Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey

Do you dread Monday mornings after your students have been home for the weekend or long holiday break? Have you noticed some children seem to ramp up their behaviors as Friday dismissal time approaches? What is it about saying good-by for the weekend and hello on Monday that presents a challenge for some students? Leaving the school family on Friday afternoons and re-joining on Monday mornings is often difficult for children, especially children who have experienced trauma. We can relate to these children on some level as we have all had difficult hellos and good-byes in our lives. As adults we build defenses to distract us from that inner pain, children show us with their hurtful and disruptive behavior in the classroom. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with children and their families transforming both the home life and the life of the classroom. Listen in as long time Kindergarten teacher and two-time Teacher of the Year Tiffany Taylor shares how to ease the pain of difficult good-byes on Friday afternoons and challenging hellos on Monday mornings. Essential Takeaways Children who have experienced trauma have difficulties with hello and good-byes. Through consciously creating meaningful rituals around hello and good-bye routines in the classroom, teachers can ease the pain of these difficult moments and provide connections that carry them through the weekends. Steps for Tomorrow Have hello and good-bye rituals Create flexibility in arrival and departure routines Teacher self-care so you can remain calm during difficult times Use visuals for routines so children can see the information Important Links Conscious Discipline website ILUR video Greeting Ritual video Kim jackson’s brain smart start video Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • I love you rituals • Conscious Discipline job Board Show Outline :23 What is Conscious Discipline 1:09 Monday Madness – the impact of Hello and Good-bye 3:20 Hello and Good-bye for children with trauma 4:35 Introduction of guest Tiffany Taylor, Kindergarten Teacher 6:42 Grand Avenue Learning Center 8:13 Trends with student behavior on Friday afternoons and Monday mornings 9:28 Strategies for helping students re-enter the school family on Mondays 12:53 When children chronically struggle with re-entry on Monday mornings 14:44 Monday morning behaviors and strategies to support children who struggle 17:30 Friday afternoon behaviors and strategies to support children through good-byes 20:31 Steps for tomorrow: Hello and good-bye rituals and what to watch for 24:21 Create flexible arrival and departure routines 25:16 Teacher self-care 25:46 Use visual images for routines 26:35 Rituals of hello and good-bye for adults THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.

What messages around disciplining children did you receive growing up through your faith/religion? Do these messages mostly rely on fear such as children learn responsibility by being punished for their acts? What if we shifted to a method that relied on a love-based approach – seeing the best in everyone at their worst moments? While Conscious Discipline is not a religious program, it does intersect with faith. Conscious Discipline helps adults shift from a reliance on fear to a reliance on love when helping children through their difficult and conflict moments. It helps us see ourselves as worthy and see the same worthiness in others. Listen in as guest Amy Speidel shares her story of how faith and Conscious Discipline have intersected in her life. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • The number one thing we can do for healthy brain development is to have faith • Mistakes are opportunities to teach children missing skills • Discipline is not something we do to children, it is something we develop within them STEPS FOR TOMORROW • Begin with yourself – begin your own OOPS program, allowing yourself to make mistakes • Work on forgiveness in a way that says I forgot the core of love from which we came • See the beauty in others and see them as worthy IMPORTANT LINKS • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 PRODUCTS Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms SHOW OUTLINE :25 What is Conscious Discipline 1:33 Conscious Discipline and Faith 2:28 Introduction of guest Amy Speidel, teacher and Parent Coach 3:07 Story of participants attending a Keynote with Dr. Bailey 5:43 Healthiest thing we can do for brain development 9:03 Have you met people who struggle with their religion/religious teachings and Conscious Discipline 11:30 What happens when we use fear-based discipline 12:45 Responding to “Spare the rod, spoil the child” 15:17 Stories of values Conscious Discipline Teaches that would remind us of faith-based teachings 17:45 What is faith 18:52 What happens when we become “triggered” by something children do 19:50 Story of child and chocolate milk 22:07 Training children up, giving our best to children 23:57 Conscious Discipline as a language of the soul 24:52 OOPS (mistakes) moments with Conscious Discipline 26:44 Story with grandson and giving “the look” 28:46 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com

