Thriving at Sixty and Beyond

LEADERSHIP TO ME POWERFUL LEADERS SHIP IS LIKE OBAMA, caring for others, kindness, empathy thinking of others first before yourself. Leaving people with dignity and grace. As well as getting the job done that is necessary. POWER Power is not using force . People resist force. People love to be around people that acknowledge their strengths. Who appreciate and are grateful and who are truly authentic. Not hiding and pretending to be perfect. Authenticity you get to see the good the bad and the ugly VULNERABILITY practice gratitude daily for everything, the good the bad the ugly. Be willing to learn the lesson. Be the first to forgive. Be the first to give love and joy with no guarantee for it to be returned back to you. EMOTIONS Stop trying to not feel the uncomfortable emotions. Stop numbing yourself with overspending, overeating, keeping busy, over medicating. If you do that you will numb out all emotions like feeling love, joy, fulfillment Try being authentically with the pain and the joy you will be a much better human being. You will experience joy, pain, laughter all of it and grow wiser for it.. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5. Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO either of my  My Facebook Pages Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B Face book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min strategy session.  During this session I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward .  Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session.. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK! Email me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com or Wendyb@gettingunstuck.net

Truth Before you Speak let your words pass through three gates Where are facts that are truthful that can back up what you say. Make sure its not a feeling our a view you have. Make sure its truth from truthful facts. Necessary Is it necessary to speak this truth. Really? What is the impact if it is not spoken? What is the impact if it is spoken? Make sure it is not coming from your opinion or your righteousness. Kind If its the truth and you can back it up with true facts. If it is necessary and not coming from your opinion or righteousness, then be kind and thoughtful to how you express what is truthful and necessary. Do it in the kindest way possible.. That way everyone is left with power. Power The meaning is that all that are involved are left with the ability to be effective and to be able to take actions to correct what necessary or celebrate . They are all left with power. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO either of my  My Facebook Pages Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B OR Face book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min strategy session.  During this session I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward .  Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session.. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK! Email me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com or Wendyb@gettingunstuck.net

Completion What if completion wasn’t always that you had to finish something to declare completion. What if completion gave you a space to just look at whats so. On the court examination so we can get clear whats so. What actually happened and What actually didn’t happen. What if out of doing that you can then explore what are the actions you need to take to get complete about any situation. Agreements What are the agreements? Who made the agreements? Who agreed to follow the agreements? Broken Agreements What Agreements got broken? Actions What actions do you see that you would need to take regarding the agreements? What are some actions you could take to move things forward? Example could be, be in communication with someone about the broken agreement, create new promises, put new structures in place. Just Look and see what actions would you need to take to get complete for you? Accomplishments Part of getting complete is looking at what did you accomplish and don’t minimize. Then speak those and acknowledge them. What are some areas you have had some movement? Who are you in the face of your circumstances? Celebrate if you can. Then declare completion and move on. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO either of my  My Facebook Pages Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B OR Face book page” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B,  like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complimentary package that includes a 30 min strategy session.  During this session I will discuss the 1 to 3 obstacles that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward .  Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts.  Total package Valued at $997.00 Complementary. Just private message and I will set up a time to book your strategy session.. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!

Powerfully You cannot powerfully move forward until you complete the past. So this podcast is about completing your goals for 2019 so that you can move forward with some freedom. What I mean by that is, look at what you said you were going to accomplish this year.. Say what you actually accomplished and say what you actually did not accomplish without judging it. Just say whats so. Then look and re-promise what you will do by a certain time. Declare what you are absolutely not going to accomplish. Either delegate it to someone, hire it out or out and out say it ain’t getting done. Now you can move forward. Goals So look and see did you write down some goals for 2019? If you did then start looking at the areas of your life and make lists of what you accomplished and what you didn’t accomplish.. Areas like finance, health and wellness, relationship goals with friends, family, co-workers, business goals, personal goals etc. getting the picture? DO NOT JUDGE, just state what was accomplished and what wasn’t accomplished. Free yourself up. You might really see you have accomplished way more then you realized. Accomplished When you look at all the areas you accomplished big and small celebrate.The areas where you did not accomplished what you said. Look without judging, are you committed to accomplishing the goals you said? Really look. What is holding you back? It may be you are not committed to that goal so be honest and say so. Saying whats so frees you up and allows others to take things on that you won’t do. Look and see what is holding you back? Ask yourself what habit change would aid me the most this year? Habits You won’t get to your goals and aspirations in the coming year if you don’t change anything. What is one habit that you could alter or replace that could have a significant impact on your results? Hopefully this question challenges you to think about what that might be. The answer could challenge you to implement the change starting today. Have a little fun with this. Focus In this upcoming year whats one word you could focus on? Take ten minutes put your timer on and make a list of all the words that would light you up. Have you in action? My word is prosperous. What are the actions I need to take that would cause myself to be prosperous in all areas of my life. I’ll share later how this is impacting me already. Have fun, Create your list, pick a word and start taking action now!. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus,

