The Toxic People Detox | Self-Care & Difficult People Survival Strategies

Are you speeding down a dead-end road? Are you throwing good money after bad? Are you on a ship to nowhere? I was there too. What happens when we don’t want to abandon a path after we put resources and time into it? Should you call it quits and move on with your life? In this episode, we give you some questions to consider before making a big decision. Subscribe, Rate, and Review! I would be most grateful.

Just a heads up, I will be updating on Mondays only for the next two-three months. I am recording episodes in bulk and will return to a multi-day update in the future. Until then, here are 3 gold nuggets you can use to help you get over the fear of looking stupid. Enjoy! Subscribe, rate, and review! I would be most grateful.

Are you doing your best to be an awesome human being and toxic people think that you’re being selfish? Well, we all have selfish tendencies, but we also have our virtues. A listener wants to know why toxic people feel the need to call other people selfish when they themselves are obviously being selfish. Today, I talk about a simple, yet powerful observation to help you but this into perspective. Subscribe, Rate and Review I would be most grateful! Support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com

What is at the heart of emotional eating? How did I gain 100 lbs.? Simple. I wouldn’t admit it to myself at the time but emotional overeating not only led to weight gain but to Type II diabetes. It was a mess. At the time of this episode, I lost 25 lbs. so I still have 75 more to go. In terms of technology, we have it good these days. I can log on to a language website and have a conversation with a Spanish instructor from Ecuador. I can connect to past classmates on Facebook. I can walk into a Sam’s Club and walk out with the latest flat-screen TV. Food is also more accessible now and I can walk out of a grocery store with enough food to last me a week or two. However, this easy access to food has a sinister side to it. Once upon a time, people had to grow their food before they could eat it. Therefore, food was more a necessity than a luxury. They didn’t have weekly social gatherings with refreshments. They ate only when they were hungry. Now, it’s no longer about eating because we were hungry. We eat simply because there is food stored in our house. We eat when we’re bored, when people visit, when we watch TV, when we entertain visitors, or whenever we feel like it. Well, this is where all that weight gain came from. Food was too easy for me to come by. I ate when I was lonely, depressed, and angry. Given my situation at the time, that was almost every day. So, today we explore 4 tips for overcoming emotional eating Subscribe, Rate, and Review support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com

We have another response to an email from a reader. If you are a freelancer, contractor, etc., what happens when clients or customers want to back to complain after services have been rendered? What happens when they comeback weeks, months, or even years after the fact to complain about your good work? support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com

When you rearrange our lives to appease/accommodate people, especially toxic people, don’t be surprised if those same people who you tried to accommodate won’t be with you when it counts. If they are, it’s more of a backseat driver type of thing. People are quick to dictate the terms of your life, but they very rarely take action. Let’s take a look at how to deal with these types. Questions? Comments? Email us at support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com

In today’s landmark 25th episode, I am summarizing the previous 24 episodes in to 6 key points. These points represent the ideal mindset for dealing with toxic people.

Key Points 1. The problem of having expectations that are too high or too low 2. How to find that middle ground

Key Points 1. Why we tend to fall into the trap of living some else’s life 2. Three powerful things you can do to break that habit 3. A lesson from our often toxic higher educational system Thank you for your comments, reviews, emails.

This is a short one as I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year! For this month we are going to focus on crafting your Toxic People Detox game plan. Subscribe to stay in the loop.

Don’t let people run you over! In the last episode, I talked about 7 reasons why toxic people are attracted to you. The main factor that govern the rest is that you are afraid of conflict. The problem with some people is that they don’t want to come off as arrogant, pushy, selfish, a jerk, etc. A pushy or selfish person is one who cares only about their own needs and makes no effort to accommodate anybody else. They tend to expect others to drop everything because they assume that their time is more valuable than that of other people. Key Points 1. The Golden Rule for standing your ground 2. How to keep a situation from becoming a battle of ego 3. 7 tips for learning for not letting people run you over

There are toxic personality types that make a point of seeking out people upon whom to unload their bad behavior and manipulation. A drama queen, for example, is far more likely to seek out a person who is highly reactive than one who isn’t. They want drama and a centered person is not going to give it to them easily. So, they go for the easy targets. Key Points 1. To understand how toxic people choose their targets 2. To look at yourself and identify behaviors or attitudes that might be making you an attractive target for toxic people 3. How your view of conflict attracks toxic people

Of all the vices I’ve mentioned so far, self-righteousness has the potential to be the most polarizing! A self-righteous person will oftentimes defend his or her actions as well-meaning. On the surface, nothing is wrong. The problem is the intention. Self-righteous people can actually make very good points. They’re not always wrong. However, they measure themselves by other people’s abilities to keep some preconceived rules. They may seem helpful, but they are tearing you down by constantly pointing out your inability to live by the rules. In today’s episode, we will explore some underlying reasons why self-righteous people are the way they are and how to deal with them. Key Points 1. 5 Signs to watch out for 2. 4 Tips for dealing with a self-righteous person 3. What is really driving them Subscribe/Rate/Review

I have five simple but powerful writing prompts for you all today. The most powerful reason to write is to get out of our own heads. Have you ever heard someone say, or you might have said it yourself, that sounded better in my head? That’s because our minds can play tricks on us. It reminds me of that quote from T.S. Eliot’s “Between the idea and the reality, between the motion and the acts, falls the shadow.” Key Points 1. Writing helps to bridge the connection between out reality and our fantasies. 2. Writing helps to focus our thoughts. 3. When we put things on paper, we activate that part of our brain (the Reticular Activating System or RAS). 4. Once RAS is activated, we begin to look for solutions that are right there in front of our faces.

Moving on can sometimes be as difficult as dealing with a toxic situation. We can be left with the emotional fallout and left carrying emotional baggage. So how does one move on? How do you deal with the anger at a person or situation? Key Points 1. Dealing with Anger 2. Severing ties 3. Confronting the negative emotions