Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband cheated on me two years ago, when he was away on a work related trip. I could tell he was different when he got home, so for the past two years. I asked him over and over if he cheated on me, and he denied it. About a month ago, while we were in a heated argument, he admitted that he cheated and told me who the woman was. I went of Facebook and found the woman and saw that they are still Facebook friends and he comments on her photos and sends her direct messages. That made me even more angry. I felt betrayed and humiliated, so I put a post on my Facebook page and tagged my husband and this woman on the post, so it also showed up on their Facebook pages..........

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m tired of motherhood. Sorry, but I am no longer interested in being a mother. I am 28 years old and I have a 5 year old daughter that is disrespectful, obnoxious and constant source of embarrassment in public.  She is out of control on a daily basis. Beating her behind does not help and I don’t know what else to do. I have tried many ways of disciplining her. Reverse psychology and time out don’t work on her. I can’t seem to get thru to her without yelling and arguing.........

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need some relationship advice. Here's my issue. I was dating a member of a certain fraternity for four years and we broke up earlier this year. Since then I grew closer to an old friend that I've known since college and we decided to take our friendship to the next level. This new guy is in the same fraternity as my ex and they see each other at monthly chapter meetings parties and sporting events. When the new guy and I started dating we were apprehensive about being seen together because we did not want to be judged by others. We both knew that it was a sticky situation but our chemistry was undeniable.........

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 61 years old and my boyfriend is 67. I thought I had met the man of my dreams three years ago when we met. When we met, we were open and honest about what we wanted in life. Or so I thought. He recently had a revelation that he does not think he can make love to the same woman for the rest of his life. He also told me that he enjoyed an active swingers lifestyle for many years before we met, but he got tired of that so he chose to settle down with me but now he is saying that he is getting bored and wants to make our sex life better........

Dear Steve and Shirley, My fiance and I have been together for a while but we don't live in the same city so we do everything we can to keep the spice in our relationships. We send flirty texts and explicit pictures and when we are together it is on and poppin. The texts and pictures we send are so raunchy risque and vulgar that a porn star would blush. We can't help it. Well now we have a big problem. My man has a 15 year old daughter and I have always had a great relationship with her until recently when she went through her father's phone and saw it all......

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in my late 20s and two years ago I started having sex with a guy I met in high school. We dated broke up and now we're back together. He is the only man that I've ever had sex with. During the short time we broke up. We were friends with benefits because we really enjoyed each other's bodies. We used to do it every day anywhere we could. We used to do it everyday. Anywhere we can. All I had to do was look at him a certain way and he knew what time it was. Back then we both enjoyed having sex and everything was going great until he asked me to be his girlfriend again. Since we made it official. Everything has changed.......

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we have two children. My husband is a functioning alcoholic. He can work a full day without drinking but as soon as he's off the clock he starts drinking. He drinks in private. He doesn't leave his alcohol out where I can see it but I can always smell it in his cup. This started shortly after we got married and I allowed it and never confronted him. I can always tell when he's been drinking by the changes in his behavior and how he treats me and the kids. It's gotten worse recently and I brought it to his attention. I told him that I know exactly what he's up to..........

Dear Steve and Shirley, My fiance and I have been together for six years. He's 50 and I'm 35 and this will be the first marriage for both of us. When he proposed my intuition told me he was not ready to be married. A month ago, my fiance and I got into a big argument about his family and I didn't like his response or how he acted in front of our 3 year old daughter. So we haven't really been speaking. Two nights ago, he never came home from work and he did not answer my calls or text messages. I received a message from an acquaintance on social media saying that my fiance was at a bar downtown so I drove down to the bar hoping to see him there alone so we could try to resolve our issue. As soon as I walked in and saw him, my heart sank.........

Dear Steve and Shirley, My wife and I have been together since 2009 and married since 2015. We have three sons and I love them all dearly. I'm not trying to sugarcoat this at all but I have to tell you about my wife. Now we've both cheated on each other from the beginning of our relationship even though she refuses to admit all that she's done. I forgive her for everything because of my wrongdoing, but I have a problem with her dishonesty. I am willing to walk work on all of our issues because it's Till Death Do Us Part. She admitted to cheating with six different guys. Then we've been married.........

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm stuck. I've read your book Steve and I've been with my boyfriend for four years. In the four years we've bought a home and had lots of beautiful vacations together. We're under 30 years old and we have a solid relationship. He provides protects and professes his love for me. So why after four years I still don't have an engagement ring? I haven't given him my all yet because there are certain benefits that only a wife can give to her husband. He's not my husband. I never feel bad for reminding him when he complains about me holding back.........

Dear Shirley and Uncle Steve, I am having a hard time dealing with a situation with my family. I traveled around the world, got a couple of degrees, moved away from my hometown and married the love of my life. In the last few years, my dad’s health declined and he had to retire, money got tight, and now he and my mom fight all of the time. I call my parents daily before I go to work and each day it’s a struggle to talk to my dad. He manages to twist every conversation into something negative........

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 49 year old female married to a 49 year old man. I have five children and five grandchildren. Here is the problem. My current husband is not the father of my children. I married this man when my children were young. So he's been in their lives for a very long time. My youngest son just graduated from high school and will be going away for college. So now my husband thinks that we're done raising children and from now on it will be just the two of us. He has said that we don't have to worry about the kids anymore because they are all grown and have their own lives.........

Dear Steve and Shirley I've lost my best friend. We've been best friends for over 15 years. Thee best of friends. We were thick as thieves and nothing could keep us apart. Whenever she got in relationships she introduced me as her brother and I got along with all her boyfriends. She started dating her current boyfriend and I didn't approve of him at first because he had a reputation of being a liar and a cheater. I played it cool and supported her through all of the drama and the breakups with him. He knows I don't really like him. So one night he invited me to go to a strip club with him. I met him at the club and ended up having a great time........

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for 11 years. My husband has three grown children from his previous marriage, two sons and a daughter. His sons are happily married but his daughter is not. My husband's ex wife constantly intrudes in our marriage and in her daughter's marriage. The daughter will not keep her mom out of her business and it upsets her husband. The ex-wife has also made my husband's life miserable but I can deal with that. It's my stepdaughter that is the problem......

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a young single female. I recently had a conversation with a close male friend about relationships and sex. He told me that from a man's point of view a man can never fully love a woman and give his all to a relationship until they have sex. This blew my mind because my girlfriends and I are withholding sex now and we really think that we're doing the right thing by making men wait. I look back at how many men I have turned away knowing that they just wanted to have sex with me. If what my male friend says is true then I may have missed out on a few good men.......