Java with Juli

Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But last year we heard him say something new: Me too. As a pastor and survivor of sexual abuse, Max has a unique perspective and a compassionate response to the #MeToo and #ChurchToo movements. Grab your latte and join us. Guest: Max Lucado Give the Gift of Membership! Unshakeable Hope; Building our Lives on the Promises of God (book) Healing After #MeToo (blog) #264: You (Too) Can Help #MeToo

How do I convince myself and everyone else that I’m worthy of being loved? That may not be what the question sounds like in our minds, but when we measure our worth based on things like accomplishments, appearance, intelligence, education ―even our  work in the church—we are going to come up empty. Join us for a conversation about how we can truly come to understand that there is something more profound than what other people think about us. Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher Mentioned: Give the Gift of Membership! Satisfy My Thirsty Soul by Linda Dillow Beyond the Masquerade by Juli Slattery My Hair and God's Mercies... New Every Morning by Yvette Maher

Making time to make love is always going to take effort. There will always be an excuse to put it off for another season. Grab your latte and join us at the coffee shop for laughter, encouragement and practical things you can do to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher Mentioned: Give the Gift of Membership! Passion Pursuit Bible Study    

Yes, you can love a gay or lesbian friend without trying to change them. Sadly, many in the LGBT+ community feel shamed by Christians simply for wrestling with their sexuality.  Join Juli and Dr. Preston Sprinkle for a conversation that will take you one step closer to seeing (and loving) your same-sex attracted friend or transgender neighbor as Christ does. Guest: Dr. Preston Sprinkle Mentioned: Theology in the Raw (Preston’s podcast) Guiding Families of LGBT+ Loved Ones (Book) People to Be Loved (Preston’s book)

What do you do when your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, but your spouse won't work on it, no matter how many times you ask, beg or plead? Join Juli and her guests as they talk about how you can live joyously and free from shame even when your marriage is not “successful” according to our traditional Christian ideas. Guests: Dr. Chuck Misja & Dr. Michael Misja Mentioned: Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage Beyond a Happy Marriage (Juli's blog) Where Do You Run When Marriage Gets Lonely? (Juli's blog)

If you're tired of smiling on the outside while you are broken and battered on the inside, Ashley Abercrombie has a message for you -it's okay to tell the truth about yourself and what you've been through.  Join Juli as she talks with Ashley about why our stories are valuable and how they are one of the greatest gifts we have to give others. ​​ Guest: Ashley Abercrombie Mentioned: Rise of the Truth-Teller (book) Why Tho? (podcast) Why Your Story Matters (Juli's blog)    

Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender?  If so, this conversation is for you.  In this episode, Juli sits down with John Fort, who has spent over a decade studying sexual addiction and working with men in recovery. He's also a former addict and sex offender. Listen in to hear how deep and radical the love of Jesus is and be challenged to offer that same love to others. Guest: John Fort Mentioned: Be Broken Ministries Honest Talk Rethinking Sexuality

Shame is becoming popular… in a good way. More than ever, both Christian and secular voices are calling out the messages that tell us that we’re not enough.  In this episode, Juli and her guest talk about what shame is and how it impacts you and your relationships. Do you fight, flight or freeze when you feel shame? Do you know the key to diffusing shame in others? Plus, Dr. Debi Grebenik and Juli answer YOUR email questions. Join us for bold truth & rich conversation at the coffee shop! Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik Mentioned: Rethinking Sexuality (book)

There’s no such thing as instant intimacy. Love at first sight? Perhaps. But intimacy is something else entirely.  It takes years to fully know and accept the person you’re married to. In this episode, Juli and her guest dive into why healthy conflict is one of the best ways to build intimacy with your spouse.   Guest: Dr. Ron Welch Mentioned: Join us at Reclaim! 10 Choices Successful Couples Make (book)

Sarah got married believing that absolute submission to her husband would glorify God; making Him, her and her man happy. Only, she wasn't happy. Neither was her husband, really. In this episode, Juli and her guests talk about what can happen when we misunderstand what the Bible says about our roles as men and women in marriage. Guests: Sarah O'Connor & Dr. Ron Welch Mentioned: Join us at Reclaim! ep #48: My Controlling Spouse ep #163: Women & the Tough Bible Verses Finding the Hero in Your Husband

A betrayed spouse often feels as much (or more) shame as their partner. In this episode Juli welcomes Dr. Sheri Keffer, therapist and co-host of New Life Live, to share her personal story about the impact of shame on our minds and bodies when we discover we've been betrayed by the person who is supposed to love us most. Join us to hear where to find help, what healthy boundaries look like, and how to begin to rebuild trust and intimacy in your marriage. Guest: Dr. Sheri Keffer Mentioned: Sheri's book, Intimate Deception Learn more about Sheri's workshops Find a Specialist Near You Surprised by the Healer  

Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. How can we be grateful, joyful, and love others well whatever season we're in? Today Juli & friends talk about how our perspectives change with age, the benefits of being "the older woman" and how to grieve the losses that come with aging. There's lots of laughter at the coffee shop today as Juli turns 50! Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher Mentioned: Donate to Authentic Intimacy today! Become an AI Member  

Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere and predators are typically someone a child already trusts. If your child is abused, what is the first thing you should do? What constitutes abuse? When do you report it? Juli and her guest tackle these tough questions and more in this Java with Juli. Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik Mentioned: National Children's Advocacy Center God's Healing Stinks (blog) Java with Juli #273: Tell Someone You're Broken Java with Juli #273: Bravery Means Being the Real You Java with Juli #257: How Trauma Affects our Bodies & Souls Java with Juli #63: Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse

She's a busy and tired mama. He's stressed to the max with work and family. Can't they just put sex and romance on hold for a few years?  In this episode, Juli and her guest discuss how to hold on to intimacy when parenting is exhausting, how to bring God into the conversation about when and if to have more kiddos, and what to do when you and your spouse disagree on what the size of your family should be.  Grab your java and join us! Guest: Julie Lyles Carr Mentioned: The Modern Motherhood Podcast Blog, Making Time for Making Love Blog, Your Husband Needs You Too Related: #240: Birth Control & Family Planning #215: Miscarriage & Infertility

From "All he thinks about is sex!" to "Why doesn't he ever initiate?" this Java with Juli episode has got you covered.  Juli sits down with our friend Jonathan Daugherty to help you better understand your man, his design and his sexuality.  Guest: Jonathan Daughtery, Be Broken Ministries Mentioned in this episode: Join us at our Reclaim Conference! Learn more about Passion Pursuit