Therapy for Black Girls

This week, we’re digging into some of the particular challenges that come with being a Black woman in a leadership role. For this conversation I was joined by Yunetta Smith, LPC-MHSP, NCC. Yunetta and I chatted about how to manage perfectionism and burnout as a leader, concerns related to connecting authentically with others, and the importance of crafting a self care routine as a leader.

For this conversation I was joined by Dr. Shanita Brown. Dr. Brown and I chatted about how you can recognize the signs of domestic violence, why it’s important to understand domestic violence in the context of power and control as opposed to anger management, how you can support a loved one who may be in a relationship with an abusive partner, and she shared tons of incredible resources for anyone who would like additional help.

For today's episode, I wanted to chat with someone to help us try to figure out what might actually be behind all the procrastinating we do in our lives. For this conversation I was joined by Dr. Mahlet Endale. We chatted about the different ways we procrastinate, how to get a better understanding of what’s driving our procrastination, some tips for getting a little bit better at not procrastinating, and she shared some of her favorite resources to help you out if you’re still looking for more informat

In today's episode I'm answering your questions about therapy, including concerns about your therapist being frustrated with you, what to do if your therapist talks too much about themselves, and how to know if you need a psychiatrist. 

In today's episode we're digging into the fear of rejection that often stops us from putting ourselves out there. 

For this conversation I was joined by Dr. Maria Dominguez, LMFT, also known as Dr. D. Dr. D and I chatted about what it looks like to explore this idea of freedom while in relationships, how you can begin to define what freedom looks like to you, conversations to have while dating that help you gain clarity about this, and establishing a culture in your relationship that can support the many changes you and your partner are likely to experience. 

Did you know that there’s a form of therapy called play therapy where things like toys and games are incorporated into the work. And it’s not just for kids! For this conversation, I was joined by Althea Simpson, LCSW, MBA who shared how she uses play therapy with her clients. Althea and I chatted about how play therapy works, why it’s not just playing with toys in session, how it can be used with people of all ages, and the qualifications one should have to conduct play therapy. 

I had a chance to chat with the one and only Tina Lifford who portrays Aunt Vi on the show and we had an amazing conversation. We chatted about the evolution of Aunt Vi's character and how her journey mimics that of so many of us. We also chatted about giving ourselves space and time to tap into our deepest desires and she shared more about the internal work she's done to allow her to really connect with Aunt Vi's story.

For this conversation I was joined by Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Mishelle Rodriguez. Dr. Mishelle and I chatted about what kinds of things we might address if Nova came into therapy following the release of her book, the way that we have seen many of the characters deal with big emotions this season, our thoughts about Darla and Ralph Angel seemingly reconnecting and what we’d love to see as this season wraps up. 

Dr. Shena Young joins us again this week and this time we're discussing healing holistically. Dr. Young and I chatted about what it means to approach our healing holistically, how this vantage point is a part of our history, what it means to decolonize our healing, different pathways to healing, and questions to ask when working with someone in a healing practice. 

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how we can work to better regulate our own emotions so that we can help our kids regulate theirs. For this conversation I was joined by Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart and we discussed what co-regulation is, how it can be useful in strengthening your relationship with your kids, how we can make sure we have enough reserves to manage our own emotions, and the important distinction between discipline and punishment.

In today's episode we're digging into what motivates people to ghost and how to take care of yourself if you've been ghosted. 

We've spent much of this summer engaging in conversations about our friendships with other sisters, and one of the main questions many of you had was "How do I make friends as an adult," so that's what we're digging into today. For this conversation I was joined by Dr. Marisa Franco. Dr. Franco and I chatted about the most important aspects of making friends, the characteristics of a good friend, and what’s needed to really sustain friendships.

Earlier this month we asked you what you thought the largest threat to friendships with other Black women was, and many of you said jealousy. So I wanted to dig a little deeper into where jealousy comes from and what we can do about it when it pops up in a friendship.

On the Secret Lives of Black Women, join close friends Charla Lauriston and Lauren Domino on their hunt for the ‘secrets’ that have helped black women flourish through the BS. They connect with guests over shared experiences by wading through everything from sex and self-care to rage and anxiety. Each conversation centers on creating a space for joy with some newfound besties while asking: how do the black women we admire stay incredibly phenomenal?