Advice Goddess Radio: Amy Alkon

Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science. It's every Sunday, 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern, with podcasts available afterward. Don't get depressed about being single on Valentine's Day! Listen to Dr. Bella DePaulo on why myths about how awful it is to be single are all wrong, and how being "single-ish" in attitude can help couples be happier.  Social psychologist DePaulo is the author of the terrific book "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After."   Buy her book at Amazon at this link: http://amzn.to/AsOVXa Follow her blog at Psychology Today: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single Next week on Advice Goddess Radio: Dr. Barry Schwartz, author of "The Paradox of Choice."

Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd your way to a better life" with the best brains in research and therapy. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------   Ever had somebody keep telling you down is up and 2+2 is 5 until you break down and agree with them?    At first, you're all, "Naw, that's not how it is," but they keep at you and keep at you until you start to say "Maybe they're right..." against all your better judgment.    If you've had this experience -- and I think we've all had this experience -- you've experienced gaslighting, an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation. This week, my guest is Dr. Robin Stern, Ph.D., on her fantastic book "The Gaslight Effect," and the syndrome itself -- and how to stop it. I wrote about it in a column:  "In a relationship, writes Dr. Robin Stern in 'The Gaslight Effect,' you're being gaslighted when somebody relentlessly pressures you to believe the unbelievable and do what you know you shouldn't. Stern explains that the gaslighter "needs to be right in order to preserve his own sense of self and his sense of having power in the world," while the gaslightee allows him to bully away her sense of reality and self because she fears losing his love and approval." Buy her book here: http://amzn.to/xBJjCP

THIS SHOW MOVED TO MONDAY NIGHT, JAN. 30, 7pm PT; 8pm ET Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life" with the best brains in science. My guest this week is evolutionary psychologist Dr. Gad Saad, Professor of Marketing at Concordia University and one of the few studying consumer behavior, whom I've quoted in my column and blog, and whose work I follow with great interest. We'll be talking about our "consuming instincts"  -- which is also the title of his terrific and most recent book, "The Consuming Instinct: What Juicy Burgers, Ferraris, P0rnography, and Gift Giving Reveal About Human Nature." From Amazon: •What do all successful fast-food restaurants have in common? •Why do men's testosterone levels rise when they drive a Ferrari or a Porsche? •Why are women more likely to become compulsive shoppers and men more likely to become addicted to p0rnography? •How does the fashion industry play on our innate need to belong?   The answer to all of these intriguing questions is "the consuming instinct," the underlying evolutionary basis for most of our consumer behavior.   We'll also discuss what the research says about what seems to cause eating disorders, and perhaps suggest ways to avoid succumbing -- and separate what the evidence says from the ideology and myths.   Buy his book here: http://amzn.to/ySAV3w

It’s Advice Goddess Radio -- bringing you the best people from science…fascinating, fun professor and therapist guests who will nerd you out of your love, dating sex, and relationship problems.    This week, Dr. Catherine Salmon, Cutting Through Political Correctness On Men, Women, And Sex. She cuts through political correctness like it's butter! Melted garlic butter! And backs it all up with really solid science. On this show, evolutionary sexpert Salmon will strip away misconceptions about the differences between men and women on the sexual frontier, in relationships, and business. I've quoted her work in my column and I always love hearing her give talks. She's fascinating, insightful and always entertaining.  More on Dr. Catherine Salmon, the books she's written, and the show at this link:  http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/01/20/advice_goddess_39.html

It’s Advice Goddess Radio -- bringing you the best people from science…fascinating, fun professor and therapist guests who will nerd you out of your love, dating sex, and relationship problems.  Low-carb pioneers Dr. Michael Eades and Dr. Mary Dan Eades are my guests this week. They are two of the all-too-few out there who are behind evidence-based ways to eat -- dietary science as opposed to the "science" on which so many base their diets. See the incredible results here:  http://freetheanimal.com/2011/03/phd-med-school-biology-researcher-goes-paleo-racks-up-70-pound-weight-loss-gets-hot.html Mike's blog here: http://www.proteinpower.com/drmike/  These two have changed the lives and improved the health of more of my readers -- in absolutely incredible ways. People who read their books, like "Protein Power," typically end up losing weight...and with ease...like the pounds are stones falling off a truck. On the show, we'll talk about how to maintain a way of eating, and debunk a lot of widely held myths about diet -- myths many doctors still cling to.  Buy their book, Protein Power, here: http://amzn.to/xPNr9U

It’s Advice Goddess Radio -- bringing you the best people from science…fascinating, fun professor and therapist guests who will nerd you out of your love, dating sex, and relationship problems.  High praise from a male listener for this show: "Last night's radio show was right on.  It was like the Professor had been taking notes at our seduction forum.  He actually gets it." Very interesting guest this week -- Syracuse anthropology professor Dr. John Marshall Townsend, author of the terrific book, "What Women Want--What Men Want: Why the sexes still see love & commitment so differently. We dug into the research (like the hilarious study Townsend did showing pictures of men and women in Burger King uniforms or fancy dress. Of course, men didn't care where the girl worked; just whether she was hot. Of course, the women went for the homely guy in the blazer and the Rolex over the hot guy in the BK uniform). And we discussed what the research -- including Townsend's latest study on casual sex -- says about how we should approach love, dating, sex and relationships. AG RADIO: Listen live every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon ...or download the podcast at the link (“play in your default player”). Call-in during the show: 347-326-9761 (NYC area code).

