Better Than Happy

Confidence requires ongoing work. It’s not a checkbox that we’re done with. Today I’m coaching a member from the Be Bold Community on how to quiet the voice in her head that tells her she’s not enough and decide for herself exactly what enough means. Check out this live coaching call and see how the tools I teach are applied in a real life scenario. And a special thanks to Amanda for allowing us to learn from her.

All of us have moments when we feel like a victim. A part of us finds some relief or validation in identifying this way. But for some people, victim mentality becomes a dominant personality trait leaving them constantly delegating responsibility for their emotional lives to people and things outside of them. Today I’m sharing with you a little more info about victim mentality so that you can take a look at yourself and see if you live in this neighborhood at times, or better understand the person in your life who feels this way. Of course I’ll be giving you suggestions about what to do in either case as well. CLICK HERE to join the Be Bold Membership CLICK HERE to access Paula Durlofsky’s article on Victim Mentality

If you describe yourself as someone who avoids conflict and is uncomfortable having a difficult conversation then I have good news for you. You just haven’t been taught the skill of having difficult conversations and I’m going to teach it to you on today’s episode. If you prepare yourself properly and utilize the tips I’m providing you today, then no matter what the outcome of the conversation you will feel good and you will take yourself and your relationships to the next level by getting good at this skill. CLICK HERE to join the Be Bold Membership Community today.

To be vulnerable means to expose your weaknesses in such a way that you risk being harmed. No wonder we don’t like it. We didn’t get this far as a species by being vulnerable. But the truth is allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is how we truly connect with one another and as Brene Brown teaches, connection is what we are here for. Today I’m teaching you more about vulnerability and how to get more comfortable letting your representative take a back seat when it’s appropriate. CLICK HERE to check out the Be Bold Membership Program

I’m so excited about this episode. I have some great content for you dealing with why it’s so difficult to change the results in our lives. If you find that you sometimes do better at your health goals or financial goals or being patient with your kids… but then you revert back to your old ways… there is a reason and there is a way to break the cycle. Today I’m teaching you the why and introducing a brand new program for 2017 where we will do the work together to help you conquer yourself and live your fullest life. Enough talk. Let’s get to work. CLICK HERE to sign up for your Be Bold Membership at the low introductory rate CLICK HERE to learn more about online course offerings from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Ever feel like there isn’t enough time? Like you’re too busy? Like you missed a deadline? Time is like money in that it’s easy to develop a scarcity mindset around. But being in a rush and worrying about what comes next robs us of enjoying the present moment and living our fullest lives. Listen up for some different ways to think about time today.

Do you have that voice in your head that is cares about what other people think? Ever wish you didn’t? Well, the truth is it’s human nature and not caring at all isn’t actually healthy. It’s the part of you that makes you compassionate, empathetic and kind. When it is overacting that’s when it holds us back and prevents us from showing up authentically. Today I’m giving you some scenarios to consider and teaching you how to quiet that voice and feel more confident. Even when other people don’t approve of you. Check it.

You guys. Are you ready for this? Today I’m coaching a real live client. A fantastic, amazing woman who wants to find herself. She struggles with feeling like her husband has expectations of her and we do some great work here helping her see that what she believes is the problem is of course not the problem at all. Check this out and see if you can relate to any of what this woman is going through.

This is the final episode in the clean parenting series and it’s packed with goodness. As a parent, you are a leader and good leadership skills can help create the results you want in your home and your family. Utilizing these tools contributes to the type of home and family life you desire. On this episode I’m first going to each you about servant leadership. Then I’m going to give you a suggestion you can use in Family Home Evening or Family Council around defining values. Leading with values and emulating values is a huge differentiator. Then I’m going to each you how to delegate and develop meeting your child where they’re at which is the best way to foster inspiration and motivation. Finally we’ll talk about accountability and discipline. When done correctly this part of your job doesn’t have to be painful, frustrating or negative. I can’t wait for you to try some of this out and don’t forget to check out the free resources in the Clean Parenting Toolkit.

Today I’m taking a break from the Clean Parenting Series (which will be back next week) in order to talk about the 2016 Presidential Election results. More specifically, I want to talk about what you’re feeling and how to manage your emotions through this process. Then I have some questions sent in by listeners that I want to answer today. If you have a question you’d like to see answered in a future podcast, leave it in the comments and I’ll cover it on the next Q/A.

Our children are here on earth to experience an entire range of emotions and as parents it can be heartbreaking to watch. But for your child (and for yourself) resisting emotion actually feels much worse than just allowing and processing it. Most of us were taught to resist it as children and when we try to talk our kids out of feeling bad we’re passing on that same harmful message. Today I’m teaching you how to help them process it at any age in the hopes you will give your children this gift. Don’t forget to download the cheat sheet that goes with it for when this situation faces you next. CLICK HERE to register for the FREE virtual entrepreneurial conference

You’ve heard of clean eating and how good it is for your body. Getting rid of toxins and chemicals and all the things that are not natural or good for us in the end? Clean parenting is how you get rid of the dirty pain that is keeping you from showing up how you really want to for your family. It’s a process of first coaching yourself (which you’ll get in detail on today’s episode) and then using some powerful life tools to help and/or discipline your child when necessary. I’m so excited to share this first episode in what will be a series. CLICK HERE to register for the Badass Moms Virtual Conference

Gretchen Rubin says “outer order contributes to inner calm,” and if you find that keeping your house clean and orderly is a challenge, today’s episode is for you. Jessica Bennett is the founder and co-owner (along with her husband) of Alice Lane Home. Today she talks to us about how to create a space that we love and that loves us back. Creating an interior space that contributes to your lifestyle and is elegant to you, sends a message to yourself about your value. I’m so excited to share Jessica’s tips with you on today’s episode. CLICK HERE to check out Alice Lane Home

Our energy is like time or money in that it is in limited supply at any given time and it’s something I want you to consider using wisely and investing to get a return on when you can. Many of us don’t pay attention to where we are putting our energy and this lack of intention will not always create the life and feelings you want to have. Today I’m giving you some examples of how to think about where you’re spending your energy and where you can invest it to get a return. Then I’m talking to you about politics which by definition is our shared common experience. That’s important and sacred and amazing and I want to offer to you that you can view it that way and help contribute effectively to it if you use your energy the right way. CLICK HERE to join the interest list for the Live 2-day Intensive this February.

We all have interactions and events in our lives that help mold and shape us in profound ways. Sometimes they affect us in positive, empowering ways and sometimes they impact us negatively and keep us from progressing and feeling confident about ourselves and our world. I call these turning points. Turning points usually have a significant amount of emotion attached and cause us to realize that something we thought was true isn’t or to consider something we never had before. They are powerful and happen to all of us. Today I want you to reflect on some of them to better understand yourself and also to consider your role in other people’s lives. As adults we create turning points for our children, people we lead at church or at work and other people in our daily interactions. Be thoughtful about how you handle challenges and what you say to others and you can create a lot of positive turning points for others. CLICK HERE to register for Up Level Your Marriage CLICK HERE to get updates about the LIVE RETREAT coming this winter