Something You Should Know

If you want someone to do something for you, it is all about how you phrase it. This episode begins with a discussion on the psychology of requests and how to say it so people will respond the way you want them to. http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/09/persuasive-techniques-that-actually-work.html When life dishes out problems you have to solve them. And according to my guest, the good news is that all those problems can be solved. Marie Forleo is a wildly popular entrepreneur, writer, philanthropist, optimist and author of the book, Everything is Figureoutable (https://amzn.to/32NIeVw). Listen as she offers a fresh way to look at and solve the problems of life. Marie’s website is www.MarieForleo.com  So it’s not polite to stare but if you are going to stare, how long before you really creep people out? I’ll reveal the exact number of seconds – down to a tenth of a second so you will now know proper staring etiquette. http://rsos.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/3/7/160086 Statistics are a funny thing. It seems you can make them say whatever you want – in fact you can just make them up out of thin air and likely never get caught. Unless of course you are talking with my guest, David Spiegelhalter. He is a British statistician and Winton Professor of the Public Understanding of Risk in the Statistical Laboratory at the University of Cambridge. He is also author of the book The Art of Statistics (https://amzn.to/30amC8T). He joins me to reveal how best to use statistics to bolster your own argument and how to question them when other people use statistics to make sure they are real and relevant.  This Week’s Sponsors  -Zapier. Try Zapier for free for 14 days. Go to www.Zapier.com/SYSK -Native. For 20% off your first purchase of Native deodorant go to www.nativedeodorant.com and use promo code: SYSK  -Daily Harvest. For $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and use promo code: something -Babbel. To learn a language go to www.Babbel.com and get a whole year of access to Babbel for as low as $3.50 a month! -SimpliSafe. Get free shipping and a money back guarantee go to www.SimpliSafe.com/something -LinkedIn. For $50 off you first job post, go to www.LinkedIn.com/podcast

A lot of people claim to be allergic to penicillin. In fact 1 out of 10 do. Most of those people are wrong and this episode begins with the explanation why. https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/do-you-really-have-a-penicillin-allergy-2019022616017 More than ever, it is so easy to be tempted by distractions. So how do you stay focused and on task when temptations abound? With some really good suggestions is Nir Eyal. He is a writer and investor who has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and his is author of the book Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life (https://amzn.to/2O5mEaT). Nir joins me with some very practical advice that will help keep distractions away. When thin families sit down and eat together, they do it a little differently than everyone else. Listen to discover how their eating habits help them stay thin as a family. http://www.eatthis.com/meal-habits-of-thin-families Do you know about positive psychology? It’s the idea of – rather than focus on what’s wrong and try to fix it, it is best to start by identifying what’s right and build on that. Tal Ben Shahar is one of the leading proponents of positive psychology. He is a writer and lecturer and author of the book Choose the Life You Want (https://amzn.to/34KXuUX). He also offers a course to become a certified happiness trainer. You can learn more here: https://www.happinessstudies.academy/ This Week's Sponsors -Native. For 20% off your first purchase of Native deodorant go to www.nativedeodorant.com and use promo code: SYSK  -Daily Harvest. For $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and use promo code: something -Babbel. To learn a language go to www.Babbel.com and get a whole year of access to Babbel for as low as $3.50 a month! -SimpliSafe. Get free shipping and a money back guarantee go to www.SimpliSafe.com/something -LinkedIn. For $50 off you first job post, go to www.LinkedIn.com/podcast