It’s Amy Alkon’s Advice Goddess Radio: Nerd your way to a better life through fascinating and fun discussions about love, dating sex and relationships with the top brains from psychology and science.    The insightful forensic psychologist and blogger Dr. Helen Smith was my guest, discussing men and men's issues -- in the always fair-minded way she does on her blog, and supported by her background in psychology and her penchant for peering into the politically incorrect facts many would rather deny.   DIFFERENT AIRTIME THIS WEEK: This week only, show will air at 1:30-2:30 pm Pacific, 4:30-5:30 pm Eastern. Helen and I are doing that so you can all call in -- and we hope you will!   Listen live every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET (blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon), or download the podcast at the link (click “play in your default player”). Call-in during the show: 347-326-9761 (NYC area code).

It's Advice Goddess Radio, with nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon: "Nerd your way to a better life!" Join me for fascinating and fun discussions about love, dating sex and relationships with the top brains from psychology and science.  THIS WEEK, you'll learn how you can be happier by taking very small steps. I'll be talking with a very exciting guest, UC Riverside psychology professor, Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, author of "The How of Happiness," and a researcher I greatly respect.  Lyubomirsky is terrific because she not only studies what makes us happy but gives practical advice on how we can be happier...even substantially happier, by making small shifts in our attitude and behavior. I highly recommend her book, which you can buy at this link: http://amzn.to/tkxEKU I've referenced Lyubomirsky's work in my columns and it's the foundation of Chapter 10 -- "It's Nice To Be Nice" -- in my book "I See Rude People," where I use it to show how it's in our self-interest to be generous and pro-social. The show will be on at a slightly different time this week, 7:30 to 8:30 Pacific, but we'll be back at our regular 7-8pm slot next week and beyond. Lyubomirsky's research can be found here, on her UC Riverside website: http://www.faculty.ucr.edu/~sonja/

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people.   This week, David DiSalvo, science journo and author of a fantastic new book on common human cognitive errors, "What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite."   Buy the book here: http://bit.ly/w3f49J

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people.   This is a not-to-be missed show -- Dr. Robert Glover, author of "No More Mr. Nice Guy," a book that I recommend frequently to my male readers who think they're "nice guys," but are actually "too-nice guys."   Buy his terrific book on Amazon at this link: http://amzn.to/uX0dRR

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people.   Tonight, Dr. Peter Jonason on bad boys, booty calls, and the double standard -- the dark side of human mating.   I was determined to have him on my show after hearing him present his work at evolutionary psychology conferences I've attended. Really smart stuff.   He's coming to us from all the way down under, in Sydney, where he's a prof at the University of Western Sydney. http://www.usouthal.edu/psychology/Faculty_Jonason.htm     WE WANT YOUR CALLS! Call in Sunday night, 7-8 p.m. Pacific, 10-11 p.m. Eastern for advice on love, dating, sex, relationships or to talk with Peter and me about the subjects we're discussing. Call-in number once the show is on and live (at 7 p.m.): (347) 326-9761 (New York area code).

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people.   This week, an exciting guest -- therapist Beverly Engel -- the psychotherapist whose terrific book The Nice Girl Syndrome" I've been recommending to readers who are pleasers, enablers, and otherwise act against their best interest.    Buy Engel's book here: http://amzn.to/v5ksH5   As a recovered doormat, I only wish I had a book like this when I was growing a spine. Don't miss this show! And don't be bashful! Call in and ask Beverly and me for advice. Show opening by one of my favorite musical divas, Xenia Shin of the underground LA band Laco$te.

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people.   This week, yet another thrilling guest, Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, on creativity, imagination, innovation, and maximizing your potential.

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people. Very exciting guest this week, Dr. Nando Pelusi, an Albert Ellis-trained psychologist who combines cognitive therapy and evolutionary psychology to help his patients. A really smart and really fun and interesting guest. Prepare your questions for Nando and me!

Advice Goddess Radio: Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon on love, dating, sex, relationships and rude people.   Tonight, very special guest Dr. Barbara Oakley, author (most recently) of the fascinating book, Cold-Blooded Kindness. I'll be talking with Dr. Oakley about enablers and other purveyers of "helping that hurts," aka "Pathological Altruism," which is also the title of a fascinating edited volume that she is the lead author on.   We'll be taking your calls -- a not-to-be-missed opportunity to both hear and talk with Dr. Oakley and, of course, your hostess, Amy Alkon.   Amy Alkon's website: http://www.advicegoddess.com Follow Amy on Twitter: @amyalkon