Summary: <a href="http://on-boys.blubrry.net/128-sex-ed-with-jo-langford/jo-langford/" rel="attachment wp-att-595"></a>Jo LangfordSex educator & author<br> <br> The standard "birds and bees" sex talk doesn't work any more. (If it ever really did!)<br> <br> Today, parents have to address pornography, homosexuality, gender and consent. If you feel nervous tackling those topics, don't worry. You're not alone.<br> <br> Sex educator and therapist <a href="http://www.beheroes.net/">Jo Langford</a> routinely helps parents navigate these tricky conversations. Langford is the author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Spare-Me-Talk-Relationships-Growing/dp/099043060X">Spare Me the Talk!: A Guy's Guide to Sex, Relationships and Growing Up</a> and <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Pride-Guide-Sexual-Social-Health/dp/1538110768">The Pride Guide: The Guide to Sexual and Social Health for LGBTQ Yout</a>h, the first book about sex and sexuality written specifically for LGBTQ tweens and teens. Langford is also the father of a teenage boy and tween girl.<br> <br> In this episode, Jen, Janet & Jo discuss:<br> <br> * How to support 21st century kids, even if you don't yet know what cisgender means<br> * Inclusive language - & why it's important (Hint: when you start talking about sex, you probably won't know if your child is gay, straight or trans, and the words you use can lead to alienation or signal acceptance.)<br> * How to help boys understand gender fluidity<br> * The influence of culture on boys' attitudes towards sex and gender<br> * How to respond when boys use the word "gay" as an insult or putdown<br> * What teens want their parents to discuss with them (Spoiler: technology!)<br> * How teens use screens to explore their sexuality and develop relationships - & how parents can help their kids navigate the digital world<br> * How to protect kids from accidental porn exposure (Hint: blocking software is your friend)<br> * Age-appropriate language you can use to discuss porn with your boys<br> * Jo's "50% rule" for porn<br> <br> Links we mentioned (or should have) in Episode 126:<br> <a href="http://www.beheroes.net/">behereos.net</a> -- Jo's website, featuring his talks, speaking schedule & <a href="http://www.beheroes.net/free-downloads/4573559550">free downloads</a> (including Porn: The Guide to a Healthy Grab-It Habit)<br> <br> <a href="https://amzn.to/2o7v8Qt">Spare Me 'The Talk!': A Guy's Guide to Sex, Relationship, and Growing Up</a>, by Jo Langford<br> <br> <a href="https://amzn.to/2o4RdiX">The Pride Guide: A Guide to Sexual and Social Health for LGBTQ Youth</a>, by Jo Langford<br> <br> <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/07/when-a-child-says-shes-trans/561749/">When Children Say They're Trans</a> -- The Atlantic article<br> <br> <a href="http://www.on-boys-podcast.com/110-talk-to-boys-about-sex-with-amy-lang/">Episode 110: Talk to Boys About Sex with Amy Lang</a><br> <br> <a href="https://www.weareteachers.com/inclusive-sex-ed-important/">Why Inclusive Sex Ed is So Important</a> -- article by Jen
