Summary: <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Today we have Amy Kate, an advocate for partners of those with sexual addictions and a survivor of two marriages that ended as a result of sexual addiction. She has six awesome kids and is trained through <a href="https://www.btr.org/podcast/15-facts-about-apsats-coaches">The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS)</a>, as well as the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). She is a fierce warrior determined to point women to freedom and healing found at the feet of Jesus. She is also a customer service representative for <a href="https://covenanteyes.sjv.io/c/475305/387466/5624?u=covenanteyes.com%2F">Covenant Eyes</a>. <br> Discovery Day: The Day Everything In Your Life Falls Apart When You Find Out About Your Husband's Affair<br> Anne: We are going to talk to you about your personal story. We know that you went through two marriages due to sex addiction. Let's focus on the second marriage and what happened there. Can you tell us what your life was like before D-day in your second marriage?<br> Amy: I was divorced from my first husband who was a porn addict and I met this guy who was everything I never imagined existed. He was soft, sweet, feminine but not in a weird way; he was just a super, awesome guy. I was actually not a Christian at the time; neither was he. We dated for a couple of years and then we bought a house together and we went to church where we both were saved. When we got saved we got convinced for living together so we got married.<br> I already had six children from my first marriage and he was a very good step dad. My children were rather young. It was a pretty normal like. I had the kind of relationship that my friends were jealous of because my husband was always home, he would do chores, he didn't leave his underwear on the floor!, he looked like a model man. Life was good. I had all kinds of health problems but despite this, he was just good.<br> In 2010, after a couple of major surgeries and a foreclosure on my house, we moved and everything began to change in the relationship. He was very different and I couldn't figure out why. Of course I thought it was me or my kids; it couldn't possibly have been him. I started to create my own world outside of him. I had been a stay-at-home mom, which I loved, but I opened up a photography studio. We were a pretty normal couple.<br> Should You Believe Your Husband When He Says He Doesn't View Porn?<br> We didn't go to church which is unfortunate; I kept trying to get him to try new churches but he was resistant. As time progressed, he got more and more distant; I began to see more anger and our sex life pretty much disappeared. One day, September 20, 2012, I was on his computer (we had each other's passwords)--we didn't have anything to hide, right? I looked at his history even though I'm not sure why--he swore he never watched porn - and I believed him.<br> I saw a bunch of meet-up groups in his history and all of the profiles he looked at were female. I thought this was really weird but I brushed it off thinking he was looking for a tech meet-up group because he is a tech guy. As I kept looking and seeing the female profiles, it was literally like a lightbulb went off and out loud, to myself, said, "My husband's having an affair."<br> But I couldn't see anything so I ended up combing through his computer to find something and I couldn't find anything. So then I went upstairs and got his phone and I began to look through it...