Does your role in your school include coaching teachers, students and parents? How well do you coach yourself when things do not go your way? Successfully coaching others to change requires we consciously and lovingly coach ourselves. The inner speech we use with ourselves when things are not going our way will automatically be the words we use with others when we are triggered and things are not going as we’d like. Conscious Discipline provides us with tools to offer compassion, empathy, choices and more effectively changing how we coach ourselves and others. Listen in as Paola Salcedo, Conscious Discipline coach at Barry Elementary, shares her success of creating personal change and how she coaches teachers, students, and parents to do the same. Essential Takeaways • Coaching and supporting resistant children and teachers through change requires a connection, a relationship • Creating community among parents using strategies for building a school family increases parental attendance at school events Steps for Tomorrow Begin with yourself and changing your perception, see what happens in front of you differently Accept responsibility for your own emotions Get to know yourself – know your “triggers” and “buttons” and own them Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Barry Elementary: http://www.houstonisd.org/Domain/21281 • Power of Perception: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9g7k3aVqw4k • Conscious Discipline Coaching: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7O9F-2agVT0 • Time Machine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIx8TdLxr48&index=13&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE • Wishing Well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8L8MMrRkGQ&index=14&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE Products Creating the School Family Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline Managing Emotional Mayhem Time Machine Wish Well Conscious Discipline Parent Curriculum Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:58 Dr. Bailey’s story of her golf coach 4:36 Conscious Discipline coaching model 5:47 Introduction of Paola Salcedo, Conscious Discipline Coach at Barry Elementary 6:22 Demographics of Barry Elementary 7:15 Paola’s position of Conscious Discipline coach 9:52 Time Machine modeling and coaching 15:48 Coaching teachers who are resistant to Conscious Discipline 17:21 One teacher changes her mind with coaching story 19:44 Increasing parental involvement at school 25:49 Story of using Conscious Discipline in weight loss meetings for parents 28:51 Story of learning from her own children at home 31:02 Importance of how we discipline ourselves affects how we discipline and coach others 32:20 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com

What is the first thing you think of when you hear the words resistant child? Disruptive? Mean? Hurtful? Angry? We might even call these children disconnected. What if we shifted our view of these children to see their behaviors as a call for help? Children who are relationship resistant are the most challenging in our classrooms. We can relate to these children on some level as we have all had hurt and betrayal in our lives. As adults we build defenses to distract us from that inner pain, children show us with their hurtful and disruptive behavior in the classroom. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with these children transforming both their life and the life of the classroom. Listen in and learn how create a School Family, utilize the skills of active calming, noticing and encouragement to reach even the most disconnected child. Essential Takeaways • For children to behave differently we must see them differently • Building relationships is key to reaching children who are resistant • Why building a School Family is essential • Remove judgment from the classroom with the skill of noticing Steps for Tomorrow Begin practicing self-calming and be willing to see children’s misbehavior as a call for help. Look for opportunities for connecting with children, begin building your school family. Important Links • DNA Process (Star 4 in chapter 8 of book study portal, http://consciousdiscipline.com/bookstudy/chapter-8.asp). • Skill of Noticing (http://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/video.asp?id=33) • Mirror Neurons (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq1-ZxV9Dc4) • Wishing Well (http://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/video.asp?id=70) Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Creating the School Family • I Love You Rituals • Shubert’s New Friend • School Family Job Board Show Outline :18 What is Conscious Discipline 3:10 Introduction of Guest Vicky Hepler 4:10 What behavior trends in classrooms today 4:54 Responses to challenging children before Conscious Discipline 6:35 Responses to challenging children after Conscious Discipline 8:33 How to build connection with children who resist 9:32 DNA process 11:38 Beginning steps for helping disconnected children 13:17 Why children resist relationships 15:45 Reframing children’s behavior 18:05 Summary of strategies 19:10 Removing judgment from the classroom 21:12 Success story of relationship resistant child 25:20 What to do when multiple children in a class are disconnected 28:50 Teacher suggestions for when it’s difficult to implement 31:17 Summary of all strategies for reaching resistant children ConsciousDiscipline.com

