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What are Kristen and Sarah’s goals for the New Year – and are resolutions really such a good idea? We’ll be taking a break next week to celebrate Christmas, but see you back here in 2018! Our old posts about New Year’s Resolutions: Kristen’s year of ENOUGH Kristen’s failed resolutions from 2011 Sarah’s 2012 resolutions Sarah’s 2017 resolutions (still trying to embrace her natural waves #BIGFATFAIL) Here is a great read for our fellow Enneagram 3s.  Ambition Addiction Also, Zola is reinventing the wedding registry and planning process to make the happiest moment in couples’ lives even happier. The Zola Registry has everything you love about your favorite department stores, plus things like honeymoon funds, fitness classes, wine subscriptions…over 500 top brands and 50,000 gifts, experiences, and cash funds. It’s super easy to use for couples and their guests, and is top-rated app for iPhone, iPad and Apple Watch, so couples can manage their registries on-the-go. Right now, if you sign up with Zola, you’ll receive a $50 credit towards your registry! Go to zola.com/selfie to get your $50 credit!

How do we stay sane over the holidays? We share our tips, and have a conversation with Meagan Francis of The Mom Hour about being a type 2 on the Enneagram. To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.) Here are some Enneagram books we recommend: The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth by Christopher L. Heuertz  

From cookbooks to candles, kids’ gifts to ideas for the men in your life, Kristen and Sarah have got some unique and passionate recommendations for thoughtful gifts this holiday season. For Women: If you love the smell of walking into an Anthropologie, you need Capri Blue candles. It smells like a tropical vacation. Kristen is partial to the mercury glass collection because of the glow the glass gives off. She’s also a fan of Jonathan Adler’s red currant candle. Wanna gift a cookbook? We recommend How To Cook Anything by Mark Bittman and the True Foods cookbook. Can a vacuum really change your life? And make your kids more willing to clean? Kristen contends that the Dyson cordless vacuum can. Sarah uses this Vitruvi Essential Oil Diffuser which, in addition to making her home smell amazing, looks like a modern vase. Sarah is obsessed with the MUN essentials skincare set, a luxury splurge for a woman you like a lot. (Use the code WHOORL for 15% off your purchase!) Reusable shopping bags are always a useful gift and Baggu’s are adorable and in a variety of fun modern prints and colors. We’ve long loved 31 Bits jewelry but their new home collection is TO DIE FOR and all purchases benefit women in Uganda and Bali. What do you get the person who has everything? A personalized self-inking address stamp is a thoughtful and useful gift for anyone. Sarah loves the Many Moons Workbook which has tons of information and research on the major Moon phases, recipes, spell working suggestions and advice, manifestation musings, Tarot Talk, and self-help and development prompts. If that level of woo-woo isn’t your thing and you come from a more Christian tradition, check out Christian Piatt’s Surviving the Bible devotional for 2018, a progressive and modern approach to looking at ancient scriptures. With all the great pictures you’re sure to take over the holidays, we’ve partnered with CanvasPeople.com to bring you a special deal on their photo canvases. Normally 11×14 canvases are priced at $69.99, but for a limited time, they are offering a FREE 11×14 canvas. (You just pay shipping.) To get this amazing deal, go to CanvasPeople.com and enter the code SELFIE at checkout. For Men: For awesomely hip beanies, messenger bags, and more, check out the goods at Krochet Kids, which are created by at-risk women in their educational sewing programs in Uganda and Peru. For the techies, we love the Amazon Alexa as a way to play music, add groceries to your list, check the weather, and answer your burning questions. It’s like your own personal assistant. And speaking of Alexa, the voice-activated amazon system can now control

We are talking about type 1’s (the Reformers) in our ongoing Enneagram series. And botox – should you do it? We have a fascinating interview with Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius Podcast, who is an Enneagram 1, as well as Jenny Potter, a creative producer at a Chicago-based church. Also, Kristen admits to her cognitive dissonance around her own botox use. Here are some books we talked about in this episode: The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron Subscribe to the Enneathought of the Day here. Also, Zola is reinventing the wedding registry and planning process to make the happiest moment in couples’ lives even happier. The Zola Registry has everything you love about your favorite department stores, plus things like honeymoon funds, fitness classes, wine subscriptions…over 500 top brands and 50,000 gifts, experiences, and cash funds. It’s super easy to use for couples and their guests, and is top-rated app for iPhone, iPad and Apple Watch, so couples can manage their registries on-the-go. Right now, if you sign up with Zola, you’ll receive a $50 credit towards your registry! Go to zola.com/selfie to get your $50 credit!

