Summary: <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> 3 Signs Fantasy Is Harming You<br> Lacy Bentley is the founder and CEO of <a href="http://www.wurctogether.org/">Women United Recovery Coalition</a>, the acronym is WURC. It’s an organization dedicated to raising awareness of female pornography addiction, how fantasy feed sex-based compulsions and women’s unique recovery needs. She’s been working with women in addiction and self-destructive compulsive behavior since 2000.<br> As an author, mentor, coach and speaker, Lacy focuses on releasing perfectionism in recovery while learning honesty and personal accountability. She’s written articles and blogs for numerous magazines, women’s recovery sites in the movement toward ending exploitation and fighting the harms of pornography.<br> As a former hentai, which is sexualized anime user, and a relationship and love addict, Lacy has seen firsthand the destructive patterns fantasies can cause individuals and families. She also knows, from personal experience, that fantasy is the root of the sex addiction tree. Her hope is to better inform people about the very vulnerable population of women and girls trapped in their own pornography usage and fantasy worlds, and their compulsive sexual or relationship behaviors.<br> Three signs that fantasy is hurting you:<br> 1. You lack self care. 2. You find it difficult to concentrate on necessary, daily tasks. 3. You're avoiding the truth about reality or your situation, putting yourself in spiritual, mental, emotional, or physical danger.<br> What Is A Fantasy Bond?<br> Lacy: Women United actually came out of my research at UVU and based on my own experience. I used hentai as a young woman and it really impacted my life negatively. The way I saw myself, the way I saw men and relationships. Nobody was educating women and girls who are trapped in sexual addictions, specifically pornography addiction. <br> At Women United, that we would focus on educating the world that women and girls are getting trapped in pornography addiction. It's incredibly problematic because women and girls who use pornography tend to portray themselves sexually and exploit themselves for attention.<br> Why Can Fantasy Be Harmful?<br> Lacy: We work with women who are ready to take control of their fantasy worlds, their internal worlds, who are ready to stop thinking about the cute dentist down the street, or quit with the romance novels. In our groups right now, we have some women who are dealing with the fantasy, some women who have had emotional affairs, some women who have pornography addiction.<br> It’s kind of a spectrum of women that we work with. What it comes down to is if the woman self-identifies as having an issue with comparison or fantasy or some other type of sex-based compulsion, she is welcome in our groups.<br> Anne: I have a kitchen remodeling fantasy problem.<br> Lacy: Don’t we all?<br> Anne: Always fantasizing about remodeling my kitchen. Maybe that falls into the same category.<br> Lacy: I don't know, are you able to take care of your kids in the process of fantasizing about your kitchen? That’s the big question.<br> Anne: You say that most of us are fantasy junkies. Tell me what that means. Like I just said, I fantasize before I go to sleep about remodeling my kitchen. If everyone fantasizes from one degree to another, what is the harm if we all do it? I know you’re going to tell me, which I’m excited about. I’m not trying to say there is no harm in it.
