Summary: <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Dr. Sheri Keffer, has nearly 20 years of clinical experience, and out of her own personal story of recovery from betrayal trauma, she understands the impact of sexual deception. She is APSATS-certified, as a certified clinical partner specialist and a CSAT, which is Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist. She believes that betrayed women are looking for the two necessary pillars of:<br> <br> * Safety<br> * Truth<br> <br> Her passion in healing trauma has brought new tools and a fresh look at what betrayed women need, not only to heal but to heal well. Dr. Sheri commonly uses brain specked imaging, brainwave optimization and EMDR to treat depression, anxiety, loss, and self-image issues caused by post-traumatic stress. She is the author of her new book, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0800729129/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=btrorg-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0800729129&linkId=41becf9fd08e8ddf0009b34f3889a911">Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal</a>, and enjoys being a regular co-host on the nationally syndicated talk show, <a href="https://newlife.com/broadcasts/">New Life Live</a>.<br> New Life Live is heard daily by over two million listeners. Her engaging warmth and ability to immediately connect puts callers at ease, so I’m very excited to have an expert radio host on the podcast today. In her personal life, she enjoys the beach, reading, mountain biking, hiking, camping, and big game sport fishing.<br> What Is Intimate Betrayal?<br> Anne: Your new book just came out, and I am in the process of reading it, and loving it so far. What did you mean by the title, Intimate Deception?<br> Sheri: Intimate deception is when we are not a consenting partner to some act that the person we are in love with, could be our husband or it could be our boyfriend, there is a non-consensual sexual act that they do behind our backs. It actually came out of my work looking at some ancient Hebrew. Hebrew is a cool language. It used to be done much like Chinese or Arabic or Egyptian, where it was more sounds and word pictures.<br> When I looked at what it meant to betray, there’s two ideas that came to mind. The first one was the word rema, which means “to betray,” and it—listen to this, Anne. It means what comes from a person of chaos. The other word is close, it’s to deceive, which is the word badad, and it means “to hide, to cover, to offend, to deal unfaithfully with, or to pillage.” Betrayal is a deliberate act of disloyalty where another person is left to feel duped or cheated by lying and someone who’s broken their trust. It hurts us.<br> Anne: I’ve been talking about it as abuse, in and of itself, what is your feeling about that? That the lies and the deception and the infidelity are abusive in and of themselves?<br> Sheri: When you think about it, if you ask somebody, “How did you feel when you found out?” I know for me, when I first found out, I felt sucker-punched. Sucker-punch, it’s one of those words that seems to fit. That’s a violent word. When I did my research, out of 100 women 100 of them said they felt sexually violated.<br> Why Does Intimate Deception Feel So Bad?<br> When you look at lying and how it harms us, the phrase “addicts lie, they lie a lot,” we throw that phrase around, but you know what, for every addict that lies, and every act of deception, it hurts a woman on the other side. Lying causes harm.<br> When I think about it as abuse,
