Summary: right-click here to download As revealed to Marshall Vian Summers on April 21, 2011 in Boulder, Colorado It is certainly possible to feel great love for someone with whom you cannot participate in life and, in fact, this is not uncommon. It is possible to feel great love for someone with whom you are incompatible, even on a personal level. People make the mistake of trying to build a relationship around this thinking that love is all they really need when, in fact, they are very incompatible with the other person, and their relationship can never be harmonious or really successful. People think that love is a kind of ultimate state of being, but in terms of romantic love, this cannot be the case. People treat the experience of being in love as if it is an ultimate experience, but there is no guarantee that this will lead to a successful relationship, for a successful relationship must be built on purpose, readiness and compatibility. If you are not going in the same direction in life, you will only hold each other up by trying to be together regardless of the attraction initially. If you cannot take the same journey, then you are interfering with each other’s progress by trying to establish a relationship. This is not uncommon. In fact, misengaged relationships is one of the primary reasons that people cannot or will not discover their greater purpose for being in the world. They will live a life of compromise, confusion and frustration as a result of this. Physical attraction, attraction to another’s personality or even attraction to some deeper aspect of the other person, does not mean that you are destined to be together in any way. Destiny here means everything. If you do not have a real destiny together, then trying to be together will only impede your progress. You actually will be hurting one another by trying to be together. You will be preventing each other from really moving forward in life and finding the people and the purpose that are really essential in being here. God has sent you into the world for a greater purpose. This purpose requires the interaction with certain individuals along the way and eventually with certain others who will play a major part in your realization and expression of this greater purpose. Trying to unite with other people for other reasons will only interfere with this essential process in life, and the results lead to prolonged unhappiness, confusion and compromise. This is such a great problem. Many people are circumscribed by the relationships that they have established before they have reached a point in life where they could discover their greater purpose. As a result, they are trapped. They have committed their life already. They have given their life away. And now they are afraid to question their former commitments and previous investment in other people. They will try to seek comfort by pursuing wealth or through distractions or hobbies or religious pursuits or political pursuits. But essentially their problem has to do with where they are in life and who they are with. If you are with someone who cannot recognize your greater purpose and deeper nature, they are going to hold you back, and you will feel held back and frustrated regardless of whatever pleasures or affluence you have created together. Look at the faces of the people, and you will see this compromise. You will see this lack of freedom. You will see this inability to engage with their deeper nature and all the great powers and significance that this represents. People give their life away before they even know they have a life—a greater life, a life with a greater purpose, meaning and destiny. For anyone who is called by God, this problem of previous commitments is a very serious one indeed and can prevent the one blessed to receive from responding. They are already dishonest with themselves regarding their current relationships,
