients to create their lives congruent with their deepest needs and desires. Her communication style is bold, edgy, and inspires both men and women to be their authentic, unadulterated selves. She integrates a foundation as a credentialed teacher with over two decades providing image makeovers and relationship coaching for men and women. Karen’s passion, insight and genuine desire to serve, combined with being direct, compassionate and relatable, leave audiences and listeners laughing and loving themselves.Karen’s long term marriage followed by an amicable divorce combined with decades of personal development with a focus on intimacy and communication have prepared her to assist other in navigating life transitions. A grateful breast cancer survivor, Karen advocates for women going through similar journeys.Her signature seminar Men, Sex & Money, along with her coaching practice combine to offer real solutions for creating an irresistible next chapter filled with clarity and pleasure. Her presentations result in practical tools to upgrade life and relationships.Karen Solomon has gifts for you. Find it HERE.Learn more at KarenSolomon.comFind on FacebookEnjoy on YouTubeFollow on TwitterFollow on Instagram Follow on LinkedInListen to Podcast Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#sexsassystartingover #karensolomon #datingafteremotionalabuse #datingafterbeinghurt #couragetodateagain#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you're with a relentlessly difficult, toxic person (a #Hijackal), or were raised by one, it's likely you'll be feeling somewhat trapped, suffocated, limited, or held back. Let's start today to change that. FOMO! Lots of talk about FOMO these days: the Fear Of Missing Out. What are you missing out on just now? If it's love, freedom, possibilities, and joy, it's time to rethink, right? Today, I'm talking about these kinds of FOMO, and what you can do to allay your fears and step into the life you'd like to create: Do you want your life to be one way, and it consistently show up another way/ Does there never seem to be enough time to get it together? Do you know what you're afraid of missing out on? Do you know what holds you back from grabbing it, or why it never seems to be within reach? Sound at all familiar? The good news is that you can start with recognizing these things and then move on to creating the life you actually want, and I'm here to help. It's not wise to make huge decisions quickly. I advocate small, positive, doable changes. That's what I write about in my book, Kaizen For Couples. Even if you're not in a couple now, this book will help you see what's possible and necessary to do to have the best relationship possible with yourself and others. It's not just for couples! These strategies work everywhere...even at work. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Imagining a full, rich, free life of your choosing. It's possible! 3 unnecessary ways you might be missing out How to step beyond limitations you may be feeling Why Dr. Shaler suggests not believing a "you can have it all" claim...and, what she does believe about it 4 things you can take charge of to create the life you want Getting beyond #Hijackal relationships and reclaiming yourself Free yourself to start taking small, doable steps towards the life you want Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#liveyourbestlife #nolimitsliving #freeyourselffromlimitation #limitingbeliefs #emotionalhealing #embracepossibilities #lifeafteremotionalabuse #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hijackals, narcissists, and other toxic difficult people are mean. In tender moments, they make you feel safe to tell them your innermost secrets, insecurities, and vulnerabilities. Then, they turn those into weapons! They laugh at you, make jokes about your insecurities in front of others, and exploit your vulnerabilities to their advantage. Sound familiar? Hijackals want to have the upper hand at all times. Maybe, you share something that embarrassed you, or share something that scares you, or share something you are afraid of. It feels like a tender moment, and you SO want it to be the intimacy that you long for. You want that emotional closeness. It's what you've been waiting for. Imagine how they rub their hands with glee when you share something with them that puts you in a vulnerable light, or a bad light! They weaponize your insecurities and expose you, blame you, or shame you. They particularly like to do it in public when they hope you'll let it pass without speaking up. WHY? What's up with these people? HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Learn three kinds of empathy that can help with understanding the Hijackal behavior How Hijackals learn what to do to get what they want from you Why Hijackals are scornful of your vulnerabilities--even though they encourage you to share them What the biggest misconceptions about Hijackals--including those narcissists--is Why narcissists seem to hate you but won't let you go easily GUEST: Kim SaeedKim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the Kind bestseller, How To Go No Contact Like A Boss.In How To Go No Contact Like A Boss, Kim Saeed wrote,"During the detox from a toxic relationship, it's very common for those in recovery to ruminate obsessively over their ex and the events that led to the disintegration of the relationship. This results from addiction to the reward-and-punishment peptides that the victim's brain formed during the course of the relationship. Obsessive thinking is often the result of your subconscious mind's attempt to re-abuse you in the absence of your toxic partner. simply in order to get those peptides flowing again."Kim Saeed has a gift for you. The Beginner's Healing ToolkitFind it HERE. Learn more at LetMeReach.comFind on FacebookEnjoy on YouTubeFollow on TwitterListen to Podcast Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#laughatyourinsecurities #needpowerover you #narcissistslaughatyou #kimsaeed #letmereach #exploitvulnerabilities#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Toxic people--emotional manipulators--have an absolute need to win. They NEED to have power over you in order to feel safe in their world. That's their problem. Don't make it yours. To get power over you, Hijackals are masters of emotional manipulation. And, they serve it up two ways: smooth or aggressive. Smooth approaches catch you off guard because you so want to believe them and enjoy the love and peace. Aggressive approaches make you fearful and unable to think clearly in the moment. Therefore, masters of manipulation! Hijackals are always homing their skills of emotional manipulation. If you've had a toxic parent--a #Hijackal parent, you may be so used to the games that you don't notice them at first. After today's episode, you will. Don't spend a second beating yourself up for not seeing it, just pick yourself up, face in a new direction (away), and make some new decisions. You don't deserve to be the prey of a #Hijackal predator. You need to see emotional manipulationHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Examples to help you recognize emotional manipulation Why #Hijackals need to win Why you need to discard your rose-colored glasses Dr. Shaler shares some examples of emotional manipulation from her earlier life Why you need to believe your gut instincts Why not to override those gut instincts Seeing the emotional manipulators need to dominate Strengthen your resolve to step away Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#emotionalmanipulation #emotionalmanipulators #emotionalabuse #needtodominate #saynotoabuse #believeyourinstincts #listentoyourgut#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.