Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Do you know when you're being lied to? Does your antenna go up? Or, do you so want to believe the lie that you find a way to justify it? Liars--particularly Hijackal liars--count on you to believe their lies. It's all part of their need to feel powerful and in control. Don't believe them! Use today's episode to sort out what's really coming at you, and recognize the lies.You know it never works well to confront a #Hijackal: a person with narcissistic, sociopathic, psychopathic, and/or passive-aggressive tendencies and behaviors. Don't poke #Hijackals. Recognize what's going on. Don't let them think they have you outsmarted. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why Hijackals lie How does a person become a liar Why passive-aggressive people lie frequently Narcissistic people like to tell half-truths Beware of people who tell you "Trust me!" Gaslighting is lying Differences between compulsive liars and pathological liars Why it's important to recognize these four kinds of lies in order to stop second-guessing yourself and to stop the crazy-making Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#spottingliars #paathologicalliars #compulsiveliars#compulsivelying #pathologicallying #passiveaggressivelying #tellinglies #whypeoplelie#fourkindsoflies #narcissistslie #psychopathslie #sociopathslie #lyingtowin #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What about the state of fatherhood in the U.S. just now? Alec Lace, podcast host of First-Class Fatherhood, has some definite views on what is required. Father of four with a full-time job and a part-time shift with Uber, shares what he has learned talking with men in his car, as well as celebrities in many fields. In less than two years Alec Lace has soared to the top of the podcasting industry by interviewing some of the most famous people on the planet in order to achieve his vision of changing the narrative of fatherhood and family life through his groundbreaking show, First-class Fatherhood.What IS NOT happening that needs to happen for fathers to step up? What IS happening that needs to change?And, everything in between! Stimulating discussion on the state of fatherhood, and considerations for shifting into what Alec calls 'First Class Fatherhood." Do you agree? What are your responses? Love to hear from you. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: State of fatherhood today in Alec's view Does fatherhood have to involve fear? Is fear of your father the same as respect for your father? The influence of absent vs. present fathers What about poverty and neglect? The fatherless crisis How important are agreements between parents about rules and boundaries? What is too harsh parenting? GUEST: ALEC LACE, Podcast host of First-Class Fatherhood Alec Lace is a father of four who, in 2018, launched the now popular podcast, First Class Fatherhood with a vision to change the narrative of fatherhood and family life. The show quickly became one of the top parenting podcasts in America due to Alec interviewing some of the most famous fathers in the world including Dean Cain, Deion Sanders, Tony Hawk, and Dana White. Because of the show’s popularity Alec was invited to be on the field for the Super Bowl LIII media day in 2019 to interview dads such as Tom Brady, Julian Edelman, and Bill Belichick. Additionally, our nation's heroes hold a special place in Alec’s heart and on his podcast he has interviewed legendary servicemen such as Navy SEALs Rob O’Neill and Marcus Luttrell, “Black Hawk Down” pilot Mike Durant, Benghazi survivor John Tiegen, and Medal of Honor recipients Ed Byers, Dakota Meyer and Michael Thornton. On June, 16 2019 Alec himself was interviewed live on Fox & Friends for Father’s Day and has also appeared on several other top podcasts including Order of Man and Life of Dad. Alec does all of this while continuing to be a dedicated railroad mechanic, a position he has held for twenty years and he even drives Uber on weekends as a way to further spread his message. First Class Fatherhood can be heard each week on iHeart Radio, Spotify, Pandora, and iTunes.ALEC LACE has no gift for you.CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: ALEC LACEWEBSITE: https://firstclassfatherhood.com/PODCAST: https://firstclassfatherhood.com/FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/firstclassfatherhood YOUTUBE:INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/firstclassfatherhoodTWITTER: http://www.twitter.com/aleclaceLINKEDIN: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#aleclace #firstclassfatherhood #fearoffather #respectfulparenting #respectparents #differencebetweenrespectandfear#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Feeling trapped? Feeling stuck?Not sure how to move from feeling things are impossible to a new direction?You need to deeply consider these two things! When we start a relationship, things are rosy. Or, at least, we think they are. That sets up a dynamic that may go unexamined for too long, and a relationship can become very lop-sided.Is that how you feel about your relationship?Today's episode can make a HUGE breakthrough for you if you will think deeply about these two important factors: Idolizing and idealizing. You may not understand they accurately enough. You will after you listen. And, you'll know how to move in a healthier direction for you and your children.