Here’s something interesting – as sunscreen use has increased over the last several years, so has the rate of skin cancer. So what is going on? I’ll discuss that and what we know DOES work to help prevent skin cancer. https://www.cancernetwork.com/skin-cancer-nonmelanoma/dietary-changes-may-help-prevent-skin-cancer-expert-says Who couldn’t use some great life hacks? I love them! And no one is better at finding them than David Pogue author of Pogue’s Basics: Life (https://amzn.to/2LvzFZu). This is a fun and informative conversation worth listening to that will leave you with great hacks to improve your life. David is the founder of Yahoo Tech, was the personal-technology columnist for the New York Times. He’s also a monthly columnist for Scientific American and host of science shows on PBS’s “NOVA.” He’s been a correspondent for “CBS Sunday Morning” since 2002. Also, what has happened to make political and other controversial discussions so nasty? James Hoggan author of I’m Right & You’re an Idiot (https://amzn.to/2ZYwDWE) explores what’s going on and how to fix it so we can agree to disagree without demonizing each other. You know the wasabi you get with your sushi? Chances are it isn’t real wasabi. What is it? And what is real wasabi anyway? Listen and find out. https://www.businessinsider.com/most-wasabi-served-in-the-us-is-fake-2017-1

Do you ever eavesdrop? Be honest now. The fact is we almost all do – it is human nature and once served an important purpose. This episode begins with a discussion on eavesdropping and snooping and why we mostly all do it. (John L. Locke author of Eavesdropping (https://amzn.to/2O7an63)  When you hear the typical advice on managing your money it is to stopping spending – cut back – no more lattes. Well my first guest today has radically different advice on managing your money that will not only allow you to live a life you enjoy but can actually make you rich – and still allow you to have your morning coffee without guilt. Listen as I speak with Ramit Sethi, author of the wildly popular book I Will Teach You To Be Rich (https://amzn.to/2A7GqKG) which recently came out in a new revised, second edition. You may not give a lot of thought to your email subject lines – but they have an enormous impact on whether people read and/or respond to the email. I’ll tell you which common subject lines are golden and which ones are deadly. https://www.yesware.com/blog/best-email-subject-lines/ You probably don’t give a lot of thought to your clothes – you just wear them. However, there are some real concerns and problems in the clothing industry according Dana Thomas. For example, millions of garments are thrown away having never been worn by anyone. And wait until you hear about polyester! Dana is a writer who has served as cultural and fashion correspondent for Newsweek, contributor to the New York Times Style section and she is the author of a book called Fashionopolis: The Price of Fast Fashion and the Future of Clothes (https://amzn.to/2PXFgMr). This Week’s Sponsors -Simplisafe. For free shipping and a money-back guarantee, go to www.Simplisafe.com/something -Capterra. To find the best software for your business for free go to www.Capterra.com/something -Proactiv. Go to www.Proactiv.com/SOMETHING and with your order, you’lll also receive Proactiv’s “On the Go Bag” (close to a $100 value!) PLUS FREE SHIPPING & a 60 Day Money Back Guarantee!

If you want to be more successful and make more money there is one very simple and seemingly unrelated thing you can do that has been proven by looking at the habits of over 30,000 families. This episode begins by revealing what this seemingly magical, money-making act is. https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/arthur-c-brooks_giving-matters-2/ When it comes to good health – medical care is important. However, the kind of person you are and how you treat others is even more important – by a lot! That’s according to Kelli Harding, M.D. and assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University Irving Medical Center. She is also author of the book The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer Happier and Healthier with the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness (https://amzn.to/2ZLksf1) and she joins me to discuss how social interaction and how kind you are impact how healthy you will be and how long you will live.  When you walk you swing your arms. You don’t have to – but you do. Why? Listen to hear the explanation and discover what burns more calories – swinging your arms when you walk – or not? http://mentalfloss.com/article/63362/why-do-we-swing-our-arms-when-we-walk Is it okay to be selfish in a relationship? How do you balance your needs with the needs of your partner? Listen to Dr. Jane Greer, a marriage and family therapist and author of the book What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining your Relationship (https://amzn.to/2UKSlI2). She joins me to explain how to deal with the inevitable problem of getting both of your needs met and still be happy. This Week’s Sponsors -Simplisafe. For free shipping and a money-back guarantee, go to www.Simplisafe.com/something -Capterra. To find the best software for your business for free go to www.Capterra.com/something

