Summary: Do you want to do recovery “your way”? Are you skipping steps because you don’t like them? Can you let go of control? Spencer and Harriet talk about letting go of the process.<br> <br> Harriet, can you explain what you meant by “letting go of the process” when you suggested this topic?<br> How do/did you try to control your recovery?<br> obsessively doing the things we *can* do<br> overdoing self-care<br> What parts of it do/did you particularly not want to let go of?<br> “character defects” -- I want them removed in my order<br> outcomes<br> comfort in maintaining the illusion of control over my own life<br> Why?<br> How does letting go help your recovery? Your peace of mind?<br> focusing on control of outcomes is a “fool’s errand” and makes my life unmanageable<br> It frees me to focus on the things I can control<br> Frees me to do self-care<br> What blocks you from letting go?<br> impatience<br> perfectionism<br> Not wanting to feel unpleasant feelings<br> judgement and shame<br> fear<br> expectations<br> What ways have you found to let go?<br> Prerequisite - Accept who and where I am right now.<br> Being open to the universe -- humility<br> Work with a sponsor<br> Prayer<br> Meditation<br> what else?<br> What do you still struggle with letting go of?<br> What would you say to a newcomer who isn’t sure the program will work for them?