* What you think of me is none of my business. I cannot please everyone. I will spend more time with myself than anyone else in my life time. So to have a stress free holiday I need to respect my values.* Stay within your budget. If you have no extra money be creative. Make cards up and offer so many hrs of babysitting, Wash car, vacuum car, house clean so many hours. Be creative do not go into debt or spend money you can not afford.* Its only one day.For me Its a day to celebrate Christs birth. Its opportunity to be generous with what you do have and share. Help others who are less fortunate. * Remember have fun. Get the Christmas carols playing dance and play be silly, act like a happy kid.* Reduce the amount of sugar. Use healthy sugar replacements. We want the kids to have fun and behave then we ply them with too much sugar and they start acting out and being cranky. Even adults behavior can go off and they become cranky with too much sugar.* If you must give the kids sugar, give it to them early in the day so they can wind down and wear it off before bedtime.* When you have small children do you really have to take them all over the place Christmas eve and day? Why not after Christmas when the excitement has died down a bit then take them to visit relatives, boxing day etc. Have people visit you or share the kids on zoom or Skype with loved ones* . Lots of families are blended, compromise Whats best for the kids* Delegate, don’t do everything yourself. Let others contribute. Make requests have everyone help and ask for support.* Keep it simple over the holidays. Look for fun activities that are low costs or little costs to do. swimming, skating.. Community centers frequently have free ping pong, Play areas for kids. You can have pot luck suppers with games nights etc. Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B comment or share my page and you can get a complementary package that includes a 30 min “Get Unstuck Breakthrough” strategy session. During the session I will discuss the top 3 things that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward. Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts. Total Package VALUED at $997.00 COMPLIMENTARY. OR Go to my Face book page ” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B”, comment or share my posts or videos and you will be eligible for a THE SAME complimentary package that includes a 30 min “Get Unstuck Breakthrough” Strategy Session. During this session I will discuss the top 3 things that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward. Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts. Total Package VALUED at $997.00 COMPLIMENTARY. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

Apologizing 7 things you should never apologize for I listened to a u tube video Fearless Soul and they suggested we should never apologize for these 7 things. I did a version of why I believe we should never apologize for them. * being yourself (there is something amazing about an individual who is freely themselves.)* Following Your Dreams (settling is the most ultimate act of selfishness because you are sentencing everyone who is witnessing it to carry on that legacy.)* Taking Time for Yourself (You cannot give from an empty cup)* Ending Toxic Relationships (Set a example for others to flourish)* Living in Your Truth (Stand for things that may be uncomfortable but things you know are right)* Imperfections (Embrace them) that’s whats unique about you.* Saying NO when you need to.(Learning this will contribute to your ultimate happiness.) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) COMPLIMENTARY VALUED AT $997.00 I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B like, comment or share my page and you can get a complementary package that includes a 30 min “Get Unstuck Breakthrough” strategy session. During the session I will discuss the top 3 things that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward. Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts. Total Package VALUED at $997.00 COMPLIMENTARY. OR Go to my Face book page ” Getting Unstuck with Wendy B”, like comment or share my posts or videos and you will be eligible for a THE SAME complimentary package that includes a 30 min “Get Unstuck Breakthrough” Strategy Session. During this session I will discuss the top 3 things that are holding you back and provide steps that will guide and direct you to move forward. Also there is a possible opportunity to be interviewed on one of my podcasts. Total Package VALUED at $997.00 COMPLIMENTARY. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!

FUN I’m finding when I take time to have fun I have more energy to get the things done that need to get done. Chunking I find when I take smaller chunks of time to accomplish things I get more done as well. That really works for me. Especially when I have a lot of things to do. If I make a list, prioritize them then start scheduling chunks of time to do them in my day timer i seem to get more done.Try it and see if that gives you a breather. I’d love to hear from you what do you do to get more accomplished. Please write to us at Wbergen@thrivingatsixty.com Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B like comment or share my page and you can get a complementary 15 minute coaching session. OR Go to my Face book page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B, like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complementary 15 minute coaching session if you message me, text me or call me. Just hit the button on the Facebook page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B and my phone number will come up. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!