Why do dogs do what they do? They seem obsessed with smelling everything and everybody and they universally love the snow. Why? This classic episode begins with an explanation of some common and often baffling doggy behavior. http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-know-your-dog-is-smart/#3-why-dodogs-turn-away-from-us-when-we-try-to-hug-them-3 Stress is mostly about your distorted perception. That’s the messages from clinical psychologist Dr. Arthur Ciaramicoli, author of The Stress Solution (http://amzn.to/2cmIItY). So the good news, you can correct that distortion and lower your stress levels. When you look back you find that so much of what we worry and stress about never actually happens. It’s our inability to see the truth and our inability to predict the future that is causing all the trouble. Listen to Dr. Ciaramicoli’s discussion – and you will instantly be less stressed and you’ll have new ways to handle stress in the future when it pops up. Have you ever wished you had more photographs of loved ones who are no longer in your life? It’s a pretty universal lament. So why is that? Once you hear this, you will make sure you have the photos from this day forward. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/thinking-about-kids/201606/take-pictures-people-not-things

Ever have someone offer to help you and you say – “No, I got it.”? Why? Why we are so reluctant to ask other people for help when we really could use it? This episode begins with a discussion on why asking for help is hard and yet it is one of the smartest things you will ever do. http://rd.com/advice/relationships/phrases-make-people-trust/ Chance and probability rule your life. Yet how much do you understand about them? Ian Stewart knows about them better than most people. Ian a Professor Emeritus of math at the University of Warwick in England and author of the book Do Dice Play God: The Mathematics of Uncertainty (https://amzn.to/2MWjer8). Listen as he explains how, for example, a slot machine appears to be “hot” one day but not another. Or, what really determines whether a coin flip will end in heads or tails. And most importantly, how this all applies to your life.   Where do women typically put their purse when going to a restaurant? They sling it over the back of the chair or put it on the floor. Listen as I explain why both of those options are such bad ideas that can easily get your identity stolen – and a simple way every woman can secure her purse and never worry again. http://rd.com/advice/travel/purse-theft-safe/ Motivational speakers can be very inspiring – but motivation for you can’t really come from someone else’s story. Susan Fowler, author of the book Master Your Motivation: Three Scientific Truths for Achieving Your Goals (https://amzn.to/2HJneXV) joins me to explain the real science of motivation – and how it works. Listen and discover how to find your motivation that will sustain you to achieve even when times are tough.  This Week’s Sponsors -Babbel. To learn a language go to www.Babbel.com and get a whole year of access to Babbel for as low as $3.50 a month!  -Proactiv. Go to www.Proactiv.com/SOMETHING and with your order, you’ll also receive Proactiv’s “On the Go Bag” (close to a $100 value!) PLUS FREE SHIPPING & a 60 Day Money Back Guarantee! -Embark Dog DNA Kit. Go to www.EmbarkVet.com and use Promo code SOMETHING to save 15% off your Dog DNA Test Kit -Upstart. Find out how low your interest rate is by going to www.Upstart.com/something

It’s quite common and convenient to take medication or vitamin pills with a gulp of coffee or juice in the morning. But should you? The episode begins with a discussion on how important it is to use the right beverage to help you swallow those pills. https://www.thehealthsite.com/diseases-conditions/is-it-ok-to-take-medicines-with-soft-drinks-coffee-milk-or-juices-bs1017-527100/ Are there subjects or activities you are good at learning? Do you believe you have a certain aptitude for some things more than others? Maybe – but maybe it has more to do with what you believe than it has to do with your actual aptitude or ability. That’s according to Jo Boaler, a professor of education at Stanford University and author of the book Limitless Mind: Learn, Lead, and Live Without Barriers (https://amzn.to/2ZMdAtW). Listen to hear her explain how your beliefs about learning as well as how you are taught have a big impact on how well you learn. And she believes you can learn anything – with the right belief. We humans attach ourselves to other people. That’s what we do. So what does it mean to be “attached?” It turns out there is a lot more to it than you might think. Joining me is Dr. Amir Levine who is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist and author of the book, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep – Love (https://amzn.to/2MNR1D8). He describes the science of attachment and how there are three style of attachment. Which one are you? Listen to find out. Amir's website to take the quiz is www.Attachedthebook.com If you tend to overspend, you may want to change your footwear. Listen as I explain how wearing the right shoes can help curb your spending. http://www.business-standard.com/article/news-ians/shop-in-high-heels-to-controloverspending-113082700521_1.html This Week's Sponsors -Babbel. To learn a language go to www.Babbel.com and get a whole year of access to Babbel for as low as $3.50 a month!  -Proactiv. Go to www.Proactiv.com/SOMETHING and with your order, you’lll also receive Proactiv’s “On the Go Bag” (close to a $100 value!) PLUS FREE SHIPPING & a 60 Day Money Back Guarantee! -Embark Dog DNA Kit. Go to www.EmbarkVet.com and use Promo code SOMETHING to save 15% off your Dog DNA Test Kit -Upstart. Find out how low your interest rate is by going to www.Upstart.com/something