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What happened at the start of the relationship makes a big difference Why you may idolize a new partner How idealization strays far from reality Two things you need to examine if you're feeling trapped How to get rid of old rose-colored glasses and see your relationship in the true light of today How doing these things can get you away from feeling trapped Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#feelingrappedinarelationship #feelingtrappedbyanarcissist #feelingrappedbyahijackal #idealizingaperson #idolizingaperson #unhealthytoidealize #unhealthytoidolize #gettingoutofatoxicrelationship #escapingthehijackaltrap#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Too many people--especially, unfortunately, women--feel they are at a disadvantage in seeking a divorce because of financial control.If you're married to a narcissistic #Hijackal, that will usually be the case. What can you do? I'm delighted to bring Victoria Lowell to Save Your Sanity to discuss very real concerns people have when wanting to leave a toxic relationship but finances seem too troublesome. Have you ever thought you couldn't leave because of money?#Hijackals love to take financial control amid the other kinds of control they enjoy. You might find yourself unexpectedly having your name taken off houses or other assets. What do you do? How do you manage? What CAN you do?Big important discuss today with this financial advocate and coach. Great insights!Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What's your financial identity? How's your financial infidelity? How #Hijackals and others hide assets in divorce Is it possible to reverse a power of attorney? What if my partner does not make a full financial disclosure during divorce? What about pre-nups? What steps can a women take to regain control of her financial power? GUEST: VICTORIA LOWELLVictoria “Vicky” Lowell is a financial advocate and coach, international bestselling author and the founder of Empowered Worth, a financial-education platform that empowers women to become active participants in their own financial future and well-being. She is also the author of the international bestseller, “Empower your Worth: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Self-Worth and Net Worth.” Her expertise in this field has led to her hosting a college-planning seminar at the University of Miami this year with several speaking opportunities planned, both locally and nationally, next year.She was formerly at UBS Financial Services, Inc. where she was a client service associate and later a financial advisor. In late 2018 she left UBS and followed her passion to help women assert themselves fiscally. Empowered Worth was born as a resource for financial coaching geared toward educating women to not only meet their immediate economic needs but attain long-term goals.Lowell has also worked with organizations such as the S.O.S. Organization at the Sloan School at MIT, the Junior League of Greenwich, Connecticut and locally with Baptist Hospital Foundation. These endeavors helped to foster her desire to help empower women in her community.VICTORIA LOWELL has a gift for you: Money Stories WorksheetGet it here http://www.empoweredworth.com/resourcesCONNECT WITH MY GUEST: VICTORIA LOWELLWEBSITE: www.empowerdworth.comPODCAST: http://www.empoweredworth.com/resourcesFACEBOOK: hhttps://www.facebook.com/empoweredworthYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz0iLBTbRg2RC-nqiMmfSRw?view_as=subscriberINSTAGRAM: httt://instagram.com/empoweredworthTWITTER: http://www.twitter.com/empoweredworthLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoria-lowell-67268375/--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#financialempowerment #financeswhendivorcing #womendivorcing #iamworth #empoweredworth #victorialowell #moneyconsiderationswhendivorcing #financialdivorce#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are you wrong every time you turn around? Does your partner--or mother--have to win in every conversation? Someone who has to be right all the time is verifying, not validating. That can not only be infuriating and frustrating, it's nasty! Sound familiar? Is there someone in your life who always thinks they have the facts. They remember events better than you. Know what you should do?That's gaslighting! When another person wants to define your reality for you--tell you what you want, think, need, feel, remember, that's gaslighting. They want to be in control of your experiences and responses in life, and that is taking away a basic right you have! Oxford dictionary: Verify: to make sure or demonstrate that something is true, accurate, justifiedValidate: to recognize or affirm the worth of a person or their feelings or opinions; cause a person to feel valued or worthwhile Big difference! Are you asking "What's going on in my relationships?" This could be it. Get tips for making it stop. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why you feel frustrated in your relations Understanding the difference between being verified and validated Why being verifying is a game of one upmanship Knowing how it feels to be validated Understand that being validated in a relationship is healthy You are not weak or needy to want to be and feel validated in your close relationships Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#validatingyourpartner #feelingvalidated #validateyourself #validateyourpartner #verifyingfacts #wantstomakemewrong #wantstoprovemewrong #catchesmeout #lookstocatchmeout #alwayslookingforfault #alwaysneedstoberight#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You'll never have the partnership you want if you continue to see your partner as a project.You'll never be loved when your partner wants to fix or change you.BIG PROBLEMS! The three essential elements in a healthy relationship all need equal consideration for their well-being: 2 Me's and 1 WE! Too often, those elements are not considered equally. Each "ME" wants the floor, and the "WE" takes a constant back seat. That won't work because it will all be a struggle--a power struggle. That creates tension and stress which produce anxiety. No one does well when those things are prevalent! Today's topic highlights an underlying issue in relationships in distress: one partner sees their partner as a project. Remember Episode 115 about the 3 MUST-HAVES For a Healthy Adult Relationship? If not, I invite you listen to that episode. If you did, you'll remember that one MUST-HAVE is equality. That's simply not present when you think you have the right to "fix" your partner. Your partner cannot be a partner when you are treating them like a project. Take stock now. What's going on in your relationship? I'm always here to help. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why relationships don't work when one partner wants to change the other The essential three entities in a relationship Why you lose respect for your partner 3 big problems that trying to fix your partner creates for you 5 damaging thoughts that destroy relationships 6 things that need to happen to make a relationship healthy Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#don'tmakeyourpartneraproject #equalityinrelationship #mypartnerwantstochangeme #I wanttochangemypartner #ifeellikemypartnerisaproject #acceptingmypartner #beingacceptedbymypartner #powerstruggle #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You spend many hours a day at work. Whether you go to a business setting or work from home, you will occasionally meet difficult, toxic people who are dedicated to putting you down and wearing you down. Michele PW shares her experience as a young copywriter and how it impacted her for years before she recovered true trust in herself. Toxic workplaces abound. I've been invited to work with individual toxic managers, and with teams with a toxic member. No one feels good about going to work every day in this environment. Things can change before there are too lasting effects, if you get help early. Michele talks about her specific experiences with a toxic boss, and how she managed to recover to become a successful business owner herself, and a successful writer. She shares how she became afraid of failing and not living up to the expectations of others. Sound familiar? Enjoy this episode and take her learning for your own situation. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How even a short time in a toxic workplace can affect you negatively The effects Michele experienced after a toxic workplace What a past toxic experience can STOP you from doing and that's not a good thing How a toxic experience affected Michele's ability and willingness to write How she overcame it What do you best do if you experience writer's block Why to heal a blow to your ego as soon as possible GUEST: MICHELE PW Michele PW (Pariza Wacek) is a best-selling, award-winning fiction and nonfiction author. On the fiction side, she writes psychological thrillers/mystery/suspense books and has a popular book blog. On the nonfiction side, she’s written 5 books in the "Love-Based Business" series that share how to sell more with love and build a solid, profitable business on a foundation of love. In addition, she owns a copywriting and marketing company that has sold $50M worth of products and services. MICHELE PW has a gift for you: The Writing Toolkit Get it here :https://www.lovebasedbiz.com CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: MICHELE PWWEBSITE: michele@michelepw.comFACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/michelepwauthorYOUTUBE: https://youtube.com/michelepwINSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/themichelepwTWITTER: https://twitter.com/michelepwLINKEDIN: https://linkedin.com/in/michelepw--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#toxicworkplace #toxiccolleague #toxicbusinesspartner #difficultpeopleatwork #narcissistsatwork #narcissistsintheworkplace #hijackalsatwork #hijackalsinbusiness #dealingwithhijackals #michelepw #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You know that look, that jerky look of superiority that #Hijackals give you? I call it The Hijackal Smirk. It's that look of disdain, disrespect, and "I'm superior and you are a fool" that Hijackals are infamous for. Got it? Contempt is lethal, hurtful, demoralizing, and a much deeper emotion that