Control When you can’t control whats happening. Challenge yourself to control the way you respond to whats happening. That is where the power is.! Expectations Do you notice you have expectations of how your partner, your children, your siblings, etc are ? You getting the picture? When they don’t respond or act the way you think they should you get annoyed maybe downright Righteous. Righteousness When was the last time you were annoyed with someone, particularly someone you are close to? Were you annoyed because they didn’t act or say something the way you felt they should have? How is the going for you. Is your relationship fulfilling and full of joy? Or is it a bit tense sometimes? Are you becoming so righteously good you are no earthly good? Love Try responding with love rather than criticizing. Try being curious. What would make them behave that way towards you. Not like its okay for them to be disrespectful.. Most times you are the safest one they can vent on so you get their worst. Today my oldest daughter was biting. She had been really loving for six weeks than all of sudden she was controlling, biting and down right rude. I thought what has got her panties in a knot. Then I realized today one year ago her dad died. I let her know I loved her and if this behavior continued she should go to church on her own and I would go home and catch up on some work. She chose to go alone. Two things I did, One was love myself enough to not hang out with someone who was being disrespectful. Two, loved her regardless and did not get upset , I did not take it personal. I pray she had a good night and tomorrow I will send her a loving message. Try giving extra love when the people you love are not behaving loving. Get curious and try to walk in there shoes. Please don’t hear I condone bad behavior, I don’t. There is ways to deal with it loving without shaming or being righteous. Try and see if a little bit of self love, boundaries and not taking it personal and giving love back to them contributes to a more loving relationship. . WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B like comment or share my page and you can get a complementary 15 minute coaching session. OR Go to my Face book page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B, like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complementary ...

EFFECTIVE What do I mean effective self care. Its an inquiry, I’m after not necessary the answer but asking the question over and over again will give us some insights to what are the effective actions I need to do right now in this situation for me. Everybody deals with self care differently and there are some common questions for oneself to ask so you can grow and expand and take care of yourself and others. SELF CARE I Believe if we are to reliably look at self care we need to look at five areas Emotionally, Mentally, Physically,.Spiritually, Financially, EMOTIONALLY Am I well rested so I can have my emotions not be my emotions? Am I eating healthy foods so my sugar levels stay even and emotions don’t take over? Am I making requests of others to make my journey easier even if it is uncomfortable for me to ask for help? Am I able to delegate some task or ask others to delegate for me? MENTALLY Am I paying particular attention to what I am reading.watching, listening too? Am I paying attention to who or what I associate with? I want to fill my brain with powerful uplifting thoughts and actions? Words create our world our reality. Am I careful what I am putting into my brain? Do I allow others to contribute to me? How can I allow others to contribute to me? PHYSICALLY Am I taking care to exercise, even if all I can do is walk, stretch and not over exert myself? Am I grounding myself by getting out in mother nature daily? If I live with pain am I doing the things that will make me well even if it is painful or uncomfortable? SPIRITUALLY Am I meditating or reading spiritual books to guide and ground me. What structures do I have in place so that I experience my spirituality on a regular bases? Some examples are mediation, being in nature, following religious rituals, yoga. AA. Al-Anon, transformation courses.Music, Church. I know some great church goers that are so righteously good they are no earthly good, Only if you practice your spiritual distinctions can you be peaceful, no judging others! There is all kinds of ways to awaken spirituality, FINANCIALLY We must have our finances in order. Live within our means. That may look like we have to share with others and learn to get along. Get help to learn to budget and get out of debt. I am a firm believer in having an emergency fund to fall back on if you are sick or off of work. I don’t believe in using your charge card as an emergency fund. Pay bills on time. Do you have it set up if you are not well someone can help you pay bills until you are able to do so by yourself? Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.

SUCCESS There are many definitions for success.It useful for you to look at yours and see if yours are realistic or not. I notice that lots of times when I am not happy I am comparing myself to others to see if I am successful or not. Is my bank account as big as theirs?Do I own what they own?. Have I traveled as often as they have? Do I have as many social Media followers, Blah. Blah, Blah,? COMPARISON Whenever I compare myself to someone or something else I will always fall short. HAPPY Why not measure Success as the ability to have inner peace and mental control regardless of your circumstances. The ability to be peaceful and happy even if you don’t own alot of assets. I don’t think happiness is measured by how big our bank account is. If it is, that happiness is fleeting. Why not measure success on inner peace and happiness regardless of your circumstances. The ability to love and be loved and the loving friendships that you have.? The ability to make a difference for others. What are you doing in your life that helps others .Maybe Its better to give then receive. Give your love, give of your time, give of your wisdom. Just saying????? Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B like comment or share my page and you can get a complementary 15 minute coaching session. OR Go to my Face book page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B, like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complementary 15 minute coaching session if you message me, text me or call me. Just hit the button on the Facebook page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B and my phone number will come up. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!