What can you learn about your internal motivations and drives from the Enneagram? We’re kicking off a series on this fascinating personality theory. In this introductory episode we will explain what it is, and then talk through each type with writer and enneagram enthusiast Leigh Kramer. We’re also joined by Christopher Heuertz, author of The Sacred Enneagram, who shares some of the history of the enneagram, it’s spiritual origins and modern psychological iterations, and how our childhood fears and wounds shape our personality. It’s a fascinating episode that we hope will inspire you to join us on this journey of exploration. To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.) Here are some books we talked about in this episode: The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth by Christopher L. Heuertz     

Can embracing our mortality help us living more fully? Caleb Wilde, author of Confessions of a Funeral Director, shares with us some of his insights about facing death and what we can learn from loss. We also continue the skincare conversation, talking about our evening routines for a clean and healthy face. Facial massage is a thing. Sarah’s favorite tutorial is here. Wanna go green with your evening face routine? We recommend: For luxe: Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser – use code whoorl10 for 10% off One Love Organics Cleanser MUN Anarose Toner – use code WHOORL for 15% off Drunk Elephant Night Serum Maya Chia Supercritical Pure Chia Face Oil Josh Rosebrook Day Cream SPF 30 Maya Chia Eye Achiever Roller Sarah uses facial masks at least 3-4 times a week. Some of Sarah’s favorite masks are here. For budget: Drunk Elephant Juju Bar Thayers Toner Acure Organics Marula Oil Super 6 Serum Hemp Seed Oil (And Kristen still swears by Pond’s Cold Cream which Sarah believes is made of cancer and toddlers’ tears.) Two great resources for going green are the EWG’s Skin Deep website and the Think Dirty App. Also, Sarah wrote about some of her favorite masks here. A less expensive line that is fantastic is Plant Apothecary.  

We talk our morning skincare rituals, and interview Obama’s former social media manager about keep the peace when our politics collide. Caleb Gardner of the digital innovation firm 18 Coffees gives us some insight for staying sane in the midst of our current climate. Plus, to tattoo or not to tattoo? Kristen regrets not having any, and Sarah regrets the ones she has. In this episode, we mentioned: The new Nom Nom Paleo book Wanna go green with your face routine? We recommend: For luxe: Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser – use code whoorl10 for 10% off One Love Organics Cleanser MUN Anarose Toner – use code WHOORL for 15% off Drunk Elephant Night Serum Maya Chia Supercritical Pure Chia Face Oil Josh Rosebrook Day Cream SPF 30 Maya Chia Eye Achiever Roller Sarah uses facial masks at least 3-4 times a week. Some of Sarah’s favorite masks are here. For budget: Drunk Elephant Juju Bar Thayers Toner Acure Organics Marula Oil Super 6 Serum Hemp Seed Oil (And Kristen still swears by Pond’s Cold Cream which Sarah believes is made of cancer and toddlers’ tears.)  

Is the internet making us dumber? More dumb? How can detachment help us avoid self-hate? And can watching TV be a form of self-care? In this episode, we chat about our collective addiction to scrolling the internet, and the negative effects of screentime (and how to get control.) We also chat with Cheri Huber, author of There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate and founder of the Zen Monastery Peace Center , about the process of letting go of our negative personal narratives. And we chat about television as an escape, and some of our current guilty pleasures on TV. In this episode, we talked about: The StayFocusd chrome extension can kill facebook and twitter after a certain amount of time each day. Rescuetime is the app that can email you a measure of your productivity each week. Have it auto-email to a friend for some real-talk accountability. The moment app can tell you how many times you’ve checked your phone in a day. In addition to being a must-have internet filter to keep kids off inappropriate sites, the Circle by Disney device can give you a daily overview of how you are spending your time online. Wanna take the challenge to get your phone out of your room? As it turns out, there are alarm clocks! And sound machines! The book Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives is a fascinating look at our collective facebook addiction. Some other good books on this topic: Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us Cheri Huber dropped some knowledge. If you want to explore more, here are some of her books: The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All Transform Your Life: A Year of Awareness Practice Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery

  Pubic hair: to remove or not to remove? And detaching from relationships and expectations as self-care. In this episode we take a deep dive (ooph) into pubic hair and some of the challenges of hair removal in this delicate area, sharing our own experiences with lasers, waxing, shaving, trimming, and even Nair. We also chat with therapist B.J. Hickman about the psychological concept of detachment, and how we can care for others without losing ourselves. In this episode, we talked about: Kristen swears by this bikini trimmer gadget for bikini hair removal without the unsightly bumps of shaving. Brave enough to try waxing at home? This kit from Amazon has good reviews. Are you a good candidate for laser hair removal? Melody Beattie wrote the quintessential book on detachment called The Language of Letting Go. Brene Brown’s book I Thought It Was Just Me is also an excellent guide to self-acceptance. * Take a look at the history of hair removal.