fleeting ones that we all have during the day. It is more complex. Contempt is the opposite of empathy and compassion. Contempt actually invalidates others: suggests that they have no good right to take up space or draw breath except to do my bidding. Have you ever felt that from your partner, parent, ex, or sibling? That's contempt. I like the great thought that Tim Otten put into his paper for Tilburg University on "Conceptualizing Contempt." His final conclusion for a definition of contempt was: "[Contempt is] a negative feeling with a downward social comparison wherein one feels superior and judges the other as inferior. One thinks of the other as incompetent, worthless, and one has no respect or appreciation for the other. This goes accompanied by behavior aimed to socially exclude and derogate the other." YUCK! You don't deserve to be treated that way. If this sounds at all familiar, let's talk soon and sort this out. (P.S. Your kids deserve a better model, too. right?) Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why contempt is lethal, hurtful and demoralizing How to recognize contempt How disgust, anger, disdain, and disrespect add up to contempt Contempt can include irrational responses to other groups of people Contempt is constant underlying hostility The Gottman Institute, 1993 - "Contempt is the best predictor of divorce." Find out why. Contempt can be linked to racism and prejudice 7 Ways Hijackals Treat You With Contempt - Recognize these? Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#narcissisticcontempt #narcissistcontempt #mypartnerdemeansme #mypartnerputsmedown #lowselfesteem #lackofselfconfidence #meanpartner #nastypartner #contemptuousbehavior #hijackalcontempt #whatiscontempt #howcontemptshowsup #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are toxic relationships ruining your health? Is your immune system being depleted by constant anxiety?Walking on eggshells is a stressful way to get exercise. You need to change that and here are some ways.You can do so much for your own health. Dr. Sundardas Annamalay has made this is lifelong study and his mission is to help you recognize and realize all that you can do to overcome the exhaustion of emotional abuse, and other contributors to health issues. Emotional issues create physical issues. You want relief from both, and that's a very good thing to achieve.BIG QUESTION: Do you feel energized by being with the other person, or not? That answer will tell you so much. We talk about that.Early childhood patterns also affect our willingness to accept poor behaviors, or unwillingness to clarify and set boundaries. Even more so, to enforce those boundaries.Are you ready to feel be better...including your physical health? Tune in and hear these invaluable insights from Dr. Annamalay who is revered throughout Asia for his wisdom, skills, and new ways to live by your own design.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is meant by "functional medicine" Why we have to distinguish between "medicine" and "natural medicine" What big health issues are currently being ignored The top 3 things to do to promote your own health How toxic relationships affect your body The difference between being a nice person and being an effective one How early childhood patterns can create negative programming and what you can change GUEST: DR. SUNDARDAS ANNAMALAYAward Winning Entrepreneur, Best-Selling Author, Strategic Business Mentor, Professor of Natural Medicine and Natural Medicine Practitioner. Dr Sundardas created the Million Dollar Designed Life Formula after working with more than 15,000 individuals from more than 30 countries.He has shared the stage with some of the most successful entrepreneurs, thought leaders and executive coaches like Bill Walsh and Robert Kiyosaki, to name a few. His client list includes some of the leading Asian actresses and entertainers, diplomats, ambassadors, some of the richest families in Asia, the Middle East, India, and members of the royalty from Malaysia. Organisations include Goldman and Sachs, IBM, as well as South East Asian government bodies like the Ministry of Defence and Education, Singapore as well as the Ministry of Health, Thailand.Dr. Sundardas has helped companies in the wellness arena generate more than US$25 million in sales by strategic technical positioning. He has worked with diverse industries such as healthcare, engineering, shipping, architecture, restaurants, fresh produce and health food, fashion, copywriting and public relations in the areas of Peak Performance, Personal Branding and Strategic Management.Dr Sundardas has Asperger's Syndrome and recovered from a near terminal heart failure.DR. SUNDADAS ANNAMALAY has a gift for you: "Life By Design: How to Design Your Ideal Life To Be Healthy"Get it here: http://lifebydesign-home.pages.ontraport.net CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: DR. SUNDARDAS ANNAMALAYWEBSITE: www.drsundardas.comFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SundardasDAnnamalay/?modal=admin_todo_tourYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiN5vyPdJd2lMmtTRgYVEtgINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drsundardas/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrSundardasaLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drsundardasannamalay/--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#overcomingexhaustion #emotionalexhaustion #functionalmedicine #vibrationalmedicine #naturalmedicine #energymedicine #ignorehealthissues #recovermyhealth #recovermyhealthafteremotionalabuse #recoverafteremotionalabuse #sundardasannalamalay#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You long to be known, seen, heard, acknowledged, approved of and accepted. Those are the very things that a person with narcissistic or anti-social tendencies will not give you. That's how they manipulate you. You want those things and they pretend, suggest, or promise them. You know now that you're not going to receive them.I hate to have to be so strong, but it's essential: STOP HOPING!That person who manipulated and love-bombed you into falling in love with them is a mirage, a charade, a facade, a chameleon. That person is made-up and put on. That's not the real person.If you keep hoping that that mythical first-date person is real, you'll keep thinking that if only you could find the right formula while making yourself into a pretzel--that person would return. You know that you only see that person now when the Hijackal is really afraid of losing you, or really wanting something you don't want to give them, right?Sad, but true!That's why today's episode is SO IMPORTANT! Good people hold out hope that difficult, toxic people will change. It seldom happens....and, I mean REALLY SELDOM! They will make some surface changes for awhile, but their basic nature most often wins out and they go back to their damaging ways.Yep! That's the bottom line: stop hoping, OK?Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why Hijackals cannot be emotionally intimate The difference between being proximate and being intimate Why you're desire for intimacy is their opportunity to weaponize your vulnerabilites Don't mistake the desire for control with the desire to know you better Important understanding of the psychological definitions of intimacy Why emotional intimacy requires the emotional safety you'll never have around a #narcissist, a @Hijackal Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#emotionalintimacy #emotionalsafety #weaponizemyvulnerabilities #desiretocontrolme #demandtocontrolme #whatisemotionalintimacy #howtobeemotionallysafe #emotionallyunsaferelationship#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you're with a toxic person, you recognize that they love to keep you in uncertainty, on edge, and hyper-vigilant. Recognize that? Do you find your shoulders creeping up to your earlobes when you're around the #Hijackal? When that is so, you lose energy, and the stress makes decision-making difficult, right? You second-guess yourself. You argue with yourself. You get quickly exhausted, and decisions are postponed. Today, Mary Goulet is here to offer hope...and strategies. We talk about how to get back in touch with your own feelings, intuition, or gut instinct. That sometimes gets covered up by all the "noise" in a toxic relationship, right? Mary Goulet says, "Your gut is always a statement: do, don't do, or delay." Let her suggestions get you back in touch with what's best for you, and how let your body tune in and tell you. Decision-making? Mary says your gut is courage-based. That's good news, for a start! I think you'll find this to be a very insightful interview. Let me know how it helped by joining in on the Save Your Sanity Facebook Page: https://www.Facebook.com/SaveYourSanityPodcast Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Why we don't trust ourselves sometimes What gets in the way of trusting yourself How you can shift from shaky to secure decision-making How you can overcome second-guessing Why you need to learn to say "no" earlier GUEST: MARY GOULETMary Goulet has been in media since 2002. She is a radio host of The Mary Goulet Show and a co-host on Steve Olsher’s Reinvention Radio and Beyond 8 Figures. Mary has appeared on Dr. Phil, Montel, CBS Early Show, Fox National News and over 50-morning shows across the country. Mary is an award-winning author; The MomsTown Guide to Getting It All (Hyperion) and It’s All About You, Live the Life You Crave (Simon & Schuster/Free Press). Her popular, signature work is titled Go With Your Gut; How to Make Decisions You Can Trust.MARY GOULET'S FREE GIFT: Her ebook, Go With Your Gut.Get your free copy at http://GoWithYourGut.net CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: MARY GOULETWEBSITE: https://www.MaryGoulet.netFACEBOOK: YOUTUBE:INSTAGRAM: TWITTER: LINKEDIN: YOU CAN JOIN IN AND COMMENT ON EPISODES ON THE PODCAST FACEBOOK PAGE, TOO. https://www.Facebook.com/SaveYourSanityPodcast --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#marygoulet #gowithyourgut #confidentdecisionmaking #wheretostart #canItrustmyintuition #trustingmyselftodecide #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

