Marriage Helper Live

On this episode of Marriage Helper live, you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam and live callers speak about:The difference between reconciliation & forgivenessWhat it means when a spouse says, "I'm done."How to (patiently) implement S.M.A.R.T. ContactMental disorders & how they affect reconciliation/repairing a marriageYou'll also learn how to build trust over time with consistency in your actions (not perfection) and how to understand your spouse's emotions. Dr. Joe Beam explains "logic cannot overpower emtions...but you can overcome emotions with time and consistency in your actions."

On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to:"My wife reacted negatively to this one situation where I did something that appeared controlling. How do I proceed? We've been separated 5 months, and this just happened one week ago." "My husband is hesitant to return home because he doesn't want things to go back to how they were. How can I work on this issue? We've both had affairs." "Is my wife experiencing cognitive dissonance while she's in her affair? She has become mean toward me, and removed herself from our grown children." "My husband seemed to have positive interactions with me, and now all of the sudden, he still wants to go through with mediation- what do I do?" And MORE! You'll also hear about:How to renew your focus, especially with SMART ContactWhat "Vengeance Affairs" areCompartmentalized thinking within Cognitive Dissonance (and the 2 potential paths/outcomes)How to think and what to think when it seems like your marriage is about to end

Today's show focuses on your marriage questions! Call in and ask Dr. Joe Beam a question about your marriage!

In this episode you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam respond to live callers from our Marriage Helper Live Broadcast.Featured on this episode:"My wife is in a limerent affair. She's getting the best of both worlds by seeing her partner and then seeing me at home. Will she continue this affair if she doesn't know what consequences may happen? Should I tell her what the consequences are?" "My husband has been in a 6 year affair. He's never filed for divorce. What is making the affair last so long? Are the PIES helping/hurting?" "My husband and I are starting the reconciliation process. What does it look like? He keeps pushing back and isn't engaged." "My husband moved back without any accountability in place (he had an affair before) was this the right thing to do?" "My wife loves, but isn't in love with me. I'm getting accused of trying to force a relationship, but she's sending mixed signals. Can you give me direction on what to do?" You'll also hear:How to manage the expectations you have for your spouseThe purpose of using the PIES

Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam. Call in and ask a question about your marriage!

This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following:"Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong."You'll also learn... How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction

This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following:"Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong."You'll also learn... How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction

Thanks for joining the show! We hope we are able to help you in your situation.

Live Caller Q&A With Jim Pourteau. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!In this Episode, Jim Pourteau speaks about how to build positive emotions and have positive communication with your spouse. He also explains how to approach SMART contact and being a "Safe Place" correctly. Throughout this episode, Jim speaks with spouses who are "standing" for their marriages and gives helpful insight for their specific situations- which can help you too!How to go about SMART contact"How do I interact with my husband who is in limerence?"" I feel "stuck" in where my marriage is at with my husband. How do we move forward?""How can I be a "safe place" without endorsing my wife's behavior?""I learned I'm controlling. I've changed and want to save my marriage...but my husband doesn't want much to do with me. What do I do?"

Live Caller Q&A With Jim Pourteau. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!

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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!

On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes respond to calls from Canada & New Zealand & MORE!"We're divorced, but still best friends. At what length of time do you give up?""I just learned that my wife spent the weekend with my friend, and my son was there. How do I tell my wife that it isn't acceptable for her to do this with my son? She doesn't know that I know...""If you suspect your spouse is having an affair, at what point do you approach them about it?"It’s important to know whether your spouse is having an affair versus other problematic behaviors. i.e.: Thinking it's an affair, when it's actually a ography addiction."My husband is in an affair with an old high school girlfriend. When he's drunk, he exposes the issues with his affair partner, and gets mad at her. Should I attempt this intervention? Or should I put up with his drinking."Drinking is a dangerous habit. We do not advise that she lets it continue. “My wife denies her emotional affair. How can I get her to confess it?”“Why does my husband reach out to me and then back off?”On this episode, you'll also hear:If your spouse is in a limerent/emotional affair, logic is the last thing that will work. Every time you try to combat emotion w/logic, logic will win every time.If you made a decision you regret- know that what you did is what you did. Looking back at "should haves" doesn't benefit you in any way.And, what if you're divorced? Don't let your status define what you believe in/what your hope is.