So, We Met Online…

From first dates to sex to physical attraction to social cues, Erika and Chris tackle your questions this week. And if you still have burning questions, post them on our Facebook or Instagram pages, and we’ll include them in a future episode. 

Sometimes a first date is great… and sometimes it’s just not good at all. Is either outcome an omen for a potential relationship? Chris shares a story about a Disneyland date gone wrong and how it impacted his views on first dates. 

Dating has changed a lot, not just over the last few years, but over generations. Especially with the advent of dating apps and technology, dating almost seems like a whole different experience from what it used to be. This week, Erika interviews some special guests, and then she and Chris break down the differences of dating in previous years and the pros and cons as compared to today.

“I only want a man over 6’2.” “I have to be at least six years older than she is.” We hear these arbitrary statements all the time. But when you think about it, are these things really that important in a relationship? This week, guest Miguel shares his story with Erika about his unconventionally sized relationship, and then Chris and Erika delve into the implications on the relationship when you both limit yourself and go outside your comfort zone. #onlinedating #dating #relationships #advice #profiles #okcupid

Online dating sites are interesting in that they have conflicting incentives — to help you meet a partner and to make money. Erika and Chris discuss this interesting business model, and then they address the question many people have: When should I take my profile down? They then walk through the steps of just how to do that.

Erika and Chris tackle some dating questions from clients and listeners, such as where to have a first date and whether to text someone before the date. Then, as an added bonus, they share some of the worst online dating pick-up lines they’ve received!

Dating can be hard enough, but dating in secret is another challenge. Why might one have to hide their relationship? Erika and Chris share some fun stories from their youth, and then they talk about dating on the sly in general.

Dating can already be difficult to navigate, but what happens when you throw in an extra layer… dating a friend’s ex. Is it possible? Are there rules? This week, Erika shares a story from her life, and then Erika and Chris break down rules, best practices, and advice.

First dates can be fun, awkward, boring, amazing, and anything in between. Today, Erika and Chris share some first date dos and don’ts to make sure you’re on the right track.

Dating can be tricky. When do you kiss? Hold hands? Have sex? Some people want to rush, and others want to take it slow. This week, Erika and Chris (and a fun guest) discuss what it shows, if anything, when someone doesn’t make a move on the first few dates… and what it can mean for the future.

Similar to triggers, sometimes things from the past make their way into the present, whether we want them to or not. Today, Chris shares two stories about how people’s pasts crept up into their new relationships with him, and how it impacted him in the process. We all have pasts, but it’s important to know what stays there and is unique to the person in the past and what should come along for the ride into the future.

A trigger is something that sets off a memory tape or flashback transporting the person back to the event of her/his original trauma. In dating, we may not be talking about trauma like PTSD, but there can still be experiences or words that bring back bad memories. And the thing that causes those memories is a trigger. Chris and Erika share some of their own triggers — some more trivial and some more serious — with listeners.  

This week, Erika and Chris tackle three questions from both friends and clients. Topics include ghosting, dating after divorce, and the right time to start dating again.

This week, Erika and Chris tackle three questions from both friends and clients. Topics include ghosting, dating after divorce, and the right time to start dating again.

Hand-holding, kissing, other forms of intimacy… there’s a time and a place for all of them. But, when is that time and place? The first date? The third? And which would you prefer to do first — hold hands or smooch? In today’s episode, Erika shares a story about a first date of her own and then introduces a surprise guest. Then, she and Chris discuss how one person’s hierarchy of intimacy may differ from another person’s.