So exasperating! Your partner seems like an extra child. Not what you signed up for, right!And, no amount of pointing out his/her failures, incompetencies, or lack of thought seems to change things, either.Infuriating!OK...I understand, but it's definitely not going to help if you are viewing your partner as an extra child. That alone needs your immediate attention!If you actually treat your partner as an extra child--giving direction, finding fault, ridiculing, shaming, and blaming--your relationship will always be lacking in those three MUST-HAVES: equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. It will always be frustrating, infuriating, and unsatisfying.And, the bedroom? Going to consistently be contentious. No desire because there's not respect. It's all going to go sideways, and I give you some pointed examples of why in this episode.So, if you're unhappy in your relationship, it could be that this episode can change all that as you understand the impossible dynamics of parenting your partner as a primary process. Sure, we are occasionally that parental figure that makes the bad go away for each other, that soothes the bruises and bumps. That's great.It's when the primary attitude of an attempt to be a partner is "It feels like I have an extra child" is in place, then everything else slowly disintegrates.Listen and I'm sure it will makes sense to you. Good news: this can change!Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How you damage your relationship when you act like your partner's parent Why you feel resentment when you feel you have to parent your partner What 'parenting' your partner may look/sound Why behaving like a parent to your partner builds resentment Why you don't want to sleep with someone who treats you like a child How to see the contrasts and change How to change and improve your relationship ...and, get the spark back, too. Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#parentingmypartner #mypartnerthinkstheyaremyparent #norespectformypartner #idontwanttomakelovewithmypartner #mypartnerislikeanextrachild #relationshipdynamics #beingmypartnersparent#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

For women to be in their power does not mean they are seeking power over other humans! It's an inside job! Even though women have made strides towards equality for all humans, there are still many ways to address. Today, we're talking about the internal journey of finding our sense of self, getting in touch with how we may not be being our own best friends! How do you feel when you hear the term, "self-love?" Does it sound like how you feel, or does it sound like something obvious or foreign? Sometimes, I think it has been used to the point that people hearing it don't take it in, so we've addressed that today. And, what it means. How about women's feminine spiritual power? Intrigued? We explore this, and how we can manifest our true nature through accepting our power. So much to inspire women in this episode just for them, OR YOU!. Enjoy! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is self-love? It's sometimes over-used and unclear. Have women really come a long way? How to recognize whether it's our brains or our bodies that are running our thoughts Why and how women have been tricked into competition Why it's absolutely imperative that you stop using self-deprecating language How and why every woman needs to be in her power, expressing fully GUEST: AUDREY HOPEAudrey Hope, D.D. is an award-winning certified addiction therapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree, who uses her abilities as a clairvoyant psychic medium to heal patients from trauma.A multi-talented force in the healing arts for over 20 years, Audrey Hope’s gentle-but-firm approach in addiction and relationships gets to the ‘root of the root’ to solve problems through spiritual modalities as she guides patients to freedom using a new frontier of healing to achieve inner peace.She has her own practice in the heart of Brentwood, CA, is the host of her weekly YouTube advice show “Hope For Relationships,” and is also an addiction therapist at Seasons In Malibu rehab facility.Throughout two decades in her field, Audrey has worked with an abundance of celebrities, producers, CEOs, doctors, lawyers, authors, athletes, heirs, and more – helping them cope with their relationship and/or addiction problems.AUDREY HOPE has no free give for you at this time. CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: AUDREY HOPEWEBSITE: https://www.AudreyHope.comFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TheAudreyHope/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/audreyhopesrealtvINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/theaudreyhope/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/TheAudreyHopeLINKEDIN: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ----------------------------------------------------------------------#personalpower #womeninrelationship #womenselfcare #womenfeelingless #audreyhope #verbalabuse #womenandselfconfidence #whatisyourmindset #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Who wants to live in a pressure cooker? No one goes out and says, "I want to live with anxiety, hyper-vigilance, stress, and uncertainty. Give me that relationship!" Well, no one who cares about themselves does, right? Today, I'm using the contrasts between a slow cooker and a pressure cooker to highlight just what I mean. Most of us have one or the other--maybe, both--in our kitchens. We know what they do. Have you ever thought about slow cookers and pressure cookers in terms of how relationships start, grow, cook, or burn? It makes it quite clear! Healthy relationships grow. They're gently creating depth of flavor, slowly. #Hijackal relationships degrade and love to reduce even the strongest fiber to nothing. Which relationship sounds better to you? Less heat over more time to savor the flavor? Or, greater heat over less time to break things down? Are you genuinely captivated by your partner, or feeling controlled and a captive? Big difference! Think deeply about these points today, even though you may think they are presented in a more lighthearted way. These are important distinctions that can lead to you being more able to discern whether your relationship has hope for being healthy. You need to know that! Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Healthy relationships get better with time Hijackal relationships have too much pressure How to tell the difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy relationship Nine ways to recognize there is too much pressure, too much anxiety How Hijackals trick you into thinking all is well and you are loved How to tell if you're in a narcissistic relationship, a controlling relationship, a potentially traumatic relationship Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Support Circles Only $5 for the first month at any level. Safely off social media.----------------------------------------------------------------------#relationshippressure #pressurewithanarcissist #narcissistpressure #healthyrelationship #hijackalrelationship #toomuchpressureinrelationship #toomuchanxietyinrelationship #anxietyinrelationship #controlinrelationship #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Oh, more pressure! Somehow, the idea is often promoted that you're supposed to be best, most, top, smartest, most effective, most productive, most involved, ever-present parent...in order to be good enough! NO! NO! NO!Who really told you that you're supposed to be a "SuperMom?"Who's deciding that?Do you value what they're up to or how they live?Do you--should you--care what others think?Have you examined what "good enough" parenting is FOR YOU?Big topics worth talking and thinking through! If you don't, you can get caught up in the generalized idea that you're not doing a good enough job of anything! Ever been caught in that "slush bucket?"Today, Kimberly Lou and I discuss where we get our ideas of what makes a good mother, even a great mother. It may not be what you've accepted, or been told and not examined. Freedom!Kimberly has a valuable distinction: the difference between creating harmony rather than balance. You'll want to engage with that thought in this episode. She has some other provocative thoughts that will help you clarify your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and choices about parenting.Oh, and Kimberly knows a few things about toxic relationships, too. Tune in.Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Recognize that parenting can be crazy-making it's OK to realize that you may be feeling burned out as a parent How to manage all the balls in the air at your house Things to consider when feeling pressed and pressured by parenting Why it's important to do your personal emotional work to be the best parent Who says you're supposed to be a Super-Mom, anyway!!! GUEST: KIMBERLY LOUIntegrative Life Coach Kimberly Lou helps "SuperMoms" who are burnt-out from taking on motherhood and a successful career to where they have no time to make room for romance. Kimberly offers life-changing advice to help women balance their life in a healthy way.Kimberly Lou is an integrative Life and Corporate Mentor who coaches top CEOs, entrepreneurs, celebrities, and world-class athletes around the world. She helps clients accelerate and thrive through mental focus, emotional fitness and physical training.In addition to Kimberly’s mentoring programs, she is an accomplished author, and a nationally recognized spokesperson for mental health and wellness. With over two decades of experience and extensive education, Advanced Fitness and Certified Wellness Specialist, Kimberly Lou creates attainable solutions using techniques that work at all fitness and wellness levels. Kimberly Lou has helped doctors create programs addressing mental illness, cognitive disabilities, and major addictions, in addition to, facilitating workshops and support groups for clients struggling with cognitive, mental, emotional, drug, and eating disorders.Kimberly is the author of Becoming Who You're Meant To Be: Eliminate Destructive Patterns And Unlock The Ultimate You. KIMBERLY LOU has no free gift for you. CONNECT WITH MY GUEST:WEBSITE: https://www.KimberlyLou.comFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kimberlyloucoaching YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSdV-ne-VP7pOl_-vTlmFewINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/kimloucoachTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/KimLouCoachLINKEDIN: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Support Circles  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#parentingpressures #kimberlylou #supermom #goodenoughparent #burnedoutparent #becomingwhoyouremeanttobe #harmonynotbalance#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.