Men and women approach online dating very differently and consequently get different results. This classic episode begins with a discussion on who does a better job using online dating – and why. https://beta.washingtonpost.com/news/speaking-of-science/wp/2018/08/08/online-dating-study-quantifies-whats-out-of-your-league/?noredirect=on A surprising amount of food sold in stores and restaurants is not what you think it is. Journalist Larry Olmsted author of the book Real Food, Fake Food (https://amzn.to/2ZB8Wif) is here to reveal how and why so much food is not what it pretends to be and how you can protect yourself from being a victim of food fraud. While it is hard to find anything wrong with reading – there is one caution for people who read in bed. Listen to discover how reading can sometimes disrupt your sleep if you are not careful. https://time.com/3642620/why-you-shouldnt-read-a-tablet-before-bed/ Could it be true that vertical stripes don’t make you look slimmer? Did you know that horseshoe crabs save lives? Or that Napoleon was really short at all? These are just a few of the facts discussed with John Lloyd author of the books The Book of General Ignorance (http://amzn.to/2cOd1aL) and The Second book of General Ignorance http://amzn.to/2cyNzq3. 

You know what customer service people really like? They like when you are nice to them. This episode begins with a magical phrase the next time you need a customer service person to go the extra mile for you. (Lori Jo Vest, author of Who’s Your Gladys?) Your body needs to rest. Not just sleep - rest. And rest isn’t necessarily sitting on the couch watching television. There are different kinds of rest all of which are vital to your function and performance as a human being. Physician Dr. Matthew Edlund, author of the book The Power of Rest: Why Sleep Alone Is Not Enough (https://amzn.to/2MJ6S5M) joins me to talk about the importance of rest and how to do it for maximum effect. Dr. Edlund’s website is http://regenerationhealthnews.com/ Ever notice that you never quite look right in a selfie? Your face can sometimes look weird and distorted. That has to do with the camera lens in the phone and when you understand how that works, you can adjust how and where you are in the picture so you look like you actually look. http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-look-good-in-phone-photos-selfies-2016-8 There are so many strange and fascinating stories you probably never heard like: the time the Soviets invaded Wisconsin or why the scoring system is tennis is so strange or the story of the guy who bought Green Bay Packer tickets by donating blood and it saved his life. Dan Lewis has been collection these stories for his book series Now I Know . His latest book is called Now I Know: The Soviets Invaded Wisconsin: And 99 More Interesting Facts, Plus the Amazing Stories Behind (https://amzn.to/2MJ55O9). Listen as Dan shares some of his best stories. And to subscribe to his newsletter visit: http://nowiknow.com/ This Week's Sponsors -Omax Health Sleep & Stress Remedy. For 50% off your first box and free shipping go to www.OmaxHealth.com and use promo code SYSK. -Daily Harvest. Go to www.DAILY HARVEST.com and enter promo code SOMETHING to get $25 off your first box -Upstart. Find out how low your interest rate is by going to www.Upstart.com/something -Dashlane. For a 30 day free trial plus 10% off Dashlane Premium go to www.Dashlane.com/SYSK

