Summary: <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> What happens when your whole world gets turned upside down in an instant? Everything you knew destroyed with a disclosure that seems unreal and too unbelievable to be true. But it is: Your husband has been acting out with other men. He is gay and you are destroyed. You are left wondering: Was my marriage ever real if my husband is gay?<br> This situation is all too familiar to <a href="https://www.liveboldlycoaching.com/">Sara Schulting Kranz. </a>Sarah has been through unimaginable hardships throughout her life. She was raped at 17 years of age and became pregnant. She chose to keep her child. Twenty-three years later she found out her husband of 17 years was having affairs with men for most of their marriage and is a sex addict. <br> Feeling Shocked To Find Out Your Husband Is Gay<br> Sarah states she was blindsided in learning of her husband's secret life, "It was devastating to scroll through my husband's phone and finding all the gay porn and the websites he was looking at." This is a scenario that is familiar to other women who find out similar information regarding their husbands.<br> Therapist Dr. Joe Kort shares insight from his experience in treating men who are questioning their sexuality, "Usually the wife discovers his history on the computer. He’s been looking at gay porn or he’s been hooking up with guys he meets through Craigslist." (<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201412/is-your-man-gay-straight-or-bisexual">Psychology Today</a>).<br> What Are The Options When You Find Out Your Husband Is Gay?<br> What options does a betrayed wife have in this situation? How does a woman move forward in faith knowing that the level of betrayal runs deep?<br> Sarah explains the thoughts going through her head during the period of uncertainty surrounding her marriage, "Could we possibly make any of this work now or into the future when the kids get older? I didn't want to make any rash decisions; I wanted to have all the facts and feel emotionally secure enough to make it from a place of clarity."<br> While some women leave their marriages after finding out their husband is gay, others choose to stay. Regardless of the decision, options should be carefully considered and the choice should be respected.<br> My Husband Is Gay, Is It My Fault?<br> Anne, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, states, "I think it's really good to understand that for each individual there is a different situation, different circumstances, and to trust that a woman will make the best decision for her under the circumstances she is in."<br> Women tend to internalize finding out their husband has been watching gay porn or acting out with men. They can feel not good enough and experience guilt from the trauma.<br> Dr. Kort explains, "I try to make sure that the women in these relationships understand that their man’s behavior is not about them" (<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201412/is-your-man-gay-straight-or-bisexual">Psychology Today.</a>) This becomes important to know and believe when a women finds herself in this situation. They are never to blame and healing from the trauma must be addressed first and foremost. <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br>