POWER I assert that the more successful a person is the more requests they make . When we make requests for others to help us, it gives us more leverage to maneuver, We are not alone. We can create a team around us, who also can make requests as well.We might not know even what we need to ask for sometimes. With a team of knowledgeable people we can brainstorm and create miracles that might not have happened otherwise.. Ask some successful people you know if they make requests? How often do they make requests. Look at people like Head of Co operations, Sales Managers, Leaders, Heads of States, Prime Ministers etc. Do you think they would get far without making requests? Bold Requests The bolder the requests the better the chances of producing unique results. I’ll give you an example. I bought a house and the moving date was the date I had already scheduled doing a week long course in the states. There was no refunds. I could have stayed at home and lost my monies. Instead I made some bold requests of a group of people around me. I asked them to help me box all the stuff at the old house. I asked them to move me if I covered all the expenses.They accepted, then I asked if they would unpack for me as well.. They agreed. Then I enrolled some of the same people and other people I knew to do the repairs on the house that were needed while I was gone and paint as well. When I got home I had nothing to do but enjoy the fruits of their labor, My experience was that all people want to do is contribute and help. Now grant you people are busy and you will get some people not willing to help. If you keep asking and don’t let a NO stop you, you can create miracles like I did. It costs me the rental of the truck, paint and supplies the rest was from the goodness of their heats. It helped that two of the team were moving into the house and renting rooms from me..I also told them that the week I got home I would hold a party and would they all help me organize it so we could all have a great time. We all got to celebrate and have a wonderful time and they got acknowledged for the work that they had done for me. Effectiveness I assert that you need to master the power of requests. If will help you be more effective. Look into your own life. Where are you stopped because you have a thought or belief you can’t ask some one to do that for you?. Make a list of projects you want done. Start small and ask for help. Keep asking until you get a yes. The tricky part is that you have to promise not to make anybody wrong if they say no. Thank them and move on. They may not be able to help you now and they might be able to help you later. When you listen to this podcast I share a story where i needed to have five reliable people to support me in a court case. I had to call fifty people before I fulfilled my requirement.I did the calls in two nights. I just thanked people for considering it when they said they couldn’t and moved on. It took something but I did it. Now when I need help I just keep asking. My attitude is that people want to help, I just have to ask the right people. What do you think? Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to you...

Retraining Your Brain If you want to retrain your brain, one way is keeping a Gratitude Journal and practice daily Mindful Gratitude. I promise you will at least have 5 Benefits to practicing mindful gratitude daily. Start keeping a journal. Mindset By keeping a Gratitude Journal and putting at least 5 things you are grateful for daily you will alter your mindset. I used to never be grateful no matter what. I just took it for granted or was critical because it didn’t turn out exactly like I thought it should. I have been practicing Mindful Gratitude for 30 years and I promise no matter what I have to deal with, within a short time and usual immediately I see something to be grateful for. It wasn’t like that 40 years ago I promise. Mindful Practicing mindful gratitude helps you be more thoughtful and caring of others. When there is a breakdown you can resolve it through creating solutions. You can get down to facts and ways to resolve things rather than getting angry and blaming others. HAPPY & FULFILLED I notice that I am not depressed. I used to have a lot of sad days. I can’t remember the last time I was depressed. Even during difficult times I might have moments of sadness I certainly don’t have days of sadness, Practicing mindful gratitude daily helps me live a very fulfilling life. PRODUCTIVE I don’t focus on whats not working anymore. I call people who can support me in creating a solutions so that I can focus on whats important right now. I look at what am I committed to and then I just move forward. I am producing more results then ever. Whats happening is, when I produce more results there are bigger breakdowns and I get to live an interesting fulfilled purposeful life AUTHENTIC FRIENDSHIPS Before practicing mindful gratitude I was very critical of others. People did not enjoy having me around, They invited me out of obligation, duty. I didn’t even spend much time with family. Now a week doesn’t go by without one or two of my siblings calling and talking to me. Before it was like 3 to 4 times a year. I don;t have a car and friends gladly go out of their way to pick me up and take me with them to places and they gladly do that. People love my energy and love to hang with me. WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsix...