People who have high credit scores are often quite proud of them. And there is no doubt that a high credit score is better than a low credit score. But is a high credit score better than an average one? This episode begins with some interesting insight into how credit scores really work. https://twocents.lifehacker.com/your-credit-score-doesn-t-matter-unless-it-s-bad-1785050429 Who doesn’t love those great stories of new inventions and other creative breakthroughs? But often there is a lot more to the story than the big breakthrough. Creativity is a process and joining me to discuss how to process works best is Michael Roberto, Trustee Professor of Management at Bryant University in Rhode Island and author of the book, Unlocking Creativity: How to Solve Any Problem and Make the Best Decisions by Shifting Creative Mindsets (https://amzn.to/2ZrqYDk). Having a lot of debt is bad for your financial health – and it appears to take a toll on your physical and mental health as we. Listen as I discuss the health benefits of paying off debt. https://news.northwestern.edu/stories/2013/08/high-debt-could-be-hazardous-to-your-health/ When you stop and analyze it, a lot of your behavior is habitual. And as everyone knows, changing a habit can be hard. But not always. A lot of it has to do with how you approach it according to Alexander Heyne. He is the author of several books including The Lazy Guide to habit Change (https://amzn.to/2ZkMutn) Alexander joins me to explain how to change any habit or behavior by taking the path of least resistance. This Week's Sponsors -Daily Harvest. Go to www.DAILY HARVEST.com and enter promo code SOMETHING to get $25 off your first box -Upstart. Find out how low your interest rate is by going to www.Upstart.com/something -Dashlane. For a 30 day free trial plus 10% off Dashlane Premium go to www.Dashlane.com/SYSK

Your shoulders speak volumes. It turns out how you hold your shoulders telegraphs a message to the world as to what kind of person you are. This episode begins with a discussion about who your shoulders say you really are. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/spycatcher/201205/what-the-shoulders-say-about-us At some point you have probably listened to your intuition. It’s a gut feeling. You know you should or shouldn’t do something even though you don’t know why you know it. That’s what is called intuition. But is it a real thing? Can you trust it? Or is intuition just wishful thinking or merely a hunch? And if it is a real thing, how do we make better use of it? Joining me to discuss that is Rick Snyder, author of the book Decisive Intuition. (https://amzn.to/31STDCV)  If you have ever gone on a diet, you probably had the experience that – it didn’t work. However, there are some ways that, according to science, really do work to help take and keep body weight off. Listen as I discuss what those techniques are. https://health.usnews.com/wellness/articles/2016-07-08/the-7-simplest-easiest-ways-to-lose-more-weight-according-to-science You probably tend to think of the earth as a stage on which human history has unfolded. What is so interesting is that our planet is also a major player in human history. It has had profound impacts on everything in ways you likely never considered. Lewis Dartnell explores this in his book Origins: How Earth's History Shaped Human History (https://amzn.to/2KM8lG3) and he joins me for a fascinating discussion about what he discovered. This Week's Sponsors -Native Deodorant. For 20% off your first purchase go to www.nativedeodorant.com and use the promo code SYSK at checkout -Capterra. To find the best software for you business for free go to www.Capterra.com/something. -LinkedIn Jobs. For $50 off your first job post, go to www.Linkedin.com/podcast