Is it possible for early childhood programs with many federal regulations and initiatives placed on them to create an environment that successfully support both children and their family’s social emotional development? How does a director rally underpaid and under-appreciated early childhood teachers to embrace a new way of being and teaching in their program? Many demands are placed on early childhood programs when it comes to funding, regulations, new initiatives and compliance. Head Start and Early Head Start programs in the United States promote school readiness of children under 5 from low-income families through education, health, social and other services. In addition, these programs are required to provide services that support the family’s growth and healthy family development as well. Listen in as Peg Tazwell shares at Knox County Head Start’s story of transformation and success with Conscious Discipline. Learn the importance of uniting the entire staff (teachers, admin, bus driver, cooks) to achieve maximum results in supporting young children’s growth and development. Essential Takeaways • Conscious Discipline provides skills for adults and children to be conscious enough to know when we are off track and connected enough to be persistent in continuing to practice and getting back on track • The transformational process of Conscious Discipline implementation begins with the adults and transfers to the children through modeling and teaching Steps for Tomorrow • Make a commitment to Conscious Discipline training and recognize it’s not a quick fix and it begins at the top with administrators • Find champions within your organization and give them training and mentoring, empowering them to move the organization’s implantation process forward • Use the word practice, rather than program, when talking about Conscious Discipline Important Links: • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Knox County Head Start awarded National Center of Excellence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c89iwyKkCCg&list=PL3418E21B5FB5559C&index=10 • Conscious Discipline Pay-it-forward Transformational Process: http://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/transformationalChange.asp • Conscious Discipline Summer Institute (CD1): https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/workshops/products/conscious-discipline-summer-institute-session-c-2017?variant=19966049413 • Office of Head Start: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/ohs Products: I Love You Rituals Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Conscious Discipline Parenting Curriculum Show Outline :16 What is Conscious Discipline 1:40 Introduction of Peg Tazwell, Director of Knox County Head Start 2:50 What is Head Start 4:50 Conscious Discipline results at Knox County Head Start 6:43 Culture shift within the organization due to Conscious Discipline Implementation 8:52 How Knox County Head Start began the implementation process with CD 12:22 Coming back when you got off track 12:50 Parent Involvement strategies and results 15:02 Knox County awarded National Center of Excellence 18:09 Success stories of children who attended Knox County Head Start 21:21 Conscious Discipline as a practice, not a program 23:25 Steps for tomorrow to begin 25:50 Does Conscious Discipline contribute to the achievement of some of the new Head Start performance standards ConsciousDiscipline.com

Have you ever thought Conscious Discipline was just for younger children? Do you work with middle school students and struggle with managing behavior and classroom disruptions? The middle school years present many challenges for students. They are experiencing many life changes internally, struggling to find a sense of belonging with friend groups, and are often because of their age expected “to know better” when it comes to behavior. Middle school teachers often struggle with misbehavior in the classroom due to having the perception that teens are just disrespectful. Listen in as Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School, shares her story of implementing Conscious Discipline in middle school resulting in decreased referrals, increased academic scores and a shift in the school culture. Learn steps for getting started, overcoming teacher resistance and how to build relationships with students who change classes and have many teachers throughout the day. Essential Takeaways Relationships are the key to helping teachers, students, and families transform their skill set and willingness to learn new ways of solving problems. Noticing both staff and students and what they bring in each day with them enables the administrator to create an inclusive school family for all. Steps for Tomorrow • Greet every child at the door every day making a conscious effort to notice what the child is bringing into class each day • Build connections with students each day • Take the time to teach the students about the brain and breathing strategies for calming Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Keller Middle School: http://keller.pasadenaisd.org • Unconscious Discipline worked fine for me: a middle school teacher’s transformation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScroRtwcd78 Products Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline 1:49 Conscious Discipline in middle school and introduction of guest Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School 3:30 Bringing Conscious Discipline to middle school 6:28 Resistance to Conscious Discipline from teachers of older students 7:55 Begin with the staff, rolling out CD in middle school 10:28 Teacher life transformation story who was repeatedly cut from other schools 12:58 Story of “tough girls” group transformation 16:22 Comparison of discipline referrals before and after Conscious Discipline 18:00 Academic results of implementing Conscious Discipline 19:10 How is the school culture now that Conscious Discipline has been implemented 20:49 Exposing parents and families to Conscious Discipline 23:07 Building student/teacher relationships when students change classrooms all day 27:17 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com