FAMILY When I say family, what I mean is anybody that you lived with whether they be biological, or foster parents. Family can shape whether you are resilient or not. When I look at all the different homes I lived in as a child. All the different people that raised me and the challenging circumstances I had to deal with, I had two choices. Become resilient and learn to live in the world that was challenging or. Give in and be a victim of all my circumstances and not grow. Fortunately I eventually learned to use all the challenges as lessens to pass on to others. RESILIENT Fortunately for me because of all the challenges I have lived through I can create solutions quickly I can fall down and get up within moments. I never have to give up. I just get to create whats next. When I forget, my fellow friends and colleagues remind me who I am. They won’t let me wallow in self pity I have surrounded myself with enough supportive friends that I move ahead fairly rapidly. Many people who have had everything go easy in their life sometimes are the ones that find life the hardest when things go wrong. They have not had the opportunity to learn skills to deal with life when life hands them lemons. Everyday I am grateful for the opportunity to live a purposeful life and to live my purpose. Now I am learning to earn good money as I live my purpose. Thank you for allowing me to thrive not just survive. Life is good. ! WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com OR GO TO  My Facebook Page Thrivingatsixty by Wendy B like comment or share my page and you can get a complementary 15 minute coaching session. OR Go to my Face book page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B, like comment or share my posts or videos and you will get a complementary 15 minute coaching session if you message me, text me or call me. Just hit the button on the Facebook page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B and my phone number will come up. Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!

OBSTACLE I couldn’t resist doing another podcast on Perception because I believe that’s whats stops us from thriving. When we are living our ordinary lives, things can get in the way and its how we view them, that has us thrive or not. learning to master catching ourselves viewing things as an obstacle then quickly making the obstacle into an opportunity makes all the difference. OPPORTUNITY Lately I have been given lots of opportunity to fail at what I am trying to accomplish. When I fail at what I am trying to accomplish there is an opportunity to educate myself and grow. A year ago I couldn’t do certain things on this podcast because I lacked knowledge. Today I can do those things because I have been practicing and have been willing to make mistakes. Sometimes I even look stupid as I’m learning. I am growing all the time. I wish I was quicker and I am not. I’m even learning to do Facebook. Forgive me when I make mistakes, reach out educate me, I’m very teachable. Acceptance I’m learning to accept that I am not as quick as I was when I was younger. I also have a lot on my plate. I coach, I write, I podcast, I”m in seminars, I give seminars and I am the main care giver for my curious two year old granddaughter while my daughter works. I’m learning to accept that she is my priority and that I may take a lot longer to accomplish the things I am creating and accept that. Being okay with the things the way they are and the way they are not makes life easier and helps you thrive. WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Also check out my Facebook Page Getting Unstuck with Wendy B. Like, comment or share. You could get a 15 min Complimentary coaching session in an area where you are stopped or stuck. If you take the coaching you will move forward. Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!

BREAKTHROUGH Today is a good day to flip the story. What seems like an obstacle may be the path to your next breakthrough. Obstacle This week just didn’t go like I had visioned or planned. I was to do a lot of homework, babysit grand daughter and get ready for a 5 day jaunt over to my sisters in Nanaimo.. We were both really looking forward to it. She has an ocean view out of every window and her place is like a beautiful hotel. I feel pampered and taken care of. I seldom get 5 days all together. Her husband was going to be gone and I had a sitter all set up for my granddaughter. I was excited for this opportunity. Also, i had a scheduled appointment at a specialist that is difficult to get into, I had to reschedule the specialist and cancel my trip. I also didn’t’ get to do any homework. Opportunity I used this as an opportunity to get rested, take care of myself. In between watching my grand daughter, I read more books, I even took time to watch some comedy Netflix which I rarely do. Got to make home made soup. I slept alot. I even got my oldest daughter to go to the store for me and allow her to contribute to me. I rarely ask for her to do that for me. I think it made her feel good and she got to have some awesome homemade soup. My son in law, who is estranged from my daughter, got to contribute to me and take me to the grocery store and back home when I didn’t have the energy to go by bus. So all in all I had a good week. Not what was planned. Sometimes you just got to let your life unfold and create opportunities where there was none. WATCH U TUBE CLAIRE MY last days (Unbelievable) Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Write me at Wendyb@thrivingatsixty.com Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening! Keep THRIVING! AND LETS GET YOU UNSTUCK!