Episode 20: Forming a Healthy Relationship with Goals




Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson show

Summary: On today’s episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore our relationship with goals of various kinds. Particularly, they look at how we can feel more successful by noticing the many small goals we accomplish each day, and fully internalizing that experience so it becomes a lasting resource. 0:50: Why is having a healthy relationship with our goals so important for mental health? 4:30: How can we achieve a more healthy relationship with our goals? 6:35: The social pressures that help us feel unsuccessful. 8:30: What are process goals? 9:55: What are outcome goals? 10:20: The many opportunities to meet our goals. 11:40: Hacking the natural pleasure systems in the brain. 14:25: If we have so many opportunities to experience success, why don’t we? 17:50: What about when we aren’t successful? How can we better manage those feelings of failure? 21:30: Risking the “dreaded experience.” 24:30: Isn’t the fear of failure really motivating though? 29:50: Recap