How physically strong are you? Interestingly, men today are not as strong as they once were. I begin this episode with the explanation of why that is and the surprising health consequences of not having the physical strength of your ancestors. http://www.menshealth.com/fitness/grip-strength-weaker-today “Can I give you some constructive feedback?” Usually, that question is followed by some criticism you would probably rather not hear. The “annual performance review” is a good example of this. Yet feedback – when done correctly – can be very powerful and quite helpful according to Tamra Chandler, founder and CEO of PeopleFirm, LLC and author of the book Feedback (and Other Dirty Words) Why We Fear It, How to Fix It (https://amzn.to/2Z10SXB). Tamra joins me to explain how to better give and take feedback and why this is so important.   How important is it for children to have siblings? Is being an only child a handicap? That has been an assumption for a long time but lately it is being questioned. Listen as I explain what the research says about the pros and cons of being an only child. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/one-true-thing/201106/susan-newman-the-case-the-only-child The purpose of having a conversation is to communicate and share thoughts and ideas. However, a lot of conversations seem more about making a point or telling people why they are wrong and/or why you are right. Communications expert Andrew Blotky has worked in political communications at Facebook, The White House and Congress and he is author of a book called Honestly Speaking: How the Way We Communicate Transforms Leadership, Love and Life (https://amzn.to/2YL4W36). Andrew joins me to discuss a better way to approach important conversations so that everyone feels heard and ideas are actually shared. This Week's Sponsors -Capterra. To find the best software for you business for free go to www.Capterra.com/something. -LinkedIn Job. For $50 off your first job post, go to www.Linkedin.com/podcast

Have you ever noticed that when you are working on a problem or trying to come up with an idea there comes a point of diminishing returns? The harder you concentrate, the worse it gets. It’s true for everyone and there is a sweet spot after which your efforts suffer. This episode begins with a discussion on why this happens and when you should stop trying and go do something else. https://hbr.org/2014/07/get-your-brain-unstuck At times in your life there have been important moments that have helped to shape who you are. These are transformative moments. Perhaps someone said something to you that made you think differently about yourself or your abilities – good or bad. So what is it about these brief moments in life that make them so powerful they can change your course in life or even change what you think of yourself? Dr. Michael Roussel is an associate professor at southern Oregon University and has been studying transformative moments for over three decades. He joins me to reveal the surprising reason why these moments stick with us and how you can use these moments to your advantage. To see Michael’s TED talk on the subject, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5O6mFWpgZo&t=3s  How do you clean a dusty oil painting or rusty old gardening tools? Well, those are just a few of the dirty things you can clean with some handy items that are in your kitchen. Listen as I explain. https://www.realsimple.com/home-organizing/cleaning/more-surprising-natural-cleaners As many as half of all people in the U.S. consider themselves introverted. As you might imagine, those people often feel at a disadvantage particularly when it comes to getting ahead in the workplace. However, there are some advantages to being an introvert and ways to play to those strengths according to career coach Jane Finkle, author of the book The Introvert’s Complete Career Guide (https://amzn.to/2Z0YmRr). Listen as Nancy explains some great strategies for introverts to navigate through the world of work. This Week’s Sponsors -Proactiv. Go to www.Proactiv.com/SOMETHING and with your order, you’lll also receive Proactiv’s “On the Go Bag” (close to a $100 value!) PLUS FREE SHIPPING & a 60 Day Money Back Guarantee!

Can your boss spy on you? You bet! This episode explains just how far an employer can go to keep tables on you and what you are up to. http://workrights.us/ Do you have a lot of self-confidence? Could you use a little more? We probably all could and Lana Otoya author of The Mindset of Self Confidence: Why Self Confidence Has Nothing to Do with Speaking Up or Standing Straight (https://amzn.to/2yKXqWu) joins me to explain how self-confidence works, what it is and how to develop more of it.   Are you religious? If not, you might want to be? Listen as I discuss the amazing health benefits that happen when you believe in a religion. Duke Johnson, M.D. author of “Optimal Health” Intelligence is a funny thing. Sure, it’s good to be smart but there is also a down side. David Robson is a journalist for for the BBC, the Atlantic, and New Scientist and he is also author of the book The Intelligence Trap: The Intelligence Trap: Why Smart People Make Dumb Mistakes (https://amzn.to/2YRNYLz). He joins me to explain just what intelligence is and how (and when) being intelligent can be a bad thing. This Week’s Sponsors -Embark Dog DNA Test Kit. Go to www.Embarkvet.com and use Promo code SOMETHING to save 15%. -SimpliSafe. Go to www.SimpliSafe.com/SOMETHING to get free shipping and a money-back guarantee!