Most of us know how to eat well . . . so why don’t we? We discuss the barriers to a healthy diet, the last factor of Myers Briggs (Judging vs. Perceiving) and how it affects self-care, and we each dish on our current favorite fashion trend. Spoiler alert: we have a strong disagreement on high-waisted pants. In this episode, we talked about: Have you tried Whole 30? Kristen found it to be a game-changer in terms of learning to meal plan. We are both fans of Trader Joe’s Cruciferous Crunch Mix. Kristen is a tea fanatic and she loves Yogi Honey Lavender Stress Relief Tea, Tazo Zen Green Tea, Egyptian Licorice Tea, and Traditional Medicinal’s Throat Coat. We’ve been talking about the Myers-Briggs personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Myers-Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. If you want to try another personality measure, check out the Enneagram Test. Sarah is a fan of Citizens of Humanity Jeans. Kristen is in love with her jeans from Stitch Fix. Sarah’s high-waisted-wearing muse. So French, so chic. Silk blouses + High-waisted pants = TLF (KRISTEN DOES NOT AGREE.) THAT AMAZON DRESS. Kristen has it in every color. Comfortable and cute.

This is our hair episode! We talk all things follicular, from going gray to the best flat iron to whether or not those hair pills really work. Plus, body positivity – we’re positively conflicted about it. We love the movement and yet . . . And Thinking vs. Feeling: what the third Myers Briggs quadrant means for your personality and your own self-care habits. In this episode, we talked about: Lisa from This Organic Girl is growing out her gray and we are here for it. Hairprint is a great nontoxic hair dye. If you are looking for a good biotin supplement, Natrol has great ratings on Amazon. Sarah has rounded up all of her favorite organic haircare products on her blog. We are both fans of Acure Organics Shampoo and Conditioner. So affordable! Kristen loves Grove Collaborative for clean beauty products. Pharmaca always has great deals on natural and organic haircare and makeup. If you are looking for higher-end natural haircare, Sarah loves Rahua and True Botanicals. Josh Rosebrook has great styling products.   Kristen swears by Chi Silk Infusion for her brittle gray hair. Wanna learn to do beachy waves? Check out Sarah’s tutorials. Waves with a curling iron or waves with a flat iron. We are both fans of the more spendy Sedu flat iron for creating waves, but on a budget, check out this Conair number. Sarah also loves Hot Tools for curls. Want to upgrade your hair dryer? Sarah loves the Sedu 4000i and Kristen is a fan of the Babyliss. In our next few episodes, we are talking about the Meyer’s Brigg’s personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Myers Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. We were touched by this open letter from Serena Williams to her mom about body positivity.

How do you stay sane when the world seems broken? We talk with grief therapist Claire Bidwell-Smith about collective trauma after national tragedies, and with activist Micky Jones about the intersection of activism and self-care. Special thanks to Claire Bidwell-Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance and After This, and Micky Jones, social justice doula. You can check out her blog and upcoming speaking engagements here. If you feel so led, we recommend the following ways to take action: Donate blood Donate to Puerto Rico: the Hispanic Federation is designating 100 percent of its Hurricane Relief Fund to recovery efforts in Puerto Rico.  Join Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America  Text “Resist” to 50409 to contact your senators on issues important to you. 

We’re talking periods and the unwelcome symptoms that go along with them, as well as N vs. S on the Myers-Briggs and secrets to shaping your brows well. We get real about the frustrating aspects of periods, from clots to cramps, from bleed-outs to perimenopause and that tricky moment you realize that your white hot rage about your husband not emptying the dishwasher might actually be fueled by PMS. Oops.  Links We Mentioned in Episode 2 Kristen has had good success with methylated folate supplements to regulate hormones.  Sarah is a fan of magnesium supplements to mitigate PMS symptoms.  We recommend the book Female Brain Gone Insane for anyone in that tricky late 30’s – 40’s phase of perimenopause.  * The Flo app is perfect for tracking your cycle and everything that goes along with it. We discussed period panties and the diva cup. In our next few episodes, we are talking about the Meyer’s Brigg’s personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Meyer’s Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. We stand witness that Wonderbrow is worth the hype. For fabulous brows Kristen loves the Anastasia line, MAC Brun Shadow, and a good angled brow brush. Kristen also swears by this cheapie brow powder from Cover Girl. Looking for a well-performing non-toxic product? Sarah loves Long Last Brow by 100% Pure. 

Sleep: why is it so hard for us to achieve this basic human need? An intro to the Myers-Briggs personality types and self-care for introverts vs. extroverts. And face-shaving for women . . . it’s a thing. In today’s episode, we do a deep dive into sleep, talking through the negative effects of not getting enough, how to deal with insomnia, and how to create a sleep-friendly environment. Links We Mentioned in Episode 1 We talked about the brilliant Arriana Huffington Sleep Book, which has all kinds of information about the importance of sleep and how to get more of it. Both Sarah and I are huge fans of this particular sound machine. It’s low-tech but creates a perfect wind noise. If you are looking for apps to calm you down or help you sleep, we love the calm app. And when we are away from our beloved sound machines, this app is great for hotel room white noise. In our next few episodes, we are talking about the Meyer’s Brigg’s personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Meyer’s Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. Thinking of dipping your toes in the brave new world of female face-shaving? Thinking of dipping your toes in the brave new world of female face-shaving?  The Tinkle razors are your best bet. Subscribe & Review * Selfie in Apple Podcasts * Selfie on Android * How to Leave an iTunes Review